PUA/Game: What Men Think When They Hear Women Complaining about Men Being after Them All the Time

Ok, women: just imagine what it is like to be a man. If women had to live the sort of lives that men do, they wouldn’t be able to handle it. Most of them would blow their brains out.

Women take it for granted that they can basically have sex with an attractive man anytime they want . Just snap your fingers and there he is. With men it’s just not like that.

I’ve dated ~200 females, and still, I could never just snap my fingers and get a date or have sex like a woman can. I also had many long dry spells. Women don’t have to deal with incel periods like we men do. There’s literally no such thing as a female incel. They wouldn’t be able to cope with this.

Women don’t realize how good they have it in so many ways. Women bitch about the fact that dozens of scores of men act horny around them every day. A woman has her pick of dozens of attractive men who would like to date or fuck her every single day. If it were the other way around, we men would be living in paradise.

The life of a woman is like being a kid in a candy store where all the candy is free, and they call this perfect world names like hate, oppression, discrimination, humiliation, misery, and violence. Can you imagine a kid in a candy store where all the candy is free describing that situation as hate, oppression, discrimination, humiliation, misery, and violence?

The stuff women bitch about is laughable to us me. We can’t stop laughing at how ridiculous and absurd women are when they complain about this. Every women is literally a walking slapstick comedy routine whenever they start talking like this.

“Every day scores of the opposite sex act like they want to fuck me! I’m so oppwessed! This viowence! It’s hatez! It’s disquimination!”

Ha ha! Oh, poor babies! You expect us men to take you seriously when you bitch about that? You women literally live in the ultimate paradise every day, and all you do is cry about it. You’re all a huge fucking joke when you complain about this sort of thing.

PUA/Game: Women Always Want the Best

“Women always want the best.”

– Oscar Wilde

There it is, hypergamy in a nutshell.

Female hypergamy will always exist, as it is simply female nature biologically to be hypergamous. Only societies that seriously restrict it in the form of more or less mandatory marriage (Arabs, Muslims, Russia and Eastern Europe, Latin America, tribal groups, etc.) escape this doomed path.

Women are basically “cavewomen” once you unleash them, just as men are pretty much “cavemen” once women stop controlling us. It is to the advantage of each gender to put in some serious controls over the other gender. Otherwise each gender simply pursues the zero-sum game dictated by its biology.

If you somehow had a hypothetical society where all of the men were named Chad and 8-10’s on the looks scale, I don’t think women would act much different.

Granted most men would be a lot better to look at from a woman’s point of view than most men are nowadays, so at least for women the scenery would improve a lot.

And women might be a lot less likely to freak out and creep-shame the lesser Chads for giving them attention because after all, they are named Chad, and women do give goodlooking women a break when it comes to flirting, making passes, and asking for numbers and dates. They tend to be a lot more gracious about it. I’ve experienced this myself endless times although that era seems to be over for me now.

But let’s think about this seriously for a moment. In a society of Chads, women would constantly be meeting men who are hot enough to turn them on. So women would be seeing tens or hundreds of thousands of men who turn them on in an average lifetime.

What’s a girl to do? Now do you honestly think that your average women is going to end up with lifetime N-counts in the Wilt Chamberlain territory? Would your average women really fuck 10’s or 100’s of thousands of men in a lifetime? Are you kidding?

I am certain that in a society like this, women would simply put the top 20-25% of Chads (the 10’s) in the Alpha Chad category and try to monopolize them.

They would resign the 65% average Chads (9’s on the Looks scale) to the Beta Chad category and treat them as women always treat Betas.

And for the least goodlooking of the Chads who would nevertheless be 8’s on the looks scale, women would simply designate these Chads as Omega Chads and treat them the way women always treat Omegas.

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Let me tell you a story. This is a true story, but I made up the part about all the rock stars being named Chad for obvious reasons. A friend of mine knew a lot of rock stars and used to hang out backstage and a lot of events with big name groups. Once he was backstage with a band.

All of the men in this band were hot, sexy, very goodlooking, and also had Fame, Power, Money, and Status. Furthermore their Game was spectacular, having been honed by countless interactions with literal swarms of groupies.

There were four guys in the band backstage (all named Chad), and the groupies had arranged themselves so that ~1/4 or 3-4 of the groupies were surrounding each man. So the women had arranged themselves equally around these extremely high-value Alpha rock stars, all coincidentally named Chad.

Yet one man was missing. He was the lead singer. By a strange trick of fate, he was also named Chad. He entered the room. He was more famous and well-known than any of the other men, and women (and men) everywhere swooned over him and talked about how much they wanted to fuck him. He was a huge sex symbol, much more of one than any of the rest of the band.

Then a remarkable thing happened.

The 3-4 women who had equally distributed themselves among the four super-stud rock stars quickly left the rock star they were arranged around and all migrated over to the biggest stud of the rock star super-studs, the lead singer. Why? Because he was an ultra super-stud rock star and the rest were just mere super-stud rock stars. See the Wilde quote above for an explanation of this phenomenon.

Nevertheless, I still think that in such a dream world, the bottom 80% of these Chads would be getting more sex than the bottom 80% of men in our present setup simply because these are so attractive. After all, remember that every man in this new society is named Chad. And I definitely think that despite the depressing scenario above, most men nowadays would benefit from acting more “Alpha.”

PUA/Game: Statistical and Behavioral Alphas, Betas, and Omegas

Polar Bear: Some PUA guys on Youtube were triggering my gaydar. Not that big of a deal. Even in the most ideal European societies, there will be flamers and hillbillies. Even in the strict Middle Eastern countries, there are gays, as you detailed.

Think about it. PUA’s devote their entire lives to getting laid, getting pussy, seducing women, dating and fucking women. That’s all they live for. Exactly how many gay men would such a lifestyle appeal to? About zero. Don’t you realize that a lot of straight men set off people’s gaydar. If I had a dollar for every straight man I’ve known who many people thought was gay, I’d be a rich man. You can’t go on behavior.

Polar Bear: Geez, wonder how Omegas fare in a wolf pack.

I suppose there is room for Omegas in a wolf pack, if they even have Omegas. Maybe they don’t. Maybe they just have the Alpha and his Beta followers.

Polar Bear: Wonder if married men are Beta. By the time they have kids many seem whipped. In The Departed, the Alpha married man, Alec Baldwin, says, “A wedding ring lets women know your cock still works.” The Alpha single man, Jack Nicholson, responds, “You get your period yet?”

Statistical Betas and behavioral Betas are not the same thing.

Behaviorally, yes, a lot of married men are behavioral Betas as you describe. Once they are pussywhipped, they are behavioral Betas all the way.

And most men period are statistical Betas. Probably 65% of all men are statistical Betas. Most men are neither statistical Alphas nor statistical Omegas. There’s nothing wrong with being a statistical Beta. Your father, mine, your brothers, mine, yours and my uncles and male cousins are mostly statistical Betas. They used to do all right, but the sexual contract is fraying.

I am thinking there can never be more than 20% statistical Alphas in a society. Think about it. Will you ever have a society where more than 20% of the men are slayers trying to break Wilt Chamberlain’s record. Everybody can’t be a winner. Life is like a footrace. There’s winners and last place losers and a lot in between.  Every straight man cannot be a super-stud. It doesn’t work that way. Maybe in the gay community they can, but women are not so easy

Now we are getting to the point among young men where 30% are statistical Omegas. I doubt if more than half of those are behavioral Omegas though. Most are just normal guys getting shut out by increasingly picky women in the age of female hypergamy. It’s supposed to be only 15%. So that’s weird. That’s what the whole incel and PUA phenomena are all about – dealing with that reality of female hypergamy.

On the other hand, you have societies such as Latin America, the Arab World, North Africa, Iran, Turkey, the Mediterranean, Eastern Europe, Russia, maybe Africa where most of the men are behavioral Alphas. Those societies are not ideal but have you noticed that sexually they seem pretty good for men?

Personally, I think that most men could probably benefit from behaving in a more Alpha manner. Some are already doing it, so they don’t need help, but for a lot of men, it should help them with women.

Do you all follow me on the difference between statistical and behavioral Alphas, Betas, and Omegas?

Game/PUA: Pure Androgyne Game

I think Mystery has some gay outfits. All the PUA guys out there, some gays slip in through the cracks. I seen one on ROTK say he passed as a woman when made up to game guys he knew. The ones of note are straight though.

That gay man is almost a transvestite or tranny if he can pass as a woman. Maybe a drag queen.

I guess there are some gay PUA’s out there. Never heard of one though. Really, I have been around the PUA scene forever, and it is insanely homophobic. I’ve never even seen one bisexual guy in that scene. It’s toxic masculinity and that type of masculinity has as one of its components heavy- duty homophobia.

Mystery is just an androgyne, a pure androgyne. He’s totally straight. A lot of women will go for straight pure androgynes.

Pure androgyne = strong/very strong masculinity, and then, well, there is a feminine side layered on top of that.

So he could have some pretty strong masculine and feminine vibes going on at the same time. People don’t know how to react to men like this because they are confusing. I have known guys like that and people would say:

Are you gay or bi or straight or what?

You don’t make sense!

You’re too sexy to be straight!

Running Pure Androgyne Game

Personally I think it’s hot. I used to try to be a pure androgyne because it just came naturally, and women ate me up like candy back then. It’s not a turnoff at all for a lot of women.

The important thing is to run that strong masculine vibe because otherwise you are just being a feminine man, which definitely has some drawbacks. Notice I said feminine, not effeminate.

A lot of straight men are feminine, and it’s no big deal, but women might react badly to it. Basically, they will try to dom feminine men. Push them around, bully them, henpeck them, bitch them out, make them pussywhipped. He’s not really domming her, so she’s going to dom him.

I am convinced that one party has to dom the other. Unless you want to be dommed by your woman, you need to dom her at least a little bit. You can do it in a kind and gentle way though. You don’t have to be a cruel bastard.

However, effeminate (acts like a woman) straight men are rare indeed. A recent study found that 70% of gay men were effeminate and only 3% of straight men were.

Feminine men do not act gay. They are just soft, have soft voices, are gentle, sensitive, often pretty, maybe thin, don’t work out, like to read, write, play music, cook, etc. Maybe really into clothes. A lot of them feel very close to women because their brain is sort of like a woman’s brain. This enables them to understand women pretty well and connect with women in a strong way.

PUA/Game: What Is PUA? What Is Game? Nothing More Than the Skills of Seduction and Running a Relationship or Marriage

My view of PUA/Game or especially Game is that Game is simply all of the things that any man does to make himself attractive to women, to talk to women, to flirt with women, to get dates with women, to get sex with women, and even to have relationships and marriages with women.

It’s about how to get women and then do what you want with them, dump them or try to keep them around. Relationship Game is huge. It’s about how to keep a relationship going.

Seduction Game is simply all of the things and techniques a man does to try to get women, from the way he dresses, grooms himself, social skills, how he carries himself, conversational skills, on and on. That’s all it is. Therefore I hazard a guess to say that really most men run some sort of Game if they are trying to get women at all. It’s not cheap or sleazy or anything like that.

Sure, a lot of PUA’s are assholes, but PUA is just Game really. It’s about how to get and keep women if you wish to do that. PUA is the skills of seduction. Can someone explain to me why so many men are opposed to the skills of seducing women? Is there something wrong with perfecting the skills of attracting and seducing women?

Really most men need to run some sort of Game or use some sort of PUA just to get a woman in the first place. I mean that’s how you get them. They don’t exactly throw themselves into our laps, you know.

There is also Married Man’s Game. All it is is how to keep your marriage on the up and up, how to run your marriage so you are getting what you want out of it and hopefully she is getting what she wants out of it.

Why people are so opposed to this is beyond me. Please stop seeing this whole thing through the lenses of PUA morons and start seeing PUA and Game as helping guys (and ourselves) to get women. Phrasing it that way, would you be opposed to it?

Polar Bear: Honestly don’t respect it. The guys on Youtube I’ve seen go beyond acting gay for women. I suspect many are secretly gay. It’s abandoning or disconnecting from women in a way. Bro this, my man that.

“Forget the girls, my PUA bois in the Jacuzzi right now!” That’s what I pick up on them, more excited to meet other men. Not accusing anyone here but I wonder if the path leads to another man’s anus.

Few if any PUA’s are gay. There’s no homosexuality in the scene. Instead there is frightening misogyny, toxic masculinity (I hate the term but it applies here), and extreme homophobia. It’s like the ultimate anti-gay macho community.

Polar Bear: It’s also cheesy and childish to brag how much puss you get. “I smashed the whole club dude.” Ok Sitch, you dumb motherfucker.

It depends how you do it. Most of the guys I grew up with were slayers, and they definitely discussed their success stories. There is a bragging way to do it and a modest way to do it which could be called false modesty.

