Although I am not getting along real well with women these days (with some exceptions), it’s a whole different story with men. Anyway this isn’t my fault. I just don’t think women treat men my age very well.
But I know the rejection I am getting from women is fake and there’s not something wrong with me because I still often get along great with other men.
Men don’t seem to treat men my age like crap other than quite young men in their 20’s, many of whom are dicks. I suppose the sexual element is not getting in the way with the men, so they can see me in a more lucid way. And I am a pretty likeable guy. That’s proven by how well some men get along with me.
At the hospital, I dealt with three cold nurses, one very friendly physician about my age and one very friendly male nurse about 30 years old. My conversations with them were full of warmth, joy, and mutual acceptance. They were both my best friends, and I just met them that day!
The physician doing the procedure, about my age, was hard to figure, but I had a session with him before, and we got along perfectly. He was my best friend! I don’t know why but a lot of men my age seem to really like me these days. But then I am basically a likeable, charming rogue after all.
I also got along famously with the x-ray tech, a younger man of ~40. He was my best friend too, what do you know!
If I were unlikable, fucked up, a social failure, a jerk, or an asshole, those men would not be getting along with me so well. They’d be treating me about how the women are, maybe a bit better, but I guarantee I would be getting a lot of messages from them about how fucked up I was and how that’s not cool, and I have to change.
Men will always give you those vibes when you are fucked up in various ways. If you are getting vibes from men like there is something wrong with you, and you start hearing them over and over, see if their very well-hidden critiques have something in common.
They probably will. If you are too anxious, men will be telling you that in various ways. If you are too angry, men will be telling you that. And so on. People don’t just make stuff up about you to be mean. Not about the same thing, over and over, by many different people. People just aren’t that mean.
Any sort of consistent negative messages you are getting from others, especially for men who praise logic and devalue irrationality and emotion, are probably true whether you want to believe it or not. Listen to your critics if you have any. If they’re all saying the same thing, and you’re hearing it a lot, you might want to look into changing your behavior.
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