The guys who use girls for sex are the Alpha males
who are either:
1) Alpha males with the dark triad of mild sociopathy, narcissism and Machiavellianism, so it’s in his nature to be confident, charismatic, dominant, and get what he wants – sex
2) Alpha males who are simply attractive men with generally good faces and are generally muscular and over 6′ tall. So in this sense, even if he doesn’t have the Alpha personality, he still ends up using women for sex simply because women throw themselves at him and he doesn’t actively manipulate them into bed. This Alpha male simply has a ton of opportunity for poon and doesn’t have the self restraint to say no (granted it’s tough to say no).
So even if he’s a nice guy, he obviously can’t commit to the 3-10 or so girls a week that throw themselves at him, so girls get hurt. It’s worth noting that in this instance of the attractive Alpha, the man is not manipulating women to have sex with him. The women are voluntarily sleeping with him and pursuing him hungrily simply because he is attractive and tall.
The women are being shamelessly shallow in this instance, and it is nobody’s fault but their own when they get hurt. 90% of women cannot throw themselves at the top 10% of attractive men and expect them to commit to all of them.
On the other hand, Beta males – guys who are less attractive, less charismatic/dominant or don’t have the dark triad, have a harder time getting females. So they learn to hold onto one woman since they don’t get individual women that often. These guys do treat women well. Women sleep with the Alphas casually, not the Betas. So the claim that Beta males use her for sex is ridiculous. The guys who do want relationships are not users of sex. Nope, nope, and nope. Sorry ladies.
However, women use rationalizations to convince themselves of why the nice guy Beta male is somehow not a good guy. Whereas the Alpha actually wants to use her, and the woman lies to herself pretending, “Oh he’s probably a good guy deep down…” because she really badly wants the Alpha in the most carnal of ways.
The Beta male shows clear signs of loyalty, love, honesty, and she convinces herself he must be a creeper if he’s too affectionate or otherwise that he must “secretly be a player/jerk” even if he’s shown absolutely no reason for her to logically think that.
In fact women use very specific word choices to rationalize men they find attractive/Alpha vs. men they find unattractive/Beta. Even if the two men have exactly the same personality and behave in exactly the same way, if one guy is uglier or more of a Beta in general, women will call them this vs that.
Hot/alpha guys are “confident.”
Ugly/beta guys are “cocky.”
Hot/alpha guys are “intelligent, learned, cultured.”
Ugly/beta guys are “nerds, pompous, dorks.”
Hot/alpha guys are “funny, witty.”
Ugly/beta guys are “overcompensating, annoying, weird.”
Hot/alpha guys are “sexy and charming” when they make a move.
Ugly/beta guys are “creepy and stalkerish” if they make a move in the exact same way.
NOTE: By ugly I mean having an unattractive face or being short. Short oftentimes will do it right there. Very ugly or fat are often instant DQ’s. As a side note, it’s funny how women flip out about men being shallow regarding fat women, but women are also shallow about fat men. They say “I need a fit man who can protect me.” Uh, protect you from what? We live in a civilized society with advanced weapons a fat person can still use.
And women DQ and judge short men too.
When other girls sleep with hot/Alpha guys and get used, they do not want to blame the Alpha male specifically. To do so would mean she would have to admit to herself that her choice in men was bad and that she should lower her physical or dominance/Alpha standards to have a chance at keeping a man. Women don’t wanna do that. Not. One. Bit.
So what do they do? Instead, they like to lump all men together. And since women are like dogs in the sense that they naturally attack the weakest members of a tribe, women instead choose to lash out and take all their anger and frustration out on the weak, nice, passive men who can’t defend themselves, the Beta males. The Beta males get blamed for everything.
Even though the Betas wouldn’t dream of using a woman for sex and would love nothing more than to cuddle and love one woman, women still harshly judge the Betas. Women also judge the Betas because it makes them feel less guilty for rejecting them. Women don’t like to feel shallow and mean, so instead they will deflect the blame onto the Beta even though the Beta has done nothing wrong.
They will use what Alphas do as an “excuse” to reject the Betas. Women use Beta males for emotional support, attention, and money. In essence, just like alphas use women for sex, women in turn virtually rape the Beta males by stealing/manipulating their time, attention, money and resources.
Ultimately, the problem is with women because women are responsible for their own life and sexual choices. Women want equality, don’t they? Women want equal wages, don’t they? Well then, they need to accept responsibility for their bodies and stop blaming men for who women choose to have sex with.