If you do it in the modest or false modest way, no one seems to care, and a lot of people get animated and praise you. If you do or did well with women, act embarrassed or even ashamed of it. Shrug your shoulders and look at the ground like it’s nothing. Talk about it like you talk about drinking a glass of water. Don’t act like you are better than other men. If you do it like that, it generally works pretty well.

I grew up with huge studs, players, and slayers, so I am used to guys talking about getting pussy, and it doesn’t really bother me unless they are actually trying to act like they are better than I am, which is not common.

Polar Bear: Chads are the easiest men to get along with. They get enough lady attention and are not threatened by other males, so they don’t have to compensate by being a dick.

This is absolutely perfect. This has been my experience too. Exactly.

Well, some Chads are assholes and are threatened by other men, but the best ones are not. Their attitude is “Male competition? What male competition LOL?”

They’re not thinking about the other guys and competing with them. To these Chads, when they are in a room, the only people in the room are Chad and all of the attractive women in the room. No matter how many men are in the room, none of them are really there. Any unattractive women are not in the room either. Since the other men are not even there, there’s nothing to compete with.

There is a type of Alpha called a Sigma that is like this. He is a sort of antisocial or artsy type, maybe a drug dealer. Whereas a lot of Alphas care a lot about what others think, Sigmas don’t give a damn what anyone thinks of them. They are the ultimate outsiders and rebels and that is their appeal.

Not saying I am Chad (though apparently I am lookswise), but this is how I have operated for a long time. I walk into a room full of people, and the only people there are me and any attractive women. Any men in the room, no matter how many, are not even present. Unattractive women are not there either. And I sort of treat each of them like they aren’t there.

However, any slayers or players in the room might be present and it’s good if you can find one and then you can be “the two slayers in the room checking out the babes,” and you work together as a team. I never or rarely compete with or get jealous of other men because I arrogantly don’t even think of them as competition. It’s not that I am better than they are, it’s more like they are not even in the room. I’m not insecure or worried that the other men are better than I am.

But this is correct. A lot of the best Chads don’t compete with other men at all. Why the Hell should they?

Polar Bear: How many of the big PUA’s are Chads? Likely none.

All of the big PUA’s were Chads. All goodlooking to very goodlooking men and all slayers. Mystery supposedly fucked 500 women and I believe him.

Chad is just a goodlooking man. Any man who is a 7-10 on a 1-10 scale is Chad, so up to 30% of men might be Chad. Chad or Alphas are the guys who is attractive to many or most of the women much of the time.

Normies or Betas are simply men of 4-6 on a 1-10 looks scale. Average. You know, like most people. Betas are attractive to some of the women some of the time. High tier Normies are men who are 6’s, and some women do find them attractive. With good Game they can do ok.

Omegas or subhumans (ha ha) are men who are 1-3 on a 1-10 scale. These are men who are unattractive, homely, or ugly, pick your adjective. They are attractive to almost none of the women almost all the time. They can get a woman on their same level though.

Hot women, 7-10’s, are called Staceys or Stacey.  Average women 4-6 are called Beckys or Becky. Unattractive, homely, etc. women are called unpleasant names like hambeasts (homely), ha ha, or landwhales or fatties (fat), ha ha.

Polar Bear: A Chad doesn’t talk about women, they talk about him. “Yeah, he can take his pick of any of us or all three,” A grandmother says to her daughter and granddaughter. That’s the power of a natural born Chad.

This is true in a sense, but Chads do tend to talk about women. They just don’t tend to brag about them. They will definitely discuss their conquests of successes with women, but it’s not a continuous subject. It’s more something that casually comes up now and then. There’s no need to brag because Chads already think they are hot shit, so there’s nothing to prove to anyone and nothing to be insecure about.

Alpha, Beta, and Omega can be statistical, as in Alphas are 20% of men, Betas are 65% of men and Omegas are 15% of men. That’s just a typical statistical breakdown and says nothing about behavior. It refers to how attractive they are to women.

However, there is also Alpha, Beta, and Omega behavior. We all know what Alpha behavior is. There are societies where most of them engage is behavior that is quite Alpha. Beta behavior is less masculine, more submissive, nice guy bullshit, wimpy, meek, passive, etc. Omega behavior is total or near-total fail with women.

Game/PUA: A Bit about the Finer Points of Social Rules and Communication

SHI: How’s it going nowadays with your rotten little SJW fruitcakes, the ones with a major entitlement acquired after a lifetime of feminist brainwashing?

Oh, I am going to a new Fagbucks now and everything is pretty much all right.

If People Act Shitty, Act Shitty Right Back to Them

If they’re shitty to me, I’m kind of shitty right back to them. I am doing this in other places too. Sometimes I even get aggressive with people. Some people totally back down and kiss my ass when I get aggro with them. So weird. I’m usually scared to fight back against people because I am afraid of a scene or a ban, so I don’t do it, but it really does work. You do need to fight back against people!

And I am learning new social rules bullshit. I mean you keep learning this stuff your whole life, really. I had blown off a lot of the rules that I thought were moronic (most of them) for most of my life, but I am finding that life really does go a lot smoother if you follow more of those rules.

The rules are extremely subtle and hard to figure out, but if you’re smart, you can do it. Now, I am quite socially aware, but I can see how an autist would go completely insane with this stuff. I mean they cannot even understand normal human communication, much less this weird, undercover, near-subliminal stuff.

Be Careful How You Talk to or Even Look at Young Women, Especially If You Are Older

One thing I am doing is being very careful about talking to young women.

How to Look at Hotties without Staring

Or even looking at them. I don’t even look at them all that much. And I am careful about looking at the baristas. If there’s one that’s hot, I look at her a bit, then I look away for a bit, then I look back for a bit. That’s the only way to do it. Otherwise you are staring. I learned this from a PUA site post on social communication. This actually works pretty well.

Or you can look above them or to the side of them. You can’t see them perfectly because you are not focusing on them, but you can see them fairly well.

You can actually look at a whole room this way by just looking at a spot on the wall over everyone’s heads. You can’t see anyone well but you can still actually see everyone in the whole room all at once in a panorama view, albeit a bit off-focused, so if anybody did anything odd, you would see it right away. I guess cops, soldiers, etc. need to monitor groups or crowds like this.

You can meditate or just let your mind go blank while you look at the spot on the wall. I guess some Normies might think it’s weird, but so what? Fuck em. People will throw you out of a store for looking at a spot on a wall and meditating? WTF. What, you hurt the wall’s feelings?

Wait for an IOI, Especially with Young Women

With young women, I don’t say one word to them unless they give me an IOI. They have to look at me and smile, maybe even more than once. If I say something and get a cold response, I don’t say anything more.

Punish People for Blatant Assholery

I was next to a hostile young woman who refused to look at me the other day. I was in front of her in line. I deliberately took my time in line putting my stuff away very slowly so the bitch would have to wait extra longer. She and the barista both gave me these very puzzled looks. I just smiled a bit to myself and thought, “Hey bitch! If you take that hate look off your stupid face, I’d put my stuff away a lot quicker!”

Don’t Even Look at Bitches Who Hate You No Matter How Hot They Are

The young women who hate me, I mostly refuse to look at them, or I look to the side of them with this really evil, mean look. I’m not looking at anything really – just a window or nothing at all a bit to the side of or over their heads. It looks like you are looking angrily at a window or wall, and no one really cares. But they seem to get the message.

Before, I kept looking at a chick if I thought she was hot even if she hated me, which many of them do. Now I don’t do that anymore.

Beware of the “Unconscious Cope” We Men Have about Women

Also, if I get what might be an IOI – like a stare – I think again and consider maybe it wasn’t done for a friendly reason, so I am not interpreting everything as an IOI anymore.

This is a good idea as we men have unconscious bias which is sort of an unconscious cope where we always tend to think positively in terms of “this chick likes me” no matter what she does. I think our minds just do this unconsciously as some unconscious cope or optimism bias, but it pays to be aware of it because it makes you think women like you even if they don’t, and it misconstrues innocuous or even unfriendly behavior as friendly. Which results in creep-shaming.

To Women, Every Comment, Remark, Question, or Joke said to Them by a Man Means “Want to Fuck?”

I complimented a barista on her makeup the other day as she had changed it. She took this as a come-on. We’ve known each other for years.

She’s fat and I wouldn’t fuck her with my worst enemy’s dick, but you say hi to a stupid woman, and to them that means, “Want to fuck?” It’s  narcissistic and self-centered of them to assume that all these guys want to fuck them when half of us wouldn’t touch their fat asses with a 10 foot pole and an 11 foot extension.

Now that she did that (interpreting my makeup comment as an inappropriate come-on), I am cold, often refuse to tip, and don’t look at her, and definitely won’t say anymore stuff about clothes or makeup.

Make a Point of Acting Particularly Friendly to People Who Are Nice to You, Especially in Front of Hostiles, to Send a Message to the Hostiles “Look What Happens When You Act Nice”

Baristas who are friendly get the tips I saved up from the hostiles, often with a compliment like, “This is for good service. You always give me good service” (with a pointed emphasis on the “you” and the “good service”). See how that works?

You Can’t Go Around Starting Questions with Everyone

Basically, you can’t start conversations with everyone. Especially if a woman is next to you and refusing to look at you with a cold look on her face, a conversation is probably not going to work out. Don’t try to talk to bitches who have cold, shut-down faces. Those faces mean “Don’t talk to me, asshole.”

Figure out When a Conversation Is Being Shut Down and End It

There’s a guy I know there who I have talked to a few times. He’s a fat pig and he’s quite unfriendly for some reason I never understood and never will. I tried to talk to him again recently, and he gave me the same thing. Now I am never going to talk to him again. You need to punish people for being assholes, not just keep coming back for more punches.

One thing I need to do is to shut down conversations that seem a bit hostile. If you say something, and you get a one-sentence answer, and they turn away, it’s a shut-down. They don’t like you or they don’t want to talk to you. Warm, friendly, two-way conversations don’t work like that.

We tend to keep talking to them because a  subconscious cope in favor of “thinking people like us versus thinking that they don’t” comes into play, and we keep thinking they will get nice if we just talk to them a bit more. Hate to say it but nope.

Also, it is quite insulting when you try to talk to someone, and they act like they don’t want to talk to you. It’s an insult and your mind does not want to believe this insulting, rude response is actually true because it’s hurtful to think this person dislikes you so much they won’t even talk to you. So this subconscious cope comes in where your mind simply refuses to see this as an insult, as it hurts your ego to be insulted. So your ego says it wasn’t an insult after all! See how it works?

If They Don’t Like You at First, They Won’t Change Their Minds Later on

In other words, haters never change. Once again, this is unconscious optimism – “She was a dick before, but this time, she’s going to like me because I really am a cool, good person.” Nope, if someone acts like doesn’t like you, they don’t like you. Period. You keep trying over and over to see if they will change their mind, and basically they just never do. So just stop. Recognize the subconscious cope here and nip it in the bud.

Figure out the Fake “I Didn’t Hear You” Message

I am also getting better about this weird subliminal communication where you say something, and the person hears you but pretends not to hear you. People do this crap a lot, and I always think they didn’t hear me, so I repeat myself, sometimes more than once. Apparently this is a social faux pas. A very tricky, high-level one but a social faux pas nonetheless.

Another thing they might do which is a bit easier to figure out is to respond to your speech with an angry, outraged and often rather loud, “What!?” that means, “Um, I didn’t hear that!” I don’t always get that either, and sometimes I repeat my words. It’s always a bad idea, as their response, if they have one, only gets worse.

They also might put up both arms up in the air and wave them back and forth while saying, “Ain’t gonna go there.” They might smile as they do that. End that line of talk right then and there. You’re not going to convince them to “go there” by continuing the line of conversation, which I tend to do sometimes.

It doesn’t really work to repeat the statement, as they just act annoyed and don’t answer or give some weird and also very subliminal response that is hard to figure out, as it’s all coded and masked. The response tends to say something like, “I didn’t hear that (but I really did)!” or, “I really don’t want to talk about this!”

If you say something and it seems like they should have heard you but act like they didn’t, figure out that they are playing this “I didn’t hear you” game and don’t ask again. In particular, think about what you said said or asked. Is it the sort of thing that might seem sensitive, and the person might not want to discuss it because they see it as inappropriate, insulting, or a come-on? Usually you can figure out how they might not want to answer due to the nature of the statement or question.

Certainly don’t say it again more than once. When people do this, by not answering, they are saying, “That question is annoying, inappropriate, or possibly racist/banned, etc.,  – i.e., something I don’t want to talk about, so I am pretending that I didn’t hear you.” In my 60’s, I am just figuring this out for the first time, though I have somehow known for a long time that people do this.

