To Know Thine Own Self Is the Rule

To know thine own is the rule – always know yourself. This is an ancient Greek aphorism, but it may be one of the most important lessons one ever learns about this journey called life. But how many of us ever get there?

SHI: I’d rather have you as a strutting narcissist than a wannabe Incel.

I’m still a strutting narcissist, no wait, someone with high self-esteem. I’m not a wannabe incel. Why would anyone want to be an incel? That would be a volcel anyway. I get the incels though, I get it. All of us men are incel at various times anyway or at least most of us are. Especially bachelor life is notoriously feast or famine.

I’ve been on both sides of this thing, from Alpha all the way down to Omega (which is about where I am nowadays lol), and I can see the whole sexual landscape from here. So it gives you a very nice perspective having seen the whole map and hiked all of the land yourself. Your understand the terrain a lot better.

SHI: Fuck them, you’re not what they are. Don’t have to internalize their problems as your own.

No, they are mostly correct, at least on those things. I have thought about it forever, and yep, they’ve got it down. But really I have known all these things about myself on some level or other for forever now. I know myself pretty well. It’s just that I hide the bad parts of me from myself most of the time because I don’t want to think about that stuff.

You don’t like that I went over the bad parts of me. Hey, that’s ok. But I embrace all of myself, pretty much, and those parts that I think are bad and I want to change I work on all the time. There are other supposedly bad parts of myself that I don’t feel like changing because they’re too much fun.

You are into total self-confidence and always thinking of yourself positively. You don’t want to think negative things about yourself because you think that messes up your Game. Actually it doesn’t if you integrate them well into your psyche and you get ok with your flaws.

I am beyond the age where I need false optimism and denial of my bad side anymore. I wish to know my whole self, good and bad, right and wrong. And I hope to accept it, well, most of it anyway. That way I am a whole person.

SHI: I can understand that you might be having a bit of bad luck phase. It happens to everyone but it’s never forever.

That’s not really true. I’m afraid that this is just the way it is at this age of life. It’s not a real great age, I have to tell you, folks. I mean I like myself just fine still, but apparently that view isn’t widely shared.

I don’t get along with women much at all these days. They pretty much treat me like crap. The young ones almost all do, and a lot of the older ones are not real nice either, or they’ve given up on men altogether. It’s all part of the age and sex dynamic. I guess men my age are simply not very well-liked by women. The best I could hope for would probably be a woman my age. Some of them still like me.

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The women who loved me also said many wonderful things about me. The critiques in the other post are some of the things that they told me about myself, some of which shocked me because I didn’t realize I was that way. All of the things I’ve listed were valid judgements at least at the time they were made. I left the BS judgements out.  There have always been some of those from different women.

At different times of my life, girlfriends have criticized other parts of me or more properly ways that I was behaving at that time. I was in a huge rut for a while there, and I am afraid they were correct. But I’ve moved beyond those dark moods of my early adulthood. My 20’s were wild, but they were also rocky. I didn’t list those critiques in my post because I’m not like that anymore, though unfortunately I was like that at the time.

All Straight Men Are Homophobes

SHI: I’m not a homophobe but I kinda enjoy the graphic videos of Middle Eastern Islamo-fascists throwing gay men off buildings.

I don’t condone any killings no matter what. Besides, the person perceived to be “gay” isn’t always like that. He might have been on the down low or just been mistook for someone else. And fuck the Islamofascists, they’re sickening beings.

LOL but what do you think of this video?

I think all straight men are homophobes to a certain degree.

It’s all right if you get off on those sick videos. I understand the appeal, and I ain’t no moralfag. Sorry though, I can’t get into those videos.

I am not wild about gay men at all, trust me. I’m pretty much done with them, and I don’t want them around me. However, I don’t hate the actual biological ones at all, since I know that they can’t help it and there’s no cure for their condition. I wish all the same happiness and long, healthy lives for them as I do for myself. But I still don’t really want them around me. They make uncomfortable, sorry.

However, that clip about throwing gay men off of buildings hits a bit too close to home for me.

I’ve been gaybashed or assaulted for being perceived as gay three times (ages 16, 21  and 24), once with a baseball bat. And I’m not even gay. One of the main problems with gay bashers is that they beat up a lot of straight guys. I don’t want them beating up gay men either, but that isn’t really my problem; that’s someone else’s problem.

Plus a lot of people used to think I was gay, so I got a whole taste of the sort of homophobia that a lot of gay men have to deal with. Let me tell you, it’s not a good feeling. Now I am straight and being attacked homophobically is a particularly weird thing. They are attacking me for something that’s not even true, and top of that, it’s a serious insult. Imagine you were getting beat up for being a Martian! That’s what it feels like.

On the other hand, if I were gay, the homophobia I got would at least be based on something true. I have no idea if that makes it feel better or worse, and I have no way or determining that either. I doubt if anyone does.

I don’t get attacked homophobically much anymore. I told some recent long term girlfriends that a lot of people used to think I was gay, and they all said, “I can’t see it. I don’t understand why anyone would think that about you. It makes no sense.” They said it over and over, too.

One long-term girlfriend even told me, “You seem pretty masculine to me.” WTF. No way. No woman has ever told me I’m masculine. I’ve been told that I’m tough. I’ve been told that I’m a hardass, whatever that means. But masculine? Nope. But she is from Europe, and maybe they have different standards over there. Anyway it sure felt good to be called masculine!

And I  only get called gay maybe once every ~5 years now. I think maybe five people have stated that they thought I was gay in the last 20 years, and four of them were members of street gangs. Gangsters have extreme demands for masculinity, and they will be the first ones to all any man gay. You have to act a lot more feminine than that to get regular people to call you that.

I think I may have changed my behavior to be a lot more masculine. It’s been a conscious effort to do that. I figure if I am straight, why shouldn’t I act like it, right? It works pretty good. Any straight guys getting mistreated because people think they are gay, I hate to say it, but if they change their  behavior enough, they might hear it a lot less.

But yeah, of course all straight men are homophobes. All these straight guys who insist they are not homophobic, ask them this:

Ok, I have a very goodlooking gay man here, and he says he will suck your cock for free. And he’s really damn good – better than most women. All you have to do is lay back, close your eyes, and pretend it’s Seka. You ready to go?

100% of them will say no. Ask them why and they will all say guys don’t turn them on. But that never stopped any man. The real reason is that they have an incredible revulsion towards the idea of homosexual acts. That revulsion right there is de facto homophobia. So yeah, all straight men are homophobes. Of course were are. If we were not homophobes, we would be on our knees sucking cocks right now ha ha.

My Position on Bullying, Again

Jason: Come on @Robert Lindsay – you’re saying bullying is natural to boys and encouraging it BUT YOU CAN’T TAKE IT.

Jason and I are much closer on this issue than you think. We only differ on a few things.

How many times do I have to tell Jason this? I don’t want to have to make these posts over and over.

  • I oppose all bullying in adulthood. Even in high school you mostly should knock it off. But I support bullying severe outliers in high school – like people who are so insanely nerdy that you can’t even look at them without laughing.
  • Also I do not justify bullying in boyhood. But it will go on, and you can’t stop it.  Of course it’s natural and normal. This is the way humans are. We are mammals.
  • I do justify bullying of extreme outliers in grade school and junior high because it’s the only thing that might force them to get their shit together. I knew severe outliers who got bullied hard from age 9-13 and I met them later at 16-18 and the behavior that got them bullied was gone. Did the bullying make it go away? And boys will never accept effeminate boys. Moral of the story: Don’t be a severe outlier, weirdo, freak, kook, or idiot.
  • Don’t be a Goddamned crybaby. Crybabies need to get bullied hard.
  • Don’t act like a Goddamned faggot if you are a little boy. You’re going to get creamed. No two ways about it.
  • Don’t act like an outrageously idiotic nerd to where you are so spazzed out you seem legitimately retarded.
  • Don’t be a psycho boy  to where you are such a weird, psycho, future serial killer that even other boys think you’re a dangerous freak. And yeah, those boys need to get bullied really hard. They’re mean as snakes anyway. Except maybe it makes them worse.

But I do not accept the bullying of ordinary boys in general, although this sort of thing does go on in the family. I will admit that I bullied my younger brother. What am I supposed to say? It was fucked up, but kids don’t understand that. I didn’t understand it was  wrong at the time. I got told endlessly that it was wrong and I was a bad person for doing it, and I laughed and thought that was the dumbest thing I ever heard.

I am saying that kids don’t understand that this sort of thing is wrong, especially among brothers with young boys. But my friends and I – we did not bully each other. And we only bulliedthe youngest brother sometimes. Bullying is ugly – nobody can handle it – I could not and honestly cannot. But it will never go away. You just have to make people tough enough to not get bullied or not care if they got bullied.

Also I was bullied quite badly in elementary school, junior high, and even high school.Not a lot of times but some. Those were some of the most traumatic events of my life.

But these were like mean, antisocial, psychopathic boys who were preying on normal boys like me in a really evil way. They preyed on many other normal boys too. I told you that I opposed the mean, bully boy, psychopath types bullying normal boys.

But that’s going to happen too. I was probably doomed to be bullied at least a bit. SHI bullied other boys when he was in grade school, junior high and high school.

Right, nobody can handle it. I don’t know I have to keep reiterating my position here over and over. And I oppose all the mean boy psychopathic bullying done to Jason as a boy, as I don’t think he was a severe outlier. And of course your getting bullied as an adult is absolutely outrageous.

Jason: Especially, you can’t handle the sissification. It’s kind like stuff I endured being called Faaaagooooot (mocking a goat sound).

I did not get bullied too much like this, but at age 16, yes, I was bullied by some local juvenile delinquents who were tormenting me because they legitimately thought I was gay I guess. I thought they were my friends and I was hanging out with them trying to be “cool.”

They were running up to me, hitting me and running away again and laughing. I just stood there saying over and over, “I’m not gay. I’m not gay. I’m not gay.” I knew I wasn’t gay and I thought if I could convince them of that, they would leave me alone. But that was one of the most traumatic events of my life.

Jason: Especially, you can’t handle the sissification. It’s kind like stuff I endured being called Faaaagooooot (mocking a goat sound).

Did they actually think you were gay? I mean for real, a homosexual? Or did they know you were straight, and they were just bugging you?

Jason and I are not effeminate. I don’t agree with gay-baiting boys like us.

I don’t like people to think I am wimpy or gay, correct. But they have thought that a lot in my life anyway, especially when I was younger.

It sort of traumatized me in a sense though because I do have a deep neurotic fear that people think I am gay, especially a girlfriend I am having sex with.

The idea of having sex with a woman and having her legitimately wondering if she is fucking a gay or bisexual man is something I cannot reconcile. It’s a crazy fear. I have been trying to work my way out of it forever, but I can’t seem to.

I think it is an OCD symptom, honestly. It goes round and round and never gets resolved, and that is OCD (ruminations). There! You all wanted to know some my OCD symptoms? There ya go! It’s stuff like that. Sort of embarrassing to talk about because it seems to stupid to worry about stuff like that.

It’s happened before – one girlfriend was convinced I was bisexual, and another was convinced that I used to be gay. I fucked the second one all the time anyway, like 3-4 times a day. I fucked her so much my dick almost fell off. I never discussed with her why she thought that. I was 26 and 28 years old then in the former and latter cases. Perhaps I acted different, no idea. I hardly hear it anymore. Perhaps I changed my behavior?

I have always rejected the idea that I am effeminate. It makes me angry. I am quite soft though, and I can have a very soft voice sometimes. You can hardly hear me sometimes. But it is sort of a very soft seductive voice, and a lot of women told me it drives them crazy.

