Game/PUA: A Bit about the Finer Points of Social Rules and Communication

SHI: How’s it going nowadays with your rotten little SJW fruitcakes, the ones with a major entitlement acquired after a lifetime of feminist brainwashing?

Oh, I am going to a new Fagbucks now and everything is pretty much all right.

If People Act Shitty, Act Shitty Right Back to Them

If they’re shitty to me, I’m kind of shitty right back to them. I am doing this in other places too. Sometimes I even get aggressive with people. It’s weird. Some people just totally back down and kiss my ass when I get aggro with them. So weird. I’m usually scared to fight back against people because I am afraid of a scene or a ban, so I don’t do it, but it really does work. You really do need to fight back against people!

And I am learning new social rules bullshit. I mean you keep learning this stuff your whole life, really. I had blown off a lot of the rules that I thought were moronic (most of them) my whole life, but I am finding that life really does go a lot smoother if you follow more of those rules.

The rules are extremely subtle and hard to figure out, but if you’re smart, you can do it. Now, I am quite socially aware, but I can see how an autist would go completely insane with this stuff. I mean they cannot even understand normal human communication much less this weird undercover, near-subliminal stuff.

Be Careful How You Talk to or Even Look at Young Women, Especially if You Are Older

One thing I am doing is that I am being very careful about talking to young women.

How to Look at Hotties without Staring

Or even looking at them. I don’t even look at them all that much. And I am careful about looking at the baristas. If there’s one that’s hot, I look at her a bit, then I look away for a bit, then I look back for a bit. That’s the only way to do it. Otherwise you are staring. I learned this from a PUA site post on social communication. This actually works pretty well.

Or you can look above them or to the side of them. You can’t see them perfectly because you are not focusing on them, but you can see them fairly well. You can actually look at a whole room this way by just looking at a spot on the wall over everyone’s heads.

You can’t see anyone well but you can still actually see everyone in the whole room all at once in a panorama view albeit a bit off-focused, so if anybody did anything odd, you would see it right away. I guess cops, soldiers, etc. need to monitor groups or crowds like this.

You can meditate or just let your mind go blank while you look at the spot on the wall. I guess some Normies might think it’s weird, but so what? Fuck em. I mean people will throw you out of a store for looking at a spot on a wall and meditating? WTF. What, you hurt the wall’s feelings?

Wait for an IOI, Especially with Young Women

With young women, I don’t say one word to them unless they give me an IOI. They have to look at me and smile, maybe even more than once. If I say something and get a cold response, I don’t say anything more.

Punish People for Blatant Assholery

I was next to a hostile young woman who refused to look at me the other day. I was in front of her in line. I deliberately took my time in line putting my stuff away very slowly so the bitch would have to wait extra longer. She and the barista both gave me these very puzzled looks. I just smiled a bit to myself and thought, “Hey bitch! If you took that hate look off your stupid face, I would have put my stuff away a lot quicker!”

Don’t Even  Look at Bitches Who Hate You No Matter How Hot They Are

The young women who hate me, I mostly just refuse to look at them, or I look to the side of them with this really evil, mean look. I’m not looking at anything really – just a window or nothing at all a bit to the side of or over their heads. It looks like you are looking angrily at a window or wall, and no one really cares. But they seem to get the message.

Before, I kept looking at a chick if I thought she was hot even if she hated me, which many of them do. Now I don’t do that anymore.

Beware of the “Unconscious Cope” We Men Have about Women

Also, if I get what might be an IOI – like a stare – I think again and consider maybe it wasn’t done for a friendly reason, so I am not interpreting everything as an IOI anymore.

This is a good idea as we men have unconscious bias which is sort of an unconscious cope where we always tend to think positively in terms of “this chick likes me” no matter what she does. I think our minds just do this unconsciously as some unconscious cope or optimism bias, but it pays to be aware of it because it makes you think women like you even if they don’t, and it misconstrues innocuous or even unfriendly behavior as friendly. Which results in creep-shaming.

To Women, Every Comment, Remark, Question, or Joke Means, “Want to Fuck?”

