We see complaints on here, typically from women, that Game is stupid, ridiculous, idiotic, etc. You will typically see other discussions of Game calling it pseudoscience made up of equal parts manipulation and and objectification.
But often, if not always, “game” involves reducing women to sexual targets, rating their attractiveness on a scale of 1 to 10, and deploying techniques like “negging” to get a girl to notice you. (“Negging” = insulting a woman to throw off her confidence. For instance: “Your hair is hideous. Is that a wig?”)
However, in my opinion, Game means one thing and one thing only: Game is defined as all of the personality, behavioral, and cognitive styles that a male utilizes to try to attract and get females. Game refers to the whatever techniques, charm, charisma, and social skills a man has at his disposal for attracting, befriending, dating, and seducing females.
I would argue that it goes beyond that, and unfortunately most longterm relationships, even the wildest and most passionate of love affairs, must be “gamed” properly if you want to avoid a lot of heartache.
There has been a lot of talk about Married Man’s Game. Married Game is simply the techniques and styles that a man uses to keep his wife from going out of control and to try to create and mold as pleasant a marriage as possible for him, but ideally for her too.
The ultimate Game is where the man is very happy and the woman is very happy too. Both sexes are getting what they want. If they have to manipulate each other to get to the point where each partner is getting what they want, so be it. We all manipulate everyone around us all the time anyway. Manipulation per se is not bad; it can only be bad when you use manipulation in a sleazy or callous way.
Game is not a pseudoscience, and it is not new like these morons who say they dreamed it up say it is. We were all running Game in the 1970’s and 1980’s without even thinking about it. If you observe your interactions and relationships with females acutely, you will start to notice behavioral patterns that when transferred to new situations will enable you to be more successful is there.That’s called Game.
Every womanizer I know ran Game, and the wildest of them all who were practically at Wilt Chamberlain level ran some of the most convoluted and incredible Game you have ever seen. All these guys had a system, or more than one system, or a hundred systems. And most of them were very calculating people.
Saying a man has good Game does not mean he is some sleazy pickup artist. In fact, good Game simply means that he has a personality and behavioral style that comes off very well to women, attracts them to him, and makes them want to get to know him better.
That’s all it is.
Now I ask, What’s so bad about that? What’s wrong with bringing a skill set to the table when you try to meet, date and seduce women? Is that evil or something? And why should men expect not to use any sort of skill set when meeting, dating and seducing women? What sort of a demand is that? What is wrong with utilizing a skill set to get whatever you want done in life easier? How is that evil somehow?
A man with great Game could easily be monogamous, possibly his whole life. However, he would be generally seen as charming to women who were not his partner. A man with great Game could easily be married. Just because you are married doesn’t mean that you can’t be charming and magnetic to other women anymore.
A man with lousy Game or crap game simply lacks a good personality and behavioral skill set to meet, date and seduce women. He consistently and persistently fails in this area of life.
Game need not have any sleazy or manipulative components unless you are so silly as to think that any man who is seen as charming and magnetic by women is automatically sleazy and manipulative.