People think soft men, wimpy, passive, or soft-voiced men (like Mr. Rogers) are gay, but honestly, I have known many guys like that in life, and generally, most men like that are simply straight. Wimpy men especially tend to be straight. There are some gay men who act like that, but those are the ones they call “straight-acting.”

If you know anything about psychology, can’t you see that this macho thing I push is called compensation? I’m not being a macho jerk-off. It’s an internal matter in my head. Get it? We’re all screwed up in the head, man. Even us adults.

Well, nobody can handle it. That’s why I quit the church across the road from me. That’s why I essentially live in a hole – isolated in my room on computers all the time.

Of course  nobody can handle it.

I cannot reiterate what a catastrophe this. We on this blog need to maybe figure out how we can help poor Jason here. This sort of stuff should not be going on with an adult man. And this is no way to live your life. Of course I oppose this. Bullying in adulthood is nonsense.

PUA/Game: How to Tell If Your “Date” Is a Thieving Whore

Whores and Worse, Much Worse – “Thieving Whores” Who Take Your Money and Run, Giving up No Sex

Any woman who demands that you spend a lot of money on her before you have sex is a whore, and not only but that but usually a thieving whore, as she will get you to spend $25-80 on her, wave the sex in front of you like a bullfighter’s flag, then pull the flag away from you at the last minute.

You turn around and she’s gone, out the door, nowhere to be seen. You’re out money and she never fulfilled her end of the deal. There a huge number of these out and out thieving whores out there (though actually not whores as I pointed out) who seem to exist on Earth for the sole purpose of stealing from us men.

I would say most men want to kill women like this, but most of us never do it. We don’t even hit them. But women like this (and golddiggers) are the enemies of the men. They are the enemies of my people, the men.

There are others who ask for money up front before the date begins (gas money to drive to your place, other bullshit, pay her bills), sometimes with a promise to date you later and do whatever you want. Don’t do it. The money will be gone and the woman will never show up. And the date two weeks later will never happen.

Clues are she will not let you come to her place or meet her in public, will not follow you to your place, won’t even let you meet her at all. And in all these cases, the thieving whore wants money up front. Sometimes you are all set for sex and then right at the last minute she needs $20 for a game for the kid while she’s gone fucking you. You still haven’t met her yet.

Never shell out money to a woman you have never met. Never shell out money to a woman before a date even starts. Other red flags are: won’t give you her number – a woman who dates you will always give you her number.

Won’t meet you in a public place – a woman who dates you will always meet you in a public place. Won’t meet you at her place and doesn’t want you knowing where she lives – a woman who dates you generally will tell you her address, at least if you are going to her place.

I can’t believe how many young women age 18-25 are out and out thieving, whoring psychopaths. Their sole existence on this Earth is to steal from us men. Apparently while dishing out as little sex as possible.

PUA/Game: Sex after 50, or What’s Left of It Anyway

Sex after 50

It never ends.

First of all, I want to say that it never ends. I don’t think sex ever ends. I have no idea how much sex elderly people have, but I’m sure they have some. The sex drive is so strong that it often goes on until the end of our lives.

A 60 year old impotent men can’t get it up, so he does nothing but eat pussy. He pays a prostitute so he eat her pussy for an hour a day for six months. An 80 year old man, no doubt of dubious sexual ability, crawls on his knees in front of a dominatrix to kiss her boots.

Their dicks don’t even work anymore, and they are still doing it.

It Never Ends

I am over age 60. At my age and all through my 50’s, trust me, no one cared about money. I had women who paid my way for lunch and then dinner. I had women who paid my way for two-week stays at their place, including airfare. I had women who bought plane tickets to come see me to stay at my place and then go on multi-day vacations. They paid for everything. On dates, it’s common to go Dutch. I had one woman who did not like it, but screw her.

You see, after age 50, no one cares. Or no one who will go out with me cares. No one cares about money either. There are no golddiggers because the women have all lost their looks so they can’t whore their looks for money like a young woman can.

Everyone is very relaxed, and Dutch or even she pays is often not a problem. Even sex if it happens is very relaxed and slow. We often take a while to get going, take our time, relax. There’s no rush because we don’t give a damn anymore. I mean we do it, but we don’t necessarily jump right in.

Everything proceeds at a calm and relaxed pace. No woman over age 50 has any more inhibitions, and most of us men don’t either. Neither sex gives a damn about much of anything anymore. We’ve all stopped caring.

Sex is very relaxed, and sexual problems, which are common at our age, are shrugged off as nothing. We’re not as capable, but we are more relaxed than we have ever been. It’s a bit sad that humans finally totally relax and lose it all about sex at around the time that the ability to do it drops off ha ha. But it’s a nice time of life for sex because no one gives two fucks about anything anymore.

PUA/Game: Why Do American Women Demand That the Man Pay for Everything on Dates?

Found on the Net:

I honestly dont understand western dating methods. It almost sounds artificial.

All the dates I went out and my friends both male and females, never really spent more than 5 euros.

My responses:

Long tradition of men paying in this stupid country. She makes more money than you? No matter, you still cover everything. Expect her to leave a tip? Outrageous! American women are princesses and it’s outrageous to ask that they spend one nickel on a date.

Fading away, but the sad truth is that a lot of young women are simply out and out whores. I mean not the good kind but like a prostitute who drains your wallet.

Gold-diggers out to take men for every nickel are everywhere, especially among young women age 18-30. Fully 1/3 of young women are out and out psychopaths who gleefully use men they have no interest in just for free meals.

All of the above applies to young women in the US (the Land of Whores), who are basically thieving, gold-digging monsters. Young women are beautiful and have awesome bodies, so these physical attributes are like legal tender in that they basically charge for access to it.

In one way or another, a huge number of young women in the US are simply selling their pussies. They may not be walking the streets, but they are not tremendously different. After age 30 most women have Walled out and quit selling pussy because they can’t get away with it anymore.

They are looking for a betabux for marriage and kids, sport-fucking, and having relationships/ relationshits or whatever most normal women do. But they aren’t really fucking for money anymore simply because they can’t get away with it. We men won’t fork it over for their post-Wall pussies. We’d rather pay for the young stuff, 18-30.

We worship money here in America, and here’s the evidence of that. I guess that’s behind all of this mass whoredom and pussy-selling.

Janet Fiamengo, “Feminists Play Fast and Loose with Data Again”

Feminist messing with rape data and blowing the rape rate far higher than it actually is. The latest fake feminist study.

Ever heard the figure that 20% of women get raped at university? Sure you have. Well, it’s a lie. The definition of rape includes everything from guys grabbing you in sexual ways. Sorry baby, that don’t count. It’s not nice behavior, but it’s not rape.

So how many women really get raped at university? Try 2.3%

Ever seen the figure of how many women get raped over a lifetime? I forget the figure but it’s more fakery. What’s the real figure? Try 16%. That’s one out of six, but it includes date rape, the majority of rape, which, while nasty, isn’t the same thing and the stranger in a ski mask with a knife in his hand jumping out of the bushes and dragging you off to rape you at knife-point. That’s called stranger rape, and it’s a lot more dangerous.

How many rape claims are false? Feminist claim it is 2-8%, but no one knows where that data comes from. The question has only been surveyed twice in good studies, both in university towns in the Midwest in the 1970’s and 1980. The studies found false report rates of 42% and 50%. There you go. 46% of rape cases filed with the police are false. I don’t think we should persecute women who falsely report rape because we want them to admit it if they fake it.

You hear crazy figures like out of every 1,000 rape cases, only 6 result in a conviction and incarceration.

Well, I know a cop. He told me that in his city, they throw out 90% of rape cases women file immediately. In half of them, the woman can’t keep her story straight, so bye bye. The other half are cases involving live in or married couples where the woman is accusing the man of rape amidst a background of heavy drinking, drug use, or both. Those cases are all gone too. The cops just throw up their hands. Who can you believe?

There are also some fairly valid reasons why the rest of rape cases that are actually filed – 100 out of 1,000 – eventually filter down to 6 out of 1,000.

Actually most rapists are not particularly dangerous. The truly dangerous rapists are the sadistic rapists. Feminists will say all rapists are sadistic, but really only 5-10% qualify. Can they kill? Oh Hell yeah, and hurt you too. They don’t necessarily kill you, but they do threaten you and may well hurt you. These guys get off hurting, torturing and even killing other humans. Get off as in sexually.

There are other rapists, two categories having to do with power. One is called power reassurance. This man feels he is inadequate and rapes to make himself feel like a man again. These are often the “gentleman rapist” types. They really exist. They won’t hurt you and they often apologize to the woman after it’s over.

There is the power-anger rapist. This man is angry at women for whatever reason, which could be due to all sorts of things. He hates women or at least is very angry with them. They usually don’t kill but they can, especially if the woman puts up a fight.

In those cases, he can indeed hurt the woman and sometimes even kill her. If he kills her, he feels bad about and leaves soon afterwards. They often do hurt women though because roughness, beatings, etc. may accompany the rape due to his rage at women.

Game/PUA: The “Older Men Who Go for Young Women Are Losers Who Go for Easy Pickings Young Women Because Can’t Get a Woman Their Own Age” Lie

I’ve dated women this age off and on since I was in my early 40’s ( a lot at the beginning of the period, much fewer lately), and trust me when I say it’s not so easy to get them into bed. Hell, it’s like pulling hen’s teeth to even get them to go out with you because 99% of them think you’re a gross old man.

There’s only a few young women that age who even want to go for an older guy.

Girls that age are also extremely moody, temperamental, and nutty, so I’d say that they call you out on your bullshit all the time. The last two I dated were both suicidal. Older women are so much more stable.

The girls I dated got angry at me many times when I was with them, usually over ridiculous nonsense. It’s not like they’re going to go along with everything you suggest.

When I was 18-21, quite a few of my friends were dating underage girls 14-17. The men were not immature as everyone thinks. They were Alphas who were bedding women of all ages. The jailbaits made a beeline straight for the best men of all my age and bypassed everyone else. I never heard any of these guys say these girls were easy prey. They said it was not so easy to get them into bed, a lot were still wary virgins, etc.

Nothing changes are men age. Young women and teenage girls still head straight for the Alphas. Look a the women prominent JB’s have ended up with: movie stars, rock stars, billionaires, movie directors. They head straight for the top. They’re worse than the women our age!

This “older men who go for teenage girls or young women because they are losers and women their age won’t tolerate their crap” is nonsense. I’ve never met an older man who was too immature for women his age, so he went for young women because they were easy targets. I think it’s a fairy tale or urban legend, frankly.

First of all, almost any older man who can land a girl that age is usually doing great with women his age. Hell, why do you think the girl went for him in the first place? Anyway, those girls complain a lot and are very easily annoyed by all sorts of things.

I would not say they call you out on your bullshit less than older women do. But they see right through you just like an older woman does. An 18 or 19 year old will figure you out real quick and expose your true self to you, good and bad, gifts and flaws, better than your therapist, just like any woman, really.

All females will tend to call you on your shit. But if you are older man with very young women, they will get angry a lot, and when they do, they will insult you horribly. Typically they will call you an old man, which, even if it is true, hurts. They will attack your looks and practically say you are ugly or at least you are not as hot as men her age.

Now about this BS about older men who go for young women being losers who can’t get a woman their own age…

Haha. Guess who made up this stupid lie? Women! Especially, guess who? Ding! Right! Older women. Why, of course, what did you expect? Why?

Because a lot of older men chase younger women, and this really burns older women up basically because they know they can’t compete with young hotties. So they resort to making up lies about older men who chase younger women in order to try to shame these men and make them stop and to make these older women themselves feel better about losing some high-quality older man dick.

Women are so transparent. Their lies are so obvious and pathetic that’s it’s laughable the way so many of them actually believe this BS.

