Some of my best friends in life were women.
I grew up with my girl cousins. They were my best friends, almost like siblings. I still see them sometimes. All I will say about them is they taught me all about women.
Five years ago, I made friends with a young woman in her 20’s. It started out sexual, then it went to “I am not attracted to you” to Friendzone.
We called and texted each other all the time. She was my best friend. She even gave me advice on how to get women. If I had a question about a woman in my world’s behavior, I would ask her and she would try to figure it out.
If I was dealing with a woman in my world, she would give me all sorts of advice for how to turn it into a dating situation. There were times I had women over at my apartment and I was trying unsuccessfully to seduce them. I texted her and told her. She promptly starting giving me all this advice on how to seduce this woman. “Ok, what is she doing now? Hmmm let me think. Ok here try this. Go up to her and bla bla bla bla.” She was actually trying to help me get laid!
At the same time, I really learned all about women knowing this chick.
One thing I learned is they are horny as Hell. I learned this due to what she told me about her sexual self.
We would be texting and she would say, “Excuse me, I have to go masturbate,” and then come back 45 minutes later. “Damn. That was good,” she would say. Some nights she would masturbate off and on all night long. Some days she would do the same thing. She had a driving job and she would pull off the road during breaks in her job, pull into a parking lot, and surreptitiously masturbate to orgasm.
I learned all about women’s sex drive too. I have had girlfriends who told me that some days they were wet from the time they get up in the morning til the time they go to bed at night! That’s as horny as a man!
In addition, there is a physical sensation of female horniness described to me as “a pain in the stomach, but a good pain.” I believe these are the gina tingles the PUA guys talk about. It seems to be a tingling sensation in their abdomen.
There is also a psychological component to their sex drive. She described it as “a feeling of hunger.”
Sometimes she would say, “Damn I need to get laid so bad,” or “I need cock! I need a big hard cock, right now dammit!” or “I feel like just grabbing some guy off the street and dragging him off and fucking him.”
She was a very good friend to me for 1 1/2 years. I eventually ended it because of the Friendzone, I wanted to have a sexual relationship with her. She said she saw me more as a father figure since I was 30 years older than she was. She said I was the same age as her father, and it felt like she was having sex with her father, and this bothered her. I think this was a reasonable reaction on her part.
If you can ever have one good female friend, one nice thing about it is you will learn all about women and what they are really like. I mean really, really, really like. You will understand women inside and out after a year or two of close friendship.
On the other hand, I have supposedly been handsome my whole life, so my experience may be limited to attractive men. I am not sure how a friendship between a unattractive man and a woman would work out. It might not be so rewarding.
One thing that is not necessarily true is that the reason you are Friendzoned is not necessarily because she doesn’t find you attractive. I have had quite a few female friends who were attracted to me but had no interest in having sex with me for all sorts of reasons. Some were married, others were relatives, others just didn’t think of me that way, and others had too much of a wage gap between us.
I will say that one thing that seems to be necessary for a rewarding friendship with a female is that she has to respect you as a man. In particular, she has to respect you as a sexual man and it helps if she sees you as something of a sexual threat. It even helps to have one or more girlfriends or dating partners at the same time you are friends with your female friend. In my experience, your female friend will respect you so much more if she sees you being successful with women.
If you can find a woman who will be a very good friend to you or especially a best friend, consider a friendship. At the very least you will go a long way towards figuring these baffling creatures out. There is something quite special about having a female as your best friend or bestie. It’s almost magical.
Pluses of having a close female friendship:
- You learn all about women, and I do mean all about women.
- She might try to help you get laid and give you tips on approaching, dating, etc. She can practically be your dating coach.
- If you are very lucky, she will fix you up with her friends. In this case, even being friendzoned is not bad.
However, if you got friendzoned explicitly because she doesn’t find you attractive, that’s quite an insult. If she doesn’t think you’re ugly, she probably doesn’t think you are much of a man. So she’s either calling you ugly or she’s calling you a wimp, pussy, or faggot. There is something especially painful about this. It’s like a kick in the stomach to your view of yourself as a man and in particular as a sexual being.
One thought on “PUA/Game: The Advantage of Having a Close Female Friend or a Female Best Friend”
It is difficult for me to think of a non romantic friendship between a man and a woman where one of the two would not want it to be more than that. That would create an element of tension I would rather not deal with.
It is OK if it is not sexual, but there has to be a mutual romantic attraction, or I do not want it. .