It’s a bit hostile and dicky. It’s better to say that you’d rather not discuss that or something along those lines with a smile, but people like to be dicky. I do this myself sometimes if someone asks me a retarded question that’s meaningless or silly, especially if asked in a hostile tone. I simply don’t respond. I never did that before but I am starting to do it now.

This is a real tough one from a social communication point of view because the automatic tendency is to assume that the person didn’t hear you and repeat the comment, except if you do that, it’s a social error.

I talked to my Mom and she said that if it seems like they are doing that, don’t say it a second time and don’t say it on another occasion, as it’s some sort of banned question or statement.

And anyway, we both agreed, even if they didn’t hear it, then obviously they were not too concerned about what you were saying as they weren’t listening to you, so why should you repeat it for someone who won’t even give you the dignity of listening to you? She also said that it’s a bit shitty and hostile (she called people who do this “jerks”) to do the “pretend I didn’t hear you” thing. She said it’s more polite just to say you’d rather not discuss it.

In case you all didn’t know about this weird social rule, here you go. I know all of you have experienced this before, so maybe you want to take notes.

Comments to Non-Native English Speakers about Their Linguistic History

I asked a barista recently if he spoke another language, as he definitely has an accent (I didn’t mention the accent, of course). He really did not want to answer that, as maybe he found it insulting or inappropriate or whatever.

Most people tend to answer that question if you ask it nicely enough. If someone has an accent or speaks broken English, and you wish to discuss it, it’s best to ask, “Do you speak another language?” other than bring up the fact of their accent or their broken English, which they might see as an insult.

If their English is nevertheless excellent, after they explain to you that they speak another language and English was not their first language, you can compliment them on their English to soften the blow a bit because in the US, it’s seen as a possible racist insult to imply someone doesn’t speak English as a first language.

You can also ask them how old they were when they came here, and most will answer. I usually throw in the bit where I am a linguist who is fascinated by languages, and they relax and stop thinking I might be a racist.

Sometimes I might notice that they have an accent, but I will shrug, smile, and downplay it and say that if you come after age 8, you just get an accent, and that’s all there is to it. Most people don’t mind this conversation, since you are asking them about their life as if it is interesting, and most people love to talk about themselves.

Always try to shrug, smile, or downplay any comment or question that could possibly be taken as an insult especially if the other person act a a bit taken aback by it. I find that this generally calms them down, and they stop feeling possibly insulted.

Alt Left: The Values of My Mother’s Greatest Generation of Middle to Upper Class White Women

Jason: No offense, but often women into “higher values” are snobs. Also, of course, not all minority women are sluts and whores. Give me a break!

Now what’s better? A clean snob or a dirty person with a good heart?

Also, finally, how did they become sluts and whores? More than not, it was victimization by the dad or others.

My response:

Jason: Also, of course, not all minority women are sluts and whores. Give me a break!

Oh of course. It was not so much about being a sexual slut, although none of my Mom’s friends were like that. Nevertheless, one of her sisters was and my Mom acted like she didn’t care. I imagine you could be wild in bed with your husband but you weren’t supposed to be promiscuous. Anyway this “woman of the street” thing was more about behavior than sex.

Jason: No offense, but often women into “higher values” are snobs.

I am not aware that my Mom’s friends were like that. At least I don’t remember any of them being like that. Some were really into money and status like graduating  from a top school, but they never married rich men so it was a bit of a pathetic joke.

One of my Mom’s friends thought a woman should marry only a Harvard or Yale man who made at least six figures. None of the men she married were rich. None graduated from Harvard. Then she started demanding that her daughter marry such a man. Her daughter is a homely nerd. Now a fat homely nerd. She could never get such a man either.  So her snobbishness was just stupid.

Jason: Now what’s better? A clean snob or a dirty person with a good heart?

Most of my Mom’s friends were “clean” because was just how a proper woman was supposed to be. And back then, most women of her class and race were like that. My Mom didn’t associate with dirty or promiscuous women. She didn’t necessarily hate them. She doesn’t like prostitutes though. I will tell you that. She considers that the lowest a woman can go.  I suppose they could leave the business and reform but one of my Mom’s sayings was:

Jason: You can take the girl out of the whorehouse but you can’t take the whorehouse out of the girl.

She’s sort of right of right.

Also my Mom’s group were both clean and goodhearted for the most part. Women were not supposed to be evil-minded or vicious. That was the world of men. Women did not inhabit that vicious world.

Also, finally, how did they become sluts and whores? More than not, it was victimization by the dad or others.

Like I said she didn’t really care about sluts. She’s been told about some of my girlfriends and she basically doesn’t give a fuck. It’s more that her and her friends did not act that way and they did not associate with women who did.  My Mom doesn’t like whores, but I don’t think she  gives a damn about whores. My Mom knows a lot of women, especially younger women, are horny as Hell. She has acknowledged that.

It’s just that my Mom associated Black and Brown women along with poor and working class women with “women of the street”. That meant not so much that they were sluts but more that they fought with their men, screamed at them, insulted them and put them down, attacked their masculinity, and even got into physical fights with them.

To my Mom’s women, a proper White woman of her class simply did not treat her husband that way. You had to respect your husband and in return he was more or less decent to you. That was the trade-off.

Also basically the women in my Mom’s generation were not Forever Children, golddiggers, borderlines or drama queens. The typical female scenario of chaos and drama was not there. I’m sure my Mom’s crowd would have loved to have been that way, but back then, a proper White woman of a certain class was supposed to be “mature” and to “control herself.”

That meant sublimating, suppressing, or repressing a lot of typical female emo and stupid behavior BS. These were “controlled women.” You were supposed to control yourself. An out of control woman was very much looked down on by my Mom’s crowd. That would be a feral woman.

My Mom’s crowd of women were supposed to be proper, decent, civilized, sane, and controlled. The opposite of all of those things was “woman of the street” – a woman with no class or especially self-control. Women like that were literally disgusting to my Mom’s crowd of women. Almost viscerally so.

Alt Left: Face It, Men: Your Girlfriend or Wife Is Your Surrogate Mother

Sometimes if you want to role-play with your girlfriend, you can go into “little boy” mode where you’re the little boy, and your gf is your Mom. You talk like a little boy and to some extent act like one but not too much. It’s not serious or real. It’s just a big joke.

I’ve done that with a few childless girlfriends aged 29 to 49, and they all loved it. I was their son! You would think they would make fun of and ridicule me, but they really got into it. Some women hate it though, think it’s stupid, and won’t play the game.

Anyway, your girlfriend really is your mother. Face it, your girlfriend or your wife replaces your Mom. We men go from Mom to girlfriend or wife, and really nothing changes.

A few men are ridiculous about it. I could give you examples, but the wife actually didn’t mind and still loved the guy to death, though frankly he was a huge pussy.

Men are too macho to admit that their girlfriends or wives become not only our lovers, yes, but also our Moms. When men become elderly, this idea of the wife turning into the Mom becomes much more obvious, often glaringly so. Some men don’t even try to hide it much.

We men are not good at taking care of ourselves. A lot of divorced men can’t even fend for their own. They fall apart quickly when they live alone, and quite a few get sick or die fairly quickly. These guys are like little boys without a Mom living on their own. How long would a boy last in the woods without Mom? These men literally need a wife or girlfriend to stay alive. We men like to think we are self-reliant, but we need to think about that.

Actually bachelors fend a lot better on their own than divorced men. And the longer they have been bachelors, the better they get at it. Most of the long-term bachelors I know are fairly decent cooks. Most can do their own laundry. Most are good about going to the doctor, and they are almost female about it.

And I know bachelors who keep in contact with their mothers regularly, so even though they don’t have the surrogate mother in terms of wife or girlfriend, they still keep the real thing around on some level anyway.

Some even talk to Mom almost every day. They usually live away from her, but they’re on the phone to her a lot, or she’s on the phone to them. The mother doesn’t usually run the guy’s life if he’s a real man – he’ll tell her to piss off if she does, and most mothers will back off because instinctively they know that being party to a Momma’s boy is not cool.

So most bachelors more or less do whatever they want, especially sexually with regard to women, and their mothers have no say in the matter. My Mom’s been my playboy cheerleader most of her life. She’s like:

Go get em, stud! I’m so proud of my playboy son ha ha.

She even used to fix me up with her friends.

Mom: Hey Bob, you know my friend XXXXX?

Me: Yeah?

Mom: She wants to go out with you.

Now she’s turning into a prude in her old age (80’s), and I have been told she does not want to hear about my exploits anymore. In particular, she doesn’t want to hear about me being with teenage girls and young women. That pisses her off.

But these bachelors are still in a way being mothered by their Moms. Some still bring their clothing over to do laundry if they live close. Others have Moms that give them food or help them out with money if they need it. More typically, they have their Moms call them and remind them of stuff they need to do, like doctor’s appointments or important affairs that they tend to blow off.

I actually do all of these things, and I am not embarrassed to say so. Why should I be? She doesn’t tell me what to do. I live my own life. She’s not my Mommy anymore in that sense.

PUA/Game: The Lowdown on Dating Much Younger Women If You Are a Middle Aged Man

Even though I am over 60, I still date young women at times, all the way down to their 20’s or even 18 or 19. But it’s is extremely hard, with like a 98+% rejection rate. It’s like climbing a mountain. Yeah, you can do it, but most guys won’t bother because it’s so hard. It also gets harder every year, and most guys definitely cannot pull this off. Vast majority of young women are not into men 20-40 years older, but there are a few, that’s for sure.

I have to fight a tsunami of rejection and even anger and hatred to get those few with Daddy issues who will go out with me for free. I’ve been banned from establishments for merely talking to young women, not even flirting with them or asking them out.

Nevertheless, I have young women age 18-29 coming to me almost every day asking to be my sugar baby. They want me to be their sugar daddy. I’m as broke as they are though.

Woman on the Net who is opposed to these relationships: You can maybe get away with it if you are already very attractive or you have a lot of money.

Supposedly, when I was young I was very handsome. I lived Chad’s life for many years. People kept saying this about me into my 50’s, and even at my age, I hear it all the time.
Even women age 18-23 tell me all the time that I am handsome, very handsome, cute, sexy, or hot. I don’t get it, as I think my looks are shot. So I guess in my case it’s looks.

How to Pull It Off

It helps to be in the top 10-20% of looks for your age, not be overweight, be well-spoken, well-groomed, hygienic, and very polite or even classy, and dress halfway decently. It absolutely helps to have any kind of status at all, be it Power, Fame, Money, or Status, in any dose at all but the more the better.

It also helps to be wise and intelligent, as these young women are looking for a mentor to be “the adult in my life” as a 20 year old hottie with model good looks recently told me.

You definitely need great Game, helpfully honed over a lifetime. And you need to not be creepy in the rational sense of the word that even most men would agree is creeptastic. Anyway if you are that creepy, you automatically have shit Game anyway.

Woman on the Net who is opposed to these relationships: Women are not attracted to receding hairlines, wrinkles, or a flat tire around the waist.

I don’t have a receding hairline. Not even 1%.

I have few wrinkles, some around my belly that you never see.

I do not have a beer belly or at least not much of one. I was in bed with a 19 year old recently and I complained that I had a belly and she said, “No way! Most men your age are overweight, some by a lot!”

Problems

There are problems.

Potency and sexual ability issues. At my age, tragically, there are potency problems. I’m not impotent but it’s touch and go if you catch my drift. Yes, you don’t need a cock to please a woman, but a lot of young women want to be fucked and even get creampies. They’re disappointed if it’s not working. Also a lot of young women are cumsluts nowadays (ha ha), and they want huge loads. Loads that we cannot supply.

We can’t fuck as long as when we were young. I used to be able to keep it up for 3-4 hours at a time. Not nowadays and I often get off quick too.

Sex drive mismatch. Most young women have raging sex drives, especially nowadays with all this online porn. They’re almost all masturbating, often every day. Some watch a lot of porn or even have their own porn blogs! Her sex drive will be way stronger than yours. That’s a problem.

The relationships are highly unstable, characterized by a lot of wild love/hate fluctuation. She’s basically a huge drama queen. The relationships tend to blow up, often very quickly, and  after that, she’s just about your worst enemy.

The young women who go for older men are often not right in the head. 75% of the ones I have been with were actively suicidal, at least at times.

Peer pressure is a problem. I was with an 18 year old girl who fell crazy in love with me at age 59 (believe it not), but her friends saw her with me and openly ridiculed her. Relationship over.

Prepare to get called “pedophile” a lot, especially by young men. Of course you’re not, as you are adults, but still, steel yourself for a lot of name-calling.

Prepare to lose friends. I had a good friend, a physician, dump me when I told him I was dating a 19 year old girl at 60.

Prepare for hate from older women. And it will be really bad too. They really hate us cradle robbers.

You will never meet her parents because her Dad might punch you or try to kill you.

You will never meet her siblings because she will be too embarrassed to introduce them to you.