But then, women live in a fairy tale world, a fantasy land. They don’t live in the real world because it’s cruel and evil and women, being sensitive and basically good-hearted souls, can’t handle such a cold and vicious world. So they make up lies to say the world is not really like this and instead of the world being as it is, it is as women  imagine or fantasize that is.

I don’t blame women for being sensitive and kind-hearted souls who long for defenses against the arbitrary cruelty and even evil of life. I don’t mind denial as a defense. As an introvert, of course fantasy is where I live most of the time.

But I know the difference between reality and fantasy. I know I’m BSing myself but I don’t care. I know I’m denying all the failures and fuckups of my life, but I don’t care. And I can brainwash myself into believing that my denial and fantasy defenses are the truth.

But deep down inside, of course I know they are not. Women are not so enlightened. They actually believe that the world works according to how women think it should work. If they ever figure out the truth, boy are they in for a rude surprise.

One of the fantasy lies that women, typically older women, believe is that older men who chase young women go for young, vulnerable, stupid, easy pickings females. But they’re not.

I’ve dated women this age off and on since I was in my early 40’s, and trust me when I say it’s not so easy to get them into bed. Hell, it’s like pulling hen’s teeth to even get them to go out with you because 99% of them think you’re a gross old man.

Even when I was young, it was not that easy getting teenage girls into bed. A lot of them held out on you or would only kiss and make out with you and stop it there.

A lot were puritanical. Refusing to suck cock was very common. I had young women who wouldn’t let me eat their pussies because they thought is was gross. Pain during sex is not uncommon and they sometimes ask for lube of some sort due to this.

A lot are virgins who don’t want to give it up. Some will fuck you once or twice and then just make out and refuse to go further after that. One 18 year old girl did that because I wasn’t rapey enough. She said her other guys just blew past her when she said no and basically forced her to have sex. So some of these girls even force you to be a rapist if you want to get laid. Some are virgins and want to stay that way.

Girls that age are also extremely moody, temperamental, and nutty. The last two I dated were both suicidal. Older women are so much more stable.

The girls got angry at me many times when I was with them, usually over ridiculous nonsense. It’s not like they’re going to go along with everything you suggest.

Game/PUA: Late Middle Aged Men (age 55-62) Dating Young Women (age 18-28): A Rundown

I am currently 62 years old, and in the past two years I have dated a number of women from 18-28.

One 18 year old totally fell in love with me, and there was a rollercoaster love affair that ended. She had never been kissed before she met me.

I had one date with a 19 year old girl, and at the end of the date (she spent most of the day at my place), she asked me if she could move into my place. WTH. Is it normal for a woman have one fucking date with a guy and then ask to move in? Because it’s never happened to before even once in my life.

However, getting women this age, or even ones in their 20’s, at my age is extremely difficult for any man of my age, not just me. It was a lot easier when I was younger, even in my 40’s. Face it, the vast majority of 18-19 year old girls do not wish to date men my age. They might have a Daddy fetish, but I doubt if many have a Grampa fetish.

Furthermore, for all the older women panicking out there, I hardly know any other man my age around here who has pulled this off. I’m almost the only one. I figure the vast majority of men my age could never pull this off. Most don’t even try. Thing is, I am not an ordinary man though.

A lot of the girls I dated had huge Daddy issues but not all of them. You would be surprised how many girls who do this have good relationships with their fathers, so it’s not all about that.

I do remember that one had a father who left her at age 13, and another had a very hostile father who she hated.

I had another who never knew her father and had been molested by her uncle at an early age of 12. Apparently this turns a certain number of lot of the girls who get molested like this into huge sluts, and a lot of them end up with massive older man fetishes.

Actually turning into a massive slut, stripper, porn star, or prostitute is a pretty typical adult reaction to getting molested as girls. If you read studies about child abuse, this is listed as a common sequalae for girls who get molested. Don’t ask me what’s going on in their heads.

I guess they are reliving what happened to them when they were girls and older men were having sex with them.

It’s fun to have a young woman at my age though. You turn into her mentor and you end up teaching her all about life and everything in it! I do not mean sexual stuff, though you usually end up tutoring them in that area too. I am a former schoolteacher.

It’s such a delight to see a young women learning so many new things every day – new words, concepts, facts about everything. You can also see her gaining a lot of wisdom because you are explaining a lot of things about life, especially social issues, that they don’t understand, and you are explaining to them how it works. You get a lot of, “Ohhhhhh, I see. Ok, now I get it. Ahhhhh, ok.”

They usually think I am very wise or smart, and they even say so. An 18 year old girl told me after we broke up and were still friends:

Ever since I met you, everyone I meet seems stupid.

I’ll take that compliment.

You can watch them climb this vast learning curve right in front of your eyes. When the girl or young woman leaves you (and she will leave), she is ahead of most of her peers because she understands life so much better than everyone else her age who are still figuring it out on their own.

The girls and young women complain that men their age are pigs and lousy or rapey in bed (they call them fuckboys), and they say I’m not like that at all. They say that these young men only care about their own pleasure and care nothing whatsoever about the woman’s pleasure. It’s all about getting off.

Some young men are freaked out and take off if the young woman acts slutty. Others complain that young men either date rape or grey rape them.

I don’t really care what people think about the  fact that I do this, and honestly other men usually treat me like a hero or a God when I pull this off. The respect they give me is incredible.

A few are outraged. One man hung up on me and ended our friendship when he heard I was dating women this age. He’s befriended me again, but it’s not the same. He’s a physician aged 55. Physicians are very status- and social rules-conscious.

There’s two kinds of women – real women and feminists. I love real women. Feminists can go pound sand, and that’s when I am in a kind-hearted mood.

A lot of women of all ages- real women that is, not feminists – actually react pretty well to me doing this and say something along the lines of:

How do you do it, stud?

Even women my age are impressed.

Hey if you still got it, go for it!…Hey, some men have just got it.

Of course there’s a few people who don’t dig it, and I do get called pedophile sometimes, mostly by millennial fucktards, including a large percentage of “men” that age, but I don’t care. What the Hell is wrong with this fagged out and cucked out generation of “men”, anyway? They’re all feminists! I cant’ believe what pussies so many millennial men are. I don’t get it. Were they fed soy milk as babies? Did someone put estrogen in the water?

To any millennial guys reading this, please don’t take offense. I’m not accusing you of acting this way. In fact, if you’re reading here, you probably don’t act this way at all. I’m just pointing out that there’s something wrong with a lot of men in your generation, that’s all.

I still get a lot of dating offers from young women around this age – usually from 5-20 a week – but they almost all want a sugar daddy, and I’m not rich. There’s not a lot of young women who will date me for free. And being a sugar daddy costs from $1,000-2,000/month for her “allowance.” Usually she gives him sex in return, but in some cases, she doesn’t even give him that.

Game/PUA: One Sex Has to Dominate the Other

…we either have male dominance and violence, or gentle female dominance.

First of all,  you’re going to have male violence (and female violence too for that matter) in either one. Actually the men might be more violent if they were being dominated by women because being dominated by women is one thing that pisses real men off more than anything else.

First of all, female dominance of men will never be gentle. Women are never gentle with the men that they dominate, in relationships or otherwise. It just doesn’t work that way. I think it is not possible for a woman to dominate a man in a gentle way. Women will always be cruel, vicious, and even evil with the men they are dominating.

On the other hand, I think we men can dominate women in a civilized manner. First of all, we men evolved to be dominant, to dominate women and children, and to fight for dominance with other men. The fact that dominance was bred right into us means that we can choose to implement our inborn trait either nicely or cruelly. It is certainly possible for men to dominate women in a non-harmful way. I’ve done it in most of my relationships.

Sadly, one gender has to dominate the other. The reality for most men is that most women expect the man to dominate. Women come into the relationship specifically expecting to be dominated by the man. Now, in their minds this is not a bad thing, as they like being submissive, and their view of male dominance often does not involve harm.

Men realize that if we don’t dominate our woman, she is going to take those pants right off of us and dominate you! It’s like someone has to dominate – it’s either him or her, take your pick.

I used to believe that full equality between the sexes was possible, but after 45 years of experience with women, I no longer believe this. Complete equality between men and women is simply not possible – it’s folly, a fool’s errand, an unwinnable war.

Gay male relationships are full of dominance and submission, tops and bottoms, bears and twinks, in full imitation of heterosexuality.

Lesbians like to think they are beyond this, but how many times you have seen a lesbian couple where one was butch (the man) and the other was more femme (obviously the woman)? So they’re imitating heterosexuality too. And you can’t tell me there’s no dominance-submission stuff going on in that butch-femme relationship either.

From the lesbians I read on the web, I have learned that there is quite a bit of dom-sub type sex going on with them as a matter of course, especially with the young ones, 18-30. I hate BD/SM but I know a lot about it. The number of female subs who have dom “mistresses” is very high, and the setup is about the same as with male dom-female sub relationships.

If you look at mammals, it is quite typical for male mammals to not only be much more aggressive but also to keep harems, fight over females, etc. And in mammalian sex the male often acts quite dominant, and the female acts…you guessed it – submissive.

I am reading a book about grizzly bears, and the author witnesses a rare mating. Yes, the male bear is acting very aggressive and dominant, and believe it or not, the female grizzly bear of all things is acting…yep – submissive!

Ape sex is often about rape. In chimps and baboons, a male will literally terrorize a female ape for some time, chasing her, hitting her, scaring the living crap out of her. He acts extremely mean towards her. And guess which male she picks to mate with come mating time? Yep, the rapey, female-beating, stalking, creepy, abusive male ape, the same one who terrorized her her before.

I think the best we could hope for would be one sex dominating the other, but in the mildest and kindest way possible that does the least harm to the more submissive partner. And we should hope for submissive partners who don’t like to be hurt or abused.

Attack My Masculinity and I’ll Kill You

Nothing makes men more furious that being dominated in a cruel way by women or having their masculinity attacked by them. It actually literally makes us want to kill them. I had several girlfriends in the past who more or less attacked my masculinity, even gleefully.

Others had other  men at the time we were together (although we were in an open relationship) but they deliberately did so in an open and outrageous way as if they were actually trying to provoke me. Yes, they were actually trying to make me murder them. But women do this all the time. Many women delight in provoking men to such an extent that as far as I am concerned, they are trying to get murdered.

Because they do things to men that in Man World would immediately get you hit, if not out and out murdered. Women try to push us men to our limits or even beyond them. It is very stupid (and dangerous) of women to do this, but they keep doing it.

Feminism has made this female behavior dramatically more common. In my mother’s generation, women were  terrified to attack their husband’s masculinity. My mother even told that she didn’t want to do that. I asked her why she didn’t do something one time, and she said, “Oh he will see that as attacking his masculinity. I don’t want to attack his masculinity.”

Her attitude was more that doing such things was gross, unladylike, and undignified. My mother would see that sort of behavior as common with working class women and Black and Hispanic women. That’s what low class women do – provoke their husbands, bitch at them for no reason, and pick fights with them.

My mother’s coterie of White middle to upper class women simply didn’t act that way – you would be acting like those low class and non-White women they looked down on.

I knew a Colombian woman once. The worst insult you could say to a woman in her society  was that she was “a woman of the streets.” To her, there was nothing lower than that. She was from an upper middle class background in the north of Bogota.

I remembered those damned girlfriends who attacked me that way. In some cases, I forgot all the fun we had, and when I reminisced, all I would think of was those times when they deliberately tried to cut my balls off with words, sometimes in public, sometimes in front of other men and women. Public humiliation. I remembered those incidents for decades.

And for decades, I literally wanted to kill every one of those women who attacked my masculinity like that. I’ve gotten over it now and I feel better with this off my shoulders. But nevertheless, my first and immediate instinct to a woman wantonly and even gleefully attacking my masculinity was, “You’re going to die for that, bitch. No forgiveness. Ever.”

