There are all these racist Whites who claim that their experiences with Blacks are usually negative and hostile. I don’t like to blame people for their own rejection, but these people are super-racists. Do they bury that when they deal with a Black person? Or do they just let it all hang out. I worked in Black schools for many years.
I usually tried to get any negative thoughts or feelings about Blacks (of course I have them too) out of my head when I went in to teach them. It wasn’t hard to feel good about Black teachers, administrators and even campus cops. I never saw any cases of them acting like “niggers.” They weren’t even “incompetent,” a line you hear all the time. You have to get advanced degrees to even get a job like that and then you have to take some pretty hard tests to get out (CBEST). In other words, most of the incompetents are weeded out right away.
I’d clear my mind and try to only have positive thoughts towards these people. It wasn’t a lie and they deserved it anyway. But that’s how you get along with people like that. Even if you have a class full of ghetto Blacks who might not act real fantastic, as long as they are halfway civilized, it’s pretty easy to just think positive thoughts about them. You can’t go into an environment like that thinking, “Goddamn these niggers.”
It’s just not going to work. This gets a lot harder in middle school and elementary school where so many of them act bad. But they didn’t all act bad. I even used to go out and buy tacos for my class for the kids who didn’t get free lunch (and they had no money for lunch anyway). I bought it for the cool ones, and they weren’t rare. Even in wild middle school classes, I’d try to focus on the ones who acted good and just think positive thoughts towards them.
I can’t help but think these racists’ racist feelings towards Blacks are obvious when they deal with Blacks and the Blacks just throw it right back at them. My experience was if you treat Black people with “unconditional positive regard,” they’re quite positive right back to you.