The Gay Politics branch of Identity Politics has a dirty little secret. Homosexuals are trying to increase their numbers. It makes sense. Hell, if were gay, I’d probably want to convert as many straight men as possible to bisexuality and this is exactly what the majority of gay men want to do. In my experience, this is why friendships between gay and straight men are not possible, even if you think it might be a good idea. They simply never stop trying to hit on you.
One of their lies is the “questioning” lie. There are gay, bisexual, pansexual, queer, and a score other micro-categories of deviates. And in this group they also put the “questioning.” These are people who are questioning whether they are gay or bi or not.
I think Gay Politics wants to encourage as many straight men as possible to “question” their sexual orientation. No straight man will conclude he is gay, but quite a few might conclude that they are some type of bisexual or that they like the idea of sex with men. I’ve already met some men like this, and it seems to be getting more common all the time. Mostly they seem to be interested in oral sex. In other words, I am seeing more straight men who like to suck cocks. Whatever.
Men who are into anal sex tend to be pretty damn bi or simply gay. That’s a bridge too far for most predominantly straight men. It’s the ultimate in emasculation.
I don’t think anyone goes round and round about their sexual orientation. Any gay man will tell you that all gay men know they are gay. The ones that don’t know are simply in denial. Period.
I work in mental health. I give a scale to my clients, and they instantly pick a number. It’s a great scale, better than the Kinsey scale.
I met three males who were not sure if they were gay.
One was a 15 year old boy, a client. He had strong attraction to men and zero to women, though he was attracted to one girl who looked like a boy. But that doesn’t count. I told him he was absolutely gay, to quit worrying and feel good about it, it was biological and unchangeable, and to go out and live the greatest gay life he can.
One was a 33 year old man. He was simply in denial about being gay, and he was trying to be with women. I listened to him tell me about what turned him on, and I flat out told him he was gay, and he needed to accept it, be happy, and go out and live the greatest gay life ever. He was a 25-75 on my scale, but nevertheless he had no real attraction to women at all.
The 25-75 score is not very instructive. This man told me:
- He never looked at woman. Not even one time.
- He never fantasized about having sex with women. Not even once.
- He never masturbated to fantasies of having sex with women. Never had either.
He had been closeted his whole life, so he had been hanging around with straight men all this time and pretending to be straight. But he told me hat when the other men talked about sex, he never joined in. Not even once. By the way, that’s a dead giveaway that a man is probably gay.
Another was a 35 year old man claiming to be bisexual. I figured him out real quick and told him he was hiding behind a bisexual label and in fact he was gay. For instance, his gay identity was progressing (this is how it works; it tends to grow greater with time), and now the only way he could have sex with his girlfriend was by looking at gay porn to get hard. Any man who has to do that is gay. Period.
He wanted to be a husband and father, and his family would disown him if they found out he was gay. That made me feel very sad.
He was with girlfriends but they were very angry about his “bisexuality”. I mean furious, crazy homophobic. This goes along with my experience.
Most straight women do not wish to date bisexual men, let alone gay men. I saw one forum with all young women, and 19 out of 20 said they would never date a bisexual man. And you can see on the Internet many bisexual men complaining that women refuse to go out with them on account of their orientation.
This may be changing somewhat in this newer generation of women, Millennials and Gen Z’ers. I have a 31 year old female friend who has a crush on a famous bisexual man at the moment. She’s dated other bisexual men, and she doesn’t mind at all.
I think women dating bisexual men is a health hazard, sorry. They’re much more likely than straight men to have all sorts of STD’s, and many bisexual men have transmitted HIV to the women in their lives. This is particularly the case in the Black community where most gay and bisexual men are closeted and the “down low” phenomenon is huge.
I flat out told him he was gay, not bi, his relationships with women will never work, and he needs to quit dating women (it’s bad for both him and the women). He needed to accept being gay and and be happy.
I also told him:
“You know what? You being gay is the greatest thing in the whole world!”
“Why?” he asked.
“Because it’s you being you. You’re not trying to be something that you’re not. And you being you is the greatest thing in the whole world.”
You can see here what a horrific homophobe I am, huh? I swear my critics are morons.
I sent him to a site perfect for people like him called Empty Closets, and he seemed to start coming out a bit. I saw his first couple of posts there, and I felt very happy for him.
As I said, all these men who “can’t figure out if they are gay” are just in denial. Real simple. I don’t blame them, but closets are for clothes.