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Very good article. I am a straight female who had many many gay male friends. Many were entertaining and fun but the amount of narcissistic abuse I have experienced has been overwhelming. I finally cut them off and reading this makes sense to me. They are all the same person. They are all predictable, pompous, and self indulgent. Now that I see the truth, it is hard to see how much of the world they have manipulated as narcissists would.
I recently received the comment above on this older article about gay men and narcissism. This woman agrees with me. I’m sorry she had such a negative experience with gay men, as I wish gay men all the best.
The article below asks an odd question. Is there something inherently narcissistic about male homosexuality. That is there is some basic about the nature of male homosexuality that Nature simply decides to pair it up with narcissism for whatever reason?
There Is a Strong Link Between Narcissism and Male Homosexuality
Polar Bear: I suspect some gay men are just obsessed with themselves.
The link between male homosexuality and narcissism is as old as Time itself and has been remarked on endlessly. Perhaps many things have basic Characters or Principles, not just the main races or the (only) two genders but also, say, gay men and lesbians. Anyway, there is classic Gay Male Personality that is stable over time. Go back and read the old psychoanalytic literature about male homosexuality. They thought it was a mental disorder at the time, in part because it actually does look like one. Instead of a disorder, I think it is a “syndrome.” A syndrome with some predictable characteristics and a classic personality structure.
But those old articles are amazing because they could have been written yesterday. I remember I talked to my paternal grandmother a few times about gay men. She was born in the 1890’s and died in the 1990’s. How much does someone who grew up during World War 1 know about gay men? But the things she said about them would have been noted by a sociologist studying West Hollywood in 1984. There’s a basic Gay Male Personality, and it’s relatively timeless like so many things about us two-legged monkeys.
No one quite knows why gay men are so narcissistic. Hypothesis: Gay men have cocks and a male body. Gay men are turned on by cock and male bodies. So gay men are in love with themselves, and in a sense, when they fuck, are they literally fucking themselves also?
Curiously, there’s no link between lesbianism and narcissism, possibly because females are just not that narcissistic. The correlate of narcissism in the Female Character is “solipsism.” Until you figure out that females are solipsistic at their core, raw, primal nature, you will always have an incomplete picture of them.