Intolerable soft guys would be ones that don’t work and are slobs. Tolerable ones would be described as below:
Feminine men do not act gay. They are just soft, have soft voices, are gentle, sensitive, often pretty, maybe thin, don’t work out, like to read, write, play music, cook, etc. Maybe really into clothes. A lot of them feel very close to women because their brain is sort of like a woman’s brain. This enables them to understand women pretty well and connect with women in a strong way.
They are liked by most people – once out of chicken-phobic middle/high school.
Anyway, in grade school a lot of those guys can put on a two-show act where they might play sports (or be some daredevil jackass) and then part-time act all “sensitive guy”.