I complimented a barista on her makeup the other day as she had changed it. She took this as a come-on. We’ve known each other for years.

She’s fat and I wouldn’t fuck her with my worst enemy’s dick, but you say hi to a stupid woman and to them that means, “Want to fuck?” It’s really narcissistic and self-centered of them to assume that all these guys want to fuck them, when half of us wouldn’t touch their fat asses with a 10 foot pole and an 11 foot extension.

Now that she did that (interpreting my makeup comment as an inappropriate come-on), I am cold her to, often refuse to tip her, don’t look at her, and definitely won’t say anymore stuff about clothes or makeup.

Make a Point of Acting Particularly Friendly to People Who Are Nice to You, Especially in Front of Hostiles, to Send a Message to the Hostiles “Look what happens when you act nice”

Baristas who are friendly get the tips I saved up from the hostiles, often with a compliment like that, “This is for good service. You always give me good service.” (with a pointed emphasis on the “you” and the “good service”). See how that works?

You Can’t Go Around Starting Questions with Everyone

Basically, you can’t just go around starting conversations with everyone. Especially if someone is next to you and refusing to look at you with a cold look on her face, a conversation is probably not going to work out. Don’t try to talk to bitches who have cold, shut-down faces. Those faces mean “Don’t talk to me, asshole.”

Figure out When a Conversation Is Being Shut Down and End It

There’s a guy I know there who I have talked to a few times. He’s a fat pig and he’s quite unfriendly for some reason I never understood and never will. I tried to talk to him again recently, and he gave me the same thing. Now I am never going to talk to him again. You need to punish people for being assholes, not just keep coming back for more punches.

 

One thing I need to do is to shut down conversations that seem a bit hostile. Basically, if you say something, and you get a one-sentence answer, and they turn away, it’s a shut-down. Warm, friendly, two-way conversation doesn’t work like that. They don’t like you or they don’t want to talk to you.

We tend to keep talking to them due to a  subconscious cope in favor of “thinking people like us versus thinking that they don’t” comes into play, and we keep thinking they will get nice if we just talk to them a bit more. Hate to say it but nope.

Also, it is quite insulting when you try to talk to someone, and they act like they don’t want to talk to you. It’s an insult and your mind does not want to believe this insulting, rude response is actually true because it’s hurtful to think this person dislikes you so much they won’t even talk to you. So this subconscious cope comes in where your mind simply refuses to see this as an insult as it hurts your ego to be insulted. So your ego says it wasn’t an insult after all! See how it works?

If They Don’t Like You at First, They Won’t Change Their Minds Later on

In other words, haters never change. Once again, this is unconscious optimism – “He was a dick before, but this time, he’s going to like me because I really am a cool, good person.” Nope, if someone acts like doesn’t like you, they don’t like you. Period. You keep trying over and over to see if they will change their mind, and basically they just never do. So just stop. Recognize the subconscious cope here and nip it in the bud.

Figure out the Fake “I Didn’t Hear You” Message

I am also getting better about this weird subliminal communication where you say something, and the person hears you but pretends not to hear you. People do this crap a lot, and I always think they didn’t hear me, so I repeat myself, sometimes more than once. Apparently this is a social faux pas. A very tricky, high-level one but a social faux pas nonetheless.

Another thing they might do which is a bit easier to figure out is to respond to your speech with an angry or outraged and often rather loud, “What!?” That means, “Um, I didn’t hear that!” I don’t always get that either, and sometimes I repeat my words. It’s always a bad idea as their response, if they have one, only gets worse.

They also might put up both arms and cross them back and forth while saying, “Ain’t gonna go there.” They might smile as they do that. End that line of talk right then and there. You’re not going to convince them to “go there” by continuing the line of conversation, which I tend to do sometimes.

It doesn’t really work to repeat the statement, as they just act annoyed and don’t answer or give some weird and also very subliminal response that is hard to figure out as it’s all coded and masked. The response tends to say something like, “I didn’t hear that (but I really did)!” or, “I really don’t want to talk about this!”

