The Annihilatory or Destructive Drive at the Core of the Human Character
Both males and females have a drive to destruction as part of their core Characters. This is obviously a downside of any human’s character, but both the Male and Female Characters and hence genders are probably 50% good and 50% bad. Think of the good side as the bright side of the moon you see at night. The bad side of the Character/Gender is like the dark side of the moon and hopefully it acts like it. You know full well it’s there even there even though you never see it.
At other times you see it in spades and many people, especially as they get older, turn the mirror around and only show the back side of it to people. All you see is the bad aspects of the Character/Gender. The good side is probably still there in most of them and you may even see it peek out most of the time.
Both males and females have a drive to destruction as part of their core Characters. This is obviously a downside of any human’s character, but both the Male and Female Characters and hence genders are probably 50% good and 50% bad. Think of the good side as the bright side of the moon you see at night.
The bad side of the Character/Gender is like the dark side of the moon and hopefully it acts like it. You know full well it’s there even there even though you never see it. At other times you see it in spades and many people, especially as they get older, turn the mirror around and only show the back side of it to people. All you see is the bad aspects of the Character/Gender. The good side is probably still there in most of them and you may even see it peek out most of the time.
The Annihilatory or Destructive Component in the Male Character
In the male the drive to destruction is projected outwards, which is what males do with most destructive emotions. Sending negative emotions inside of yourself is considered to be pussy, weak, female, acting like a bitch, etc. “Manning up” usually means nothing more than projecting your crap outwards as opposed to inwards.
The Male Character has a destructive aspect, and it is black and dark indeed. It is frankly homicidal and most men are homicidal either consciously or consciously or at least they were as boys, when they projected their murderousness onto non-human creatures and converted it to fistfights with the males they are around.
However, it is very hard for a boy to be truly homicidal and murder another human being, either another boy or a man. Something stops them. This is odd because they spend a lot of time killing non-human things like bugs and they physically fight each other regularly. Yet the fights seldom end in serious damage and always stop short of homicide.
So in the boy, the homicidal impulse is there most of the time, but it is transformed into playing with army men and toy guns, berry and dirt clod wars with other teams of boys (this mirrors small-scale tribal warfare), physical fighting which causes little damage and murder of non-human lower-level creatures.
Yet as a boy grows into a man he is supposed to abandon this overt destruction and sadism of boyhood as retaining is seen as acting like a boy, not a man. Such a young man will be told to “Grow up!” by other men. The sadistic boyhood monster begins being berated in adolescence and at some point the blows may become physical. In this way, the core destructive sadism of the boy is transformed into the calm and controlled man.
Nevertheless, I don’t think the homicidality ever goes away. I spent most of my young adulthood in a homicidal frame of mind, directed at my enemies of course, always other men. Yet I scarcely harmed a soul and only acted on it once when I tried to kill a man who was trying, frankly, to kill me! And that was not fun. It was the worst experience of my life.
So even younger men who feel homicidal most of the time, which is practically normal, will almost never act on it and if they ever do, they are quickly transported to the 9th circle of Hell. The homicidality is meant to be fantasy only. The homicidality is supposed to go away in middle age but I suspect that it just goes into hiding. I know my Killer Maniac is in me as I feel him regularly. Yet he’s locked in a maximum security prison in my gut and like Hell he will ever feel the light of day.
At its worst, the other-destructive aspect of the Male Character is truly black and horrible and actually manifests as a desire to destroy on a significant basis, either objects, animals, or ohter humans. It’s an “obliterating” tendency. At its core, this black desire seems to be a desire to destroy the entire world and everything in it. Truly awful, but no man will come close to realizing it.
Radical feminists have done a good job of portraying the bad side of men and the best of them have commented precisely about this homicidal character and in particular about its totalizing obliterative tendency. I’ve seen it described as a desire to obliterate the entire universe. That is when I knew that this particular radfem truly had her finger on the male pulse.
The Annihilatory or Destructive Component in the Female Character
Men project their pain and women push it inwards into the self. This manifests in all sorts of ways that I assume the reader is more than familiar with.
Freud even suggested that the female, at her core, is essentially a masochist. This may be true that the aspect of her destructive character is masochistic. This follows from the description above describing the male destructive character as sadistic. Indeed many women behave in variations of a masochistic manner in bed, and masochism is deeply tied into female sexuality.
It’s usually milder than the truly hardcore masochism seem in female submissives, sex slaves, etc. involved in sick relationships with sadistic male dominants or doms, but the BD/SM dynamic is simply the basic male/female human dynamic taken to its logical extreme. Most folks are not BD/SM’ers, but a very mild form of it is virtually normal in the sexuality of both genders.
