What Attracts Women

I will go through these one by one here:

  1. Hypergamy
  2. Women’s dishonesty about what they’re attracted to being biologically hardwired because of them wanting one man to beta provide and another man to fuck her.
  3. Looks = Personality. Your personality and behavior are largely dictated by uncontrollable factors (how people reacted to you during upbringing, hormonal profile during puberty, your background, etc.).
  4. Social life and hence status being extremely affected by the way one looks.
  5. Men being more productive and contributing more to society and to general development throughout history, and how marriage and monogamy in the old days was a way to control and make sure that every man got his needs met and hence contributed to society. Basically one can easily conclude that female to male choice-based mating selection is very bad for society overall.

Let’s start with 1 first.

Hypergamy

Yep, females are hypergamous by nature. The Blue Pillers, feminists, male feminists, etc. are absolutely furious about this notion. They say it’s all a great big lie. Are they really that clueless?

Female hypergamy is real. It is also a big problem if unleashed. In order to keep it at least manageable (because you can never get rid of it altogether), institutions such as marriage with enforced monogamy are devised so you can have a halfway civilized society and restrain female hypergamy significantly.

Women’s dishonesty about what they’re attracted to being biologically hardwired because of them wanting one man to beta provide and another man to fuck her.

Yep. Women lie about what they want. They lie about what turns them on. They lie about a thousand things. Why they lie so much, I have no idea, but I suspect that women don’t even know what they want or what turns them on either.

I do not agree with women wanting one man to be a Beta provider and another to provide stud service. Ideally, I think most women would like to marry Chad, tame him so he’s monogamous, and hopefully have Monogamous Chad Dream Man be a great provider for her so she doesn’t need to settle with a Beta as a provider.

You will notice that women’s romance novels are typically about this totally unrealistic dream man who is this hunky male model stud who is a man’s man, masculine as can be but at the same time sensitive, loving, and kind, who has women after him all the time but settles down with the heroine after she tames him.

My mother notes that the male heroes of romance novels are men that more or less do not even exist in real life. So women’s dream men are so fantastical that they probably don’t even exist. They’re pining for nonexistent entities!

The problem that Alphas are often lousy providers. Many Alphas are not employed. A lot of others work in the criminal economy, often selling drugs, etc. A surprising number work at low paying jobs and continue to live in cheap apartments and drive old cars into middle age. A stunning number of Alphas are in jails and prisons. Many Alphas spend most of their life essentially living off women in exchange for providing what boils down to gigolo service.

Even if a woman could pin Chad into a long term relationship or marriage, Chad makes a lousy boyfriend and an even lousier husband. He tends to be an incorrigible cheater, among other things. He is at least a little bit narcissistic/sociopathic, he is typically vain, conceited, and egotistical and is often rather short on empathy. In other words, Chad is an asshole.

So women don’t need a Beta provider. They need a provider, period. Chad would be the #1 pick of course, but he’s not available, so she settles for Mr. Beta with the good job as a provider. But now she still needs Chad for sex. What’s a lady to do?

Looks = Personality, your personality and behavior are largely dictated by uncontrollable factors (how people reacted to you during upbringing, hormonal profile during puberty, your background etc).

This is very sad, but there is probably a lot to it. I do not think we are doomed by what happened to us in junior and senior high school, but those experiences are so important that it is hard to overlook them. While no one has a set in stone lousy personality, we all have a certain personality type, and it is set by the end of adolescence.

There is a healthy and unhealthy side of each personality type. Even the Sociopath has a healthy mirror image called Aggressive Personality. The Borderline has Sensitive Personality. The Dependent has Loyal Personality. The Narcissist has Confident Personality. And so on.

A man with good looks often has so many great experiences during these formative years that he ends up with a nice personality pretty much locked in place by the time adolescence is over. The man who had a rocky road all through middle and late school years has a huge hurdle to overcome in transcending these traumas and becoming healthy.

Social life and hence status being extremely affected by the way one looks.

This is sad as Hell too, but there is probably a lot to it. People need to consider that when they see people with great/poor social skills and high/low status that quite a bit of how high someone scores on those variables may be due to uncontrollable factors like looks.

Men being much more productive and contributing much more to society and to general development throughout history, and how marriage and monogamy in the old days was a way to control and make sure that every man got his needs met and hence contributed to society. Basically one can easily conclude that female to male choice based mating selection is very bad for society overall.

Women are not going to like this one. But I would agree that men create civilization. There have been periods in history when most of the men left, often to wars, and the society was left with mostly women to run the show. Things fell apart pretty quickly.