Well, if you say something and it seems like they should have heard you but act like they didn’t, figure out that they are playing this “I didn’t hear you” game and don’t ask again. In particular, think about what you said said or asked. Is the sort of thing that might seem sensitive and the person might not want to discuss it because they see it as inappropriate, insulting, or a come-on? Usually you can figure out how they might not want to answer due to the nature of the statement or question.

Or certainly don’t say it again more than once. When people do this, by not answering, they are saying, “That question is annoying, inappropriate, possibly racist/banned, etc., something I don’t want to talk about, so I am pretending that I didn’t hear you.” In my 60’s, I am just figuring this out for the first time, though I have somehow known for a long time that people do this.

It’s a bit hostile and dicky. It’s better to say that you’d rather not discuss that with a smile or something along those lines, but people like to be dicky. I do it myself sometimes if someone asks me a retarded question that’s meaningless or silly, especially if asked in a hostile tone. I simply don’t respond. I never did that before but I am starting to do it now.

This is a real tough one from a social communication point of view because the automatic tendency is to assume that the person didn’t hear you and repeat it, except if you do that, it’s a social error.

I talked to my Mom and she said that if it seems like they are doing that, don’t say it a second time and don’t say it on another occasion, as it’s some sort of banned question or statement.

And anyway, we both agreed, even if they didn’t hear it, then obviously they were not too concerned about your speech, so why should you repeat it for someone who won’t even give you the dignity of listening to your speech? She also said that it’s a bit shitty and hostile (she called them jerks) to do the “pretend I didn’t hear you” thing. She said it’s more polite just to say you’d rather not discuss it.

In case you all didn’t know about this weird social rule, here you go. I know all of you have experienced this before, so maybe you want to take notes here.

Comments to Non-Native English Speakers about Their Linguistic History

I asked a barista recently if he spoke another language, as he definitely has an accent (I didn’t mention the accent, of course). He really did not want to answer that as maybe he found it insulting or inappropriate or whatever.

Most people tend to answer that question if you ask it nicely enough. If someone has an accent or speaks broken English, and you wish to discuss it, it’s best to ask, “Do you speak another language?” other than bring up the fact of their accent or their broken English, which they might see as an insult.

If their English is nevertheless excellent, after they explain to you that they speak another language and English was not their first language, you can compliment them on their English to soften the blow a bit because in the US, it’s seen as a possible racist insult to imply someone doesn’t speak English as a first language.

You can also ask them how old they were when they came here, and most will answer. I usually throw in the bit where I am a linguist who is fascinated by languages, and they relax and stop thinking I might be a racist.

Sometimes I might notice that they have an accent, but I will shrug, smile and downplay and say that if you come after age 8, you just get an accent, and that’s all there is to it. Most people don’t mind this conversation, as you are asking them about their life as if it is interesting, and most people love to talk about themselves.

Always try to shrug, smile or downplay any comment or question that could possibly be taken as an insult especially if they act a bit taken aback by it. I find that this generally calms them down and they stop feeling possibly insulted.

5 thoughts on “Game/PUA: A Bit about the Finer Points of Social Rules and Communication”

  1. I remember listening to a lot of WN podcasts in the early 2010s, and they would rarely ever talk about feminism or sex differences. I believe this was mainly due to the whole Manosphere, MRA etc. having little influence on the Right at that time.

    1. Yes, it’s much more common though. A lot of WN’s still don’t like PUA/Game though for various reasons. A lot of the PUA/Game and some MRA groups have gone WN though. Look at Heartiste and Roosh.

      1. Honestly don’t respect it. The guys on Youtube I’ve seen go beyond acting gay for women. I suspect many are secretly gay. It’s abandoning or disconnecting from women in a way. Bro this, my man that.

        “Forget the girls, my PUA bois in the Jacuzzi right now!” That’s what I pick up on them, more excited to meet other men. Not accusing anyone here but I wonder if the path leads to another man’s anus.

