Polar Bear: I recall Estonians being high in Eastern Hunter Gatherer. Russians had a strong presence in Estonia last I checked. I would say, like Finns, they look damn White today. A very blonde nation, the blondest mother of blondes.
Those people are some of the Whitest of White White White White people I’ve ever seen. I’ve seen photos of groups of Estonian young adults. Blond hair and blue eyes everywhere!
I dated a half Finnish/half Russian (American) woman once. 18 year old girl. Blond and blue, pale skin! She was from North Dakota, where it just so happens that there are a number of Finns! And she was damn smoking hot, man. Like model good looks! She was at least half-smart, too. She found out I had a main girlfriend at the time, and she was The Other Woman. Why?
Because I told her, like an idiot. Back then I was young and I used to tell women I was dating if I already had a main woman. Doesn’t work! They all want to be the main woman. And they all say they want to be the only woman or they only date one person at a time.
They don’t like being The Other Woman. I’ve had relationships like that that stretched on for a year or so, but one of the women used to complain, “I’m The Other Woman.” She didn’t like it! I suppose there are women who will go for it. Men do have mistresses after all. It’s just that I’ve never had any luck in this area.
But then I’m not a serious scumbag when it comes to women. I am a scumbag, of course. That goes without saying. I’m just not a serious, huge scumbag. I’m not as cold as a lot of guys. I can’t believe how cold some men are to women! There are lots of cold things they do with regard to women that I just can’t pull off.
I’m too soft and sensitive! I just can’t handle being too evil with women. My body rebels against it. I can try to maybe make my mind go in some really sleazy direction regarding women, but my body will start to rebel and get very uncomfortable and anxious and try to pull me away.
Bottom line is I’m too much of a nice guy to be too much of a scumbag. And yeah, you can be a scumbag and a nice guy at the same time, of course. I can’t understand why people think this isn’t possible. What do they think intrapersonal conflict is all about? You can run opposite emotions at the same time in your body all the time if you try.
It’s just that being polar opposites, they will start to clash at some point and you get “war in your head.” So how do you know what your true feelings are? Your true feelings will be shown to you by your body. You can try with your mind to do all sorts of sleazy stuff, but if it goes against your own morals (the nice guy part), you will feel it with your body. If you are trying to make your body go in some direction it does not want to go, it will start pulling you away, and you will feel a lot of discomfort and anxiety.
In these cases, you need to listen to your body. That’s where your real feelings lie – in your body. Your body doesn’t lie to you in that sense. Your body doesn’t give you feelings that are not genuine. It’s your mind that does that.
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Exactly how I feel.