Hello folks, I recently received this comment from a boy who complains that an 18 year old woman at his high school is sexually harassing him. He wants some advice on how to deal with this, but I do not have the slightest idea of how to proceed. If anyone has any ideas how this boy should deal with this matter, please open up:
Hello Mister Lindsay. I have read your article and find it to be gratifying.
I am a 13 year old freshman boy in high school. There is this 18 year old girl in my Team Sports and Aerobics class who keeps on sexually assaulting me. She and her two friends repeatedly attempt to advance on me or corner me and touch me or talk to me, despite my blatant disinterest. She keeps making lewd and promiscuous comments about my attire, physique, facial features, and genitals. She persistently intrudes on my daily activities, and does a lot of unwanted touching and flirting.
I want it to stop. She has followed my school bus home in her car and now knows my address. She harasses me on Facebook and I blocked her, and she used her little sister’s account to harass me. I cannot block her because her little sister is kind and adores me and it would break her heart.
She has sent me nude pictures through Facebook private messages. She and her friends constantly refer to me has their “husband” and they follow me in the hallways trying to talk to me.
I tried to tell my freshman counselor, who is female. She told me that a “cute boy” my age has a lot of repressed feelings, and I should be taking an interest in girls. I told the senior counselor that a senior female student was sexually harassing me, but the senior counselor who is also a female told me the same thing in different terminology. I broke down and cried in her office and she told me I need serious help, and even suggested I may be a homosexual. She offered to find clinics which specialize in sexual identity issues, and tried to tell me that being a homosexual was perfectly okay, despite my vociferous protests that I was not a homosexual and just simply not interested in starting a relationship at my age with an 18 year old.
I tried to tell my school Resource Officer who told me he cannot do anything unless sexual intercourse has occurred, at which point he could arrest her for statutory rape. I begged him but he gave me a wink and told me that I was “blessed”.
I wanted to smash his f@#king skull open. I hate him and I hate my counselor. If the gender roles were reversed the offending party would be S.W.A.Tted quicker than a fly. But because I am a male the authority figures do NOTHING about this.
The final straw came for me when this witch from hell knocked on my door and tried to force her way in. I tried to slam the door on her, but she overpowered me and tried to force herself on me. I kicked and punched her and screamed for help, upon which she took off.
After that she lay low for two weeks. Now she has started to harass me again.
My parents would inflict severe corporal punishment on me if they knew about this. My parents are both of first generation Korean ancestry and they hold traditionalist, conservative values. They believe in abstinence until marriage. They will beat me like a rabid dog if they knew about this. I was caught once for marijuana, ketamine, and salvia experimentation, and they beat me unconscious and locked me in the basement tied hands and feet in a bathtub of cold water for two days without food. They will do it again without hesitation. I am deathly afraid, because I nearly died in that basement of hypothermia.
Please tell me what I should do. You seemed very articulate and learned on this subject. How do I resolve this predicament? I am afraid to go to school. I am afraid to be home alone. I am considering keeping a can of Lysol around so I can spray her if need be. Please help me, I am at my wits end.