Of course I never killed any of those women. I never even tried to, seriously considered it, or hatched any plan or anything. It was just a violent fantasy that never got implemented. So what! Who cares!

Not only that, but I am almost ashamed to say I never even hit or did anything violent to any of those women. Even worse than that, I rarely even fought back against these attacks. I just sat there and took it like a big, fat pussy.

Why? Because my Mom taught us that you never fight a woman.

Some Examples of Permanently Flawed Utopian Rules and Laws Under Feminism: Domestic Violence, Assault and Battery, and Statutory Rape

As I have mentioned before a number of times, Female Rule (feminist rule) is always doomed to fail. It’s not so much that it’s evil (though it is a bit evil, especially towards us men) but more that it simply causes chaos. Any attempt to enforce and legislate rules and laws that go against human nature is doomed to cause chaos and eventually fail.

Because Mother Nature bats last, that’s why. She also always gets the last laugh, don’t forget.

Female Rule is failing horribly right now in Sweden, probably the best example of Female Rule on Earth.

The UK is increasingly under Female Rule, and the results seem to be the usual chaos.

The US is increasingly coming under Female Rule, and the result is the usual criminalization of much normal male behavior; increased arrests and jailings of men for simply being men; utopian and often irrational or even grossly unjust, preposterous, and unworkable laws; extreme injustice in divorce courts, etc.

Domestic violence laws are now profoundly unjust. Defend yourself against a physical attack by a woman, and you are going to jail. This law is extremely biased on favor or women and very oppressive to men.

Female Rule has now been extended to conflicts between men, something which women know nothing about. These new laws lack common sense. The ancient rules of Man World – the rules of the “fair fight” – are now gone, and when two men get into a physical fight for any reason, both of them are always going to jail.

This is profoundly unjust but a woman will tell that this is justice! “We can’t figure out who started it,” the woman will say. “So we have to put them both in jail.” Somehow this is just!  Actually it is unbelievable unjust for the man who was defending himself.

Many to most men only act decent primarily or perhaps only because in Man World, if you act aggressive in a number of ways, someone is going to hit you. Punch you in the face. Man World runs on the threat of a punch in the face.

Most men are aware of this, are terrified of other men, and do everything they can to not get penalized. Now women have taken this form of law away from us, when it was one of the main things that held male society together and made it halfway calm and peaceful. Now that the punch in the face penalty will send even the umpire to jail, male society is much more dangerous and chaotic.

Only women would come up with something so insane as to say that a woman who has been drinking alcohol or taking drugs cannot consent to sex. How on Earth can she not consent? Of course she can consent! If this Female Rule law were actually enforced, most men would be jailed within the year.

Only women would come up with the idiotic notion that a teenage girl cannot consent to sex. Except that in most states she can definitely consent to having legal sex with an underage teenage boy. Women will say that somehow this precious flower of Ultimate Purity can consent to have sex with a boy her age (How? I thought she can’t consent?) but somehow, automagically, when he turns 18 or above, she’s not able to consent anymore!

Women will say this is completely logical and just. Of course it’s not. It’s not even sensible. It’s downright preposterous, illogical, and idiotic.

Now, there are reasons that especially older men (say past early 20’s) should be kept away from these girls for both their own good and the good of the girl. I definitely prefer for it to be illegal for me to touch those young girls. I fear for myself if we get rid of the law. And those girls need to be protected from me and especially other men less scrupulous than I. It’s good for us and it’s good for them. It protects us from ourselves and it protects them from us.

But of course those girls can consent! They can consent to have sex with any man of any age, really. I would just like to keep statutory rape illegal to hold up basic societal rules and in order to avoid what looks like excessively exploitative relationships. But not because they can’t consent! What are they? Retarded? Schizophrenic? Deaf, blind and dumb?

I challenge these women to produce a philosophical argument proving that these girls can somehow be unable consent some of the time and yet able to consent at other times.

Feminism Is Shoveling Sand against 100,000 Years of Tide

The fact that Players are typically treated as heroes in most societies by both genders and across age groups is another reason why feminism goes against human nature.

That is why this new feminist reaction that somehow Players are evil, scumbags , pedophiles (!), creeps (!), losers (!), criminals (!), and deserving of contempt and increasingly arrest and imprisonment for the crime of being a male mammal is bizarre. Feminists are part of the Cultural Left. As usual, the feminists, as part of the SJW Left, are trying to destroy human nature.

They are acting like 100,000 years of human history of continuous biological behavioral trends either never happened or are irrelevant. You hear feminists say over and over, “But we are modern now. We have decided you can’t be that way anymore,” about this or that. Feminists, like all SJW’s, are trying like the Communists to create a New Man, in the Communists’ case free of capitalism and selfishness and in the SJW’s case liberated from 100,000 years of evolution.

We are supposed to shrug off a hundred millennia of biological habit as if it never occurred. We are supposed to create a New SJW Man torn free from the roots of his past.

Feminists are also trying to create some New SJW Woman or at least they are lying about the basic nature of women, which is extremely consistent across thousands of cultures and over millennia of written record.

According to feminists, and the Cultural Left in general:

  • Everything your grandfather taught you is wrong.
  • Every human society that ever existed was wrong.

The New Feminist Woman is not working out. Women are simply being women just like they always have in spite of the feminists. Feminists are reacting to the intractable nature of female behavior by both denying it is happening now and denying that it ever existed in the first place.

In other words, feminists are lying like all SJW’s  and IP types. Since all SJW’s and IP types are about denying everything negative about whatever identity they are about, all SJW and IP movements are characterized by constant lying of nearly tidal wave proportions.

The new hatred and even criminalization of Players goes against 100,000 years of human evolution and ultimately shows that Female Rule fails, probably because Female Rule ends up being utopian and based on universal justice when unfortunately, there is no such thing.

Everyone Loves the Player

At least in any normal society, that is. As in, every single non-feminist-fucked society on Earth.

A Hero among Men

If the Player is very humble or even acts embarrassed of his success, other men will respond very well. In Man World, Players are often treated as sort of heroes for some reason.

This goes for men of all ages and even boys, teenage boys, and even prepubertal boys. And it goes for all ages of men – young men of course, but also middle aged men think Players are hilarious and heroic figures. Oddly, even elderly men fall into convulsive laughter over the Player’s exploits, pat him on the back, and treat him like a hero.

In fact, humor is a typical reaction to the player. Males of all ages will roll on the floor laughing at the antics of the Player. For some reason, he’s absolutely hilarious.

And a Hero among Women, Too

Many adult women also treat Players this way. A lot of women think Players are funny. They burst into laughter when they meet one or hear of his exploits.

Girls, even prepubertal girls, act rather amazed, amused, and giggly about the Player. This applies especially when they are 10-12, when they are starting to get a bit curious about boys. Younger girls don’t understand male-female dynamics very well.

Married women chuckle and think he is funny. Oddly enough, most old women also find him absolutely hilarious. Once again, as we see with men, the Player is an object of comedy and hilarity. Why?

A Hero in Most Traditional Cultures, Too

I figure that this is the normal way that any society treats the Player. Traditional societies apparently are a bit in awe of him, and the men quite possibly treat him as some male hero figure. The women are stunned by him, some want to date him, and most think he is humorous or hilarious. This seems to be the natural, normal way that most human societies treat the enigma known as the Player.

Keep in mind that Players are basically Alphas by default. On one Manosphere site, one man said if you have had sex with 100 females, you are an Alpha period – no ifs, ands, or buts about it. If you have a high enough lay count, you cannot not be an Alpha. That’s probably correct. Only 6% of men have three-figure laycounts. I would wager that most if not all of them are Alphas.

Furthermore, I doubt if there are many Beta Players out there. The nature of the Beta seems to imply that he’s usually not a Player. An Omega Player is literally not even possible due to the nature of the Omega. Alphas are 15-20% of male society, and that’s probably the maximum number of males who are Players in any age group.

You can’t have a society where every man, or even a majority of men, are Players. Well, you could. That would be gay male culture. But I do not think that straight society will ever resemble gay male culture. If anything, it’s the opposite, as the growth of hypergamy and the damage left in its wake such as incels show us.

It’s Human Evolution Talking – the Voice of Hundreds of Thousands of Years

The normal society reaction to the Player is probably rooted in evolution. See the elephant seal, buck, or stallion with his harem. Get it? It’s evolution in action. The Player is a male two-legged ape with a harem. We are mammals after all.

If you really want to understand human males and females, study those female deer, elephant seals, and sheep. Study those male elk, seals, and horses.

I have learned more about human males and females by studying the so-called lower mammals than from studying humans. Everything starts to add up and finally make sense. We are doomed to be mammals no matter how hard to we try to escape the bestial trap. We cannot not be mammals. As with everything else, when it comes to mammalian behavior in humans, Nature bats last.

My Actual Position on Sexual Harassment and #metoo

SHI: 2- I think I’m more pro-feminism in Identity Politics mold. Robert’s more of a pro-masculinist I believe, which is fine. My dad is like that and many others. I think it’s a generation thing.

For example, I support #MeToo although it’s slightly hypocritical of me, as I have violated many women while accosting them for sex. Why do I do it? I think a lot of powerful men exploit women, which I find very disturbing. So, the world is already masculinist (maybe California isn’t). I like to cede some more political and social space to women.

Essentially, if you’re a broke man and making a move on a hot woman, I would look the other way. I’ll even buy you a beer later because I admire your guts.

But if you’re a rich businessman exploiting a prostitute just because you paid for her services, I’ll stand with the prostitute and protect her. And I have done that before. I was in a resort in Goa, and in the next room, a businessman was abusing a female escort. She was begging him to stop and go gentle on her, but he seemed a perverted BDSM freak.

I alerted the hotel staff and knocked on his door telling him to stop what he was doing. He yelled back at me to “mind my own business”. Soon the hotel staff came and opened the door. The girl was half-naked and chained to a window sill. He apparently wanted to use some blunt instruments on her.

Apparently the businessman had paid a lot of money for that suite, and he was shameless enough to scream at the hotel manager that he would “complain” and whatever he was doing to the poor girl was “consensual”. After they unchained her, she immediately ran towards me, and I hugged her.

Of course he wasn’t arrested or anything. That hotel was well-known for attracting perverted guests like him. At least that girl left. She even refused to take money, but I convinced her that she needs to take the money, as she deserved it for harassment.

I also asked her to file a police complaint. The businessman just laughed: he was on good terms with the corrupt cops and knew a prostitute never stood a chance with her.

I saw how vulnerable the poor girl really was. She immediately bolted and left. Unfortunately, she has to be back on the streets someday and will meet more such sadist clients.

This is an extreme example but good way to highlight that #MeToo is justified in many such instances where powerful men exploit girls.

I actually support the girl in this case, so maybe Shi and I are not different at all. I even support the notion of sexual harassment. I just think the new definition of it is insane. The official US government definition is reasonable: Sexual harassment that is so severe, persistent, and repeated that the person is unable to function at work or school.

I absolutely support a notion of sexual harassment along those lines! Not to mention I support the notion of quid pro quo sexual harassment.

It’s just that the #metoo psychos have taken this to mean “any unwanted sexual advance is sexual harassment.” I’m sorry but that’s completely insane! No it isn’t! See those words “severe”, “persistent”, and “repeated”? Sexual harassment is when she communicates to the guy to knock it off and he keeps on keeping on. It’s fine to go after chumps like this for sexual harassment in my book.

But other than that, I agree with the French actress Katharine Deneuve: “Men have a right to hit on women.” Damn right we do. My own mother objected to that comment, so you can see how deep this feminist insanity goes.

You’re Not Going to Get HIV from a Woman

Just forget it. If you like to worry, please worry about something else, something more reasonable preferably.

