To radical feminists, it is an article of faith that all or almost all men enjoy male violence against women. They either like it when other men are violent against women or they are violent against women themselves. They also enjoy portrayals of violence against women in literature and film.
I beg to differ. I’ve been a man most of my life. I don’t get off on violence against women. Never have, never will. I saw a movie with a long rape scene in it once and it was one of the most horrible things I have ever experienced. I never watch rape porn. Just to experiment I searched hard on the Net for rape porn recently.
It is actually very hard to find, contrary to the radfem lie that it is everywhere and easily accessible. Most large porn sites like Xhamster and Pornhub have policies against rape porn and few if any porn movies portray rape or even hardcore BD/SM. Hardcore BD/SM is a specialty niche in porn. However, I remember back in the 1970’s in the golden age of Porn that rape scenes were very common in porn and hardcore BD/SM was too.
Anyway, I found a site that had rape porn. It’s hardcore porn with rape scenes in it. I tried to watch two of them but never got to the one minute mark. It was utterly horrifying and repellent. Just the screaming of the woman revolted me almost physically and I had to turn it off. It was just horrible.
Most men probably don’t get off much on male violence against women at all. Most of the men I have known do not get off on portrayals of violence against women in film or reports of such in the news. I’ve never known one man who enjoyed rape scenes in cinema or rape porn. Most men I have known think violent rape is literally sickening. In fact, most men that I have known react with extreme outrage to news reports of violent crimes against women, especially violent rape, torture and homicide. The reaction is along the lines of, “Don’t put him in the jail. Put him under the jail.”
I’ve never met a men who reacted with pleasure to news that a man beat up a woman. Most are outraged by such behavior. Men do joke sometimes about killing out of control crazed psychobitches, but we are not serious about it. A man will be discussing his insane psychobitch girlfriend and one man who say very casually, “Just kill her.” This causes uproarious laughter but it’s not said in a serious way. The man who said it and the man with the crazy woman both act like this is not a serious option.
And to be completely honest, men say they same thing about crazy, hyper-aggressive, hostile and combative men. I took a three-day trip recently with a relative. It started off good but it degenerated into utter Hell pretty quickly. When I came back, I said to some family members, “Boy, I’m sure glad that trip ended when it did. If it went on much longer, I would have had to kill him.” This prompted a big round of laughter. Men joke about killing any extremely hostile and belligerent person, even an old lady. But I have heard women say similar things about extremely combative women who are driving them crazy.
I am sure there are men out there who like to read about violence against women in the news and watch it on screen either in cinema or in porn. I’ve just never met one, and I’ve met a lot of men. Obviously some men enjoy hearing about violence against women, but it’s a minority. The tendency of a man to get off on violence against women is wrapped up in masculinity. The more masculine the man, the more likely he is to enjoy violence against women. However, sexually violent media, especially violent pornography, probably makes more men interested in violence against women by showing it to men, repeating it to where it becomes normalized, and then priming the pump so to speak.
Another radical feminist article of faith is that we love it that women are afraid or even terrified of us. Supposedly we have created this Patriarchy of Terror to keep women and line and we like it this way.
I doubt if most men think it’s cool that women are terrified of us. I will admit that it’s good in a way because they are a lot less hostile and aggressive when they are afraid of us. When women are afraid of us, they act nicer and more feminine and are more deferential to us, which is the way you are supposed to act around any potentially violent creature. But I have never thought once in my life, “Boy, it sure is great that we men set up this Terror Dictatorship over the women!”
On the other hand, most of us men would rather women be a lot less afraid of us because then we could get more sex. So many times you try to approach or talk to a woman, and she takes off because she’s afraid of you. We would love it if you could walk up to a woman walking on the street after dark and have a pleasant conversation with her.
And a lot of us get really sick and tired of being treated like killers and rapists all the time. It really gets on our nerves.
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