Women simply can’t create or run civilizations. They need men to do that for them. Women can help the men run things, but they can’t do it alone. This is quite all right. Women can’t do everything. The sexes tend to need each other.

But since civilizations needed men to create them in the first place and then to run them, marriage and monogamy was a way to control society such that most if not all men got their basic needs met. Once their basic needs were met, these men would be able to do a good job contributing to society. Bottom line is a totally free market in marriage where women’s choices set the tone is probably going to cause all sorts of societal problems, like maybe mass shootings for one.

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10 thoughts on “What Attracts Women”

  1. 3) Yes, high school experiences are for most people the frame which the rest of life gets fitted in.

    But I would not call it “looks”. Male attractiveness, even more so than female attractiveness, is more something different than looks, which could be determined by looking at a picture. Male attractiveness is of course about height, width, but even more so about having big, dense bones (best indicator wrist size), big hands, high muscle tonus and the way somebody moves.

    5) When one wants to have civilization, Beethoven, flying to the moon, high life expectancy, and understanding the universe, yes then letting women decide which men are most sexy and letting them than marry the one they choose is a bad idea. But maybe civilization is the not destiny for humankind.

    In a simple Darwinian sense there are no false decisions because every decision will in the end be the most adjusted. When civilization can´t survive because Europeans and East Asians disappear by being selected out, then that’s the way it goes. Yes, the world would be one big slum with a life expectancy of 40 years, no opera, no cars, no airplanes, and no more universities. But that’s the way mother nature works. Who can say that this is “wrong”?

  2. I have long know women prefer shitbags. The more I think about it, the more tasteless I feel about fucking them.

    Yet women think themselves highly just because they think they have the most fabulous vagina in the whole world.

    In Buddhist theory, we a taught to visualize people body are just a cover for shit and urine.

    Think about that and you wont covet women.

    Visualize how ugly woman become the next morning and visualize them shitting, flushing toilets and brushing their teeth, you just feel sick.

    And get amuse when you see women being drained off by blood sucking alphas.

    Newton 3rd law, action = reaction.

    So, do good.

    1. I have long know women prefer shitbags. The more I think about it, the more tasteless I feel about fucking them.

      I suppose my solution to that problem would be to act like a bit of a shitbag. I will act any way that women demand that I act, I suppose. You gotta do what works and give people what they are asking for.

  3. Every sin in this world is cause by desire and attachment. Once you break free from desire and attachment, you become strong.

    Women love alpha because of their ego, precisely because of evil nature of alphas, having the capacity of dominate and harm people.

    Women love to show off that they are able to catch such powerful people.

    However, women themselves are also the prey of alphas.

    They gone through all the emotional drain for being together which such sexual vampire.

    And man covet vagina.

    If women can see the harm of alphas and man can trivialize that women vagina give them just 5 sec of ecstasy, then they will be strong.

    No one can deliver them to evil.

    People sin because of greed.

  4. I guess I am saying that back in the old days when we had more or less enforced marriage, most of these guys would just be married off to some weird woman.

    Now that mandatory monogamous marriage is gone, these Aspies are going to have to compete in the Sexual Free Market. Here they WILL fail.

    I do see that as a problem, but I have no solutions. People need to understand that a lot of the things I am complaining about do not have any real solutions or at least not have any solutions that I would support. Not every problem has a solution. Some things are just sort of longstanding “problems” and there is little or nothing you can do about them. Life is like that.

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  5. WRT to looks for men:
    Don’t be short.
    If you must be short, don’t be fat.
    Try not to be bald.

    And even then, none of these are absolutely the kiss of death. Shortness is the worst, but Bruce Lee was short, and he was the baddest dude ever to walk the planet.

  6. “So women’s dream men are so fantastical that they probably don’t even exist”: Blackdragon has a great post about this. He says most women want a unicorn he calls the Submissive Alpha Male–the strong, confident, badass, successful, masculine man who treats her like a lady, does what he’s told, takes out the trash, is always faithful, and kisses her ass.

    Which is why so many women alternate between dating alphas and dating betas, depending on which side of the coin they’ve gone without for too long. Yet somehow, they never find their submissive alpha. He writes, “I see millions of women wasting their 20s, 30s, and often much of their 40s looking for Mr. Unicorn Man only to finally and angrily surrender for a beta or alpha in their late 40s or early 50s. By then, many of them finally understand that they wasted their lives looking for something that wasn’t real.”

    The whole post is worth reading:
    http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2015/06/25/womens-greatest-problem-the-myth-of-the-submissive-alpha-male/

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