What sort of a person are you? What sort of a race do you belong to?
Let’s find out.
One clue to what sort of a person you are or group you are part of is whether you grow on people or not. If people like you just fine when they’ve never met you but grow to dislike you more and more the longer they’ve been around you, that’s not a real great sign. Honestly, it implies that there’s something wrong with you.
A lot of basically normal people are quite disliked on first impression, but people who get to know them very well often like them a whole lot. This is called growing on people. I am very sad to report that Blacks often don’t grow well on people either.
I know a best friend of my mother’s had no racist feelings at all until she got involved in the school system and started having intensive experience being around Black kids. The more she was around them, the more racist she seemed to get.
I was sort of the same way. I had no feelings like that at all before I started teaching. After teaching Blacks off and on for six years, I used to joke that I was ready to join the KKK. Of course that’s not true at all. I didn’t even really hate Blacks after six years. It was more like I was Black-wise and somewhat dubious and wary of this race of people. But you get the picture.
First of all, a lot of Blacks don’t grow worse the longer you know them. The race in general tends to but a lot of Black people are just fine when you first meet them, and if anything you like them better the longer you know them. That was the case with the Blacks I worked with in the schools. You either liked them at first or they grew on you. Actually most of them were quite likeable on first impression.
Black people seem to like me for some reason. Perhaps it’s because I don’t really hate them. I’m pretty nice to them, and Black people, the well-behaved ones especially, tend to be a warm, happy, friendly, extroverted, good time and party-loving race.
I feel sorry for Blacks that they don’t grow on people. But I suppose the ball’s in their court. They can always change and that’s how to end the cycle. How soon do they need to change? Tomorrow? Try again. Not even now. How bout yesterday?
It’s the same with Jews. It’s often the case that people who dislike Jews have had very extensive experience with them, and people who think they’re the greatest thing since radial tires have barely met one. I feel sorry for them too.
I grow on people but it’s a painful process. A lot of people who don’t know me well act like they hate me or are at least rather cold and unfriendly, but many of the people who really like me have known me for years and think I’m great. That’s because they’ve figured out what I am really like. The haters presumably don’t understand me very well.
At any rate the impression I make on people who barely know me and on people who know me very well is very different, and that demands an explanation.
Bad people don’t grow on people. It’s the opposite.
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I’m sorry you had a rough time in LA – but I wouldn’t take it to heart. Well, people are always saying “man up” – but honestly, if you were saying “join the KKK”, then that stuff bothered you.
Anyway, the reverse would be happening for some black teacher in a rural white school maybe. It’s just that majorities tend to be tyrannical – picking on the minority – especially if you got on their bad side. Now, why would some comment about black teenage fathering – push the brats overboard?