Jason: Well, my love loves her “other love” so much she smacked my head real hard while driving and called me a “punk ass bitch.”
@Jason has gotta leave this diabolical cunt. Any woman talks to me like that is likely to get knocked across the room. Or at the very least, I’ll threaten to do so.
@Jason: She’s cucking you. She’s breaking your balls and emasculating you. She doesn’t think you are masculine enough.
I’ve been through all this shit because even though I’m a Chad, I am a very passive, soft-voiced, even nice Chad. So I’ve had women beating up on me and kicking my ass exactly like this off and on all my life. I’ve also had 20 lifetimes worth of good times with them too, but I can’t deny the bad.
It wasn’t all bad. Some would emasculate me a bit, and then they’d never do it again and be pretty nice to me the rest of the time.
@Jason, you and I both, have to get women who are ok with our style of masculinity. I think you are a masculine guy on some level.
Most straight men are not truly effeminate. Even passive, quiet, soft men often have a “soft masculinity” about them that most people miss. Next time you see a man like that, study him and see if you can discern that “soft masculinity.” If you’re perceptive you can do it.
I thinking, well I’m hoping, that there are women out there who are ok with my and @Jason’s style of masculinity.
A recent girlfriend said, “You’re pretty masculine. Why do you think you’re not?” She had a dumbfounded look on her face. I believe that’s the only time a woman has called me masculine before. They’ve said other things. I’d had a doc remove a cyst from my ear and I guess I handled it pretty stoically. The nurse looked at me and said, “He’s tough.”
And most women nowadays act completely baffled when I tell them people used to think I was gay. They shake their heads and say, “I just can’t see it.”
I think I’ve been trying to act more masculine for some years now. It’s hard to do and it would take another post to explain how to do it. The trick is you have to force it so much that it doesn’t feel weird anymore. Eventually it will just go on automatic most of the time, and you won’t have to force it at all, or you can force it and look even more masculine than normal.
Unfortunately, you really can’t get too masculine, unless you’ve gone so overboard that you are hurting your health. At that point I’d advise toning it down.
But I still have women dumping me for not being masculine enough. A 29 year old hottie had a date with me and told a friend of mine, “He’s not a tough guy.” Well, this was a Chicana deep into barrio culture. Don’t even try for women like that. You’ll never measure up to those Mexican guys.
A 20 year old gorgeous Chinese woman, a multimillionaire, was ready to start dating me when she dumped me for “not being dominant enough.” I think she wanted an BD/SM type relationship. She was always calling me “sir,” and I don’t really like that too much. She asked me once, “Could I ask you to do something. When I start talking in a group of people, come up to me and whisper in my ear and tell me what a fool I am acting like and to knock it off.” Ok, this chick literally wanted to get treated like shit, right?
Last thing she said was, “Let me know when you want to act like a man. Then come back and talk to me.” Apparently I acted quite dominant for several hours after I first met her. But then I couldn’t keep it up after that. It makes sense because that’s not really me. I can play that role but not for very long because it’s probably forced.
Women vary. They don’t all want hypermasculine men. I’d say most do, and women are way worse this way than they were in the 70’s and 80’s when it was perfectly acceptable to be soft or have a feminine side, hopefully if you balanced it out with a strong masculine side.
But women are retarded. A lot of them will see the feminine side and flip out. If women were sane and logical, they would see the feminine side but then they would also see the masculine side and how strong it was and decide that the man had both things going at the same time. But that’s too difficult for women’s tiny little pea brains. You’re asking them to think too much.
But nowadays things are very much worse. We’ve gone completely backwards. Why?!
If you’re not covered head to toe in tattoos, you’re not a man. Back then, everyone hated tattoos and only Marines, sailors, bikers and criminals had them. No decent man would get a tattoo and be a gross piece of shit lowlife criminal. And all women with tattoos were nothing but total whores, usually of the grossest, “biker chick” kind. At the very least they were complete sluts. That was like a repulsive, disgusting gutter slut. Like the women you see and say, “Ew!”
It seems to me that the requirements for masculinity have skyrocketed in the past decade or maybe 20 years. The stuff I got away with all the time back in the 70’s would immediately get me called faggot or gay nowadays. We hardly have any freedom or wiggle room at all anymore, and we had so much back then.
Things have shifted dramatically back to traditional, stupid masculinity at the same time as the lunatic SJW explosion when at least that part of society went wildly, blatantly faggy and lezzy, and that’s when they were not insisting that they actually were the damned opposite sex.
Isn’t that weird? While part of society is fagging out like maniacs, another part of society is manning up to the point of absurdity and throwing out all the progress we made in forming a broader view of masculinity so men could have some space to run free in it.
Someone needs to explain this to me.
Or is it because of the SJW explosion? The country is overrun with screaming SJW faggots, bull dykes and all sorts of other gender-bending freaks. Possibly the more gender-smashing deviants around, the more straight men have to crank up the masculine so as not to be called or considered gay.
Straight men really, really do not like people thinking they are gay, even if they are nice about it, and they often are. It’s especially painful coming from a woman. If I’m with a woman who thinks I’m really gay or even bi (that’s not 1% better), it would devastate me so much that I doubt if I could get it up. I can’t think of a worse way to be emasculated than to be called gay.
In that sense, I’ve always thought that masculinity was more of a negative identity than a positive one. When men act masculine, are they really yelling that they are something or instead are they yelling that they are not something? I think the latter, at least here in the US.
When men act masculine, are they really trying to out-masculine the other guys? A few dicks are, but most? Hell no. Stupid women think we are, but what the Hell do they know, anyway? In ManWorld, if you walk the walk and talk the talk, you’re masculine. The world of women demands so much more from us in terms of masculinity than our own gender does.
I’ve thought about it a long time, and I think when men act masculine, they are really screaming, “I’m not gay, dammit! I’m not a pussy! I’m not a wuss! I’m not a wimp!” The more masculine they act, the louder they are screaming that. Because if you act masculine enough, no sane person will call you any of those things. When I said sane people, obviously I didn’t include women because women aren’t sane. I have seen lunatic women “try to get murdered” by emasculating the most aggressive and dangerous men I’ve known.
Women break balls. They’ll break a sissy’s balls, sure. But they’ll also break the balls of the most masculine man on Earth, which I call “trying to get murdered.” Men know implicitly that attacking the masculine of most men, especially overtly masculine men, is insane, and if you do it, you’re either a huge badass or you have a death wish.
That’s one thing I never do. I never call guys gay either. I don’t want to get punched in the face because that’s what happens when you do that. Worse than that, plenty of men kill over insults like that. I’d prefer not to get murdered.
Apparently women, for some insane reason, don’t care whether they get murdered or not. I’m not sure how much sympathy I have for these women who doing the equivalent of jumping into tiger cages and pummeling the tiger. I’m supposed to feel sorry for her when she gets killed? Why? She tried to get murdered and guess what happened? She got murdered! I’d say she got what she wanted.