It’s very tempting for adults to act like children their whole lives. Adulthood is pretty much of a drag if you ask me. I had a lot more fun when I was a kid. But then I have a silly, frivolous, fun-loving, “everything’s a joke” personality. I really can’t stand the extreme seriousness that is demanded of us as adults. I feel like I’m in a cage.
On the other hand, you do have to be fairly serious as an adult so as not to break social rules. You’ll follow social rules better if you have a seriousness about you. Other adults may respect you more if you act serious than if you don’t. You certainly won’t be accused of being immature or childish.
Let’s face it: the adult world is serious. You say or do one wrong thing and you’re fired and out on the curb. If you can’t find another job, you’re homeless. That’s some serious shit.
However, if you keep acting like a kid or a teenager your whole life, psychically you negate this serious terror of adulthood and you can pretend it’s not there.
But a lot of adults take this way too seriously, especially members of both sexes but especially mean from their late 20’s to early 30’s, especially if they are married and have a kid or two. A lot of them got married very young and had kids in their early to mid-20’s. I had a boss like like that. He told us he was living on a houseboat in the Netherlands and married by the time he was 19. Apparently anyone not showing this level of maturity at that age was an immature baby.
These people are just overcompensating. They’re trying to differentiate themselves “the mature ones” from “the immature ones.” They’ve divided the world in two in a superior-inferior way, which is a pretty shitty thing to do right there if you ask me. And if you do that, you might want to think about maybe changing it. You’ll be a better person. Life’s not a footrace.
The way I realized that they were overcompensating was that these people act far more seriously and are far more obsessed with being “mature” and “adult” then older adults are! You would think that if this was really an important quality for us to have, as we get older we should become more and more obsessed with acting mature and adult.
But I noticed that older adults slow down a lot and don’t seem to be obsessed with this at all. And as people get older, they tend to have a less serious, not a more serious attitude, about them.
This implies that seriousness isn’t a marker for adulthood either because if it were, we would get more serious as we age. Sure, you are supposed to obtain a certain level of seriousness as an adult, but once you get there, you’re supposed to stop and if you get obsessed with it, you’re just acting like an ass. But we don’t get more serious as we age. We get more casual and carefree.
These people I mentioned are simply insecure about being mature adults, so they overcompensate for going overboard. Every time you see someone who is overcompensating for any quality, there’s a good bet that they are insecure about it. If you’re secure, you don’t need to overcompensate!
Why do people become less serious as they get older? I’m not sure. Notice I said less serious, not less childish.
Childishness is pretty much out if you’re an adult, though lovers often act this way or at least that has been the case with my girlfriends. The more in love with each other you are, the more silly and childish you act with each other at least when you’re alone. Being in love is fun. It’s not just this wonderful, fulfilling experience. It’s also a blast. It’s like a wild party every day, at least while the “wild love” phase lasts for at most a couple of years at the beginning.
You need to have a certain level of maturity though. One gag I do is a put a pen in my mouth and make it hang down vertically from my lips. It looks completely idiotic. However a woman I knew to told me to stop doing it and implied it was childish. This chick wanted to marry me! She was 27 and I was in my 50’s. Later I did it in front of my father and he gave me the same attitude of:
“Hey that’s childish.”
There’s also a good feeling when, as an adult, you start feeling like one and trying to act the part. It’s like you’ve accomplished something, and in a way you have. You’re now on a higher level and you’re trying to take care of yourself so you don’t make bad mistakes and get fired, arrested, or have other very bad things happen to you.
I do feel that a lot of adults take life way too seriously and get upset, annoyed, or offended at the tiniest little things. C’mon people! Life’s not that big of a deal! We’re all dead in the end anyway, so why the long face and the ultra-serious bullshit? Why get offended at every other thing someone says? Is it really necessary?
What they’re doing is overcompensating. They’re trying to prove their adults by going completely overboard on the “adult” thing. Everything you do is “immature” and “not grown up.” They demand that everyone around them act like an adult at all times. You better be moved out of your parents’ house too, even if you’re at university.