This destructive nature in the female is pushed inwards, hence women are rarely homicidal, and they are terrible killers anyway due to their physical weakness. Further women seem to have an almost genetic aversion to engaging in physical violence, probably evolved for good reasons.
A woman can and will kill you psychologically, spiritually, and verbally and the results are often severe.
But she will probably not kill you, whereas another man can murder you at just about any time and place. Most men understand this, hence their cautious, excessively friendly, and solicitous attitude towards other men. The message behind this groveling is usually something like, “Please don’t punch me in the face! Place don’t murder me, sir.” Any men who has not developed a healthy terror of other men will surely die young and will often meet a violent end.
The landscape of love is littered with the broken souls of men who have been frankly destroyed by females in this manner in the course of a relationship. One of the most important things to learn as a man is to toughen up enough so much that it is difficult if not impossible for a woman to commit soul-murder against you, since if you have any success with women at all, some will attempt this.
The more women you get involved with, the more attempts at soul murder are launched against you, hence Chads and Alphas are often quite cynical about women, having seen the bad side of the female in spades (in addition to ample heaps of the good side too).
The player simply thinks that the punishments are the price you pay for the considerable rewards. Most players have had quite a few women launch elaborate, often long-term and severe attempts at soul murder against them.
If you can’t tough it out and take it, these men simply stop the playboy game, marry up and go more or less monogamous. Those still in the game have been targeted many times and have plenty of war stories to tell.
The destructive aspect of the female character then is self-destructive. We see this in elevated rates of Depression, eating disorders, self-harm including cutting, and the high rate of suicide attempts. Females attempt suicide five times more than men, but are usually unsuccessful and most attempts are theatrical and not intended to succeed. It’s more of a cry for attention to her pain from others.
But I am convinced that the drive to suicidality is at the core of the Female Character. I’ve seen far too many women, even those very close to me, become suicidal at some point in their lives. My own mother was for a while.
At one time, every woman I had dated recently which added up to four or five were all either actively suicidal or had recently attempted (usually theatrical) suicide. The attempters were older women age ~50 and the younger once were 18 and 19 year old teenage girls.
I assume the suicidality assumes a more serious and lethal character as the woman ages. Notably, all three of the older women had never had children. Having living children is one thing that keeps many or most women from ending their lives. Tehy are literally staying alive for their children. If a female has no children, she literally has no reason to be on this Earth, such is the intensity of the maternal instinct.
Furthermore, in these women, there seemed to be an actual love of suicidality as if they were in a love affair with this feeling. Hence I came to see it as an “essential drive” in women’s lives. Most women never suicide but the drive is probably there off and on throughout life.
Lesser forms of this include the extreme forms of self-sacrifice women engage in for others which is related to this remora-like attachment they form with others. The extreme attachment may not be for a husband or boyfriend alone but may instead be of the mother in the case of a teenage girl or for her children in the case of an older mother.
The female will literally sacrifice her life to save others, most particularly her children. You see this same suicidal destructiveness to defend the offspring from threats in many lower mammals. It is especially prominent and can even be lethal in bears.
It’s even present in lower life forms such as birds. A section of trail in the Sierra Nevada had to be closed because the trail went by a Cooper’s Hawk’s nest and the female kept dive-bombing hikers and aiming the talons at their heads.
Once I was fishing on the Eel River in California near Dos Rios where they Middle Fork enters the stream. Across from me on the other side of the river was a large bird that looked like an eagle. It was extremely agitated the whole time I was there, flying haphazardly in small circles and squawking incessantly. I later figured out that this was a nesting Osprey and that was the female Osprey. Apparently I was too close to her nest and this was making her agitated.
The self-destructive nature of the Female Character can be tied into the intense attachment they form for others. There are many cases in warfare of women avenging the deaths of their men in suicidal charges. A notable one occurred among Taiwanese aborigines when 100 women of a tribe suicidally attacked a Japanese contingent that had killed their men. All of the women died, but there may have been some Japanese casualties.
As we see above will give her life for others, especially her children. Most human mothers will either do this or say they will. And they have no fear of the death that will result.
I recently dated an 18 year old girl who had formed a severe attachment to her mother, whom she worshiped with reverence. One time she told me of this elaborate fantasy of hers, which involved killing herself, except that the suicide would be done somehow to protect her mother. She seemed to be a state of rapture when she described this plan to me. She was in love with this plan. This desire to kill herself to protect her mother seemed to be one of the most important and beloved themes in her life.