His attitude, like that of all irritable people, is that I am the problem, but I assure you that I am one of the easiest people to get along with you will ever meet. There’s hardly a less irritable person than me. Irritable people say it’s all about you and make you question yourself. They say you’re a bad person and that’s why they are in such a foul mood. Obviously they are projecting. They’re also seriously gaslighting. Gaslighting and projecting are in fact essential features of any irritable person.
I’ve thought about this my whole life, and with people who are generally irritable – it’s not about you, trust me. You’re not doing anything to set them off in most cases because most of the time they pick on soft, nice, innocent people because they think they won’t fight back. It doesn’t matter what you say or do when they are around. There’s no way to do and say things that won’t make them irritable. Just about everything you say and do will make them irritable.
All irritable people are bullies, face it. All humans are irritable now and then, but for the chronically irritable, they can all drop dead today, and I won’t bat an eyelash. In fact I will probably throw a party. These people have been beating me up my whole life, and I never did a damn thing to any of them. I’m sure there is a special place in Hell for them too. If not, I will talk to the Devil and make arrangements for some nasty lodging for these human monsters.
You can’t do anything about an irritable person. I had a girlfriend who was a monster half the day and then turned very nice for the later half of the day. It wasn’t anything I did. She just beat up on me. She was also insanely in love with me but flashed hot and cold, love and hate, like the worst of them. This crazy bitch just came to the website, believe it or not. Five or six years later, and the bitch still can’t leave me alone. In other words, she’s still stuck to me in some sort of a way.
For those first half of the days, which I endured two Hellish weeks of, I tried everything I could think of.
Silent treatment? No effect. In fact, it made her more mad.
Saying stupid stuff like Yep, Nope, or Ok to everything they said? Nope. Same thing, made her more mad.
Ignoring them? Nope. Once again, made her more mad.
Getting angry back at them (I did this a lot)? Nope. That made her much worse and then she would either shoot nuclear weapons at my Achilles Heels (I call that “trying to get murdered”) or play the cards she was holding me, as she had a lot of power over me as a visitor 3,000 miles from home.
She threatened to throw me out probably at least 50 times, if not more. After a while, I was absolutely terrified of her. She was totally clueless as to why, and once she said, “You’re not happy at all here…” No shit, bitch! Gee, I wonder why that is!
Also, every time she attacked me for no reason, which was 500-1,000 times a day, and I called her on it, she said she “fighting back.” But I hadn’t done the slightest thing to her. Irritable people will do this. They’re never the aggressor. You are. Every bullying act is a retaliation for something you did, except you didn’t do anything.
The bully’s always on the defense. He’s always fighting back against his poor, nice victim, who actually has never done a damn thing to the bully except fight back now and then. I was stunned at how someone could attack me for no reason 1,000 times a day for no reason at all and call all of these unprovoked attacks “fighting back,” when in most cases, I hadn’t done one thing. Of course she was clueless about her irritability. All irritable people are always clueless about their nature.
The nature of irritability and frankly anger itself is that it blinds itself to the user. Ever met an angry person who admitted that they were angry? It’s not that common. Actually if you confront an angry person and tell them how angry and hostile they are acting, that makes them really bad because for some reason they want to hide this anger from themselves, and you just blew the cover off the charade.
Ever known someone who hates you? First of all, it’s hard to figure out because they often don’t come out and say anything. Often you have to analyze their behavior over a period of time to see an “Aha!” pattern when you finally figure out the masked, encoded, and somewhat hidden behavior. I don’t recommend confronting any hater with the fact that they hate you. They never, ever, ever admit it, even when they know that they hate you.
I’m not sure why that is. Perhaps you are pointing out their assholery, and that is shameful to them. Also anger, hatred and of course defenses work best when they are somewhat subconscious, and when you bring deliberately hidden subconscious material to the surface, most people get angry because now their anger, hatred, or defenses don’t work so well anymore. You blew their cover. People don’t like that.
That’s the thing. With all irritable people, if you fight back against them, they just get more angry and will often try to punish you. If they have any power over you, they will threaten to wield it as all bullies do. So don’t let irritable people have power over you is the motto. Good luck with that! Right now it’s my landlord.
Why does the irritable person react with outrage and extreme aggression when the victim dares to fight back? What does a bully hate more than anything else? A victim who fights back. It’s a complete outrage and now they have to escalate to punish you for daring to fight back instead of sitting there and taking it like a good victim.
I’m not sure why this is. First of all, irritable people are always bullies, 100% of the time. It’s simply a form of bullying, and that’s pretty shitty right there. When the victim fights back, now the bullying doesn’t work so well. The bully wants to have it where he is beating the crap out of you and you are sitting there taking, crying and suffering and begging him to stop. This delights the bully as it brings out the sadism in him. And bullying is always sadism. It can’t be anything else.
Now the victim’s fighting back. And the bullying is so longer such fun because you can’t be sadistic anymore. Instead you have to go to war. And that makes the bully very angry. Also you have upset the master-slave dynamic that is always behind all bullying. Dominance and submission, thy name is bullying. He’s always the slavemaster cracking the whip, and you are always the slave bending in the sun, taking the blows.
When you fight back, you have now destroyed the dominance-submission, master-slave dynamic that the sadistic bully loves so much. You just overturned his apple cart. You blew up his whole game. He has a slave rebellion on his hands. Nothing makes a bully as angry as a slave rebellion. Also now he is going to have to fight, and he might get injured. It’s war now and war isn’t much fun. Most people would rather beat up people who don’t fight back than fight a war. The former is so much more fun.
Anyway the slave rebellion is so outrageous that the bully has to reach into his bag of tricks to figure out how he has power over you and threaten you by applying this power, which will cause massive trouble for you.
If you don’t shut, he’s going to leave you. Throw you out of his house. Fire his ingrate ass. Reveal your dirtiest secrets to the people who will be most outraged by them. The bully is now shooting nuclear weapons at your worst Achilles Heels. As I said earlier, that’s called “trying to get murdered.” I never do this to any man. First of all it is a completey gay and pussy, dirty and girlish way to fight. A man fights man to man, mano a mano. A man is honorable, even in war. He fights honorable and respects the outcome of a fair fight.
Second of all, I don’t want to get killed! I never accuse any man of being gay. I never attack any man’s masculinity. I know full well that many men will hit you over this, and a number of them will even murder you. So for me to do this, I would be trying to get murdered. So the bully, when faced with a slave rebellion, counterattacks with such force that he’s for all intents and purposes trying to get murdered.
Now I have no particular sympathy for fucktards, male or female, who try to get murdered and then get beat up or even killed. They were trying to get murdered and got what they wanted, right? What’s there to be sad about?
I’m also sometimes quite happy when bullies die. I regularly dance on their graves. Why is this a sad occasion? It’s time to throw a party. A worthless piece of shit person died and now the lousy world is a slightly better place. Hell more of them should die. The more of them that die, the more pleasant the planet will be.