In Jason’s recent article, he says that gawking and crudeness (sexual come-ons) have never been acceptable at school or at work at any time going all the way back to the 1950’s. Well, I was around in the 1970’s, 80’s, and 90’s. I do not remember even one case of a woman complaining of sexual harassment back then.
I do not remember one case of a woman complaining that a man was staring at her. I do not remember one case of a woman complaining that a man made a crude remark to her. Certainly I cannot remember one case when I was ever seriously accused of any of these things.
I didn’t start hearing about it until 2005, when I was 48 years old. I was told that I was staring at the baristas and making them uncomfortable. But I was doing the same thing I’ve done my whole life, not even
It’s just that I had gotten older, and as you get older, suddenly the behavior that they tolerate without batting an eye when a young man does it is somehow illegal when an older man does it. It took me a while to figure out the new rules of middle aged man and young women, which is something I am still figuring out by the way.
Wasn’t SJWism getting going pretty good around 2005? Anyway, it is only in the past 14 years from 2005-2019 that I have heard one thing about staring, sexual harassment, harassment period, illegal talking to other humans, or any of this insane bullshit.
My conclusion is that this is a modern phenomenon of the Current Year being brought on by Peak Modern Feminism, which gets nuttier and nuttier every year like all forms of Identity Politics. So in any given Current Year, modern feminism will be a bit more insane, weird, and demanding in the previous year.
It seems like I have been looking at women my whole life. I never gave any thought to whether I was staring or not, so I have no idea if I was doing it! But women and girls have been staring at me most of my life since age 17 or so. Often I stared at them and they stared back at me. Or they stared at me and I didn’t stare back. Or I stared at them and they didn’t stare back at me. It wall no matter because no one cared.
I remember in college, one friend of mine said, “I know you like to rape women with your eyes, Bob.” He said it as a joke. This was before feminists made it illegal for most men to look at women at all, much less stare at them.
So all through my whole life, I looked at women with absolutely zero problems. And they stared at me a lot, I mean a lot.
Once I was in a library at Santa Ana College in 1985 (age 27), and I looked up and every single woman in the whole damned library in front of me was looking right at me with those weird blank zombie robot stares.
Once I walked into the Roxy nightclub in 1982 (age 24). As soon as I stepped in the door, I swear to God, every single woman in that club stared at me. It actually frightened me a bit, and I sort of shuddered. I don’t know why I found it frightening, but it is a bit unnerving. Try it sometime. Walk into a nightclub and if every woman in the club looks right at you, see how it makes you feel. You might find it if not unnerving, at least somewhat frightening.
I worked at all sorts of jobs all over the place, and I never heard one complaint of me staring at women or being creepy or any of that crap. I was at college and university for many years, including advanced degree study, from 1975-1984, then 1991-1994. That’s 12 years post-secondary education. No one complained one time that I stared at women or acted creepy around women. Not even one time, ever.
When a woman stares at you, generally speaking, it means she likes you. If a woman doesn’t like you, she simply ignores you. Women who hate you usually do not stare at you.
Now and again a woman who hates you may stare at you. In that case, the stare would look hostile or like “What the Hell is the matter with you anyway?” This doesn’t happen very often.
Generally speaking, the blank dead robot stare means she likes you, like really likes you, like wants to do something sexual or romantic with you. A woman in love with you often stares at you for long periods of time with an utterly blank look on her face. Often a little Mona Lisa mystery smile, almost on the edge of bare laughter, appears.
I remember having staring contests with girlfriends.
We would be in the front room of a house she was house-sitting at. For 15 minutes we just sat there and stared at each other with funny little smiles on our faces. Neither or us said one damned word and the room was quiet as a mouse.
It was actually a nice experience, rather pure in the way that religious novitiates try for silence, work, and prayer. Life bared down to meagerest sensory output. Silent and looking. Praying and meditating into each other’s eyes. And not one word. Pure as a monastery.
So staring is quite helpful for men. It tells us when a woman is interested in us. I hate to think that women would stop staring at us because then it would be hard to tell if they liked us or not.
Gay men are extremely creepy and they stare at each other in very creepy ways constantly. And they stare at straight men they like in that same creepy, unnerving way. They also harass each other constantly with rude, crude, sexual remarks and often a lot of out and out grabbing of other men’s bodies in various ways.
In other words, gay men treat other men exactly the way straight men treat women, except 5-10X worse. This gives the lie to the insane feminist idea that sexual harassment is based on sexism, misogyny, aggression, hostility and even violence against women. Yes, these lunatics actually say that sexual harassment (guys trying to get laid or get a date) is a form of violence against women. It’s as bad as hitting her over the head.
Obviously then gay men’s sexual harassment of other gay men is based on hatred of men (misandry), hostility, aggression, and even violence against other gay men. Gay men harass each other because they hate other gay men, or they hate men, or something, or this or that, or whatnot, or whatever. Does that even make any sense at all? Of course not. Yet this is the only logical conclusion we can draw from feminism’s lunatic definition of sexual harassment.
Obviously all of this is complete nonsense. Men sexually harass women for the same reason that men consensually flirt with women and for the same reason that gay men sexually harass each other in epidemic fashion. Men do these things because they’re horny. They do them because they’re horny and they’re trying to get laid. They’re trying to attract a woman for dating, sexual activities, or romance.