Prepare for possible legal consequences. A 19 year old girl I was dating had a 17 year old friend (total knockout) who also wanted me and kept trying to send me dirty pics I had to delete. She  kept bugging me:

I want you to eat my pussy! Pleeeease!

It was rather hard to keep turning her down. Part of me really wanted to do it. They both wanted a threeway. That’s probably every man’s dream: to have a threeway with two hotties, one 19 and the other 17, when you are 60 fucking years old!  How many guys  get to do that?

I said no and the 19 year old really pestered me about it. A weak man would have given in.

You have to be strong not to mess with an underage girl. You can be friends with them, but you can’t do anything sexual. I met an 18 year old girl two weeks shy of her 18th birthday and she wanted in. We hung out a lot, held hands, hugged, put our arms around each other, and kissed on the cheek.

She had never been kissed and of course was a virgin. Both of these things are way more common at that age than you think. She kept pestering me for a makeout session or at least a tongue kiss, and it took all I could muster not to cave and do it.

The Good Side

As you can see there are a mountain of problems with these relationships.

But there is a great bright side. Most middle aged men will never fuck a teenage girl or woman in their 20’s again. Maybe 10% can pull it off. And all men that age want to do it. So if you pull it off, you are living the life of Riley that most men only ever dream about.

Other men will treat you like a hero. If you are not arrogant about it, the praise feels damn good.

Quite a few women are turned on by the fact that you can pull this off.

Quite a few women are turned on by the fact that you can pull this off. Of all ages. Even older men. I’ve had women in their 40’s hear that I do this and start addressing me as “hey stud.” You get a lot of this.

You can be her father and her lover. Get over it. You’re her Daddy figure. She will call you Daddy in bed all the time, and this time she means it.

A lot want to do weird age-play where they are younger than they are – teenage girls down to 12-17. If you are creeped out by incest play this is not for you.

You are her mentor if you are a good man. You can teach her all about life! She doesn’t know shit really so you will be teaching her basic life skills every single day.

If you are highly intelligent, that’s good because now you are her teacher, and her head is getting filled with new facts all the time.

You can be her counselor and play therapist with her if that’s your thing. She’ll need it anyway. So a lot of psychological self-help.

You are imparting a lot of wisdom to her. Like every day, more wisdom and aphorisms. She may fall in love with your mind if you are intelligent, and tell you she’s fucking you for your mind. She will also saw in awe that you are very wise.

I used to be a teacher, so I love this. You will never see a young person learn more than this. Every day she gets her head full of all these new things and it’s cool because you can watch another human learn at a monumental pace.

If you are good, she will actually end up smarter and will be life and social skills than most of her peers so it’s good for her in that sense. You are teaching her all about sex too. Most are pretty inexperienced.

You are her cheerleader. She has a ton of insecurities and typically with the Daddy issues comes serious low self esteem. So you are always trying to boost her up and get her to feel better about herself.

Is it worth it? Do you like to live dangerously? If you like to live dangerously and have all sorts of bad things happen to get the good things (like a hike in the jungle), then it’s worth it. But a lot of older men probably don’t want all the typical drama and chaos that comes with your typical young women. They probably get enough of that crap with women their own age, and it’s way worse with young women because so many are quite unstable.

I still date women my age and women in their 30’s-50’s, and honestly they are superior to young things in a lot of ways!

Jews and Communism Redux

Polar Bear: What little Communist literature I’ve read seemed very pro-German, Ehrenberg?

I don’t understand. Ilya Ehrenberg was one of the most anti-German people who ever lived.

However, after the war, the USSR had excellent relations with East Germany. Communism was quite popular in East Germany, and nostalgia for the GDR is still a big thing there. A lot of people reminisce about the old days and are not happy with the new capitalism. A lot of West German Leftists left and moved to East Germany after the war. Incredible, isn’t it? People actually moving to a Communist country.

Of course Marx was extremely pro-German. He was a German man after all. Marx didn’t really consider himself to be a Jew. Neither did Trotsky. That’s just bullshit made up by anti-Communist antisemites, which is like 95% of them. Pro-Communist or Communist antisemites are rare indeed, despite the blatherings of super Jews, anti-Communist Jews, hardcore Zionists, and other professional liars.

Polar Bear: No, I believe it was Engels. He was also very soft on Jews.

Ha ha ever read The Jewish Question by Marx (1843)? It’s hard to read but a lot of super-Jews really hate the paper. They think it’s antisemitic. I don’t think it really is. It’s anti-Jewish religion. He says there is no Jewish religion – all the religion is is capitalism and love of money ha ha. Good times, good times! Marx didn’t like Christianity either. He didn’t like any religion. I don’t think he disliked Jews ethnically. After all he was Jewish himself. Marx’s father was a rabbi!

Polar Bear: Maybe the great unifier early on was Jews.

There were not that many Communists from Marx’s death until the Russian revolution. The early pre-Soviet Communists were not particularly Jewish. Stalin was a bank robber. Lenin spent most of his time abroad in Germany. They were all wanted men.

Yes, there were a lot of Jews among the early Bolsheviks, but in 1917, 70% of Russian Jews voted for the Zionist party, not the Communists. Also the other socialist parties were also full of Jews. But almost all of the popular parties in 1917 were Left. It was just a question of how far left people were going to go. Most of the Russian people were dirt poor workers or peasants and they were all for the Left.

Hardly anyone wanted the old Royalists back. There were definitely pro-royalists all right though. Those were the Whites in the Russian Civil War. But they lost. Even the Russian Army and especially the Intelligence Services all went over to the Reds.

And the Whites killed a lot of Jews during the Civil War. The Reds probably hardly killed any. Even in the USSR, yes, Jews were prominent in some fields. The NKVD ended up being very Jewish in the 1930’s, but it was run by a Georgian named Beria.

Old Soviets said that ethnicity never mattered in the USSR. You were not supposed to care or talk about things like that. A lot of Jews just drifted into that position at that time for whatever reason. A lot of Russian Jews really hated the Czar, so quite a few of them took to Communism well. But the majority of the people in the USSR supported the Communists. How do you think they won the war?

And there were just as many Latvians as Jews among the early Bolsheviks. Does anyone  talk about evil Bolshevik Latvians? Of course not. It’s like the old adage: Maybe one out of ten Jews is a radical, but five out of ten radicals are Jews. Get it?

Polar Bear: Seems like a lot the men that married Jews ended up hating them.

I don’t know about that. I had a Jewish girlfriend for 5 1/2 years. She was kind of a bitch and she sort of talked down to me and yelled at me a lot to the point that even other women were complaining about how she treated me.

But she adored me and she was a real “stand by your man” and “live your life through your man” type. Almost like a Filipina or Thai woman in that sense. I never expected Jewish women to be like that maybe a lot of them are. They also have a reputation for being nurturing.

As an aside, there are a lot more “stand by your man” and “live your life through your man” types than you think. It’s fairly normal if she’s crazy in love with you. Maybe it helps to be goodlooking too, no idea.

The people who don’t like Jewish women are Jewish men ha ha. I’m not sure if Gentile men even care that much. There’s sort of a war going on between Jewish men and women, sort of like the war between Black men and women.

And I don’t know if it was a factor in Marr’s case.

I think Marr is hilarious. Guy married three different Jewish women, divorces all of them and then forms the Anti-Semitic League, the first openly anti-Jewish organization in modern history. Ha ha! I have no idea what effect his wives had on him. Maybe none. But it is pretty funny just to tell the story because it seems like his Jewish wives drove him so insane that he founded the first modern anti-Jewish organization.

Lulz all around!

Alt Left: Primitive Peoples Understood Teen Sexuality Far Better Than Modern Ones

If you study primitive peoples, you find that their traditional knowledge says this or that about whatever aspect of human biology or behavior. It’s based on their observations over centuries, knowledge of which traditionally rested with the elders. Hence why elders are so respected in these cultures.

And you will notice over and over that their traditional knowledge lines right up with what modern science, psychology, or medical science has discovered, except these folks figured this out way before science did. We think those people are stupid, but they’re not as dumb as you think.

An interesting sidelight. Many to most modern cultures have pretty insane attitudes about teenage sexuality or even the sexuality of young adults. Basically, it’s banned in most human cultures, and it’s even banned to a great extent in our own culture. My mother is still opposed to premarital sex to this very day. I’ve always been resentful of that, but that’s how she was brought up, so hey.

But if you study primitive cultures, you often find that they have very sane attitudes towards sex and young people. Typically, girls may start having sex at age 13-14 in most of these societies, and they often choose boys that age to have sex with.

However, they can choose older men, usually younger men but sometimes quite a bit older. In traditional Blackfoot culture, the typical initial marriage was between a 15 year old girl and a 35 year old man. I believe the world’s oldest man in the Current Year is a Somali man who is over 115 and recently acquired yet another wife, a 15 year old girl! Three cheers for the old dog!

In prior eras, no teenage girl or boy in the history of mankind was ever harmed by having sex with an adult. The notion that such things are harmful or damaging to young people is a new idea, and frankly it’s a conceit because it goes against thousands of years of human knowledge.

Coming of age ceremonies in many of these cultures take place around age 15. You complete the rituals of your gender, and then at age 15, you are either a man or a woman and are expected to behave like one. Our notion of adulthood at 18 or 21 or whenever is obviously completely arbitrary.

In the Middle Ages, children were seen as “little adults” and treated as such. They often did adult work and chores. I’m not sure if they acted any more mature than they do now, but if you expect a kid to act like an adult, he might act a lot more mature. Hence we had strange things like boy kings and whatnot. Romeo and Juliet were both only 13 years old.

Getting back to the Hmong, these people, unlike most modern civilized people, figured out that young people are horny as Hell and are not going to be satisfied with mere masturbation. They realized that young people desire independence and wish to be away from the parents. Modern societies continue to resist this notion.

Hence the Hmong allow young unmarried people aged 18-20+ to go off away from the village in the evenings. They have little places in the jungle where they gather and have whatever fun they wish to have among themselves.

The Hmong realize that at least some of these young people will be having sex in their evening hangouts, but unlike many modern cultures, they’re ok with that. Sex is completely allowed in these circumstances, but if a pregnancy occurs, the couple must get married.

Alt Left: Can Race Play/Racial Humiliation Can Ease Racial Tensions?

Pantheist: Perhaps race play/racial humiliation can ease racial tensions?

Yeah I don’t know about that, man. Consider that in a form of Black/White raceplay, the Black woman gets off on being called a nigger, monkey, coon, ape, jig, all that stuff. I have met a number of Black women into that stuff, and they specifically asked me to call them all those names during sex.

I wasn’t really into it honestly. If I’m in bed with a Black woman, I don’t really feel like calling her a nigger, for Chrissake. Although maybe this is just normal sex in the Current Year. I guess I’m just too much of a nice guy for this porned out world we live in now.

Back to the question. For some reason I don’t think that calling Black women niggers isn’t exactly going to ease racial tensions, ya know? Ha ha.

Alt Left: Nope, Sexual Harassment Was Not a Big Deal from 1975-2005, Sorry

In Jason’s recent article, he says that gawking and crudeness (sexual come-ons) have never been acceptable at school or at work at any time going all the way back to the 1950’s. Well, I was around in the 1970’s, 80’s, and 90’s. I do not remember even one case of a woman complaining of sexual harassment back then.

I do not remember one case of a woman complaining that a man was staring at her. I do not remember one case of a woman complaining that a man made a crude remark to her. Certainly I cannot remember one case when I was ever seriously accused of any of these things.

I didn’t start hearing about it until 2005, when I was 48 years old. I was told that I was staring at the baristas and making them uncomfortable. But I was doing the same thing I’ve done my whole life, not even 1% different.

It’s just that I had gotten older, and as you get older, suddenly the behavior that they tolerate without batting an eye when a young man does it is somehow illegal when an older man does it. It took me a while to figure out the new rules of middle aged man and young women, which is something I am still figuring out by the way.

Wasn’t SJWism getting going pretty good around 2005? Anyway, it is only in the past 14 years from 2005-2019 that I have heard one thing about staring, sexual harassment, harassment period, illegal talking to other humans, or any of this insane bullshit.

My conclusion is that this is a modern phenomenon of the Current Year being brought on by Peak Modern Feminism, which gets nuttier and nuttier every year like all forms of Identity Politics. So in any given Current Year, modern feminism will be a bit more insane, weird, and demanding in the previous year.

It seems like I have been looking at women my whole life. I never gave any thought to whether I was staring or not, so I have no idea if I was doing it! But women and girls have been staring at me most of my life since age 17 or so. Often I stared at them and they stared back at me. Or they stared at me and I didn’t stare back. Or I stared at them and they didn’t stare back at me. It wall no matter because no one cared.

I remember in college, one friend of mine said, “I know you like to rape women with your eyes, Bob.” He said it as a joke. This was before feminists made it illegal for most men to look at women at all, much less stare at them.

