Jay:
Robert have you heard of shift in sexual identity.
I have been studying this issue for years now. Frankly there are hardly any people studying this issue and almost everything you hear about sexual orientation is nonsensical lie. Research into this matter is being held up by Gay Identity Politics. I am probably one of the few people in this country who is actually studying this issue.
You mean sexual orientation, right? It doesn’t happen in men, except maybe in prepubertal boys. Men don’t change at all. Sexual orientation in men is frozen at age 15, if not sooner. We know this because many males have tried to change their sexual orientation in lab over many decades. All efforts to increase heterosexual attraction and decrease homosexual attraction failed. So not only could gays not be turned straight, but a 10-90 couldn’t even turn into a 20-80.
We don’t know if straight men can turn gay because no one ever shows up in the lab wanting to do that, but it doesn’t seem like it. There was a case in the Archives of Sexual Behavior about a college man who desperately wanted to turn gay but was utterly failing to do so. He had tried everything and was at his wit’s end when he showed up for therapy.
It would seem that heterosexual attraction cannot be decreased, and homosexual attraction cannot be increased. We men are SOL. Whatever you are, you are. Be happy with your orientation. You probably didn’t create it, and you can’t change it. And let’s quit beating up on men for things they can’t change!
I’m not sure about women. Women seem to be able to add on a new attraction. Many straight women add on a bi attraction. Many lesbians cannot seem to change at all for some reason. There are women who claim that they change from lesbian to straight. No one really knows what is going on with them, but in one case I am aware of, Bill DiBlasio’s wife, her sexual orientation did not change. There are straight women who claim to go lesbian, often due to feminism, but many lesbian feminists do not have sex, which implies that their true orientation did not change.
It looks like once an attraction is acquired in a certain strength by a certain age, it cannot be reduced or eliminated. It’s just stuck for life. The question revolves around whether new attractions can be created on increased or eliminated if they already exist. The jury is open on that, but in men it looks like it’s not possible.
Probably straight women cannot turn lesbian because a hard attraction to men will be for life. Probably a lesbian cannot turn straight because a hard attraction to women is for life. I have talked to a few lesbians who were having sex with men, and they told me that their orientations had not changed (10-90’s) in the few years they had been having sex with men. One told me, “I can’t help it.” It’s time we show kindness to true biological homosexuals.
Sexual activity, identification and orientation are not the same. 95% of all gay men are biologically gay and cannot be changed. However, I am aware of a few cases of straight men living a gay lifestyle simply because women did not like them. I am also aware of cases where men with an apparent bisexual orientation and a lot of experience with women until college decided to live a gay lifestyle.
So most gay men are biologically gay, but a few are straight or bisexual men who have simply chosen to live a gay lifestyle.
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