Young Layla: Is there a strong connection between bisexual or gay men and the modelling industry? My best friend has told me of a time a dude gave him oral sex and he agreed out of curiosity, he’s with his girl of 4 years, he says he isn’t sexually attracted to men, and this time happened once.
He eats pussy btw
Is he bisexual?
RL: No, he is not bisexual at all I do not think.
Young Layla: Thanks, but why do you think he isn’t?
RL: It is extremely common for a young man to have experimental gay sex, especially to let a queer suck him off. The number of males who do such things is very high. Most are not attracted to guys at all.
He says he’s not attracted to guys. Let’s take him at his word. He has a long term gf.
Mere sexual experience with other men does not make a man gay. There are quite a few guys who are basically straight who have sex with men at various times for various reasons.
About 1/3 of male models are gay. A friend who worked in the industry told me that in male modeling, 1/3 of the guys were gay or bisexual, 1/3 of the guys had steady girlfriends or were married, and 1/3 of the guys were straight guys who were trying to screw every woman in sight.
Sexual orientation is determined by thoughts and attraction and not by behavior. Using this model, is is possible for a straight man to engage in gay sex for this or that reason. A psychologist named Joel Fort has a blog up about straight men who have sex with men for this or that reason. He also lists the reasons why they do such things.
For young men, especially men in their 20’s, the number of basically straight men who will have sex with other men is quite high. It would not surprise me if 25% of males have had sex with another guy. The overwhelming majority of them are not gay at all.
Men in their 20’s are extremely horny, and women just don’t put out that much, so a lot of them do it with guys out of frustration or just extreme horniness. For some reason, gay and bi men are very attracted to me, and I have been fighting them off most of my life.
Also, a number of my friends who I felt were just straight tried to have sex with me, including some of my oldest and best friends, so I am quite familiar with this sort of thing. In addition, I have seen my male friends doing faggy things right in front of me or within earshot. Quite a disturbing experience! Some of the men who made moves on me were married, had kids, etc. In fact, this happened to me just recently. Young, good looking guy, married, little kids.
If a man is very good looking, a lot of other men will be attracted to him on some level. A number of them will try to have sex with him. This is one of the travails of being a handsome guy!
And there are quite a few young men who are actively bisexual. I have known some of them, including a few of my best friends! Usually I ended the friendship after they started queering around, or they started queering around after the friendship was over.
I followed up on some of these guys, and a number were married with kids and good jobs later in their 30’s. I suspect that they gave up on the faggy stuff. I think a lot of young bisexual men do this stuff in their 20’s, but then in their 30’s, they get married, have kids and knock off the queering around.
A bisexually-oriented man with a strong drive towards women can easily stop doing it with men – after all, he loves women, and that ought to be enough to satisfy him. Sure, he’s attracted to men, but he doesn’t have to act on this sort of thing. Bisexual just means what turns you on. You don’t have to act on your desires, and many do not.
I agree that it is very hard for a woman to tell if a man is bisexual. It ought to be simple for a woman to tell if a man is gay or not. Gay men simply do not look at women or check out women in the same way we do. If a guy checks out women in a sexual way, in my experience, he can’t possibly be gay because gay men simply never do this.
I used to live in Hollywood, and every time you walk outside, there’s like 10,000 gay or bi men walking around in front of you, so I know all about male homosexuality and bisexuality. I could write an encyclopedia about it. I studied them for years!
So it’s trivial for a woman to figure out if a man likes females or not. That’s as clear as air. On the other hand, it’s a lot harder for a woman to tell if a man likes other guys or not. How can you tell? You really can’t! So a woman can determine the following about a man:
+gay = man shows no interest in females.
-gay (straight or bisexual) = man shows interest in females
Now, I can almost always tell if a man is gay or bisexual due to the way he interacts with me. Gay and bisexual men act like they are attracted to me! Straight guys are not attracted to me. That’s quite apparent when I deal with them.
I had a couple of members of my family (not blood related) who were effeminate straight men.
One died recently. When I met him, he was a man in his 50’s married to a relative. Sometimes he acted very faggy, walking like a total queer. He used gay hand flapping mannerisms, and even talked really gay sometimes. He had been married three times before and now he was with my relative. I just tripped on his faggy ways and didn’t think much of it. When I interacted with him, he came right out of it, and I thought, “This guy is straight.”
I told some relatives that he acted faggy, and they just said, “Oh, he not gay. He’s just Italian!” (LOL).
Another in-law is married to another relative. Everyone keeps insisting that the guy acts gay. I never really thought so. He’s married to my relative, and they now have two kids. When I first met the guy, I talked to him for about 30 minutes. He didn’t act faggy at all, and I got no queer vibes off him. I figured he was straight and left it at that.
I have another relative who is very passive, and when his self esteem gets low, he acts nervous and faggy. I know he’s not queer at all, as he is very close to me, and we go way back. He’s just a passive and wimpy guy.
His faggy behaviors are an example of his extreme Betaness, passivity, nervousness, and submissiveness. It gets worse when his self esteem goes low. Faggy behaviors in straight men are often just a marker for wimpiness, submissiveness, nervousness, passivity and low self esteem.
Some men just need to get a question mark. There is a fellow who works at a place I hang out at. He acts pretty faggy, so I gave him a question mark and wondered if he was gay. He doesn’t seem all that interested in the females who work there. On the other hand, he doesn’t act interested in me at all (gay and bi men almost always have), so I can’t figure him out. To me, he just gets a great big question mark.
One last thing: the number of straight guys who act faggy to various degrees or who act androgynous to this or that degree is incredibly high! You really cannot determine sexual orientation based on how a man acts outwardly. To do so is completely ridiculous, and if you do that, it just shows what a complete and utter moron you are.
There’s absolutely no reason for any straight man to wonder if or worry that his male friends are gay or bi. If he’s hanging around with you and not coming onto you, he’s not gay or bi in my experience. In my experience, a gay or bi man who becomes friends with you will make his intentions known to you sexually very, very fast. If not right away then soon after.