Author: Jason

I’ve looked on the net and there has been some stories written that this is verbal abuse etc..  but unfairly not called that – because men are supposed to be tough and strong.

However, I have to take the conservative view.  I mean, the only reason men could be henpecked is cause – simply put, they’re not men who have won the woman’s heart at a soul-level.  They are cowards.  No doubt about it.

Note: no matter what the man does “to be good” he cannot win the woman who views him as a coward. It doesn’t matter how good he cleans the house.  How nice he is, how he dresses, how he cleans himself, how he takes care of his face, how much he works out, how much money he makes, how much he goes to church, though he should go possibly so it could be revealed to him he’s a coward.

If she wants someone brave, the problem is figuring out what she wants.  However, it’s not easy.  If you’re sitting there having a crush, you probably don’t know.   I mean, what problem is she having?  You’d have to do research that could be stalking of a sort.

Probably a safer bet would be to get with the woman thru an easier way and then figure it out and surely if you can – you’ve got the woman!

Any ideas from anyone?

It’s doesn’t work because some guy who cannot command the love of a woman – at a “soul-level” cannot force it.  In other words, as said in other articles, the woman dislikes you cause you’re a coward.  She would naturally respect a man she doesn’t see as a coward – with no need for stuff PUA sites advocate.

Anyway, we could expand this to other things.  For instance, regarding race, if whites, Latinos, blacks whoever are seen as people “not standing up” for the rights of the other, they’re going to be despised/hated.

Note: I see on the net so much, so much frustration and people just don’t get that “some don’t mesh well with others”.  In other words, the babbling of Trump supporters falls on deaf ears with many non-whites etc.. and the problems of man non-whites falls on deaf ears with working class whites.

O.K., for instance, I was on a Bible forum – filled with self-righteous white identity politics – and I noted how this stuff alienates blacks.  Oooops!!  Bad move.  Of course, I was harshly criticized for it.

What I mean is that someone trusted and loved by someone can literally do what they want to you.  You want to get naked around them? Fine.  Have sex?  Fine.

Well, this seems to be the principal behind marriage.

Anyway, if there are any stories about harassment or other abuse – sure enough people are picking at someone whom “the victim” doesn’t like.

Well, there are a lot of angry males who feel like they (themselves) are ugly and women are purposely persecuting them.  However, the real reason for these dudes problem with women – is the women simply don’t like them at a soul-level.   Myself, I think it’s because they view them as cowardly.  They simply haven’t found a way to win over the woman’s heart by seeking to stand up for something the woman really wants.

https://www.enkirelations.com/signs-of-a-coward-guy.html

Definitely things to avoid when attempting the dating scene or having a relationship.

Well, plenty of lying had gone on with the wife reaching a zenith around June.  Anyway, this pretty much gave her enough bottled up energy for revenge, but I was able to salvage myself – by simply showing “I truly cared.” – but not by crying or sending romance cards – nor by stopping lying or anything else – but by simply making the bold move to stand up to child social services holding our baby.

Anyway, if you feel your in a jam, with no hope, besides prayer and all that – consider taking the bold move to stand up for the woman somehow – in a way that endears you to her.  I mean, the whole “Knight in Shining Armour” thing isn’t dead by a long shot!

Yep, I sort of had this in the back of my mind all the time, thinking this all the time.  All the horrible verbal torture for the month of July and some of August was due to simply being too coward to stand up to child social services.  You know those smiling friendly folks who gladly keep your baby for 2 to 5 years!   Well, like many I trusted these people, but wife gradually began to get tired of them – and dumped her negative energy on me.

But why me? I don’t know.  That’s just how it is in the world. I mean, I said in a post a long time ago – that what drives bullies in middle school etc.. was coward-phobia – and kids were guilty until proven innocent.  It’s just nature I guess!

Anyway, though, we don’t want to discount prayer and stuff like that.  I mean, it could have been way worse and maybe I was put thru some karmic lesson.  However, though, the main point is that people have to stand up for things – you know, just like on Back to the Future or The Three Amigos.  It’s just that way!

O.K. what did I do? I am filing for custody, cause they sure aren’t going to give it to her – only more of the “run around”.  Anyway, though, the woman is nice now, even apologizing.  I simply said, “You angry about the baby, so I understand.”.

https://beyondhighbrow.com/2020/07/28/creating-the-indestructible-man-of-steel/

This article may have been written without really thinking. I think this torture woke me up to the fact I was a bad man.  However, to continue in this phase projects weakness to the woman. But I think if I hadn’t been humiliated like this, I wouldn’t have turned around.

Anyway, as noted in other posts, the next step is not contacting the unloving wife (for 30 days) thereby creating fertile ground for winning her respect back. In my case, the relationship isn’t going to mentioned or any negativity associated with it and if it is, I will go to another room and after that, go to my parent’s home for a day.

In the Bible much is said about idolatry, and this is the missing ingredient in why I think porn use, love of money, etc. can be a major downfall in a relationship, basically turning the man into ice. Some people will say, “Ah, it’s not a big deal.” However, I don’t think they’re aware of how the things that men turn into idols slowly but surely destroy end up causing their own destruction.

