SHI: How’s it going nowadays with your rotten little SJW fruitcakes, the ones with a major entitlement acquired after a lifetime of feminist brainwashing?
Oh, I am going to a new Fagbucks now and everything is pretty much all right.
If People Act Shitty, Act Shitty Right Back to Them
If they’re shitty to me, I’m kind of shitty right back to them. I am doing this in other places too. Sometimes I even get aggressive with people. Some people totally back down and kiss my ass when I get aggro with them. So weird. I’m usually scared to fight back against people because I am afraid of a scene or a ban, so I don’t do it, but it really does work. You do need to fight back against people!
And I am learning new social rules bullshit. I mean you keep learning this stuff your whole life, really. I had blown off a lot of the rules that I thought were moronic (most of them) for most of my life, but I am finding that life really does go a lot smoother if you follow more of those rules.
The rules are extremely subtle and hard to figure out, but if you’re smart, you can do it. Now, I am quite socially aware, but I can see how an autist would go completely insane with this stuff. I mean they cannot even understand normal human communication, much less this weird, undercover, near-subliminal stuff.
Be Careful How You Talk to or Even Look at Young Women, Especially If You Are Older
One thing I am doing is being very careful about talking to young women.
How to Look at Hotties without Staring
Or even looking at them. I don’t even look at them all that much. And I am careful about looking at the baristas. If there’s one that’s hot, I look at her a bit, then I look away for a bit, then I look back for a bit. That’s the only way to do it. Otherwise you are staring. I learned this from a PUA site post on social communication. This actually works pretty well.
Or you can look above them or to the side of them. You can’t see them perfectly because you are not focusing on them, but you can see them fairly well.
You can actually look at a whole room this way by just looking at a spot on the wall over everyone’s heads. You can’t see anyone well but you can still actually see everyone in the whole room all at once in a panorama view, albeit a bit off-focused, so if anybody did anything odd, you would see it right away. I guess cops, soldiers, etc. need to monitor groups or crowds like this.
You can meditate or just let your mind go blank while you look at the spot on the wall. I guess some Normies might think it’s weird, but so what? Fuck em. People will throw you out of a store for looking at a spot on a wall and meditating? WTF. What, you hurt the wall’s feelings?
Wait for an IOI, Especially with Young Women
With young women, I don’t say one word to them unless they give me an IOI. They have to look at me and smile, maybe even more than once. If I say something and get a cold response, I don’t say anything more.
Punish People for Blatant Assholery
I was next to a hostile young woman who refused to look at me the other day. I was in front of her in line. I deliberately took my time in line putting my stuff away very slowly so the bitch would have to wait extra longer. She and the barista both gave me these very puzzled looks. I just smiled a bit to myself and thought, “Hey bitch! If you take that hate look off your stupid face, I’d put my stuff away a lot quicker!”
Don’t Even Look at Bitches Who Hate You No Matter How Hot They Are
The young women who hate me, I mostly refuse to look at them, or I look to the side of them with this really evil, mean look. I’m not looking at anything really – just a window or nothing at all a bit to the side of or over their heads. It looks like you are looking angrily at a window or wall, and no one really cares. But they seem to get the message.
Before, I kept looking at a chick if I thought she was hot even if she hated me, which many of them do. Now I don’t do that anymore.
Beware of the “Unconscious Cope” We Men Have about Women
Also, if I get what might be an IOI – like a stare – I think again and consider maybe it wasn’t done for a friendly reason, so I am not interpreting everything as an IOI anymore.
This is a good idea as we men have unconscious bias which is sort of an unconscious cope where we always tend to think positively in terms of “this chick likes me” no matter what she does. I think our minds just do this unconsciously as some unconscious cope or optimism bias, but it pays to be aware of it because it makes you think women like you even if they don’t, and it misconstrues innocuous or even unfriendly behavior as friendly. Which results in creep-shaming.
To Women, Every Comment, Remark, Question, or Joke said to Them by a Man Means “Want to Fuck?”
I complimented a barista on her makeup the other day as she had changed it. She took this as a come-on. We’ve known each other for years.
She’s fat and I wouldn’t fuck her with my worst enemy’s dick, but you say hi to a stupid woman, and to them that means, “Want to fuck?” It’s narcissistic and self-centered of them to assume that all these guys want to fuck them when half of us wouldn’t touch their fat asses with a 10 foot pole and an 11 foot extension.
Now that she did that (interpreting my makeup comment as an inappropriate come-on), I am cold, often refuse to tip, and don’t look at her, and definitely won’t say anymore stuff about clothes or makeup.
Make a Point of Acting Particularly Friendly to People Who Are Nice to You, Especially in Front of Hostiles, to Send a Message to the Hostiles “Look What Happens When You Act Nice”
Baristas who are friendly get the tips I saved up from the hostiles, often with a compliment like, “This is for good service. You always give me good service” (with a pointed emphasis on the “you” and the “good service”). See how that works?
You Can’t Go Around Starting Questions with Everyone
Basically, you can’t start conversations with everyone. Especially if a woman is next to you and refusing to look at you with a cold look on her face, a conversation is probably not going to work out. Don’t try to talk to bitches who have cold, shut-down faces. Those faces mean “Don’t talk to me, asshole.”
Figure out When a Conversation Is Being Shut Down and End It
There’s a guy I know there who I have talked to a few times. He’s a fat pig and he’s quite unfriendly for some reason I never understood and never will. I tried to talk to him again recently, and he gave me the same thing. Now I am never going to talk to him again. You need to punish people for being assholes, not just keep coming back for more punches.