So all through my whole life, I looked at women with absolutely zero problems. And they stared at me a lot, I mean a lot.

Once I was in a library at Santa Ana College in 1985 (age 27), and I looked up and every single woman in the whole damned library in front of me was looking right at me with those weird blank zombie robot stares.

Once I walked into the Roxy nightclub in 1982 (age 24). As soon as I stepped in the door, I swear to God, every single woman in that club stared at me. It actually frightened me a bit, and I sort of shuddered. I don’t know why I found it frightening, but it is a bit unnerving. Try it sometime. Walk into a nightclub and if every woman in the club looks right at you, see how it makes you feel. You might find it if not unnerving, at least somewhat frightening.

I worked at all sorts of jobs all over the place, and I never heard one complaint of me staring at women or being creepy or any of that crap. I was at college and university for many years, including advanced degree study, from 1975-1984, then 1991-1994. That’s 12 years post-secondary education. No one complained one time that I stared at women or acted creepy around women. Not even one time, ever.

When a woman stares at you, generally speaking, it means she likes you. If a woman doesn’t like you, she simply ignores you. Women who hate you usually do not stare at you.

Now and again a woman who hates you may stare at you. In that case, the stare would look hostile or like “What the Hell is the matter with you anyway?” This doesn’t happen very often.

Generally speaking, the blank dead robot stare means she likes you, like really likes you, like wants to do something sexual or romantic with you. A woman in love with you often stares at you for long periods of time with an utterly blank look on her face. Often a little Mona Lisa mystery smile, almost on the edge of bare laughter, appears.

I remember having staring contests with girlfriends.

We would be in the front room of a house she was house-sitting at. For 15 minutes we just sat there and stared at each other with funny little smiles on our faces. Neither or us said one damned word and the room was quiet as a mouse.

It was actually a nice experience, rather pure in the way that religious novitiates try for silence, work, and prayer. Life bared down to meagerest sensory output. Silent and looking. Praying and meditating into each other’s eyes. And not one word. Pure as a monastery.

So staring is quite helpful for men. It tells us when a woman is interested in us. I hate to think that women would stop staring at us because then it would be hard to tell if they liked us or not.

Gay men are extremely creepy and they stare at each other in very creepy ways constantly. And they stare at straight men they like in that same creepy, unnerving way. They also harass each other constantly with rude, crude, sexual remarks and often a lot of out and out grabbing of other men’s bodies in various ways.

In other words, gay men treat other men exactly the way straight men treat women, except 5-10X worse. This gives the lie to the insane feminist idea that sexual harassment is based on sexism, misogyny, aggression, hostility and even violence against women. Yes, these lunatics actually say that sexual harassment (guys trying to get laid or get a date) is a form of violence against women. It’s as bad as hitting her over the head.

Obviously then gay men’s sexual harassment of other gay men is based on hatred of men (misandry), hostility, aggression, and even violence against other gay men. Gay men harass each other because they hate other gay men, or they hate men, or something, or this or that, or whatnot, or whatever. Does that even make any sense at all? Of course not. Yet this is the only logical conclusion we can draw from feminism’s lunatic definition of sexual harassment.

Obviously all of this is complete nonsense. Men sexually harass women for the same reason that men consensually flirt with women and for the same reason that gay men sexually harass each other in epidemic fashion. Men do these things because they’re horny. They do them because they’re horny and they’re trying to get laid. They’re trying to attract a woman for dating, sexual activities, or romance.

Alt Left: Tammy Wynette, “Stand by Your Man”

Tammy Wynette, “Stand by Your Man,” from 1968! One of the greatest country songs ever written!

Lyrics, simple but just perfect:

Sometimes it’s hard to be a woman
Giving all your love to just one man
You’ll have bad times
And he’ll have good times
Doin’ things that you don’t understand
But if you love him you’ll forgive him
Even though he’s hard to understand
And if you love him oh be proud of him
‘Cause after all he’s just a man

Stand by your man
Give him two arms to cling to
And something warm to come to
When nights are cold and lonely

Stand by your man
And show the world you love him
Keep giving all the love you can
Stand by your man

Stand by your man
And show the world you love him
Keep giving all the love you can
Stand by your man

Tammy Wynette,  “Stand by Your Man” Live. A bit later in her career.

She wasn’t very famous before this, but after this, she was a superstar.

Tammy once said:

I spent 15 minutes writing this song and an entire lifetime defending it.

Exactly.

And isn’t that why this song is just so great?

In 2010, this song was selected by the Library of Congress to add to the National Recording Registry, for songs that “culturally, historically, or aesthetically significant.” In other words, that Registry is for the greatest songs ever written in America!

The Alt Left officially endorses this song, by the way. After all, we are the “Conservative Left” – liberals and Leftists who are at least somewhat conservative on social issues. I’m sure feminists hate the idea of this song, but they can go pound sand! I never knew how great this song was before.

Like most Leftists, I hated this song because it was anti-feminist and oppressed women and all that crap. It was a song for Republican social conservatives. Except it’s not and it wasn’t.

But that was before I had a few girlfriends who actually, literally, stood by their man, meaning me, that is. One was Jewish! Would you expect a Jewish woman to do that? Well, who knows?

The feeling of having a woman who will stand by your side through thick and thin and especially to live her life through yours is one of the greatest highs a man can experience in this life. Better than sex. Better than love. Well, it’s love with an extra helping of chocolate syrup on top, let’s put it that way. But what a syrup that is!

The strange thing is that a woman who truly loves you actually wants to be like this. She wants to stand by her man. She wants to live her life through you. She wants to be dead jealous of you.

I had one girlfriend who was so jealous of me that she used to say, “I will cut a bitch! No woman is getting near my man!” Stand by your man!

She told me she had a tattoo on her ankle, and I told her I didn’t like tattoos. She immediately resolved to remove the tattoo! If my man wants my tattoo off, it’s coming off! Stand by your man!

Hey, I like that! She wants to dress you in the morning, pick your clothes and cologne, watch you shave, iron your shirts, and listen intently to how your day went when you come home. Stand by your man!

I think most of you men on here really do want a “stand by your man” woman. Trust me, there’s no better kind.

This must be a deep-rooted need in women, in tandem with femininity, submission, a need to be dominated, ferocious jealousy in keeping other women away from her prized man. It’s got to be genetic.

If you have ever seen a woman dissolve into femininity (often because she is madly in love with you or very turned on by you sexually) you will see that she seems to melt in place right there. You can tell that she’s in her special place; she’s hitting her sweet spot. Deep down inside, this is where most women truly long to be.

Feminism is a lie. It tells women that femininity is evil and oppressive. Like Hell it is. It’s the life blood of womankind. Take it away and they go nuts. Look at modern women. Look at how nuts they are. They’re having their femininity taken away from them. Of course they’re going nuts. How else would they act? They think this is what they want because feminism lied to them and told them that and believed and fell for it. Of course it was a lie.

Once again, the Cultural Left goes to bat against Nature and the weight of 200,000 years. And once again, Mother Nature on the mound mows down another row of the Left’s pathetic pinch-hitters.

Mother Nature 200,000,  Cultural Left 0.

Alt Left: Most People Have Ambivalent Feelings Towards the Opposite Sex, or Towards Much of Anything Important for That Matter

Actually I have built up a lot more anger and even hatred towards women now later in life, although I still also love them very much as long as they behave themselves ha ha. So my feelings about women are ambivalent. I love them, I like them, I am indifferent to them, I feel annoyed and irritated by them, and yes, I hate them.

My feelings toward them are a mixture of all of these things, with an emphasis on the positive because that feels better and works better. Really humans are ambivalent and have mixed emotions towards all sorts of things.

Human nature is ambivalent. Sometimes you love a thing, sometimes you just like it, other times you could give a damn about it, other times it annoys you and bothers you and at yet other times you hate it so much you want to destroy it.

It’s not that all of those feelings are operating at the same time, but more that they are all down there, sitting there waiting to be activated. So you could love an object most of the time and at those times you would not be ambivalent towards it because you other feelings towards it would be suppressed. But then the object infuriates you and the hate you have towards it comes to the surface in full fury. Then you calm down because you’d rather love than hate and the Destructive Impulse goes back into hiding where it belongs.

Everybody lies all about this all the time. It’s a rare human who will admit to having ambivalent feelings towards much of anything. Mostly they just flat out deny it even though they probably have at least a bit of ambivalence towards that thing.

Ambivalence is just too weird of a feeling and causes too much cognitive dissonance, so we use defenses to deny that it is present most of the time. Ambivalence is confusing. Do we love that thing? Well, yeah. Do we hate it too? Well, sort of, yeah. Ok, so do we love it or do we hate it? Arggghhhhh! Who knows! You’re driving me crazy!

Most humans just don’t want to have painful conversations like that with themselves. Life’s hard enough as it is without walking on mental tightropes without a net. People want to be happy and the idea that we are ambivalent is not a very pleasant thought. It’s confusing and depressing.

So we say it’s not there. Except it is. In most all of us, most all of the time. It’s the truth, sorry. Believe it or don’t believe it, it’s the truth all the same.

Although I used to love women as a very young man in a pure, almost Platonic sense, I’m older and wiser now, or at least older and more battered, whichever it may be.

Actually I have built up a lot more anger and even hatred towards women now later in life, although I still also love them very much as long – as they behave themselves ha ha. So my feelings about women are ambivalent.

I love them, I like them, I am indifferent to them, I feel annoyed and irritated by them, and yes, I hate them. My feelings toward them are a mixture of all of these things or more properly move from one point to the other on the continuum, with an emphasis on the positive because that feels better and works better.

Really humans are ambivalent and have mixed emotions towards all sorts of things.

 

Alt Left: Sometimes Your Girlfriend’s Critiques of You Will Be Flat Out Untrue

In a prior post, I said that the woman who loves you will always see right through you and figure you out completely, the good and the bad, the warts and dimples, the whole damned nine yards.

But sometimes she might just be full of it. And women who don’t know you well can definitely be completely full of it as far as their judgements of you go.

Women who you don’t know well don’t care enough about you to truly figure you out. They’d only do that if they loved you and they’d only do it partway if they liked you a lot. But most women you see frequently as acquaintances don’t particularly care about you very much. It’s not that they hate you or even necessarily dislike you. It’s more that people can only care deeply about so many people in their lives before their hearts fill up and explode. Few of us are Mother Theresa.

Sometimes your girlfriend will say things about you that are flat out false. At age 26, a girlfriend said:

You’ve hated women your whole life.

That was a flat out lie on her part, or perhaps she really believed that and she simply didn’t understand me or didn’t perceive me properly. Maybe she was mad at me. Maybe she hated me  – she who loves you most also hates you most. Who knows? I was pretty good to her too. I treated her better than she deserved to be treated.

That really threw me for a spin because it wasn’t true, at least in my mind it wasn’t. In my mind I always just flat out loved them. In fact, I often said that to myself, “I love women. I love women. I love women” in my head when I was around them. I don’t know why I loved them, but I just did.

So that criticism would only make sense if I hated women unconsciously, but that would come out in my dreams at least. And it would be pretty weird for a guy who walks around all the time thinking about how much he loves women to actually hate them unconsciously. The unconscious doesn’t work that way.

Pay Attention to Persistent, Consistent (Same Theme) Criticism from Many People – They’re Probably Right

Although I am not getting along real well with women these days (with some exceptions), it’s a whole different story with men. Anyway this isn’t my fault. I just don’t think women treat men my age very well.

But I know the rejection I am getting from women is fake and there’s not something wrong with me because I still often get along great with other men.

Men don’t seem to treat men my age like crap other than quite young men in their 20’s, many of whom are dicks. I suppose the sexual element is not getting in the way with the men, so they can see me in a more lucid way. And I am a pretty likeable guy. That’s proven by how well some men get along with me.

At the hospital, I dealt with three cold nurses, one very friendly physician about my age and one very friendly male nurse about 30 years old. My conversations with them were full of warmth, joy, and mutual acceptance. They were both my best friends, and I just met them that day!

The physician doing the procedure, about my age, was hard to figure, but I had a session with him before, and we got along perfectly. He was my best friend! I don’t know why but a lot of men my age seem to really like me these days. But then I am basically a likeable, charming rogue after all.

I also got along famously with the x-ray tech, a younger man of ~40. He was my best friend too, what do you know!

If I were unlikable, fucked up, a social failure, a jerk, or an asshole, those men would not be getting along with me so well. They’d be treating me about how the women are, maybe a bit better, but I guarantee I would be getting a lot of messages from them about how fucked up I was and how that’s not cool, and I have to change.

Men will always give you those vibes when you are fucked up in various ways. If you are getting vibes from men like there is something wrong with you, and you start hearing them over and over, see if their very well-hidden critiques have something in common.