This is from my notes. It is a comment I got from a commenter who said that he had been on HIV forum. There were HIV researchers on there who had been studying HIV risk for many years and they had yet seen a single case of a man getting HIV via being an insertive partner to an HIV-positive woman as long as the man wore a condom.

Although condoms do break at times, he had never seen a single case of a condom break resulting in a man getting infected from fucking an HIV-positive woman.

I was reading some stuff on there saying that they have never seen a insertive partner test positive from a condom breakage in their many years of doing risk assessments.

You guys can quit worrying now, please.

Two Types of Masculism

This blog definitely supports masculism, which is simply support for the normal sexual and non-sexual behaviors of regular, everyday heterosexual men. We don’t think masculinity is toxic. this is a feminist notion that we reject. We  don’t think that male heterosexual sexuality is automatically toxic, dangerous, and  needs to be attacked: this is a feminist position.

A lot of you probably don’t know what masculism is. While it holds the potential, like any IP, to be toxic and senseless, there is a good case to be made that normal masculine behavior and normal male heterosexual sexuality are things that should be safeguarded and not attacked as the enemy, which is what the feminists are doing. In that sense, masculism is a valid position.

From Wikipedia:

Christensen differentiates between “progressive masculism” and an “extremist version”. The former welcomes many of the societal changes promoted by feminists, while regretting that some measures reducing sexism against women have increased it against men.

The extremist version promotes male supremacy to some degree and is generally based on a belief in women’s inferiority. Nicholas Davidson, in his book The Failure of Feminism, describes an extremist version of masculism which he termed “virism”: “What ails society is ‘effeminacy’. The improvement of society requires that the influence of female values be decreased and the influence of male values increased…

The more progressive version sounds better to me. I don’t believe in male chauvinism, and I don’t believe that women are inferior. There is definitely a problem of our society in general being taken over by female thinking (feminism), with the result being a mass pussification of American “men,”most of whom have become the equivalent of gender traitors.

I also don’t believe that society should be run on the basis of female thinking. It’s too chauvinist and irrational to serve as philosophical basis for society and its laws, mores, and rules. Female Rule doesn’t work, sorry. I’m not sure how many times we have to prove this until people start believing it.

A Major Downside to Adult Men Having (Legal) Sex with Teenage Girls

The problem is that no matter how much she seems to be into it at the time, and trust me, most of them are into it bigtime – in fact, it’s very frequently the case that these girls out and out seduce the men – things tend to change a ways down the road.

Some girls who have these legal relationships with older men like it and even years later, smile and look back on it fondly. But it’s far more likely that she will regret it later on. It’s sort of a form of Regret Rape, a female specialty.

These changes of heart are very typical for teenage girls who have sex with men. Men, if you ever have sex with a (hopefully legal) teenage girl, be careful because as much as she seems like she’s into it, there’s a very good chance that 10-20 years down the road she is going to change her mind and decide that you took advantage of her.

She will also suddenly develop all sorts of ridiculous psychological symptoms which of course only show up when she changes her mind and decides she was harmed. As long as she thought there was nothing wrong with it, she had no symptoms.

This is one thing I have against the way society deals with these relationships. Even if they are completely legal and consensual as is often the case, we run around screaming that the minor was just subjected to the most horrible abuse, and no matter how the minor feels about at the time, as a result of our antics, they now decide that they are all fucked up.

Wa-la! Lots of pernicious psychological symptoms pop up where before there were none precisely because we freak out so much about it and scream at the kid about what a horrible crime was done to them. I don’t know what the alternative is, but it seems like the “anti-sex with minors” folks are actually creating a lot of the damage that these minors suffer from the minor-adult sex that they have.

The Jim Carroll Band, “People Who Died”

The Jim Carroll Band, Catholic Boy, 1980

Teddy sniffing glue he was 12 years old
Fell from the roof on East Two-nine
Cathy was 11 when she pulled the plug
On 26 reds and a bottle of wine
Bobby got leukemia, 14 years old
He looked like 65 when he died
He was a friend of mine
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
They were all my friends, and they died
Jimmy and Georgie let their gimmicks go rotten
So they died of hepatitis in Upper Manhattan
Sly in Vietnam took a bullet in the head
Bobby OD’d on Drano on the night that he was wed
They were two more friends of mine
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
They were all my friends, and they died
Mary took a dry dive from a hotel room
Bobby hung himself from a cell in The Tombs
Judy jumped in front of a subway train
Eddie got slit in the jugular vein
And Eddie, I miss you more than all the others
And I salute you brother
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
They were all my friends, and they died
Herbie pushed Tony from the Boys’ Club roof
Tony thought that his rage was just some goof
But Herbie sure gave Tony some bitchin’ proof
“Hey,” Herbie said, “Tony, can you fly?”
But Tony couldn’t fly – Tony died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
They were all my friends, and they died
Brian got busted on a narco rap
He beat the rap by rattin’ on some bikers
He said, “Hey, I know it’s dangerous
But it sure beats Riker’s”
But the next day he got offed
By the very same bikers
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
They were all my friends, and they died
Teddy sniffing glue he was 12 years old
Fell from the roof on East Two-nine
Cathy was 11 when she pulled the plug
On 26 reds and a bottle of wine
Bobby got leukemia, 14 years old
He looked like 65 when he died
He was a friend of mine
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
They were all my friends, and they died
Jimmy and Georgie let their gimmicks go rotten
So they died of hepatitis in Upper Manhattan
Sly in Vietnam took a bullet in the head
Bobby OD’d on Drano on the night that he was wed
They were two more friends of mine
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
They were all my friends, and they died
Mary took a dry dive from a hotel room
Bobby hung himself from a cell in the tombs
Judy jumped in front of a subway train
Eddie got slit in the jugular vein
And Eddie, I miss you more than all the others
This song is for you my brother
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
They were all my friends, and they died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
Those are people who died, died
They were all my friends, and they died

A very interesting figure from the very early punk rock days in New York. Although he was heterosexual, he worked as a rent boy on the streets of New York to get money for his heroin habit. Lots of young straight junkies do this in New York. Johnny Ramone did it. You would be amazed at how many straight men will have sex with men for money, especially if they are drug addicts. It would boggle your mind.

He hung out with Patti Smith, Richard Hell, the Ramones, Johnny Thunders, William Burroughs, and all the rest of the New York punk maniac crowd back then. I remember William Burroughs came to give a reading in LA in 1980, and though I wasn’t there, the place was full of the craziest LA punkers – all the local maniacs were there.

Burroughs was a punk icon as he was a Beat icon and even a bit of a hippie icon. In the hippie era, there long-haired young man backpacking through Europe with a copy of Nova Express became something of an archetype. Face it: Burroughs is a hipster – the ultimate hipster.

All the people in this song died young. They were all shooting stars – after all, every shooting star burns out after a brief flash of glory. A lot of these types have an air of doom about them from early on. They seem headed in only one un-veering final direction with no way to stop them. Get out of the way before they take you with them.

It’s a great song though from back in the day. This is one more example of how great early punk rock was!

Amazing how many people this young man knew who died. Sort of reminds me of Lou Reed’s Walk on the Wild Side too with the list of wild characters and crazy behavior – the crowd that loves to bet it all, to throw it all down and tiptoe on the tight wire of life for no particular reason, or just for the Hell of it.

Jim Carroll RIP.

Face It: A Lot of Young People of Both Genders and a Lot of Races Act Pretty Bad

Polar Bear: Black female morality: A local Italian place has cheap food that didn’t sell during the day, so I stopped by a little bit ago. Me and another White man get their first but let all the ladies go first. A fairly diverse bunch of women take their food before us – fine.

A black lady takes as many plates as she can carry, so me and the other gentlemen get none. Me and the other guy looked at each other and both thought of a word.

That word you were both thinking of is exactly what this lousy women is, sorry. If Blacks don’t want to be called words like that, just act decent and civilized, and most of us won’t abuse you with slurs. If you act terrible you deserve every slur hurled your way.

Blacks do this sort of thing a lot, far more than any other race I can think of. The one adjective I think of when I think of a certain type of Black person is “inconsiderate.” Very inconsiderate and self-centered. You’re either not there or you don’t matter. All that matters is them getting whatever the need, come Hell or high water. Other people are either nonexistent or in the way.

In fact, I would say that most of a certain type of Black women are like this. I think there is something wrong with a certain type of Black person. You all know exactly who I am talking about. I’m not surely what exactly is wrong with them and why they act this way, but one of the purposes of this site is to explore questions like that.

And yes, it is typically a Black woman who is trying to more or less scam or semi-scam, thieve or semi-thieve, this way. I don’t know about the extent to which Black men engage in this behavior, as I really don’t deal with them.

On the other hand, it’s not just Black women. This thing: low level more or less thievery or at least very inconsiderate behavior, is very common among women of all races. It is mostly young women who pull this shit. In my opinion, 1/3 of young women are basically thieves. And the people they steal from are men.

Many young women age 18-30 are virtually psychopathic. There’s something terribly wrong with them. I don’t understand why so many young women act this way.

After age 30, women do a lot less thieving. And whoring for that matter. Thieving (from men) and whoring are a young women’s game, and they excel at both of these things. The thieving is often tied in with sex in a way or at least that is used as an enticement. After age 30, women seem to have a lot more morals. Things they would have done without a thought when they were young now elicit frowns of disapproval and statements like, “That’s wrong.”

I really don’t get why but young men are pretty horrific too. Sure, Black men have an extremely high crime rate, but the Black men doing that are mostly 13-33.  After age 33, Black testosterone levels return to White levels or even lower, and an awful lot of Black men who used to act really bad calm down.

Really though, Hispanic and even White men age 18-30 don’t act real great. The vast majority of male crime in both Hispanics and Whites is committed by this cohort. I suppose you could say that a lot of young men period are almost psychopaths.

Youth is the time for a Hell of a lot of fun, potentially anyway, but young people of both sexes seem deficient in morality, and quite a few of them act pretty damn bad. Both males and females calm down after age 30-33 and even seem to grow a sense of morality where little existed before.

It’s also our society, as I talked to a man from Yemen, and he said that no woman would ever steal one dime from a man in his country. It’s simply unheard of.

These feminists wonder why some men pine for patriarchy, vicious as it is. If you offered me a society to live in where female thieves and thieving whores were basically nonexistent, I would probably want to impose a society like that.

For us men the benefits of such a system are obvious. It’s not just we get to be cruel and lord it over the ladies. I don’t care for that part of it. But a serious patriarchy cuts way down on the thieving and whoring tendencies of women, especially young women, so it spares us men from being victims of whole armies of predatory and amoral females who specialize in victimizing us.

PUA/Game: The Staring Wars

Jason: Well, if gawking brought it on, then it’s tough to make justification for it. I mean, gawking can get you killed in prison, for instance.

Well, I have problems with gawking, and it’s stirred up major problems with females at restaurants and colleges. At the college, some tried to discourage me by making fun of my cross-eyed-ness LOL.

Now in one college class, I was fascinated by this mulatto beauty and jealous of her gay friend, but I realized it was causing problems, so I moved to the other end of the class.

I have gotten staring complaints before. One of my brother’s friends who totally hates me complains that I “stare.” I haven’t the slightest idea what he is talking about, as he is apparently referring to men, and I don’t see why I would stare at men. I do look at  people. I people watch. Maybe that’s “staring” – I have no idea.

People have been saying this about me my whole life. At age 23, a friend told me, “I know you like to rape them with your eyes, Bob.” My thought was, “Yeah? So? That’s just normal. All men do that. At least I’m heterosexual!” This was in 1981, 38 years ago, when #metoo did not exist, and  male-female relations were absolutely superb.

When I was in my late 30’s-early 40’s, I used to frequent a coffee shop with a lot of hot baristas. It was not Gaybucks – actually it was called The Daily Grind.

