Even though women drive most of us straight men so crazy that most of us would rather hang out with the boys and few of us are ladies’ men, gay men will still hang around women because they do so for other reasons. I assume women drive gay men crazy same way as they drive most of their sisters nuts, but maybe gay men have figured out how to put up with it. After all, I’m sure women drive other women nuts, and I’ve talked to a number of women who actually hate women themselves and much prefer men to women due to all the terrible things other women have done to them in their lives.
Lesbian relationships are notoriously unstable because you have a marriage between two Feminine Principles.
The Feminine Principle, being emotionally based, is pretty wild and chaotic, sort of like wild weather or a dangerous trek through mountains, swamps, forests, jungles, or deserts. The Feminine Principle is Nature Unleashed since it is earth-based and rooted in nature. Not human nature but nature as in rocks, trees, animals, and weather.
The Male Principle, being sky and thought or idea-based, is more calm but also cold, yet it retains greater potential for danger. Bad things come from the sky, bombs and falling airplanes, lightning, and extremely dangerous weather that kills hundreds to thousands at a time. Meanwhile, who dies walking through the desert or the woods? Some do, but trekking in nature is not a major cause of human death. Wild weather is also a part of nature, hence it is both Male and Female Principle based. And its sudden unpredictability when things change dramatically and quickly also mirrors the Feminine Principle.
The sky is calm and placid, even unmoving and seemingly uncaring most of the time. When it gets violent it gets real violent real fast, and things get deadly and scary and even massively deadly, like hundreds of people killed in a few days. In this sense, the Male Principle is quiet most of the time, but it has a potential for danger that is downright scary.
Right now the weather, which comes from the sky, has gotten so out of whack that it threatens the whole human race. The Feminine Principle would never try to exterminate mankind. It would just drive us all so crazy that we wished we were dead. The Male Principle is downright genocidal or exterminationist, such is the nature of its all-encompassing violence.
Or maybe gay men are so much like women that they drive people nuts too, except it’s worse because it’s like the bitchiest woman from Hell except you fill her tank full of Testosterone Superfuel and a ton of ugly aggression and meanness.
So gay men hanging around with women is people who drive people nuts hanging around with other people who drive people nuts, which is basically a description of straight women’s friendships with other women.
I think gay men tone it down around women or perhaps something is missing between the gay men – female relationships that is present in the straight female-straight female relationships – competition, envy, sensitivity, etc. Gay men and straight women seem to form some sort of an armistice with each other that they do not form with their own.
Gay men’s relationships also tend to be unstable as you have two Feminine Characters (inherently unstable), while toned down by a calmer Male Principle as gay men actually have a combination of Male and Female Principles, but at the same time the instability is testosterone-fueled, which causes the worst catty bitchfests among gay men.
As I said, an angry gay man is like the worst bitchy woman you’ve ever met who seems like she’s not only a psychobitch but maybe she might kick your butt along with “a screw you I don’t care about you FOAD” Male Principle iciness, and even exterminationism and anihilationism that is the dark side of the Male Principle at its worst. This utter coldness is something that women often find hard to muster up for people who don’t really deserve it, as they so often pity others and have a hard time with cruelty to people who are essentially innocents.
Furthermore there is the intensity of the love-hate super-passion that lovers create, which in the gay male case is driven to sheer female levels of flake by their Feminine Principle inside of them and is fueled to violent, homicidal, or exterminationist extremes by their Male Principle and testosterone.
I’m not saying gay men are bad. I’m just saying that men in general and testosterone-poisoned, much more aggressive and way meaner than women, and are downright dangerous because of that if you ever make them mad. Most straight guys are chill as we all realize that we can all murder each other on a dime anytime we want, so the world of Man World is insanely polite.
We are being so obsequious to our fellow men because we are all trying not to murder each other. You act cautious around dangerous things and beings. And that’s what men are.
This is why women’s relationships have far more aggression, fighting, meanness, and sheer catty Hellishness than men’s relationships – because it’s limited in how far it can escalate, it’s mostly verbal, and dies down real fast and turns into mutual hugging. Women can fight like wildcats because it’s their nature and they are limited to how aggressive or mean they can become.
And they’re unlikely to become violent at all. That’s why they can tear each other’s hair out, bawling afterwards over something some woman said to them (“Did you hear what she said to me?”), and then two days later, they’re saying, “Here’s a hug!” and hugging each other like old friends. The grudges probably don’t last long either.
Men on the other hand are almost like tigers or grizzly bears, and you have to try to humor them and calm them down all the time like any dangerous living thing.
Ever seen a fight start to break out between two men? See the way five or ten guys jump up, get between them, and break them apart? They’re not doing that because they’re nice guys. They’re doing that because they don’t want a murder scene breaking out right in front of them. Because for one thing, dangerous fights between men seem to suck in other men, who then get hurt or die themselves. You want to stay alive? You pull fatheads, loudmouths, and psychos apart do they don’t murder each other and so they don’t murder you too.
They’re doing that because fights between men are dangerous as Hell and have a tendency to escalate very quickly. It’s like you see a small fire burning over there and you over while it’s small and easy to put out so the whole building doesn’t go up in flames. Follow?
Escalate quickly means getting physical or worse, and quite possibly pulling out weapons and trying to or succeeding in murdering each other. It’s terrifying the speed at which a conflict between males escalates. So at party of 20 men, five or six jump in and tear two pugilists apart to de-escalate the scene. Every other guy is thinking, “If we don’t stop these guys, somebody’s going to get hurt.” And most men aren’t psycho enough to relish the thought of that.
Two women get mad and nothing happens except ugly words, a lot of fuming, crying and looking for shoulders to bawl on. It fades pretty quickly and the next you see them, they’re BFF’s again.
Women are far less dangerous than men and unlikely to physically kill despite the fact that they might murder your ego and soul.
But you go a few rounds in life, and after a while, you’ve been ego-smashed and soul-murdered more than a few times by women and you toughen up, turn into an icy rock, and get a lot harder to ego smash or soul murder. Now you’re prepared to deal with the rollercoaster ride of associating with women and all the nuttiness doesn’t bother you that much because its been there, done that X200. So you’re cynical. So what? You might be getting laid and at least you’re not some incel with his dick in one hand and a rope in the other.