On the stupid Net, humblebragging is one of the worst sins. In the real world where things are actually real and not fake and make sense instead of being lies, humblebragging is the way to go.
When you do this, you are so humble about your achievements that you almost act like you are ashamed or embarrassed of them. Or you talk about your achievements, shrug, and discuss them inn the same tone as, “I just drank a glass of water,” like they were nothing. This enables you to brag and get away with it because most others won’t be offended by your behavior. There’s nothing wrong with humblebragging! It’s actually the way to do it.
Why brag in the first place? If you have achieved things that are exemplary or above the achievements of most people or if you were gifted with superior attributes, you have a right to talk about it. Especially your accomplishments. But a lot of us have achieved some pretty impressive stuff, so even discussing our accomplishments makes it seem like we are bragging.
That’s not fair! We have a right to discuss our legitimate accomplishments in life! But if you don’t want to get accused of bragging, humblebragging is a way to talk about superior attributes or accomplishments without seeming like you are bragging. People won’t feel angry, insulted, or humiliated when you discuss your positive attributes or achievements. Actually a lot of them will warm up to you and sympathize with your accomplishments, and you will even see a rise in their own self-esteem because they are reflecting yours and mirroring it.
This is a beautiful thing. You are sharing your high self-esteem with people. People will complement you without feeling insulted. They will sympathize with you. They will treat you like a hero but not in a groveling way. Instead they will get close to you and share your accomplishments with you. You will get a comradely admiration. If you do it right, you will trigger the same thing in them too, and then you will get “Yeah, we are a couple of winners, huh? You should be my wingman,” type thing.
When two people feel that they are both winners, things go smoothly, so there’s nothing wrong with thinking you’re a winner. The problem is when you think you’re a winner but other people are losers! The problem comes from your denigration of others, not your elevation of yourself, which is not mentally disordered, nor is it even abnormal!
Polar Bear: I consider myself handsome too.
We’re nothing but a bunch of hot guys here!
I actually believe you. Most men who are not goodlooking don’t go around saying that they are.
That’s fine, but what do other people say? That’s how you know if you are handsome or not. Screw your own opinions. Those are subjective. It’s fine to phrase it that way too, but I end up saying it a lot so I always put it on other people. I say “apparently I was handsome,” or “supposedly I was handsome,” when talking about the past. “Apparently I was handsome. People would not stop talking about it.” With regard to my looks now, I say, “I think my looks are shot, but women keep telling me I’m handsome. Whatever!”
Because I say this a lot, when you put it on other people, it doesn’t sound so much like bragging. When you say, “supposedly I was handsome,” or “apparently I was handsome,” it makes it seem like you have no idea whether you were goodlooking or not, but maybe you were because other people kept saying so. When I say I think my looks are shot, yet women say I’m not, but I think they’re crazy, it hardly sounds like bragging.
I also add in that this doesn’t make me better than one person on Earth because I did nothing to deserve this. It was simply given to me as a gift by God or genes or whatever. This makes me seem less arrogant.
I’m not saying you guys should do this. I am just saying why I do it the way I do. I’m very sensitive to being told I am bragging or narcissistic. Of course I am narcissistic but not to pathological degrees.
Narcissism, after all, is another word for self-esteem. High narcissism means you have high self-esteem. It’s generally seen as a sign of good mental health. It’s only when you get too much of a good thing and go over into Narcissistic Personality Disorder pathology that it’s a problem. Narcissism is something that needs to be roped in and controlled in my case. I am always doing things to lower my self-esteem and make me seem less arrogant. I don’t like to be arrogant because it makes other people feel like shit, and then I feel horribly guilty.
I actually thought I was handsome at the same time everyone else said I was. For some years there, I was shocked and stunned when I looked in the mirror. I could not believe how goodlooking I was! It was almost like it wasn’t me because I hadn’t been that way my whole life. Of course that everyone else was saying it too added weight to my views.
I wish I had figured out earlier in life how important looks are to women. Looks are really the main factor in whether a woman goes for you or not.
Goodlooking men have life dicked. Women pretty much throw themselves in your lap. Things happen to you that people think, “No way. That never happens to any man!” Or they think, “That only happens in pornos!” Reading the incel blogs and learning how lousy life is for unattractive men, I’ve grown more sensitive to this. I should have been a lot more aggressive back then based on the confidence my looks should have given me.
But back then people kept saying that Looks didn’t matter that much to women. They mattered to men of course, but to women, not so much. Personality, Money, Status, Power, Fame, and Game were what really mattered. I believed this too. Little did I know we were believing a big fat lie.