In my case, these things made me self-absorbed to my girlfriend, causing the horrible thing going on now. I have to put in extreme measures like 30 day no-contact rules (sort of – because I have to live with her) just to win the respect back because even if I did start it, I cannot show weakness. This only drives the woman away.

Now while I am married to her, the bottom line is I haven’t won back her heart. In fact, even her recent sucking up is something I don’t buy. Unless extreme measures are taken pretty soon, she’s going to start mocking me again. In that case, I won’t be able to take it!

Think about it – if she was bullying me for a whole month over my supposed cheating and had righteous anger over other things, what’re the odds that she’s going to stop the snide little comments? Believe me, it’s those little smart-ass comments that get under my skin, feeding my insecurity.

The thing is, most relationships – even with seemingly normal people – can become toxic. We simply can’t get out of the relationship just because it’s toxic. The mean things said probably aren’t what the person really wants to say but more that they are fed by anger and resentment.

In that case, as I’ve noted in other posts, the person has to appeal to the subconscious to really make the other love them because that’s the real problem. As noted, love is not logical.

I don’t know what to make of this, except she was in some “falling out of love” phase. Come on, if the guy she was cucking me for was retarded, she’s be in his special-ed class everyday for tutoring!

Anyway, the mom says the woman’s in love but fighting it, but I think the problem is she was falling out of love. On the other hand, I believe she’s coming back out of it. She didn’t really mean what she said, but it’s probably just being mean- revenge for my bad treatment of her for many months.

She has a niece who’s autistic. She isn’t cruel to her.

Not sure about this one. It’s tough to implement. I want to implement it with my wife, but I think it will backfire.

Does it really work? The idea is that people can heal things if there is space. That gives some time for “miss you” feelings to develop.

If people are marrying three times, I figure they don’t know much about keeping a marriage. Maybe they married the wrong one, but maybe not. Come on – people fall in love with what seem to be bad matches.

Well, in my opinion, keeping a marriage going would be the same as finding a mate to begin with. You don’t want to appear desperate and boring. You want to keep the surprises up.  All this taps into the mate’s subconscious because ultimately love is not logical.

I was thinking lately some sci-fi thing where I thought, “If men could fool women into falling madly in love with them, could it come out with bad consequences later on?” You might think that’s the woman of your dreams, but what if she isn’t? Nowadays, we probably got lots of guys taking on this, “Don’t be boring” “Be a  Mystery to Women” advice, and perhaps they really are getting the women they desire, but is the desire really the best destiny?

I’m confused on this. Well, my wife’s mom, one of these old-time country women said it was. However, I’m not really sure if the Full Metal Jacket torture for the last month was motivated by that. It may have been because now it seems we are back on normal terms again. However, is that true for all people?

 

They want men who are strong, providers, and trustworthy.  Also, they can’t stand boring men. It’s as simple as that!

They don’t like crybabies because they come across as being mental, child-like, or feminine.

It’s not too hard to achieve these goals for a man. Strong doesn’t have to be a power-lifter, and no man has to be totally trustworthy, etc.. There’s room for error but not major error.

You really shouldn’t do that because shy people can come across as slow when they’re really not. Maybe you even think a racial group is slow and assume certain members are when they’re not.

They don’t mean everything, but come on, guys, you’re saying you’re not attracted to looks? Of course you are and so are the women. I don’t think it takes much to turn the problem around. You don’t need plastic surgery.

O.K., my woman thinks I look better with facial hair now that I’ve shaved it since January. O.K., I’ll grow it back then. That doesn’t hurt my pride or anything. It’s not a big deal!

Don’t cry ever generally if you’re a man. Women simply don’t respect guys who cry. They might feel pity but the feeling that you’re weak overpowers the thought. Basically, you become a child, not a man to them, so they can’t go along with you seeing as they don’t think you’re strong enough to handle life’s situations.

Anyhow I did break down a few times during my near-breakup – because I had never had a near-breakup before and I didn’t know how to react to it. I just realized I was madly in love with the woman, but it’s was too late, sucka!

Crying is Cheap

That’s true and talk is also cheap. If you say stuff, you need to have credibility behind it. In other words, there has to be action showing you mean what you say. It’s like in the Bible where it says doers and not sayers of the law are justified.

 

There’s always the thing where people say daily prayer would make good things happen for the righteous. However, it’s more specific than that. Christianity can melt your heart so you’re not too hard-to-get for women. A self absorbed man is a turn-off to girls.

However, on the flip side, a genuine faith could provide that lack of boredom, that sense of mystery that would get women chasing you as all the dating experts want to happen.

Well, a Christian faith is all about being molded into a better man anyway, and it’s never a dull show.

I might seem interesting on the net, but around real-life girls, I’ve simply always been nerdy and shy. There was exceptions like during high school and college where I was a party animal, but in that case, I actually became too wild, so I came across as crazy or mentally challenged.

