Alpha Unit: People tend to be possessive of the men or the women of their group. It’s been observed across races.
I’ve seen complaints from both American and non-American Black people about interracial relationships.
I understand where this possessiveness comes from, but it’s possible to get over it. Let grown people date and marry whoever they want.
Yeah, when I dated Black women, I caught some serious shit from Black men. I remember once they glared at me and really hated the fact that I was with this Black chick. It honestly freaked me out pretty bad since they were so up front about it.
The attitude was a mixture of hostility and puzzlement or bafflement, like I was weird in some disturbing way, and they couldn’t understand me. Sort of like, “What the Hell are you doing, man?! WTF? You’re fucking weird, man! What’s your problem?” Or maybe, “The nerve of you!” Something like that.
I asked her about it and she said:
“They don’t like that.”
“You mean a White guy with a Black woman?”
“Yes, Black men don’t like it.”
“I don’t know. They just don’t. It’s just the way they are. They’re like that.”
“They think I’m stealing one of their women?”
On the other hand, I would be out with a Black chick and see young Black women, and they seemed to be giving the Black woman a thumbs-up. “You go, girl! Good job, snagged yourself a White man.” Almost like I was a prize. It was an odd reaction but it made me feel pretty good. I’m not sure if Black women see White men are prizes. Apparently some of them do.