They probably will. If you are too anxious, men will be telling you that in various ways. If you are too angry, men will be telling you that. And so on. People don’t just make stuff up about you to be mean. Not about the same thing, over and over, by many different people. People just aren’t that mean.

Any sort of consistent negative messages you are getting from others, especially for men who praise logic and devalue irrationality and emotion, are probably true whether you want to believe it or not. Listen to your critics if you have any. If they’re all saying the same thing, and you’re hearing it a lot, you might want to look into changing your behavior.

PUA/Game: How to Tell If Your “Date” Is a Thieving Whore

Whores and Worse, Much Worse – “Thieving Whores” Who Take Your Money and Run, Giving up No Sex

Any woman who demands that you spend a lot of money on her before you have sex is a whore, and not only but that but usually a thieving whore, as she will get you to spend $25-80 on her, wave the sex in front of you like a bullfighter’s flag, then pull the flag away from you at the last minute.

You turn around and she’s gone, out the door, nowhere to be seen. You’re out money and she never fulfilled her end of the deal. There a huge number of these out and out thieving whores out there (though actually not whores as I pointed out) who seem to exist on Earth for the sole purpose of stealing from us men.

I would say most men want to kill women like this, but most of us never do it. We don’t even hit them. But women like this (and golddiggers) are the enemies of the men. They are the enemies of my people, the men.

There are others who ask for money up front before the date begins (gas money to drive to your place, other bullshit, pay her bills), sometimes with a promise to date you later and do whatever you want. Don’t do it. The money will be gone and the woman will never show up. And the date two weeks later will never happen.

Clues are she will not let you come to her place or meet her in public, will not follow you to your place, won’t even let you meet her at all. And in all these cases, the thieving whore wants money up front. Sometimes you are all set for sex and then right at the last minute she needs $20 for a game for the kid while she’s gone fucking you. You still haven’t met her yet.

Never shell out money to a woman you have never met. Never shell out money to a woman before a date even starts. Other red flags are: won’t give you her number – a woman who dates you will always give you her number.

Won’t meet you in a public place – a woman who dates you will always meet you in a public place. Won’t meet you at her place and doesn’t want you knowing where she lives – a woman who dates you generally will tell you her address, at least if you are going to her place.

I can’t believe how many young women age 18-25 are out and out thieving, whoring psychopaths. Their sole existence on this Earth is to steal from us men. Apparently while dishing out as little sex as possible.

PUA/Game: Sex after 50, or What’s Left of It Anyway

Sex after 50

It never ends.

First of all, I want to say that it never ends. I don’t think sex ever ends. I have no idea how much sex elderly people have, but I’m sure they have some. The sex drive is so strong that it often goes on until the end of our lives.

A 60 year old impotent men can’t get it up, so he does nothing but eat pussy. He pays a prostitute so he eat her pussy for an hour a day for six months. An 80 year old man, no doubt of dubious sexual ability, crawls on his knees in front of a dominatrix to kiss her boots.

Their dicks don’t even work anymore, and they are still doing it.

It Never Ends

I am over age 60. At my age and all through my 50’s, trust me, no one cared about money. I had women who paid my way for lunch and then dinner. I had women who paid my way for two-week stays at their place, including airfare. I had women who bought plane tickets to come see me to stay at my place and then go on multi-day vacations. They paid for everything. On dates, it’s common to go Dutch. I had one woman who did not like it, but screw her.

You see, after age 50, no one cares. Or no one who will go out with me cares. No one cares about money either. There are no golddiggers because the women have all lost their looks so they can’t whore their looks for money like a young woman can.

Everyone is very relaxed, and Dutch or even she pays is often not a problem. Even sex if it happens is very relaxed and slow. We often take a while to get going, take our time, relax. There’s no rush because we don’t give a damn anymore. I mean we do it, but we don’t necessarily jump right in.

Everything proceeds at a calm and relaxed pace. No woman over age 50 has any more inhibitions, and most of us men don’t either. Neither sex gives a damn about much of anything anymore. We’ve all stopped caring.

Sex is very relaxed, and sexual problems, which are common at our age, are shrugged off as nothing. We’re not as capable, but we are more relaxed than we have ever been. It’s a bit sad that humans finally totally relax and lose it all about sex at around the time that the ability to do it drops off ha ha. But it’s a nice time of life for sex because no one gives two fucks about anything anymore.

PUA/Game: Why Do American Women Demand That the Man Pay for Everything on Dates?

Found on the Net:

I honestly dont understand western dating methods. It almost sounds artificial.

All the dates I went out and my friends both male and females, never really spent more than 5 euros.

My responses:

Long tradition of men paying in this stupid country. She makes more money than you? No matter, you still cover everything. Expect her to leave a tip? Outrageous! American women are princesses and it’s outrageous to ask that they spend one nickel on a date.

Fading away, but the sad truth is that a lot of young women are simply out and out whores. I mean not the good kind but like a prostitute who drains your wallet.

Gold-diggers out to take men for every nickel are everywhere, especially among young women age 18-30. Fully 1/3 of young women are out and out psychopaths who gleefully use men they have no interest in just for free meals.

All of the above applies to young women in the US (the Land of Whores), who are basically thieving, gold-digging monsters. Young women are beautiful and have awesome bodies, so these physical attributes are like legal tender in that they basically charge for access to it.

In one way or another, a huge number of young women in the US are simply selling their pussies. They may not be walking the streets, but they are not tremendously different. After age 30 most women have Walled out and quit selling pussy because they can’t get away with it anymore.

They are looking for a betabux for marriage and kids, sport-fucking, and having relationships/ relationshits or whatever most normal women do. But they aren’t really fucking for money anymore simply because they can’t get away with it. We men won’t fork it over for their post-Wall pussies. We’d rather pay for the young stuff, 18-30.

We worship money here in America, and here’s the evidence of that. I guess that’s behind all of this mass whoredom and pussy-selling.

Game/PUA: Bad Boy Game and How To Run It

If you already have the Looks, adding any sort of Game will greatly enhance your success with females. Bad Boy Game is an excellent Game to run if you that sort of a personality inside of you that you can whip out. I’ve been more or less running Bad Boy Game for 45 years now ever since I was a drug dealing juvenile delinquent in high school, and it’s worked great.

The trick with Bad Boy Game is to be a bad boy but stay out of jail or prison! You can break the law in some victimless ways like dealing drugs, but be careful. I lived as a criminal for 14 years (drug dealer), and I never got caught. I tell this to women and they never criticize me. They always look amazed that I never got caught. But I was very careful.

I would also advocate running Bad Boy Game just as a type of Game and not a real lifestyle. In other words, it’s basically fake, a pose, like being an actor. And I would advise not getting into it so much that you become an asshole, jerk, or complete bastard who habitually abuses women in various ways.

Yes, you have to stand up for yourself and fight back with women, and I’ve called a number of women every name in the book when they started acting real bad. But as long as she’s acting good, go ahead and be nice to her. You can run Bad Boy Game and be nice at the same time. In fact it is an excellent combination.

Game/PUA: The “Older Men Who Go for Young Women Are Losers Who Go for Easy Pickings Because Can’t Get a Woman Their Own Age” Lie

I’ve dated women this age off and on since I was in my early 40’s ( a lot at the beginning of the period, much fewer lately), and trust me when I say it’s not so easy to get them into bed. Hell, it’s like pulling hen’s teeth to even get them to go out with you because 99% of them think you’re a gross old man.

There’s only a few young women that age who even want to go for an older guy.

Girls that age are also extremely moody, temperamental, and nutty, so I’d say that they call you out on your bullshit all the time. The last two I dated were both suicidal. Older women are so much more stable.

The girls I dated got angry at me many times when I was with them, usually over ridiculous nonsense. It’s not like they’re going to go along with everything you suggest.

When I was 18-21, quite a few of my friends were dating underage girls 14-17. The men were not immature as everyone thinks. They were Alphas who were bedding women of all ages. The jailbaits made a beeline straight for the best men of all my age and bypassed everyone else. I never heard any of these guys say these girls were easy prey. They said it was not so easy to get them into bed, a lot were still wary virgins, etc.

Nothing changes are men age. Young women and teenage girls still head straight for the Alphas. Look a the women prominent JB’s have ended up with: movie stars, rock stars, billionaires, movie directors. They head straight for the top. They’re worse than the women our age!

This “older men who go for teenage girls or young women because they are losers and women their age won’t tolerate their crap” is nonsense. I’ve never met an older man who was too immature for women his age, so he went for young women because they were easy targets. I think it’s a fairy tale or urban legend, frankly.

First of all, almost any older man who can land a girl that age is usually doing great with women his age. Hell, why do you think the girl went for him in the first place? Anyway, those girls complain a lot and are very easily annoyed by all sorts of things.

I would not say they call you out on your bullshit less than older women do. But they see right through you just like an older woman does. An 18 or 19 year old will figure you out real quick and expose your true self to you, good and bad, gifts and flaws, better than your therapist, just like any woman, really.

All females will tend to call you on your shit. But if you are older man with very young women, they will get angry a lot, and when they do, they will insult you horribly. Typically they will call you an old man, which, even if it is true, hurts. They will attack your looks and practically say you are ugly or at least you are not as hot as men her age.

Now about this BS about older men who go for young women being losers who can’t get a woman their own age…

Haha. Guess who made up this stupid lie? Women! Especially, guess who? Ding! Right! Older women. Why, of course, what did you expect? Why?

Because a lot of older men chase younger women, and this really burns older women up basically because they know they can’t compete with young hotties. So they resort to making up lies about older men who chase younger women in order to try to shame these men and make them stop and to make these older women themselves feel better about losing some high-quality older man dick.

Women are so transparent. Their lies are so obvious and pathetic that’s it’s laughable the way so many of them actually believe this BS.

But then, women live in a fairy tale world, a fantasy land. They don’t live in the real world because it’s cruel and evil and women, being sensitive and basically good-hearted souls, can’t handle such a cold and vicious world. So they make up lies to say the world is not really like this and instead of the world being as it is, it is as women  imagine or fantasize that is.

I don’t blame women for being sensitive and kind-hearted souls who long for defenses against the arbitrary cruelty and even evil of life. I don’t mind denial as a defense. As an introvert, of course fantasy is where I live most of the time.

But I know the difference between reality and fantasy. I know I’m BSing myself but I don’t care. I know I’m denying all the failures and fuckups of my life, but I don’t care. And I can brainwash myself into believing that my denial and fantasy defenses are the truth.

But deep down inside, of course I know they are not. Women are not so enlightened. They actually believe that the world works according to how women think it should work. If they ever figure out the truth, boy are they in for a rude surprise.

One of the fantasy lies that women, typically older women, believe is that older men who chase young women go for young, vulnerable, stupid, easy pickings females. But they’re not.

I’ve dated women this age off and on since I was in my early 40’s, and trust me when I say it’s not so easy to get them into bed. Hell, it’s like pulling hen’s teeth to even get them to go out with you because 99% of them think you’re a gross old man.

Even when I was young, it was not that easy getting teenage girls into bed. A lot of them held out on you or would only kiss and make out with you and stop it there.

A lot were puritanical. Refusing to suck cock was very common. I had young women who wouldn’t let me eat their pussies because they thought is was gross. Pain during sex is not uncommon and they sometimes ask for lube of some sort due to this.

A lot are virgins who don’t want to give it up. Some will fuck you once or twice and then just make out and refuse to go further after that. One 18 year old girl did that because I wasn’t rapey enough. She said her other guys just blew past her when she said no and basically forced her to have sex. So some of these girls even force you to be a rapist if you want to get laid. Some are virgins and want to stay that way.

Girls that age are also extremely moody, temperamental, and nutty. The last two I dated were both suicidal. Older women are so much more stable.

The girls got angry at me many times when I was with them, usually over ridiculous nonsense. It’s not like they’re going to go along with everything you suggest.

Game/PUA: Late Middle Aged Men (age 55-62) Dating Young Women (age 18-28): A Rundown

I am currently 62 years old, and in the past two years I have dated a number of women from 18-28.

One 18 year old totally fell in love with me, and there was a rollercoaster love affair that ended. She had never been kissed before she met me.

I had one date with a 19 year old girl, and at the end of the date (she spent most of the day at my place), she asked me if she could move into my place. WTH. Is it normal for a woman have one fucking date with a guy and then ask to move in? Because it’s never happened to before even once in my life.

However, getting women this age, or even ones in their 20’s, at my age is extremely difficult for any man of my age, not just me. It was a lot easier when I was younger, even in my 40’s. Face it, the vast majority of 18-19 year old girls do not wish to date men my age. They might have a Daddy fetish, but I doubt if many have a Grampa fetish.

Furthermore, for all the older women panicking out there, I hardly know any other man my age around here who has pulled this off. I’m almost the only one. I figure the vast majority of men my age could never pull this off. Most don’t even try. Thing is, I am not an ordinary man though.