This was run by sane people – not SJW scum – and this was also around 1995-2002, 17-24 years ago. No one cared about #metoo crap back then. It didn’t even exist.

Well, I was told by some of the baristas and the female owner that all girls said that I look at them.

“We know you look at all the girls, Bob. They all say that.”

The owner and the baristas acted like it was funny, like a joke. They also acted like they really didn’t care and weren’t going to do anything about it.

One of the baristas was an underage girl, and she was a severe cunt, especially for such a young girl. First she accused me of looking at her, and then she accused me of being gay (for leaning up against a wall with my legs crossed)! Like gay men spend all their time checking out women! I pointed out to her that this made no sense, but like a typical female, she just dug in her heels and insisted that her statements were perfectly logical.

She really hated that I looked at her, and she bitched about it a lot. I just laughed in her face and said:

“1. I’m not going to stop. 2. What are you going to do about it?”

She was steaming furious and it made me very happy to see this silly little teenie bitch all riled up.

I was supposedly still quite handsome back then, so maybe that’s why they didn’t care. Maybe Chad can stare, gawk, and check out women all he wants to, and women don’t really care.

Chad breaks all the rules!

PUA/Game: Male Morality Versus Female Morality

Jason: O.K. I’ll play the devil’s advocate. Seriously, in any town – are guys (as in traditional male) who run their mouth, backstab.

How is this different from chicks? Nothing.

Everyone runs their mouth and backstabs. It’s just about normal for both sexes. It’s a bit low (especially the backstabbing) but the number of both men and women who do this is very large. Backstabbing is rather shitty but a lot of people do it anyway. Unfortunately, I have been known to do it myself at times.

Like if I have two girlfriends at once and they find out about each other, I might go to Girlfriend A and diss Girlfriend B to or with her or vice versa. I’m basically playing them off each other. It’s pretty evil but I do it anyway. I am not a very honorable man when it comes to women, sorry. The rule book goes out the window, and I do a lot of bad things, but I really don’t care ha ha.

I am talking about making up pure lies about a man simply because they don’t like him. Mostly women do that and it’s usually young women. For instance, looks like young cunts made up some pretty nasty lies about you.

It’s true that on the Internet, a lot of “men” make up sheer lies about people they hate. If the man has psychopathic or narcissistic features, they can do it as a matter of habit. But that’s not part of male morality.

There’s nothing in male morality that says you can make up lies about people you don’t like. Almost all men would characterize that as fighting dirty and a lot would say it’s pussy, womanish, or unmanly behavior.

Male morality looks down on dirty fighting and sees it as pussy and unmasculine. “Come out and fight like a man!” Sure there are men who fight dirty, but a lot of us really look down on men like that because they are dishonorable and a real man is supposed to be honorable.

Female morality has no such values. Fighting dirty is allowed in female morality because they say that they are weaker so the only way they have a chance is to fight dirty. For instance, female morality says that if women think some guy is creepy or makes them “uncomfortable”, they have a perfect right to make up a bunch of sheer lies about him.

It’s moral to make up these lies because he’s a creep and he deserves it. Plus they need to get rid of him somehow because he makes the poor babies “uncomfortable”, and if they need to make up a bunch of lies to get rid of this guy, so be it. It’s worth it to not have him around so they can be “comfortable” again.

If  you go around the Manosphere, especially the MGTOW and Incel places, you will see a lot of references to the idea that women are simply evil, that they have no moral compass at all, or that they are all psychopaths. I was baffled by this for some time and thought maybe these guys were just nuts.

But I kept hearing it over and over. Where there’s smoke, there’s fire. So I dug into it. I believe what I described above – that female morality says it’s ok to fight dirty and rules are for men – is probably the source of these allegations of female evil and amorality.

But fighting dirty doesn’t make you evil. Mostly it’s chickenshit, feminine, pussy and unmasculine, but women are most of those things by their nature anyway, so what do you expect? Of course they fight dirty. And women are not the only ones. Anywhere you look in society, where there’s a fight between someone who is stronger and someone who is weaker, the weaker party often resorts to dirty fighting because if they play by the rules, they’re going to get creamed.

I don’t like women’s dirty fighting, but I suppose it is to be expected. Just accept that they are like this, they’re not changing, and move on.

I don’t think women are evil, amoral, or psychopathic, but I can understand why they might appear that way.

I don’t think teenage girls do this to much to men or boys because in general they are not sophisticated enough to do dirty stuff like this. Also a lot of teenage girls are still pretty innocent and haven’t built up much anger and rage towards men yet.

But by age ~18, most women have developed a real bitch factor, guaranteed. I believe their views of men start to harden. High school girls just burst into tears. A college girl  will scream at you like a banshee and then rip your ball sack right off your body without a second thought.

Young women 18-30 will absolutely do this, and they do it all the time, out of habit almost, without batting an eye or a single trace of guilt. A huge number of young women – maybe 1/3 – are more or less  psychopaths in my opinion. I consider 1/3 of young women to be pretty damned  evil. That’s how many young women think it’s acceptable to steal from men.

Now a lot of older women (I am hoping) would say it’s not cool to make up sheer lies about some guy just because he  makes you uncomfortable. They would say ignore or quit looking at him and in addition, quit being so sensitive.

My “Social Skills”

First of all, I would like to point out that the word is typically used in very stupid ways. A person that “lacks skills” implies that they don’t know the rules. The truth is that you can know all the rules times ten and still screw up constantly. There’s more to it than just knowing the rules.

For one thing, a lot of people may seem weird, strange, odd, or awkward and no matter how hard they try, they can’t seem to stop acting this way . They may have an anxiety disorder, a mood disorder, or a personality disorder to the extent that they simply can’t even come across all that normally no matter how hard they try. For someone like this, knowing all the rules in the world is utterly useless.

This person doesn’t “lack social skills” are moronic clinicians insist. They have something wrong with their brains that causes an impairment in social functioning that they can’t change no matter how hard they try.

I’m actually quite good at social skills. I never would have had all this success with women and girls if I didn’t. Social retards don’t get laid. And they’re never players.

I know hundreds of thousands of the crazy rules, but I get frustrated and sometimes I violate the topic rules because it gets old talking about the weather all the time.

Also I am a rebellious asshole that likes to destroy things just for kicks, at least in my mind’s eye if not literally. The way I view society is that I basically hate it and want to fuck it up. I see society as a gigantic establishment that I want to walk into, totally destroy for no reason, and then walking out laughing my ass off. I don’t actually do such things but I often feel like doing the social equivalent of that.

I can’t bother with too much of this uptight BS with a mindset like that.

My mind goes a mile a minute, and I am always analyzing every aspect of every interaction to monitor it, see how it’s going, whether it needs to be adjusted, the trajectory of it, etc.

I respond to nonverbal communication during conversations, often with micromovements as I adjust my facial and body movements to their conversation.

I am very good at nonverbal communication and even picking up on subtle, cryptic remarks, although sometimes I have to wait 6-12 hours or even a day or two of thinking about mysterious nonverbal stuff and extremely cryptic remarks to try to put the puzzle together. Other times I have to run it by my Mom or one of my friends and try to figure what the Hell this weird cryptic person meant by this, that, or the other speech or behavior.

But I get it usually pretty quickly, but sometimes it can take me months to put together the whole plot especially if it’s cryptic, mysterious behavior that has been unfolding for months. I notice the pattern after a bit, and I try to put it together, but often I can’t. I can usually tell if some locale, person, or group is on a downhill trajectory or not though. I’ll notice that, but figuring what’s behind it all is often extremely difficult.

Database in My Head

I keep databases in my head of everyone I talk to or interact with at all which are updated and adjusted constantly. They deal with where where I am with this person; whether I can talk to them or not and if so, for how long and about what; what our past interactions have been like; what’s the trajectory of the relationship; what this person’s emotional feelings and attitudes are towards me, why they feel this way, and what I did, if anything, to make them feel this way; any possible cryptic feelings they might have for me; what I can say and do with this person and vice versa; any past social failures I made them, what I did wrong, whether they got over it, and what lessons I learned; whether a woman is interested in me or not; on and on.

To a lesser extent, I try to figure out where I am with guys, but guys are a lot more chill than women. Most guys are not a problem and I don’t need to database them too much.

Social Dangers of Gay Men

Gay men are much more difficult than straight men to deal with, and young gay men are often a complete nightmare, much worse than the worst young women. All the bitchiness of a woman at her worst and combine it with a  huge dose of testosterone to add an element of high male aggression to the bitchiness.

The aggressive bitchiness also makes them quite vindictive and dangerous. I got fired by a gay male boss once and it was one of the most bizarre experiences of my life. Ever since then I am extremely wary about having any gay bosses at any job. If I was required to have a gay boss at a job, I might just quit. That one guy soured me on them for a lifetime.

Many gay men are notorious fussbudgets, rules/manners freaks, and what I would call picky little fussy bitches. Some get upset, annoyed, and bitchy on a very regular basis, almost as much as a typical woman. Some young gay men are fine, but a number of young gay men are walking landmines, much more dangerous than a lot of young women.

Older gay men are often pretty chill although I haven’t dealt with a whole lot of them. They usually calm down a lot as they age like most humans do.

SJW Behavior in Men Is Profoundly Unmasculine

Face it. It is faggy for men to get upset over every little remark and to be bitching out all the time over trivial things as SJWism mandates. Women are natural bitchy sometimes so this behavior is normal, but SJWism is making women a lot more bitchy than they were before this silliness hit society.

Yet for men it’s abnormal. I don’t want to diss gay men here, but that’s what a gay man does. If you have spent a lot of time around them, you will notice this. It’s like a woman.

Ever seen a gay man get angry? It acts like a bitchy woman. Actually when they are at their worst, they are a lot worse than bitchy women.

First, a lot of are very prissy and uptight over neatness, manners, and other silly things. Then you combine the bitchiness, pettiness, touchiness, triviality, fussiness, and priggishness of a bitchy woman  with the testosterone-induced aggression of a hormonally healthy man, and you can en up with something like a bitchy woman on steroids.

I really don’t recommend that you have a gay boss. Perhaps you may have a good experience. My gay boss was one of the worst nightmares of my life, and ever since, I have been extremely wary about having  a gay boss. I really don’t want another one. Once bitten, twice shy.

Anyway, I am pointing out that straight SJW “men” who enforce SJW nonsense like sour-faced nuns with rulers are acting profoundly unmasculine. Moralfaggotry is not a masculine trait. It’s prissy, hypersensitive, overemotional, and very feminine.

A man is expected to either be relaxed about things like this, change the subject, gently steer the person away from the topic, or, say, frown with disapproval over unacceptable statements and behavioral violations unless the man’s words and behavior are seriously out of line. A real man is not supposed to be throwing faggy SJW hissyfits over every little violation of the SJW Miss Manners Manual.

Hence: SJW straight “men” are not acting like real men. They’re acting like a bunch of prissy, fussy, irritable homosexuals, no matter what their sexual preference is. I am not saying these men are gay. I know that their preference is heterosexual. However, I am saying that straight men who act this way are acting pretty damned faggy and pussy.

Game/PUA: The Intersection of Race and Gender

Great post from Polar Bear.

This is why I love stereotypes. We all know full well that stereotypes are not true in their entirety and are only widespread average glimpses of entire groups. Anyway, people will never stop stereotyping no matter how much the SJW’s scream. Stereotyping is simply generalization and pattern recognition. Generalization is one of the hallmarks of higher thinking.

SJW’s hate generalizations. I tell you what. Try to go through one full day without generalizing. I really doubt if you will even make it out of your bed. We all make generalizations about all sorts of things all the time, every minute of every day. The notion that humans should live without generalization is not only ridiculous. It is downright dangerous.