One thing I need to do is to shut down conversations that seem a bit hostile. If you say something, and you get a one-sentence answer, and they turn away, it’s a shut-down. They don’t like you or they don’t want to talk to you. Warm, friendly, two-way conversations don’t work like that.
We tend to keep talking to them because a subconscious cope in favor of “thinking people like us versus thinking that they don’t” comes into play, and we keep thinking they will get nice if we just talk to them a bit more. Hate to say it but nope.
Also, it is quite insulting when you try to talk to someone, and they act like they don’t want to talk to you. It’s an insult and your mind does not want to believe this insulting, rude response is actually true because it’s hurtful to think this person dislikes you so much they won’t even talk to you. So this subconscious cope comes in where your mind simply refuses to see this as an insult, as it hurts your ego to be insulted. So your ego says it wasn’t an insult after all! See how it works?
If They Don’t Like You at First, They Won’t Change Their Minds Later on
In other words, haters never change. Once again, this is unconscious optimism – “She was a dick before, but this time, she’s going to like me because I really am a cool, good person.” Nope, if someone acts like doesn’t like you, they don’t like you. Period. You keep trying over and over to see if they will change their mind, and basically they just never do. So just stop. Recognize the subconscious cope here and nip it in the bud.
Figure out the Fake “I Didn’t Hear You” Message
I am also getting better about this weird subliminal communication where you say something, and the person hears you but pretends not to hear you. People do this crap a lot, and I always think they didn’t hear me, so I repeat myself, sometimes more than once. Apparently this is a social faux pas. A very tricky, high-level one but a social faux pas nonetheless.
Another thing they might do which is a bit easier to figure out is to respond to your speech with an angry, outraged and often rather loud, “What!?” that means, “Um, I didn’t hear that!” I don’t always get that either, and sometimes I repeat my words. It’s always a bad idea, as their response, if they have one, only gets worse.
They also might put up both arms up in the air and wave them back and forth while saying, “Ain’t gonna go there.” They might smile as they do that. End that line of talk right then and there. You’re not going to convince them to “go there” by continuing the line of conversation, which I tend to do sometimes.
It doesn’t really work to repeat the statement, as they just act annoyed and don’t answer or give some weird and also very subliminal response that is hard to figure out, as it’s all coded and masked. The response tends to say something like, “I didn’t hear that (but I really did)!” or, “I really don’t want to talk about this!”
If you say something and it seems like they should have heard you but act like they didn’t, figure out that they are playing this “I didn’t hear you” game and don’t ask again. In particular, think about what you said said or asked. Is it the sort of thing that might seem sensitive, and the person might not want to discuss it because they see it as inappropriate, insulting, or a come-on? Usually you can figure out how they might not want to answer due to the nature of the statement or question.
Certainly don’t say it again more than once. When people do this, by not answering, they are saying, “That question is annoying, inappropriate, or possibly racist/banned, etc., – i.e., something I don’t want to talk about, so I am pretending that I didn’t hear you.” In my 60’s, I am just figuring this out for the first time, though I have somehow known for a long time that people do this.
It’s a bit hostile and dicky. It’s better to say that you’d rather not discuss that or something along those lines with a smile, but people like to be dicky. I do this myself sometimes if someone asks me a retarded question that’s meaningless or silly, especially if asked in a hostile tone. I simply don’t respond. I never did that before but I am starting to do it now.
This is a real tough one from a social communication point of view because the automatic tendency is to assume that the person didn’t hear you and repeat the comment, except if you do that, it’s a social error.
I talked to my Mom and she said that if it seems like they are doing that, don’t say it a second time and don’t say it on another occasion, as it’s some sort of banned question or statement.
And anyway, we both agreed, even if they didn’t hear it, then obviously they were not too concerned about what you were saying as they weren’t listening to you, so why should you repeat it for someone who won’t even give you the dignity of listening to you? She also said that it’s a bit shitty and hostile (she called people who do this “jerks”) to do the “pretend I didn’t hear you” thing. She said it’s more polite just to say you’d rather not discuss it.
In case you all didn’t know about this weird social rule, here you go. I know all of you have experienced this before, so maybe you want to take notes.
Comments to Non-Native English Speakers about Their Linguistic History
I asked a barista recently if he spoke another language, as he definitely has an accent (I didn’t mention the accent, of course). He really did not want to answer that, as maybe he found it insulting or inappropriate or whatever.
Most people tend to answer that question if you ask it nicely enough. If someone has an accent or speaks broken English, and you wish to discuss it, it’s best to ask, “Do you speak another language?” other than bring up the fact of their accent or their broken English, which they might see as an insult.
If their English is nevertheless excellent, after they explain to you that they speak another language and English was not their first language, you can compliment them on their English to soften the blow a bit because in the US, it’s seen as a possible racist insult to imply someone doesn’t speak English as a first language.
You can also ask them how old they were when they came here, and most will answer. I usually throw in the bit where I am a linguist who is fascinated by languages, and they relax and stop thinking I might be a racist.
Sometimes I might notice that they have an accent, but I will shrug, smile, and downplay it and say that if you come after age 8, you just get an accent, and that’s all there is to it. Most people don’t mind this conversation, since you are asking them about their life as if it is interesting, and most people love to talk about themselves.
Always try to shrug, smile, or downplay any comment or question that could possibly be taken as an insult especially if the other person act a a bit taken aback by it. I find that this generally calms them down, and they stop feeling possibly insulted.