Robert, that’s fine by me.
I come from a leftist background and had to abandon leftist movements because I could not stand any more that you are requested to adopt a specific opinion on a gazillion different topics to be considered leftist, and that you are considered right-wing, fascist etc. if you disagree on even one single topic. The pressure of conformity and of adherence to dogma in these movements is almost as high as in a cult.
So I’m happy whenever I see other leftist “heretics” / free-thinkers. So no problem for me if certain gay behaviors, gays and/or the gay scene (which is a bad scene anyway) seem dubious to you, I prefer different opinions being expressed than suppressed and I don’t think you’ll treat me bad or anything.
I would definitely not treat this guy poorly.
Yes I know some gay guys.
The main problem with them was that they would never stop trying to fuck me. That is still going to be a problem if I try to make friends with quite a few gay guys.
Also they laid a lot of weird trips on me, telling me I was really gay, that I was just like them, that I was a fraud, in the closet, a fake, needed to come out, that I didn’t really like women, etc. That’s a hell of a thing to say to a young single man in his early 20’s. I have no idea why they said that shit, if they really believed it or if that was some devious way to try to pick me up.
Back when I was younger, I had to keep quite a few of them at arms length and adopt a somewhat hostile, “Back Off! Keep your distance dammit!” type scary attitude to get them to be cool enough to converse with. If I tried to get close to them, they would start coming onto me again, and that felt creepy.
I live in a city of 50,000. No doubt there are some gays here. In fact, I think I know a few. But there are no gay bars, gay neighborhoods and any of that bullshit. They just blend in with everyone else and seem just regular ordinary folks.
I did not like living in huge cities with massive gay neighborhoods. I found it very unnerving and distressing. I mean you walk into a restaurant, 75% of the people in there are gay men, and all of them look up immediately and look at me like I am a sirloin steak. And then the waiter is way too friendly. I really do not enjoy experiences like that. I can do without it honestly.
The whole phenomenon of massive gay neighborhoods strikes me as bizarre for some reason.