Pattern recognition is the essence of higher thinking. The higher the IQ, the greater the pattern recognition. This even extends beyond IQ’s of 145.

Stereotypes are generalizations, a necessity every moment of our lives. All generalizations are pattern recognition, the very essence of the highest thinking that we are capable of. In other words, stereotyping is simply pattern recognition, the ultimate in thinking, in terms of human behavior. Polar Bear does a lot of stereotyping here, but while he does this, he tells us many (in my opinion) essential truths about the behavior of various racial, religious, and ethnic groups.

Polar Bear: Black men put up with way less shit, give their “bitches” more shit, and benefit from it.

By the time a White man has a kid with his lady, he is owned.

Orthodox Jews have more of a team relationship.

Muslim men put their women in their place. Jokes at the expense of women right in front of them are common with many of these guys.

Asian women submit and take care of their man.

I believe Jews have the healthiest relationships. I see more of all the other groups, but the Jew couples I’ve seen really had their shit together. My theory is the ethnocentric and religious commonality strengthen their bonds.

Asian women know their role and have great taste in men. This is also a recipe for success.

Muslim men dominating their women is perhaps born out of necessity.  Anyway it’s far better than women dominating men, and I see a lot of strength in their women’s eyes.

Blacks dominate their sick White cows. The women seem on drugs, but at least Cosby Light wears the pants.

Western White men today are steamrolled by their abusive butch women.

Just Got Banned from a Store for “Harassment”

This is the most BS charge I’ve ever heard of. I patronize the local Starbucks coffee shop a lot, typically every day. This has been going on for years. I’ve never been told by anyone that there was ever any problem involving me. This is over years now. I am talking maybe 10 years.

Well I go in tonight, and one guy, who, granted, can be asshole if he wants to be, although I know him extremely well for years and we have talked about everything under the sun. He sees me coming and “gets into position” apparently in advance of having a conversation with me. He doesn’t look particularly friendly.

I put my mind into a “see nothing, hear nothing,  speak nothing” form of mind where you probably literally have no idea what I am thinking. I’m hiding cognitively and emotionally. I often do this in socially touchy situations where I want to maintain a bit of distance.

I was trying to maintain distance from this guy as lately he has been giving me stupid messages about breaking social rules, and he’s starting to  really piss me off. He has a list of 900,000 social rules – 600,000 things you can’t say and 300,000 things you can’t do. I try to follow the rules, but I keep forgetting them.

It’s all my fault. I know I should remember 900,000 fucktarded rules that are all about things I can’t say or do. They’re all nothing but restrictions on my behavior. Fuck that. I feel like I’m in a cage. I will obey many or even most of the rules, but some people’s rules are just insane. I will talk about these in a future post.

He informs me in serious tone that I am not allowed to come into the store anymore. I am banned. “A number” of young women complained that I was “harassing” them. Later it turned out that “a number” means two and “harassment” means sexual harassment.

I had to think long and hard about who that might be, and I was entertaining all sorts of theories. He said he was required to tell me that. I asked him to give me some details on the complaint, and he said he could not do that.

This is the new #metoo feminist insanity: you often have no idea what the complaint against you is. You have no idea what you did wrong except make some lame cunt feel “uncomfortable.” And we are talking about women here, creatures who probably feel “uncomfortable” 50% of the time no matter what’s going on, and that’s on a good day. That probably even goes for when they are alone.

So I went to the other coffee shop. I kept thinking it was a group of young women, maybe 18, at an outside table as I was getting my coffee condiments. I knew they were not interested in me. I could tell. But they were nice to look at and pretty, happy, laughing young women are always a delight to watch even on a purely nonsexual basis.

However, I didn’t want to stare at them so I placed my gaze literally on their table a foot or so away from any of them (on one far end of the table). If you looked at me, it would seem as if I were looking at something on the table. I did this because I did not want to look at those young women directly.

I often look at a table, the wall, the sky, something across the street, etc. when I want to view some people. That way you get a panorama view of everyone in the area, but you are not looking directly at anyone. You can’t see people as well as when you focus on them, but you still get a good overall view. You’re only staring at someone if you are looking directly at them.  You’re never staring at someone if you are looking at a wall, a table, or the sky.

So I thought that they busted me. But that was a week or so ago, and they would have had to have complained that day. So that pretty much didn’t make sense. Because they needed someone to complain about, they had to have complained about me when I was in the store at the time of the offense. If they complained later, they would not be able to describe who I was.

Since action would have probably taken place immediately on  receiving the complaint, it had to be recent. Very recent. I didn’t think they would wait even one day to inform me of the ban. The ban probably went into place upon immediate receipt of the ban. So I zeroed in on yesterday, as that was the last time I was in the store.

What had happened yesterday? I think I had a casual conversation with a couple of young women. I had had this conversation with them about a fire in the area because there was smoke everywhere. Now I had to figure out when the fire was.

Bingo! Turns out it was yesterday. So yesterday is when I talked to the young women about the fire.  They must have complained about me as soon as I left the store, otherwise employees would not have known who they were talking about.

So that was it. The fire conversation.

Here is literally what happened. I am

Two young women, maybe 18, standing in back of me in line. We exchange looks a few times. I move over towards one and say”

Me: “Looks there is a fire somewhere. There’s smoke in the air. Doesn’t that look like smoke?”

She is extremely friendly as I talk.

She nods her head.

Her: “Yes, it does look like smoke.”

I go back and order. I get done with my order, and as I am putting my stuff away, I wave the women to come over and order anyway even though I am still at the counter. Note that this is an extremely, almost over the top, polite thing to do and a lot of people don’t do it. So my behavior was not just polite but extremely polite. I always do this as I am extremely polite and don’t like to make people wait.

One of them hesitates as if to say are you sure we can come up now?

I nod my head of course. She comes and orders. Orders a frappuchino. An iced drink. I say,

Me: “Cold drink on today? Today’s too cold for a cold drink.”

She giggles.

Her: “I always order a cold drink no matter what the weather is like.”

They leave somehow before I am done putting my stuff away.

I go over to the condiments counter and put stuff in my coffee. I look over at the young women a few times, as they are to my right maybe 15 feet away. They don’t return my glances for whatever reason, but this is something that happens to me constantly, as in every single day, so I think nothing of it.

Then I think. I should go over and inform the young women that I know the source of the fire. I walk over 15 feet to their table. They both turn around. I point to the smoke outside.

Me: “There’s a fire in Sacramento. That’s what all the smoke is, apparently.”

They both nod their heads as if they appreciate this information that adds to our previous conversation.

Her:Ah, yes.”

…as if this information is interesting to her, as it explains the smoke. They are both extremely friendly. After I say one sentence, I immediately turn and walk away since I am not getting any IOI from these young women.

I will walk over to someone’s table and talk to them, but if I get no IOI or indication that they want me to stick around and talk them, I usually just turn tail and walk away. Basically because I don’t want them to think I am trying to pick up on them.

I am actually very shy, reserved, and conservative, believe it or not. I am also a hardcore introvert with all of the guilt and  extreme conscience that goes along with that.

I am also analyzing my behavior all the time to see how it is going over. In particular, I am very paranoid of #metoo and sexual assault crap, so whenever I am talking to women, especially  young women, I am always trying to see if I get an IOI.

If no IOI, I don’t flirt, come onto them, try to pick up on them, try to get their numbers, or ask them out. Also I figure that means that they are not interested in me sexually, so I pretty much shut down my sexual interest too to the extent that that is possible.

For a few years now, I pretty much get zero IOI’s anywhere I go, especially from young women, so for quite some time now, I never flirt, come onto, or try to pick up on women, and I never try to get their numbers or ask them out. I am the ultimate shy, inoffensive man with no sexual interest in women who never flirts, comes onto women, or asks them out or for their numbers.

I ask you all to look at the conversation above and see if there is any sexual harassment going on. As you can see, I am literally talking about the weather! Talking about the weather is the ultimate inoffensive conversation. But I guess you can’t even do that anymore because so many women are such cunts nowadays that if you try to talk to the weather with them, that literally constitutes sexual harassment.

I guess these women think any conversation at all from an undesired man is sexual harassment. I guess it’s sexual harassment to say:

“Nice day.”

“Hello.”

“Hi.”

“Nice weather we are having, eh?”

“Rainy  enough for you?”

“Brr, I’m cold. Is it cold out there or what?”

If the woman thinks the man is not attractive or desirable.

So now, incredibly, sexual harassment doesn’t even have to have anything to do with sex! It can have zero sexual content whatsoever. If you try to talk to some woman about anything on Earth, and she does not want you talking to her, that’s somehow sexual harassment!

This is incredible, and it’s also very bizarre. Any woman can get any man banned from anywhere at any time. All she has to say is, “That man was harassing us.” Does she need to provide details? Of course not.

The mere fact that he was talking to them at all constitutes sexual harassment! Does she need to say what he said or did, specifically in a sexual tone or sense, that qualifies the behavior as sexual harassment? Of course not!

The conversation and behavior can be 100% nonsexual, and now apparently even completely nonsexual words and behavior now constitutes sexual harassment.

Sexual harassment is literally any time any woman feels bothered, annoyed, or made to feel uncomfortable by any man anywhere for any reason no matter what he said or did!  Make a woman feel uncomfortable and it’s harassment!

How are we supposed to know if our words or behavior are making a woman uncomfortable?  There’s no way to tell! What might be fine with one woman might be serious harassment to another.

Is there any way to tell while you are interacting with a woman that you are making her feel uncomfortable? Of course not! These two women are all smiles and pleasantness.

Usually when a woman doesn’t want to talk to you, she gives off those vibes. There are literally a million verbal and nonverbal ways to do this, I’ve seen them all, and I know them very well. Here I had a conversation with two young women, and they smiled, laughed, and thanked me for the words and gave off the impression of a consensual conversation in which both parties were consenting enthusiastically of their own free will.

I really need to know what in God’s name I did wrong. Except maybe that at my age, I am forbidden to talk to any young woman anywhere for any reason because I can only make them uncomfortable. I’ve actually been thinking just that for some time now because those are the vibes I often get.

I’m not going to shut down and stop talking to other humans no matter what fucked up attitudes they have. If they don’t want to talk to me, they can make that clear, and I will end the conversation and take off.

But this idea that for some reason, I am so old, ugly, undesirable, or creepy now solely because of my age that I am not allowed to converse with 50% of the population is absurd. I’m going to rebel against that. I only have one life here, and I intend to enjoy it. Telling me I’m not allowed to talk to half the human race anymore pisses me off. I don’t care if that’s the message of humanity. I’m going to break that fucking rule whether people like it or not.

Final message to all feminists:

Burn in Hell, cunts!

The Sissy Boy Syndrome and Its Relationship to Male Homosexuality

Polar Bear: I revel in anti-PC but honestly didn’t think “sissy” was. If it’s more offensive than all the other words, I’ll use it more. I’m not one of the jocks looking to swirl your curly locks.

Haha. You didn’t think the word sissy was banned? Who knows if it’s banned or not? These banned words change more often than the weather. Every day I wake up and another word I’ve been using my whole life is banned forever and can get me fired or ruin my life. It’s starting to piss me off. I almost feel like using those words even more just to piss off the SJW’s, who, let’s face it, are really just extreme moralfags.

Any negative portrayal of effeminate men is pretty much out in this day and age. Gay men are our new sacred cows. Why this is I have no idea. They’re not exactly saints, you know.

If it’s more offensive than all the other words, I’ll use it more.

Lulz.

That word sissy is never used except for boys. There are only sissy boys; there are no sissy men. And it’s mostly boys who call other boys sissies. The word’s not really used by adults of either sex, except in retrospect:

“As a boy, he was often called a sissy.”

A lot of gay men openly admit to being sissies as boys. They come right out and say it.