Anyhow, a big problem is now that I’ve let go of my self-absorption which worked well on my girl for a long time – but eventually caused a near-break-up and month of masochistic torture – there’s the possibility of being too nice which really means too boring or too predictable.

How to Change That?

I really don’t know.  That will be a challenge with my new wife.  Anyway, as far as women besides my wife, being too nice has always been a major problem and why they aren’t chasing me.

She simply employed the same strategy that they tell guys to do to girls. Basically, she became super-hard to get, all-out rejecting me in favor of some guy who was probably not really interested in her. However, I believed this to be a serious threat.

Always the problem with her is I think deep down I was madly in love with her, but it took the masochistic situation I described in a recent article to actually make me realize it.

What was my problem?

Well, I was super-hard to get for her. I became self-absorbed during my time with her, which initially kept her on because women like guys hard-to-get. I wouldn’t move in with her. I neglected a baby we had, never coming around, and I caused a problem where she’s now on probation.

Other Problems

Refusing to change looks, lying, not being on time, not listening, cheating also I think, even though it was very light cheating with strippers.

Was this actually her goal?

I don’t really know, but it did the job!

What’s Our Relationship Now?

It seems awesome after a phone call I had after being away for a few days. Nonetheless, I fear I’m becoming too boring by spilling the love beans too much and telling too many inner feelings.

Well, not sure if it  mimics Robert Lindsay’s but the overall message is:

You get the woman to chase you, not the other way around.  You do this by not be boring.

It’s not about alpha bad-asses getting women but simply guys who aren’t boring.

How to be boring?

In short, don’t be desperate. Don’t be too available, don’t text/call too much, don’t make dorky attempts to show your feelings too early in the relationship.

This is much like Business 101

In business, you want the customer to chase you. Actually, I’ve known that for a long time. That’s why you target people already wanting what you have. For instance, you target online people searching for terms related to what you’re selling.

Nah, I just don’t buy it when a couple breaks apart – and one isn’t a doormat for the other.  It’s because it’s better to confront the problem directly.  For instance, there was this couple that broke up, a pastor and his wife, and they split ways totally (but got back together maybe a year later).  I’m sure there was anger like from a volcano, but with the two living separately, we don’t really know if the cheating man changed his ways.  Did he really get hurt – like someone who has to look it straight in the eyes?  I mean, people can repress anger/sadness when they’re away from it.  It’s way different when it’s right there.

I don’t think it works on people who are hardened of heart and don’t want to change.  I mean, the person has to really want to change – in other for this mind game to work.

Anyhow, there are people saying bullying simply weeds out bad things.  Yeah, true, but only, as said, on people badly wanting change.

In fact, a lot of the times harassment only creates hardened crybabies.  Isn’t that the cultural left in many ways?  Think about it!

Well, the heartbreak of the last month or so has a massive positive side.  Well, the thing is the “beloved” has allowed me to “stay on”.  However, the catch is that she’s treating me like the scum of the Earth.  So why stick around?  Well, I love the woman!

Anyway, I wouldn’t do it otherwise. Isn’t this just like in the Marines where the so desperately want to get out with honors?   They want that goal – but the instructors do everything they can to stop it – so only the people who just won’t quit get the prize. In other words, like on the movie Whiplash, “The real Charlie Parker wouldn’t give up.”

Anyway, why do people need to be smashed and recreated?  Well, they’re just too self-centered, too evil.   Anyhow, don’t think I’m not doing this without prayer – cause this is like  The Exorcist.

 

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Well, duh, you don’t want to be a knight in shining armor to a woman you don’t have deep roots with.  I suspect that’s what’s really commented on in this site.  Of course these women treat these fools like dirt, but they deserve it cause it’s foolish to make relationships without deep roots and then think they are.

Now, if a relationship is really deep, uhh, that’s another matter completely!

Better watch out regarding nice girls you’ve ignored and took for granted for many years.  It might come back to haunt you. It’s like being crucified.

It’s difficult to regain trust smashed to pieces by terrible karma, and you’re going to seem like an idiot to her for crying. She might care some but there’s a  limit.

Matthew 18:21-22 ²¹Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “LORD, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” ²²Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

This is actually not what is means. It’s saying the forgiveness is infinite. But why would God ask his children to do something he doesn’t do himself?

Think about it!

Well, the divorce rate is high among churchgoers. Also, all that sexual repression clearly leads to high porn viewing among church members!

What’s the solution? Well, the fact is that scripture – as interpreted by most churches – is cruel and anti-human. Why would anyone want to really believe in a doctrine of eternal hell or even annihilation? The thought of these things leads to rebellion against Christianity, or at the least, people just simply ignoring the issue.

Now the problem with sex is simply the fact that monogamous marriages cannot satisfy a lot of men.

A typical church nowadays will say problems with the church are the result of “bad followers,” not “bad scripture.”  If only the members would get their act together! But get what together?  You mean follow cruel and anti-human doctrines simply out of tradition because people assume the Bible was interpreted that way?

But What About Satan Bringing on More Temptation with Porn?

That’s what would happen considering nobody has tried to dig deeper into scripture to find a better way.