Well, however long it takes to show her your a strong, confident replacement – while at the same time, softly showing her you’re really sorry and have changed. Anyway, experts advice a 30 to 45 day no-contact-rule. However, though, I don’t think everyone can do that, though, it’s advisable. Perhaps other sneaky tricks can do the job. Well, one way is by exploiting people your wife/girlfriend hates – in order to make yourself seem more confident. Well, this might only work after she’s already beat you up quite a bit – got her most fierce anger over with.
Myself, I wanted to do a 30/45 day no-contact thing -but she wouldn’t have it. Well, I am being a wuss in that I’m chicken to walk out – because I don’t believe she would come back. However, dating coaches strongly advise against it.