I have a very pretty, “pretty boy”, feminine, even girly face. I don’t work out but it’s not necessary.
I used to get me called gay or assumed to be gay a lot. Perhaps it’s down to that pretty boy face. I’ve even had people say, “You look like a fag.” A SE Asian women once insisted that I was gay because “I looked gay.” I guess I have Gay Face.
I had a gay reader who talked about Gay Face a lot. He said I didn’t have Gay Face but he did think I was Jewish. Ok maybe I have Jew Face too. Who knows? Fine, I have a Jew face. I don’t care about that. Just give me the money, that’s all I want. It does seem like a lot of gay men have Gay Face. They are pretty feminized as far as men go, even down to hip ratio, and a man with a feminized body may well have a feminized face. But a lot of us straight men are “pretty boys” too. I still get called “pretty boy,” even as recently as two years ago. I was 60 years old and this woman was calling me a pretty boy!
Frankly, I never understood why people ever thought I was gay. Never made any sense to me.
Some people said it’s because of the way I walk, talk, sit, stand, hold a coffee cup, etc. So they are describing an effeminate man. But I see effeminate men and I think that behavior is horrible. I try very hard to not act that way because I think it’s horrible. It makes me pretty angry that people think I act like those guys.
I have been told though that I’m not effeminate at all. Instead it’s just that I’m “not macho.” I’ve had a lot of pretty boy friends who were not effeminate at all, but they were definitely “not macho,” and people assumed they were gay all the time. It was very annoying as when we were out together, people would assume that we were gay lovers. And they weren’t very nice about it either. It was either ridicule or outraged contempt. This was 40 years ago. This is how people reacted to male homosexuality 40 years ago, and these people were hipsters and scenesters.
I attracted whole armies of gay men. I’m the biggest queerbait that ever lived.
But women and girls have been going crazy for me since age 18, and it’s mostly about my Looks.
I have always thought that it was my great Game skills that got me all those women, but one day I talked to a “Looks Theorist.” He was pushing a theory that Looks was the most important factor in attracting women. He told me that he’s read me and he knows that I think it’s my personality and Game that got women, but he thinks it was all just down to Looks.
At first I thought, “Oh, this is nonsense. Everyone knows women don’t care anything about Looks.” Idiotically, I have spent most of my life believing that silly lie. I think if I would have incorporated that “women place Looks first” mindset when young, I would have done better. I still did great but you know, no matter how well you did anything, you always think you could have done better. Or at least a competitive bastard who wants it all like me thinks that.
I was also insulted as this implied that it was luck of the genes and not my skill at creating killer personality and Game that got women. So I didn’t deserve the success. I just lucked out in the genetic lottery. But the more I thought about it, the more I thought that he may well just be right. Now I subscribe to the Black Pill, which says Looks > Everything Else when it comes to getting women.
Game does help in getting women, but Game alone ain’t worth a hill of beans. I know think most of the women who fucked me in the past fucked a pretty face, and even most of the ones who fell in love with me fell in love with a pretty face. That’s bit hard to swallow as once again, it implies there was no skill on my part, just the luck of the genes.
As long as you are not a complete autist, the pretty boy look – assuming you are in the top 10-20% of men – can potentially kick ass. You can easily end with a 3-figure laycount if you work at it. Sure, you look like a fag, but if you have some basic skills, you can start racking up the women pretty quickly, and once every sane person sees that they forget all about the “he looks like a fag” BS and make friends with Chad Thundercock. Pretty boy Chad Thundercock, sure, but at the end of the day, all Chads are still named Chad and nothing else, and that’s all that matters.
On the other hand, many very goodlooking men do not do particularly well, mostly down to shyness, anxiety disorders, etc. Shyness is a killer for any man, even Chad. I’ve known total Chads who were literally 40 year old virgins. Psychologically, they were wrecked. So nervous that it was painfully obvious and they were essentially nonfunctional.
3 thoughts on “PUA/Game: Women Necessarily Don’t Fall in Love with a Man as a Whole Person: They Often Just Fall in Love with a Pretty Face”
I don’t really agree. I think they dislike cowards and the weak. The strength is what they want.
Looks do matter to some degree, but to women it’s not the end-all/be-all. I’d say it’s a combination of looks and personality (i.e. confident/assertive) that does the trick. Being totally lacking in one of those areas is probably going to be a huge impediment. The perfectly-sculpted pretty boy with zero Game is at best going to have a small circle of attractive women who friendzone him (and maybe just assume he’s a faggot); he will be a perma-Beta Orbiter and probably grow to totally resent this lowly status.
I do have experiences similar to yours, though I’m guessing you’ve always had way more Game than I could ever muster. I have the pretty boy face in addition to being funny/clever/witty, and have gotten laid plenty of times from a good number of different women, yet I’ve always been to lazy and apathetic to chase them with much effort.
In fact I find most women to be totally boring/banal/vapid and not worth all the attention and effort it would take for me to pursue them enough to close the deal, so to speak. To chase a boring girl I’d have to devote a ton of mental energy to putting on a false front personality and effectively dumbing myself down for the express purpose of getting my dick wet a few times.
No thank you. Every moment devoted to that pointless endeavor is one less moment devoted to cultivating knowledge/wisdom and the learning of practical arts.
The totally-fucked state of the modern/contemporary courtship regime is probably a major contributing factor to why I’m unmarried and childless. Taking the above points into consideration, the age-old practice of arranged marriages doesn’t seem so bad after all.
I think being bad to the woman – as in cheating/lying can cement a situation leading to a breakup, affair or emotional affair. In that case, she might fall for a strong protector – while fantasizing that he has excellent morals, while probably he doesn’t – LOL.