Women always talk about wanting “commitment.” But women are hardly honest about a single thing they say in the Gender Wars. There’s too much at stake.
Dated a lot of women and I’ve hardly met one who cared about commitment. Don’t think it was ever mentioned to me once. But one thing I noticed over and over was that the most important thing in the relationship to the woman was love – that she was in love with me.
Beyond that and interacting with many women over the years, it’s obvious that the primary female drive is for love. They often idealize this is preposterous ways that never make any sense:
Woman: “That’s not true love…that’s not real love…that’s not love, that’s infatuation, etc.”
Me: “What’s not true love?”
Woman: 100 million completely arbitrary, idiotic, unfalsifiable, often tautological, and completely unscientific notions, such as, “True love is for life,” and other nonsense.
There’s a good reason for most of women’s ridiculous and irrational behavior, and the good reason behind this is that women dislike the idea of love being trivialized.
Why? Because several decades of studying women have shown me that the primary female drive is for love. In a sense, this is what their whole life is wrapped up in. Sure, they have all these other things, career and whatnot, going on, but all of that pales compared to the primary drive or goal of a woman’s life: to achieve love and to be in love.
Even with women (18-28) who say they don’t know what love is or they’ve never experienced love, the primary drive for love is there. These often young women are confused because they think they have not experienced real love yet.
Having been involved with some young women like that recently who were obviously crazy in love with me for a while (but then of course denied it later), it was clear that they simply had not developed a schema of what love was that they could plug their feelings into.
Also, I think they were looking for the fireworks, sparks, and “Hollywood love affair of the century” notion of love, and most love isn’t really that intense. They fall in love, but it’s not the explosions and fireworks kind they expect, so they say it’s not love. They’re wrong of course, but women are wrong about a million things.
Some seek refuge in a ridiculous concept called Aromanticism. I had a female best friend who insisted she was aromantic. Studying the concept, I decided she could not possibly be one, plus the whole concept was a bit silly they way it was laid out. Supposedly there are all these folks out there who desperately want love, but they have a genetic or biological inability to fall in love which prevents them from doing so. That’s nonsense. There are no such people.
Real aromantics are just cold fish who have chosen to not experience love because, well, because they’re cold fish! It’s a disorder of choice like so of these stupid new Millennial identities, most of which don’t even exist in any real way.