There is a good book about male homosexuality called The Sissy Boy Syndrome. It has a lot about the etiology of homosexuality. 75% of sissy boys grow up to be gay. 25% do grow up to be straight though. There is a direct line from sissy boy to gay man. Make of it what you will.

The % of tomboys who grow up to be lesbians is much lower than for gay men. ~25%, possibly. Many straight women were tomboys as girls. Many of these grew up to be very feminine women.

Women are strange. They move around a lot. They’re a lot less hardwired then men. The essence of the female or feminine character is fluidity: in movement, in thought, in sexuality, in all sorts of things. Women seem to flow their way through life. I look at a young woman flowing along with her head swimming in the clouds and I think of the sea. Of course the Sea as Woman and the Sea as Mother are ancient tropes.

We men charge through existence like bulls in a china shop. I have to admit it’s fun for a while though. This is the essence of the Young Man: programmed to destroy. If they make it to 30 with two feet still on the ground, men tend to calm down a lot.

Game/PUA: Natural Law Wants Males to Be Masculine and Females to Be Feminine

Polar Bear and I are both suggesting that Nature wants men and women to be a certain way, and when we decide to act in a way contrary to the way Nature wants us to act, the result is unhappiness. Mother Nature bats last.  She always gets the last laugh too. And you can’t fool her either. She’s always got that winning card hidden up her sleeve somewhere.

I have noticed that feminine (not effeminate) straight men are not very happy. Sometimes I get around these guys, and they start acting a lot more masculine, apparently riffing off me. While I’m not the most masculine guy around, I’m positively macho compared to a lot of feminine men.

I have noticed that these men often jump at the opportunity to act macho and embrace their masculinity. It’s like it was hiding in there all along, and it was just waiting for a signal to break out. And they seem very happy while they are acting masculine. Like they finally found their groove.

I have also noticed that when females are really horny and definitely want to fuck, their behavior changes, and they start acting a lot more feminine. I have seen pretty bitchy women convert into fluttery Southern belles simply because I made them horny or they were in love with me.

The two things – female horniness and “love” – have a lot more in common than you think, guys. When they’re madly in love, women often get insatiably horny. It’s like love turns on the female sex drive.

I have also noticed that when women get into this extreme feminine or submissive behavior around me, they truly seem to be in their special happy place. Deep down inside, this is where they all want to be, submissive and feminine.

Hence butch women or domineering bitches often seem miserable. Domineering bitches are being turned that way by their wimpy male partners, and while they seem to enjoy tormenting these guys; in reality, I think they are resentful at these men for not acting more masculine and forcing the woman to wear the pants.

They don’t really enjoy beating up on these guys. If you look closely, a lot of these bitches don’t look very happy. They deliberately seek out wimpy men to dominate and beat up on, but these are not happy relationships for either party.

Obviously the man is miserable by being dominated by a bitchy women, and the bitches themselves seem to resent being forced into this role as I suggested above.

Like all women, even domineering bitches probably long for a masculine man to dominate them, boss them around, and maybe even put them in their place.

You know how many women have specifically requested me to dominate them in bed? More than a few.

And a woman once told me to come over to her place for the weekend:

“I really need a man to boss me around. I haven’t been laid in forever.”

That freaked me out. What? She wants to be bossed around? Afraid so. And she ain’t the only one, guys.

If you study the mating habits of mammals, the female tends to act quite submissive and “feminine” when she is mating. The male often acts with exaggerated masculinity when he is mating.

The same thing happens in humans. Go to a bar some time and watch a couple pick each other up. I saw a couple at a bar near me do this. They were both Hispanic, so they believe in traditional sex roles. As they got more and more into each other, the man got increasingly masculine. It seemed that he was almost growing taller in front of my eyes. And the woman got more feminine as she got more into the guy. On the contrary, she seemed to almost shrink in his presence.

I am reading a book about grizzly bears now, and the author is witnessing a pair of bears mating. Yep, the male exaggerates his swagger, and the female almost cowers in front of the male, to the extent that a male grizzly can actually act more tough and to the degree that a female grizzly can get submissive at all, anyway.

It’s the heterosexual dance, and we humans are all mammals. I have long said that I didn’t really start to understand male and female humans in a sexual sense until I started studying higher mammals and comparing them to us humans.

Want to know how human females act in a sexual sense? Study those female elk, those female elephant seals.

Want to know how human males act in a sexual sense? Same thing. Study male cats, elk, or seals.

Mammals are like us in surprising ways,  all the way down to the Alphas with their harems, and the females taking a number and waiting in line to fuck the Alpha. Mammals even have legions of incels cast aside, Darwinian losers and dead ends.

The incel seals, the bachelors who aren’t getting any lady seal pussy, are stranded on these rock formations they call haul-outs, while the psychopathic monster elephant seal has his harem of 50 seal babes. I have no idea what those poor incel seals are doing there on their haul-outs other than barking. Holding their seal dicks in their flippers, I guess.

Male Haircut Client Styles by Race in the US

SHI: I think most male hairdressers are gay or at least bi-. Except the traditional barbers who are as manly as they come.

Perhaps you still have a strict gender separation in hair-cutting as we have here in our less assimilated Hispanic cultures.

But no, most male hair stylists in the US are not gay. But quite a few of them are. I think my hair stylist friends estimated that gays were 1/3 of all US hair stylists.

Because in the US anymore, most all men, or at least White men, get their hair cut by hair stylists. I have no idea what Black culture is like. I have heard that Black men still go to traditional male hangout barber shops while the women tend to go to stylists.

There are not many barbers around in US culture except in this Hispanic community (and maybe the Black community) here where there is strict gender segregation about hair-cutting. Men absolutely must get their hair cut at a traditional barber shop that is exactly like the glorious male-only spaces I frequented as a boy to get my hair cut.

The hair stylists are strictly for women. I get my hair cut by a stylist because like Hell I am getting my hair cut in a traditional barber shop. I guess that’s faggy in this town, but who cares! Like I am here to kiss up to silly Hispanic values imported straight from damned Mexico!

But with White men, absolutely we are getting our hair cut by stylists now. Almost all of us. This started in the 1970’s when most White men started growing their hair long as part of the hippie, surfer, skier, skater, rocker, and drug  subcultures. With long hair, it’s best to go to a stylist. And many White male stylists are quite masculine.

I had some friends who got into the hair stylist thing. These guys were both not the most macho guys around (more like pure androgynes), but they got more pussy than you could even dream of. One guy routinely picked up his female clients, made dates with them that night, and took him over to his place and fucked them. The other guy, one of my best friends, was simply a stud. All there is to it.

I believe he told me that 1/3 of hair stylists were gay, and 2/3 were some variety of straight. Of course they were around gay hair stylists all the time.

I remember the time my best friend above and I were in West Hollywood hanging out with some of his gay hair stylist friends. We used to torment these poor guys by talking about sex with women right in front of them. We would say things like:

“Oh man, that juicy red pussy – it was right in front of my face!”

Then we would make a V with our two fingers and put our tongue between it like we were eating pussy. The gays would flip! They would literally start screaming:

“Get out of here!”

“Oh, how gross!”

“Disgusting!”

“Stop! Stop! Quit talking about that!”

“I’m going to get sick!”

It was a blast, man. We loved tormenting those poor men.

Yep, a lot of gay men are actually as revolted by heterosexual sex as we straights are by gay sex. I have heard that gay men particularly don’t like to eat pussy. When they are fucking a woman (closet cases), a lot of them pretend it’s a guy, and can get by that way. Also gay men who fuck women (closet cases) usually prefer doggy style for obvious reasons.

From the Disco Scene of the 1970’s: A Look at Two Mostly Straight Bisexual Men

David Bowie, “Starman”.  Ziggy Stardust and the Spiders from Mars. 1974. That sure is awesome music though. They don’t make music like this anymore.

Bowie in his bisexual phase. I think he is correct that he was never gay. He was just fucking guys because it was the thing to do, a fad. A fag fad. Haha. David Bowie loved women as much as any man alive. Iggy Pop said he had never seen a man get as many women as David Bowie:

“From waitresses to heiresses, he got them all.”

It was 1976 and my friends M.H. and R.L. worked in jewelry and retail clothes, and those industries are swarming with gay men. They’re also swarming with gorgeous but rather histrionic drama queen women. A lot of them are bisexual, but hardly any are lesbians. Lesbians are like men; they don’t dress well. Boots, corduroys, jeans and a boy’s haircut. Count me out.

My friends dealt with gay men all the time. They were always imitating gay men and making fun of them. I went along with the fun. I learned a lifetime’s worth of fag jokes. And I can imitate a gay man with the best of them.

A few years later after our friendship ended, I learned, not completely to my surprise, that both M.H. and R.L. were fucking guys.

They both fucked hot women and neither was into guys when I knew them, but they sure talked about homosexuality a lot, so maybe that was a giveaway. I was a bit perplexed, like, “Why the Hell are these guys talking about fags* all the time?” They were both fairly masculine guys.

M.H. had some weird masculinity hangup. Macho father had wanted him to play football but he couldn’t cut it, so he wasn’t a man. He went into super-faggy theater arts instead. Dad was disappointed to say the least. M.H. had failed his father. He wasn’t a real man, he knew it deep down inside, and damn, that hurt. Did this hangup lead to him sucking cocks later on? Who knows? Who knows why men do these things?

M.H., I must say, was a damned good actor just to see him from day to day. Very narcissistic, but all actors are like that.

The theater M.H. was a bit faggy like so many men in the theater. There was yet another M.H., who was a hot, macho surfer stud. And he was pretty good with a board too. Once again, the masculinity crisis or the split personality – macho/faggy which quite a few bisexual men have.

I will say though that the year or so that I spent hanging out with M.H. and R.L., male model handsome, clotheshorses, disco ducks, music freaks, and studs, was one of the best years of my life. We had a lot of good times, and both guys were mostly very good to me. Scarcely an unkind word.

M.H. later married a woman, got a great office job, bought a house, and raised a family not far from when he grew up. The bisexuality was just a phase. I have known a number of these guys, and the gay stuff is just a young man thing they did when they were young, dumb, and full of cum.

They’re all married by their 30’s or living with a woman. Often they have a family. From what I can tell, the gay stuff is a mere memory. They go back to completely straight. Unlike gay men, these men seem fairly happy, and by their 30’s, they’re just like anyone else. Perhaps the reversion back to full heterosexuality grounds them back in the bedrock of life.

M.H. was mostly straight. I knew he loved women. He couldn’t stop talking about them. No gay man talks about women like that. But now and again he betrayed some “other” interests in what you might call extracurricular activities.

I’d put him as a true bisexual, leaning straight like most of them do. These men are misunderstood. They like pussy as much as the rest of us do if not more or way more. Most are maniacal pussyhounds. They just like a little cock on the side too.

A lot are surprisingly masculine, but now and then they betray a bizarre “faggy” side to their personality. When you first see it you are shocked. You wonder if they got body-snatched. But these men are still on the other side of the divide from gay men. They’re more over with us straight guys.

Most so-called bisexuals are not truly bisexual –  either basically straight or basically gay men. The old adage, even from my own mother, that bisexuals tend to lean pretty heavily one way or the other, is true.

The real bisexuals are not that common, but I have met a few. One more thing – they are often extremely handsome. And they are often wild sex addicts.

*Back then, gay men were universally called fags. They even called themselves fags. It could be pejorative or even a compliment, but mostly it was simply descriptive. Gay men were simply fags. No disrespect necessarily intended. We have one word for gay men. We have two words for gay men. People hate that. People want one word for gay men. Hence, fags.

Actually I still use that word for gay men in a lot of my daily conversation if I think the person is ok with the word. I don’t necessarily use it pejoratively, but I could. You would have to listen to my tone of voice to see if it was pejorative or simply descriptive.