        It’s also cheesy and childish to brag how much puss you get. “I smashed the whole club dude.” Ok Sitch, you dumb motherfucker.

        Robert was a Chad in his younger days. He should be allowed to continue staring.

        Chads are the easiest men to get along with. They get enough lady attention and are not threatened by other males, so they don’t have to compensate by being a dick. How many of the big PUA’s are Chads? Likely none. A Chad doesn’t talk about women, they talk about him. “Yeah, he can take his pick of any of us or all three,” A grandmother says to her daughter and granddaughter. That’s the power of a natural born Chad.

  2. In the US, it’s seen as a possible racist insult to imply someone doesn’t speak English as a first language.

    In the UK, they’re quite open about their racism against non-English speakers. They make fun of anyone who doesn’t speak the Queen’s language correctly (they still insist on calling it the Queen’s language).

    Mostly Poles, Russians, Latvians, etc. are considered fair game. For PC reasons, they can’t make fun of the “darkies” as much as they’d like to.

    And yes, darkie is very much used by older Brits as an expression of affection (can you believe that?) , sometimes with a disclaimer they didn’t mean them any harm. “You’re quite gifted for a darkie, aren’t you?” (I shit you not, I heard that before)

    The English middle and upper classes have a roundabout way of breaking out sensitive topics, which can be damn irritating.

    Instead of saying “I saw your wife with another man”, they will rephrase it indirectly under a mumbled breath, using as few muscles as it takes for those tea-stained lips.

    Something like, “Eekchully, dear ol’ chap, the other day, I happened to notice your lovely missus, having a jolly good time, with a handsome gentleman, who was, shall we say, not you?” Once I said this same exact sentence using a “posh” accent in front of an Englishwoman. She didn’t get the humor, and was visibly enraged.

    Nowadays, they don’t generally put people from the Commonwealth down because of the “British Empire” connections. But, some of them will purposely speak to the “Colonials” in a Geordie accent or something.

    The ones who speak Received Pronunciation with foreigners are real snobs. They’re usually British English spelling freaks. Anyone who spells color without a (u), unless they’re Americans or Canadians, will be treated with open hostility. “Can you please rewrite this sentence in correct English?” is a request you will encounter with a foreigner if you’re working with an England-based publisher.

    Some say the younger Brits are slightly better. Indeed they are if you happen to be a money spending tourist.

    I happen to hang out with a lot of Brits and Australians at a local bar (well, it was my spot before they discovered it). The Aussies are OK but the Brits are generally language assholes. The other day I got mocked for speaking “can’t” in the American manner, with a “it seems that Uncle Sam covers your drinks, jolly fellow?”

    LOL, it’s all good but why can’t they act like normal people, a little less condescending would be nice?

  3. If they’re shitty to me, I’m kind of shitty right back to them. I am doing this in other places too. Sometimes I even get aggressive with people. It’s weird. Some people just totally back down and kiss my ass when I get aggro with them. So weird. I’m usually scared to fight back against people because I am afraid of a scene or a ban, so I don’t do it, but it really does work. You really do need to fight back against people!

    I am surprised it took you this long to figure this out. Maybe because you belong to a different generation where acting like an aggro kooky person was disapproved by others.

    Welcome to the twenty-first century. You have to be a bit of a douchebag to break ice with people. You really gotta walk with a God complex or something. The rule of the game is, always remember where to stop.

    Also, you don’t ever talk normally to certain groups of people. These include

    – 16-19 year old preppy college girls
    – young men with baggy pants or the cap tilted backwards.
    – anyone with lots of face and body tattoos. These are always jerks for the most part.
    – anyone who uses “like” in every single sentence.
    – anyone who overuses the following words: “bro”,”dude”,”dawg”, “Oh my gawd”,”broham”,”my man/mate”,”chill”, “rad”. Usually they come with a stupid little grin.
    -Fat women. They’re mostly cranky for the most part.

    So, everyone in your town’s just like the above people? Congratulations Now you have the license to be a DICKHEAD all the time.

    Make sure you yell at these people to reinforce your status as a top douchebag.

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