A lot of the girls I dated had huge Daddy issues but not all of them. You would be surprised how many girls who do this have good relationships with their fathers, so it’s not all about that.

I do remember that one had a father who left her at age 13, and another had a very hostile father who she hated.

I had another who never knew her father and had been molested by her uncle at an early age of 12. Apparently this turns a certain number of lot of the girls who get molested like this into huge sluts, and a lot of them end up with massive older man fetishes.

Actually turning into a massive slut, stripper, porn star, or prostitute is a pretty typical adult reaction to getting molested as girls. If you read studies about child abuse, this is listed as a common sequalae for girls who get molested. Don’t ask me what’s going on in their heads.

I guess they are reliving what happened to them when they were girls and older men were having sex with them.

It’s fun to have a young woman at my age though. You turn into her mentor and you end up teaching her all about life and everything in it! I do not mean sexual stuff, though you usually end up tutoring them in that area too. I am a former schoolteacher.

It’s such a delight to see a young women learning so many new things every day – new words, concepts, facts about everything. You can also see her gaining a lot of wisdom because you are explaining a lot of things about life, especially social issues, that they don’t understand, and you are explaining to them how it works. You get a lot of, “Ohhhhhh, I see. Ok, now I get it. Ahhhhh, ok.”

They usually think I am very wise or smart, and they even say so. An 18 year old girl told me after we broke up and were still friends:

Ever since I met you, everyone I meet seems stupid.

I’ll take that compliment.

You can watch them climb this vast learning curve right in front of your eyes. When the girl or young woman leaves you (and she will leave), she is ahead of most of her peers because she understands life so much better than everyone else her age who are still figuring it out on their own.

The girls and young women complain that men their age are pigs and lousy or rapey in bed (they call them fuckboys), and they say I’m not like that at all. They say that these young men only care about their own pleasure and care nothing whatsoever about the woman’s pleasure. It’s all about getting off.

Some young men are freaked out and take off if the young woman acts slutty. Others complain that young men either date rape or grey rape them.

I don’t really care what people think about the  fact that I do this, and honestly other men usually treat me like a hero or a God when I pull this off. The respect they give me is incredible.

A few are outraged. One man hung up on me and ended our friendship when he heard I was dating women this age. He’s befriended me again, but it’s not the same. He’s a physician aged 55. Physicians are very status- and social rules-conscious.

There’s two kinds of women – real women and feminists. I love real women. Feminists can go pound sand, and that’s when I am in a kind-hearted mood.

A lot of women of all ages- real women that is, not feminists – actually react pretty well to me doing this and say something along the lines of:

How do you do it, stud?

Even women my age are impressed.

Hey if you still got it, go for it!…Hey, some men have just got it.

Of course there’s a few people who don’t dig it, and I do get called pedophile sometimes, mostly by millennial fucktards, including a large percentage of “men” that age, but I don’t care. What the Hell is wrong with this fagged out and cucked out generation of “men”, anyway? They’re all feminists! I cant’ believe what pussies so many millennial men are. I don’t get it. Were they fed soy milk as babies? Did someone put estrogen in the water?

To any millennial guys reading this, please don’t take offense. I’m not accusing you of acting this way. In fact, if you’re reading here, you probably don’t act this way at all. I’m just pointing out that there’s something wrong with a lot of men in your generation, that’s all.

I still get a lot of dating offers from young women around this age – usually from 5-20 a week – but they almost all want a sugar daddy, and I’m not rich. There’s not a lot of young women who will date me for free. And being a sugar daddy costs from $1,000-2,000/month for her “allowance.” Usually she gives him sex in return, but in some cases, she doesn’t even give him that.

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Types of Women Men Are Looking For 

 A Housewife 

A man who wants his wife like this appreciates coziness and comfort the most. Cleanliness and order in the house, things neatly laid out in their places, starched sheets, and a hot three-course dinner are important to him. A quiet homely atmosphere, a delicious smell in the kitchen, evening hours for two together in front of the TV, and a freshly-ironed shirt for work in the morning are the things a man wants.

Those men work hard just need an island of calm and care at home to relax their body and soul from difficult everyday life. Such a man doesn’t care how long your legs are and how you dress – the main thing is that you know how to care for him and your house. If you cook well and are not afraid of being a housewife, then you will stick quite well together with a man that is looking for one. 

A Mother 

Such a wife is sought for by infantile men, men spoiled by maternal affection, or men who have not received enough of it. Representatives of this type of men expect from their future wife the role of the mother: to care, support, pamper, and love him no matter what. By being with such a man, you will have to solve all his problems, large and small, do almost everything for him, and hold his hand if he, God forbid, catches a cold.

Get ready to give a lot, but in return, do not expect anything. Unlike men who prefer housewives, who, in response to your efforts at home and caring for your husband, will give you their love and gratitude, infantile types are just boys – they only want to receive, and they consider this entitlement natural and taken for granted.

Be careful not to confuse these two completely different men. You can recognize a “boy” by the way he is overly attached to his mother, idealizes her, and often repeats that his chosen one should be a copy of his mother. In general, such men are not very independent and indecisive in life, so it is not difficult to recognize them. 

A Mother of His Children 

A man who wants to start a strong family with lots of children is interested in finding a good mother for his kids. For them, the continuation of their genes is important; therefore, a potential wife is evaluated in terms of her talents when it comes to motherhood.

This implies not only the ability to conceive and endure healthy offspring but also a strong desire to have a child (maybe more than one), the ability to get along with children, and a willingness to devote herself to the family.

Such men are not looking for incubators – it’s just that they value you as a reliable partner that is capable of producing offspring; love comes second. He will honor and respect you, no doubt. If the family is the main thing for you and you want to have and raise children, then you will create a wonderful union with this person. 

A Mistress 

This is quite a simple one, if a man wants a short-term relationship with a lot of sex, he will be interested in finding a mistress. In a woman, they value attractiveness, gentleness, and the ability to get them hooked. Men that are interested in mistresses know exactly what they want.

They are not interested in knowing how to find a girl to marry; they want something with less commitment and more fun. With such a macho man, you will feel like a real woman, always charming. The question is whether there will be enough romance and unforgettable sex for the development of a serious and lasting relationship with the possibility of further marriage. 

A Friend 

Some men seek a faithful companion in a woman, a partner whom they can rely on. By dating such a woman, he is looking for qualities such as devotion, an ability to support, an agile mind, a calm disposition, and patience. He tries to figure out a woman’s personality; he wants a reliable person with whom he can create a strong family that is built on respect.

Maybe there won’t be that much passion, but men who want a friend with to have guarantees of stability and confidence in the future. Their priorities are as follows: to achieve everything together, relate to each other with mutual understanding, and spend long evenings in meaningful, interesting conversations.

This is a great option for a woman who knows how to be a friend and needs a strong shoulder and support from her husband without him shutting her down or dominating her.

Let’s summarize everything that’s been said above. It should be noted that there are no truly correct or incorrect male ideas about women, just as there are no bad or good types of women. And of course, only you know what is right for you, what kind of a woman or a man you are, and what you want in a relationship. 

 

Game/PUA: One Sex Has to Dominate the Other

…we either have male dominance and violence, or gentle female dominance.

First of all,  you’re going to have male violence (and female violence too for that matter) in either one. Actually the men might be more violent if they were being dominated by women because being dominated by women is one thing that pisses real men off more than anything else.

First of all, female dominance of men will never be gentle. Women are never gentle with the men that they dominate, in relationships or otherwise. It just doesn’t work that way. I think it is not possible for a woman to dominate a man in a gentle way. Women will always be cruel, vicious, and even evil with the men they are dominating.

On the other hand, I think we men can dominate women in a civilized manner. First of all, we men evolved to be dominant, to dominate women and children, and to fight for dominance with other men. The fact that dominance was bred right into us means that we can choose to implement our inborn trait either nicely or cruelly. It is certainly possible for men to dominate women in a non-harmful way. I’ve done it in most of my relationships.

Sadly, one gender has to dominate the other. The reality for most men is that most women expect the man to dominate. Women come into the relationship specifically expecting to be dominated by the man. Now, in their minds this is not a bad thing, as they like being submissive, and their view of male dominance often does not involve harm.

Men realize that if we don’t dominate our woman, she is going to take those pants right off of us and dominate you! It’s like someone has to dominate – it’s either him or her, take your pick.

I used to believe that full equality between the sexes was possible, but after 45 years of experience with women, I no longer believe this. Complete equality between men and women is simply not possible – it’s folly, a fool’s errand, an unwinnable war.

Gay male relationships are full of dominance and submission, tops and bottoms, bears and twinks, in full imitation of heterosexuality.

Lesbians like to think they are beyond this, but how many times you have seen a lesbian couple where one was butch (the man) and the other was more femme (obviously the woman)? So they’re imitating heterosexuality too. And you can’t tell me there’s no dominance-submission stuff going on in that butch-femme relationship either.

From the lesbians I read on the web, I have learned that there is quite a bit of dom-sub type sex going on with them as a matter of course, especially with the young ones, 18-30. I hate BD/SM but I know a lot about it. The number of female subs who have dom “mistresses” is very high, and the setup is about the same as with male dom-female sub relationships.

If you look at mammals, it is quite typical for male mammals to not only be much more aggressive but also to keep harems, fight over females, etc. And in mammalian sex the male often acts quite dominant, and the female acts…you guessed it – submissive.

I am reading a book about grizzly bears, and the author witnesses a rare mating. Yes, the male bear is acting very aggressive and dominant, and believe it or not, the female grizzly bear of all things is acting…yep – submissive!

Ape sex is often about rape. In chimps and baboons, a male will literally terrorize a female ape for some time, chasing her, hitting her, scaring the living crap out of her. He acts extremely mean towards her. And guess which male she picks to mate with come mating time? Yep, the rapey, female-beating, stalking, creepy, abusive male ape, the same one who terrorized her her before.

I think the best we could hope for would be one sex dominating the other, but in the mildest and kindest way possible that does the least harm to the more submissive partner. And we should hope for submissive partners who don’t like to be hurt or abused.

Alt Left: Attack My Masculinity and I’ll Kill You

Nothing makes men more furious that being dominated in a cruel way by women or having their masculinity attacked by them. It actually literally makes us want to kill them. I had several girlfriends in the past who more or less attacked my masculinity, even gleefully.

Others had other  men at the time we were together (although we were in an open relationship) but they deliberately did so in an open and outrageous way as if they were actually trying to provoke me. Yes, they were actually trying to make me murder them. But women do this all the time. Many women delight in provoking men to such an extent that as far as I am concerned, they are trying to get murdered.

Because they do things to men that in Man World would immediately get you hit, if not out and out murdered. Women try to push us men to our limits or even beyond them. It is very stupid (and dangerous) of women to do this, but they keep doing it.

Feminism has made this female behavior dramatically more common. In my mother’s generation, women were  terrified to attack their husband’s masculinity. My mother even told that she didn’t want to do that. I asked her why she didn’t do something one time, and she said, “Oh he will see that as attacking his masculinity. I don’t want to attack his masculinity.”

Her attitude was more that doing such things was gross, unladylike, and undignified. My mother would see that sort of behavior as common with working class women and Black and Hispanic women. That’s what low class women do – provoke their husbands, bitch at them for no reason, and pick fights with them.

My mother’s coterie of White middle to upper class women simply didn’t act that way – you would be acting like those low class and non-White women they looked down on.

I knew a Colombian woman once. The worst insult you could say to a woman in her society  was that she was “a woman of the streets.” To her, there was nothing lower than that. She was from an upper middle class background in the north of Bogota.

I remembered those damned girlfriends who attacked me that way. In some cases, I forgot all the fun we had, and when I reminisced, all I would think of was those times when they deliberately tried to cut my balls off with words, sometimes in public, sometimes in front of other men and women. Public humiliation. I remembered those incidents for decades.

And for decades, I literally wanted to kill every one of those women who attacked my masculinity like that. I’ve gotten over it now and I feel better with this off my shoulders. But nevertheless, my first and immediate instinct to a woman wantonly and even gleefully attacking my masculinity was, “You’re going to die for that, bitch. No forgiveness. Ever.”

Of course I never killed any of those women. I never even tried to, seriously considered it, or hatched any plan or anything. It was just a violent fantasy that never got implemented. So what! Who cares!

Not only that, but I am almost ashamed to say I never even hit or did anything violent to any of those women. Even worse than that, I rarely even fought back against these attacks. I just sat there and took it like a big, fat pussy.

Why? Because my Mom taught us that you never fight a woman.

At My Age, There are Tens of Millions of American Humans Who I Am Never Allowed to Even Speak To

Polar Bear: Key words “hot” and “young”. In certain areas of the modern West, young and hot are off limits to old White men. You’re welcome to a young homely girl or a hot older woman. But combine young and hot and that’s something sacred. A Time to Kill, “now imagine the innocent victim was White”. Today it’s, “Now imagine the innocent victim is young and hot!

