Americans have a bizarre way of championing aggressive behavior.
Look at how readily we fire people in this country. I’d make a terrible boss because it would be very hard for me to fire anyone. If someone had a problem, I’d probably give them a few chances and warn them.
At all the jobs I’ve ever worked, people were fired instantly for the tiniest little things, and the managers seemed to take sadistic delight in this.
I was on a forum once where they were discussing an article about why workers get fired in the US. The Europeans were stunned and kept saying, “You get fired for this rinky-dink, petty-ass bullshit? What kind of a country are you, anyway?” The Americans seemed nervous and were squirming around in their answers.
I’m also convinced that few people get fired for cause. Americans think this is always the case, as they think this mysterious “incompetent worker” is everywhere. 90
For instance, American women see aggressiveness as masculine. If you’re not aggressive, you’re a puss, and she won’t respect on some level.
Of course if you’re a passive, withdrawing, follower-not-a-leader Chad like me, you still get laid a lot because of that damned pretty face and maybe some great Game, but they can’t fuck you all the time, and sometimes when they take a break from fucking you, they will contemptuously attack your lack of masculinity. Speaking from experience here.
I loved the sex but didn’t appreciate the attacks on my masculinity much as, like so many passive, withdrawing, follower-type men, I definitely see myself as a masculine man.
A gay man once noted that even what he called “feminine” men – quiet, shy, passive, follower types – had what he called “a soft masculinity” about them. That rang so true with me! Of course! No woman will ever see that. I’m not sure if straight men will. Gay men are completely outside of the masculinity game and have no skin in that contest, so they can be completely objective. It often takes a complete outsider to look at a situation most logically. Once you’re wrapped up in the issue in some way or other, your objectivity tends to land in the trash.
I’m convinced that American women only want hypermasculine men. They simply will not tolerate anyone else. I’ve come to this conclusion very late in life, and it’s very depressing because I’m not that way at all. I’m convinced that I’m right though. Some women dress it up in evolutionary psychology arguments. This may be so but it doesn’t make life any more pleasant for us passive men.