David Bowie, “Starman”. Ziggy Stardust and the Spiders from Mars. 1974. That sure is awesome music though. They don’t make music like this anymore.
Bowie in his bisexual phase. I think he is correct that he was never gay. He was just fucking guys because it was the thing to do, a fad. A fag fad. Haha. David Bowie loved women as much as any man alive. Iggy Pop said he had never seen a man get as many women as David Bowie:
“From waitresses to heiresses, he got them all.”
It was 1976 and my friends M.H. and R.L. worked in jewelry and retail clothes, and those industries are swarming with gay men. They’re also swarming with gorgeous but rather histrionic drama queen women. A lot of them are bisexual, but hardly any are lesbians. Lesbians are like men; they don’t dress well. Boots, corduroys, jeans and a boy’s haircut. Count me out.
My friends dealt with gay men all the time. They were always imitating gay men and making fun of them. I went along with the fun. I learned a lifetime’s worth of fag jokes. And I can imitate a gay man with the best of them.
A few years later after our friendship ended, I learned, not completely to my surprise, that both M.H. and R.L. were fucking guys.
They both fucked hot women and neither was into guys when I knew them, but they sure talked about homosexuality a lot, so maybe that was a giveaway. I was a bit perplexed, like, “Why the Hell are these guys talking about fags* all the time?” They were both fairly masculine guys.
M.H. had some weird masculinity hangup. Macho father had wanted him to play football but he couldn’t cut it, so he wasn’t a man. He went into super-faggy theater arts instead. Dad was disappointed to say the least. M.H. had failed his father. He wasn’t a real man, he knew it deep down inside, and damn, that hurt. Did this hangup lead to him sucking cocks later on? Who knows? Who knows why men do these things?
M.H., I must say, was a damned good actor just to see him from day to day. Very narcissistic, but all actors are like that.
The theater M.H. was a bit faggy like so many men in the theater. There was yet another M.H., who was a hot, macho surfer stud. And he was pretty good with a board too. Once again, the masculinity crisis or the split personality – macho/faggy which quite a few bisexual men have.
I will say though that the year or so that I spent hanging out with M.H. and R.L., male model handsome, clotheshorses, disco ducks, music freaks, and studs, was one of the best years of my life. We had a lot of good times, and both guys were mostly very good to me. Scarcely an unkind word.
M.H. later married a woman, got a great office job, bought a house, and raised a family not far from when he grew up. The bisexuality was just a phase. I have known a number of these guys, and the gay stuff is just a young man thing they did when they were young, dumb, and full of cum.
They’re all married by their 30’s or living with a woman. Often they have a family. From what I can tell, the gay stuff is a mere memory. They go back to completely straight. Unlike gay men, these men seem fairly happy, and by their 30’s, they’re just like anyone else. Perhaps the reversion back to full heterosexuality grounds them back in the bedrock of life.
M.H. was mostly straight. I knew he loved women. He couldn’t stop talking about them. No gay man talks about women like that. But now and again he betrayed some “other” interests in what you might call extracurricular activities.
I’d put him as a true bisexual, leaning straight like most of them do. These men are misunderstood. They like pussy as much as the rest of us do if not more or way more. Most are maniacal pussyhounds. They just like a little cock on the side too.
A lot are surprisingly masculine, but now and then they betray a bizarre “faggy” side to their personality. When you first see it you are shocked. You wonder if they got body-snatched. But these men are still on the other side of the divide from gay men. They’re more over with us straight guys.
Most so-called bisexuals are not truly bisexual – either basically straight or basically gay men. The old adage, even from my own mother, that bisexuals tend to lean pretty heavily one way or the other, is true.
The real bisexuals are not that common, but I have met a few. One more thing – they are often extremely handsome. And they are often wild sex addicts.
*Back then, gay men were universally called fags. They even called themselves fags. It could be pejorative or even a compliment, but mostly it was simply descriptive. Gay men were simply fags. No disrespect necessarily intended. We have one word for gay men. We have two words for gay men. People hate that. People want one word for gay men. Hence, fags.
Actually I still use that word for gay men in a lot of my daily conversation if I think the person is ok with the word. I don’t necessarily use it pejoratively, but I could. You would have to listen to my tone of voice to see if it was pejorative or simply descriptive.