With a lot of us men, even those of us who may be wimpy, soft, or not particularly masculine, it’s as much of an insult to attack our masculinity as it is any he-man, but people can’t seem to figure that out. That’s probably because our internal sense of ourselves as masculine men is different from the image we are putting out there to the world. I’ll wager that most men have an internal view of themselves as masculine men no matter what they act like on the outside.
Women will never understand this, but none of them ever understand men very well anyway. I will say that after age 40, a lot of women start growing a brain and finally figuring us out. I guess after decades of observation, the trends become clear. I think the problem is that we men are not a pretty picture in a lot of ways.
The truth about us men is cruel, brutal, unpleasant, awful, and very hard to swallow. Further, it smashes a lot of women’s fairy tale dreams about us. They want to love us but they can only love us if we fit this fairy tale dream world version of ourselves they’ve set up. The truth about us would crush their dreams and break their hearts. A lot would probably just go lesbian separatist. I think by age 40, a lot of women have just decided that they’re heterosexual, they love us no matter what, that we do have our good sides, at least collectively, and they just accept reality. Men are men, sad but true.