Yeah, it’s been going this way for some time now.  Every year it gets worse and worse. Young women and high school girls – forget it. I can’t even say hello, hi, or the most basic things to them. If I do, they look at me like, “How dare you even fucking speak to me! I cannot believe you are even talking to me! I’m going to call the cops!”

Also I am not allowed to even look at a lot of them. Every year, as I get older, young women and teenage girls get more and more hateful. Their hatred of me is almost at psychotic levels now. Maybe I should just quit talking to them unless I get a real go-ahead.

The other day I was in a Starbucks waiting in line, and this female, looked like a high school girl, was after me. We were waiting and waiting. I walked over to her and said, “Hurry up and wait, huh?” She acted like, “How dare you even try to fucking talk to me! I’m calling the police!”

This bullshit is all new. I don’t ever flirt with any girls or even young women in general unless they give me a go-ahead, which almost never happens. I just comment on the weather or the most basic things. I have not flirted with any of these girls or young women who gave me this attitude. I just said something like, “Hello.”

But increasingly they act like I have no right on Earth to talk to them or even in many cases, to look at them! Some are outraged that I even dare to look at them! They act like they are going to call the police for me looking at them.

Unfortunately, most of the other Normie shitheads in my society seem to agree with these hostile little twats, these children, these bratty little  babies.

When I was growing up it was never like this. Adults walked up to us and talked to us constantly. We spent a good part of our time with adults, mostly adult men of course. Adult women didn’t really talk to us very much. But adult men would walk right up and talk to us all the time.

We often went on trips to the beach, fishing, or backpacking with adults, generally adult men. Those men taught us how to be men! I worry that these boys growing up nowadays are going to grow up with zero exposure to adult male role models, and the results are going to be catastrophic.

Back in the day, an adult man or even women could walk up to any kid, especially a teenager, and start talking to them.

Even if an older man talked to high school or college girls, if the stupid little twats complained, everyone, I mean everyone, all women included, would ask, “Well what did he say? What did he do?” As long as he just talked about the weather and didn’t say or do anything sexual, the adults would basically tell the little twat to shut the fuck up.

Somehow now adults cannot talk to kids or even teenagers, or, if you are an older adult, even young adults, ever. There’s no way this is going to end well. Minors are always assisted in learning the roles of life and growing up by adults of both sexes. Now this is all banned except for the parents, who may be just one parent (a woman) in a lot of cases.

I blame these feminist cunts from Hell for all of this crap, along with conservatives, especially femiservitives. But a lot of liberals are on this Pedophile Mass Hysteria too. The whole thing is so ridiculous and absurd, I don’t know what to even say.

The whole idea that there are tens of millions of human beings in my own nation who I am not allowed to make the most innocuous comment to without getting accused of “harassment” is absolutely insane and bizarre.

Game/PUA: A Major Downside to Adult Men Having (Legal) Sex with Teenage Girls

The problem is that no matter how much she seems to be into it at the time, and trust me, most of them are into it bigtime – in fact, it’s very frequently the case that these girls out and out seduce the men – things tend to change a ways down the road.

Some girls who have these legal relationships with older men like it and even years later, smile and look back on it fondly. But it’s far more likely that she will regret it later on. It’s sort of a form of Regret Rape, a female specialty.

These changes of heart are very typical for teenage girls who have sex with men. Men, if you ever have sex with a (hopefully legal) teenage girl, be careful because as much as she seems like she’s into it, there’s a very good chance that 10-20 years down the road she is going to change her mind and decide that you took advantage of her.

She will also suddenly develop all sorts of ridiculous psychological symptoms which of course only show up when she changes her mind and decides she was harmed. As long as she thought there was nothing wrong with it, she had no symptoms.

This is one thing I have against the way society deals with these relationships. Even if they are completely legal and consensual as is often the case, we run around screaming that the minor was just subjected to the most horrible abuse, and no matter how the minor feels about at the time, as a result of our antics, they now decide that they are all fucked up.

Wa-la! Lots of pernicious psychological symptoms pop up where before there were none precisely because we freak out so much about it and scream at the kid about what a horrible crime was done to them. I don’t know what the alternative is, but it seems like the “anti-sex with minors” folks are actually creating a lot of the damage that these minors suffer from the minor-adult sex that they have.

Interracial Dating in My City

RL: That’s not the ideal situation at all, Jason. Even here in California in the midst of the diversity, Whites are generally paired up with Whites, Blacks with Blacks, Hispanics with Hispanics, and so on. Most people end up dating their own kind for whatever reason.

Jason: I’m saying people should be cool with it if it’s on the table, but normally it’s not, although it is way more than in the past.

Oh yeah! People are absolutely cool with interracial dating here! This is California, bro. Yes there are some Whites who disapprove of racemixing, but they are very much the minority, and they better be awful careful about who they talk to about this.

*****

The following two combos are relatively common, although you don’t even see these very often.

White man – Hispanic woman. You hear about them, but you don’t see them very often.

White woman – Black man. You don’t see these very often either. You see more of it in young White women around here, but the Black men they hook up with are the worst thugs of all, and the White girls don’t seem to marry them – they only date them. These White girls will probably marry a White man.

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As you can see, only Whites are dating outside their race with any frequency. I am not sure what that means. I will allow commenters to elaborate. Obviously we Whites are the most evil and diabolical racist scum of all since we are more likely to date outside our race than any other group, right? The extent of White racist evil never fails to amaze me.

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The following combos are not common:

Hispanic woman – Black man. I have seen one case – divorced.

Black woman – Hispanic man. I know of only one case.

Black woman – White man. Only saw one case, a high school boy and girl, and both appeared to be either virgins or near-virgins. It sure was delightful to see these two 15 year old teenagers love wrestling and making out in public.

Asian M or F – Any other race F or M. No interracial dating at all. We simply hardly have any of these people around here. We have a tiny few Chinese and a very small Filipino population. There is also a tiny Vietnamese and Khmer population. They all date within their own races.

There was something just joyously beautiful about two sexual greenhorns breaking themselves in so innocently. And it really charmed me that this White boy fell for this Black girl and the other way around for that matter. You don’t see that very often.

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As you can see, both Black and Hispanic women don’t hook up outside their race all that much.

Getting Banned from Starbucks

SHI: I’ve been thrown out of a couple of Starbucks outlets because other customers were “uncomfortable” around me. The staff gave no further explanations. That’s why I hate the Gaybucks outlets and don’t visit them anymore.

I actually feel much better that SHI has been banned from a couple of Gaybucks too for much the same reasons that I have been. I thought that only creeps, weirdos, freaks, losers, autists, incels, and social retards* got banned. Not players. But I guess they ban any guy who goes after women in that place. Players go after women all the time because that’s what players do, so they’re going to get banned from SJW joints like Fagbucks.

I had another friend who was a huge player (much more of one than I ever was) and he used to get banned or get warnings for this stuff a lot too. He had a tablet or cellphone, and he used to walk around public places taking pictures of women’s bodies – their tits, their asses, etc.

He even did this in supermarkets! And he did it all the time in bars and nightclubs to the point where he kept nearly getting thrown out of these places. The bouncers at a number of those places really hated him. He even got the cops called on him once. He ended up just getting a warning, but it could have been worse.

Now I must admit that that is creepy, but he wasn’t some creepy weirdo who couldn’t get laid either. The guy was drowning in pussy most of the time.

So apparently highly successful players can do creepy stuff sometimes. I mean they have sex on their brains, and they are chasing women 24-7, so there’s bound to be some complaints in this SJW #Metoo World.

It’s important to note that #metoo doesn’t just go after creeps, weirdos, freaks, and dangerous men. It also goes after guys who can’t get laid with God’s help. #metoo has heavily targeted men who are hugely successful with women from the very start.

I feel a lot better now that players get banned for this crap as much as creeps, freaks, and dangerous weirdos.

SHI’s been banned from two Gaybucks and he’s quit patronizing them. I’ve been banned from three of them so far.

Here’s my history with this shitty company:

2007: Banned for “looking at the baristas.” I looked at one’s tits after she served me, and she noticed and got mad. Hey, I’m heterosexual! Fuck it man, I’ve been looking at women my whole life. Of course I look at their bodies – their tits, their pussies, their asses, their curves – the whole nine  yards. How in the Hell do you not look at a hot woman’s body? How is that even possible?

Did it suddenly become illegal or something? I complained to corporate and got ban revoked. Banned by 18-23 year old shits. Just kids, really.

2009: Someone who worked at a Fagbucks came to my site and said everyone there thinks I’m really creepy, and they all don’t want me coming in there anymore. I haven’t the faintest idea what I did to make them feel this way.

I did bring in some stuff of my website for them to read,  which as it turns out, was a huge mistake. It was Spot the Language stuff. But that just seemed to completely freak them out.

I saw one guy reading one of my posts with a baffled expression on his face like he could not figure out what in God’s name I was talking about, like it was written in Greek or something. He also acted like he found it weird and disturbing as if it was some sort of dangerous and possibly illegal printed material.

This happened at another coffee shop too, and some guy got totally weirded out by another Spot the Language post. He thought it was advocating “pedophilia” or some nonsense. Of course it wasn’t. My Mom said to never show any of them any of my work every again.

“They won’t understand it. Because they don’t understand it, they’ll think it’s weird and disturbing, and they might think you are a strange or dangerous person. It will make them hate you because people hate what they can’t understand.”

This ban is still beyond me. Ok, I’m creepy. What does that even mean? How do I not be creepy? I have no idea whatsoever. I don’t usually make sexual remarks or flirt.

Also, I never would have done so well with women if I was some sort of a creepy socially retard perverted freak. Those guys don’t get laid. Creepy weirdos aren’t players.

I thought I was on pretty good terms with a lot of those people too. Banned by 18-25 year old turds. Basically kids.

2019: Banned after “a number of young women” complained that I was harassing them. I have no idea what this means. I do talk to people all the time. I talk to all kinds of people of all ages and either sex. People next to me in line, people at the counter, people at the pickup counter. Mostly people standing next to me in line.

I guess that’s creepy!

A woman and her daughter, I might ask if it’s a mother and daughter. Might inquire about someone’s kids, like guess their ages. That’s usually not an issue. I try to act very non-creepy when I do this, but honestly it’s not that hard because boys and little girls/Lolitas don’t do it for me anyway.

I guess all this is creepy too!

Sometimes if I see a young woman I know, I will go over and have a very brief conversation with her, ask her what she’s doing, etc. If it seems like she’s busy and doesn’t want to talk, I will end it in 30-60 seconds. It could be less than that.

I guess that’s creepy!

Sometimes, I will finish a conversation I had with someone in line. I will go up to their table, say a few sentences that add to the conversation, and then turn and walk away if they seem like they don’t want to talk. I don’t want to make women feel like I’m picking up on them, so I break it off real fast if I get the “I don’t want to talk” vibe, which sadly I get all the time nowadays.

I guess that’s creepy!

If someone acts like they don’t want to talk or gives one word or one sentence answers, I break it off.

I guess that’s creepy!

I do chat up baristas, ask them if they are in college, etc. Sometimes if they live in town. Sometimes comment on an outfit, jewelry or change in hair color or makeup. Sometimes I comment on their names. If they don’t have a name tag, I make a joke about it. I’ve become friends with a few of them and had conversations about a lot of stuff.

I guess that’s creepy!

I never hit on any of baristas because they were all quite young, and I never got an IOI from any of them.

I guess that’s creepy!

I did tell one woman near my age that if she wasn’t married I would ask her out. She said, “Oh that’s so sweet.”

I guess that’s creepy!

If they mean sexual harassment, I never sexually harassed any women in there ever.

I did get a couple of IOI’s. One from a police officer and another from an attorney, both women. They both walked right up to me and started talking to me. Actually, that’s the type of women who typically approach me – some sort of professional. But I didn’t even flirt with or come on to either of them too for some reason.

I never asked for one phone number or date the whole time I was there. Honestly I almost never even flirted with any women in there because I need IOI’s to do that, and they pretty much don’t exist anymore.

The only thing I can think of is that some young women think it’s harassment when I talk to them at all, and apparently they don’t want me talking to them, period. But a lot of times they act like they like it, so I continue. If they act like they don’t, I shut it down.

“Talking to someone when they don’t want you to talk to them even though they never communicate that to you” hardly seems like much of a crime.

*Losers, incels, autists, and social retards are absolutely welcome here. Most of you are not bad people. Creeps, weirdos, and freaks – not so much. But even the latter three are welcome if you want to come here and try to figure out what you are doing wrong. We will try to help you figure out how you are messing up and steer you on a path to where you are not doing these things. We are not moralfags!