I used to go to the local store that was owned by Arab Yemenis. They come from an extremely patriarchal culture where the men rule and the women stay out of the public eye or else. There was one father my age (a very dirty old man – as dirty as I am or worse), his sons, and their friends ranging from 16-40. All of them talked to me all the time.
Unlike in the US, in that culture, a 16 year old boy can talk to a 55 year old man because no one is gay or even suspected to be so. Both are part of a Super ManWorld they’ve got over there, a world of men where all males are part of the exalted Brotherhood of Males, and age means nothing.
You see pictures of the Arab world and even Arab little boys and teenage boys are often seem with adult men of all ages, even elderly men. No one cares. They’re all part of tribe – the tribe of men. And they don’t have weird Western anxieties about homosexuality. Sometimes I try to talk to high school boys about this or that – I saw some walking to school the other day, and I asked them if school was back in session, considering the COVID problem, and they acted like I was some weird gay man who was going to try to fuck them. It’s so weird. I’m not even gay! I guess Pedo Hysteria has hit high school boys too. So pathetic.
You see in the Yemeni Arab world there is no such thing as male homosexuality. Doesn’t exist. All men are considered straight until proven otherwise (which is the only attitude about men that makes any sense and used to be the case before ~1980), and you damn well better have some good evidence. In that culture, you can’t even ask a man if he’s oriented that way. What a ridiculous question! You want a punch in the face?
If you are not seen with a woman, not dating, not getting lucky, or just single, they don’t really care, especially if there’s evidence got women in the past. It really helps if you act like a man and walk the walk and talk the talk. There’s a notion that this guy’s straight but he’s just not getting lucky. Because any masculine man without a woman is straight and he’s just not getting lucky. Or maybe he hates women. Which, in that culture, is considered a reasonable and even comical reason for a man never marrying.
This Western idea that a man who’s not seen dating women for a while is obviously gay is nonexistent because as I said, there’s no such thing as male homosexuality. One time I was going through a long unlucky streak and I joked to the old man that maybe I should consider guys just to get my rocks off. At first he looked stunned and then he started laughing his ass off at me like I was the most idiotic object of ridicule around. He couldn’t stop laughing. “Do it,” he said. “Go ahead and do it.” And then he laughed at me some more.
You see, homosexuality is so beyond the pale and considered nonexistent that if any man seems like he might be that way even a bit, he’s pretty much the laughingstock of the town. You’re the biggest fool around. You’re ridiculous. You’re fall on the floor laughing moronic. I figure that treatment of ridicule is probably what keeps those men from doing that in first place, plus probably most men over there just aren’t very faggy in the first place due to the extreme patriarchal and homophobic culture.
I have no idea if there are gay men in Yemen. But I imagine you could wander around the ManWorld there without seeing a single one or having one single man flirt with or hit on you. Which would be a welcome respite from the fagged-out West in my opinion. Not that biological gay men should be hated for being gay. They should not; it’s an immoral act. Nevertheless, most if not all straight men are homophobic, often very homophobic because homophobia is part of normative masculinity (now referred to as toxic masculinity) in our country, a norm that most straight men try to live up to because failure to do so is so frowned upon.
In other words, while we go out of our way not to hate gay men, we straight men still very much dislike the very idea of male homosexuality and especially gay male sex, which is sickening to us. I imagine most straight men, me included, would be perfectly happy if we could wave a magic wand and make it so no more biological gay men were created.
Men will always do this sort of nonsense for all sorts of other reasons, but those men are not actually gay in a biological sense. They’re just straight men doing some weird, stupid shit if you ask me. Weird, stupid shit that they need to stop doing as soon as possible if they want me to give them the goddamned time of day. I’ve seen enough situational homosexuality for 20 lifetimes. I’ve had quite enough of that bullshit. For God’s sake, if you can’t get a woman, jack off, dammit! Don’t go fuck a guy! What the Hell’s the matter with you? What is your major malfunction?
Some Yemeni men are openly homophobic, but to most, it’s simply a subject that is too absurd and ridiculous to discuss. I did talk to one man in his 30’s about it, and he acted like it was the weirdest thing he ever heard. He was grinning and laughing the whole time but he had this mystified look on his face. It was both comical and unfathomable.
He was genuinely baffled about how they could possibly like men and mostly how they could possibly not like women. To him it was just all too weird. He acted like they were aliens. Most straight men feel this way. We get it. Guys want to fuck guys, ok. Men will fuck anything, probably a hole in a wall if you greased it up. But how on Earth could a man possibly not be attracted to women? I thought that again today at the supermarket where I ran into a couple of women with really nice, big tits. Of course I looked at them by instinct but then I thought, “How on Earth could gay men not be turned on by this? Are they aliens?” It’s not so much hate as sheer, utter befuddlement. We truly don’t get it.