"Creepy" is Woman Speak for "An Unattractive Man Who Shows Interest In Me"

Steve writes:

Is it creepy if an unattractive girl shows interest in a guy? When you think about it like that, it just seems…unkind. Calling a guy creepy if he just showed interest but didn’t really do anything wrong – it’s just unkind. It’s sort of nasty. That’s my take on that. On the other hand, if a guy is really full on, if he acts or speaks inappropriately to a woman to the point where she feels uncomfortable or scared, then calling him creepy is more justifiable.

This is exactly my opinion. From my point of view, if a woman is not showing any interest in me, disdaining me, ignoring me, etc. (which happens all the time) I certainly won’t approach her! I am not an idiot! I am extremely conservative about how I approach women in part because I am terrified of being called creepy! So you see, calling men names like that is very inhibiting and results in a puritanical society where people are uptight, inhibited and afraid to express themselves sexually in a free, liberated and uninhibited manner. Seeing how I go to some pretty extreme lengths to not be called creepy, I take this stuff personally. On the other hand is it creepy for men to whistle at women or blow them kisses or whatever? Maybe not. Black men act aggressive like this to women all the time. You go to Italy, and the men are very forward. I don’t necessarily consider that creepy. Those are simply men who are acting aggressive and forward. I don’t normally do it myself, but I don’t necessarily think it’s evil. Women should just ignore it and move on. I live with a lot of Hispanics. The less assimilated Hispanics are extremely relaxed about sex. The men are all wild horndogs, and the women are comfortable with that. The women just think that all men are naturally pigs and ignore them most of the time. It’s perfectly normal for the Hispanic males to be pretty aggressive about how they look at or talk to women. If the Hispanic women don’t like it, they just ignore them. But the Hispanic women look at men a lot too and even flirt with them. There’s a lot of open, healthy sexual expression going on, and to me it’s very normal and uninhibited. Hispanic society is healthy like this because it’s a patriarchy and hasn’t been feminist-wrecked yet. Less assimilated Hispanic society doesn’t have much use for words like “creepy.” You never really hear the women in that group describing men using a word like that. As the Hispanic women get more Americanized, they start using such male-shaming words. If you think this website is valuable to you, please consider a contribution to support the continuation of the site.

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117 thoughts on “"Creepy" is Woman Speak for "An Unattractive Man Who Shows Interest In Me"”

  1. “Creepy” is also code for “a guy who tries to approach women, but has no game/isn’t an alpha male.”

  2. “Creepy” is Woman Speak for “An Unattractive Man Who Shows Interest In Me”
    Deal with it. Its called sexual selection and it propels both men and women toward self-improvement and progress. Otherwise we stagnate.

    1. NO! I will not deal with it. Sure, in any normative patriarchal society, men will compete ferociously for the best women. This is proper and normal. The best or most high status men will get the best women. That’s the sexual marketplace in a nutshell. Normal, patriarchal, not sick, evil, feminist societies do not shower shit on low status who attempt to compete for females. All males are allowed to compete for females in any way they want to. There’s no shunning or shaming of low status who attempt to compete for females or realize their sexual desires. The best women simply ignore the low status males and choose the high status ones instead. As things sort out, mid status males get mid status females and low status males get low status females. There’s no shaming of men like these diabolical feminist whores do. There’s no shaming of men period in a proper patriarchy. And in patriarchy, there are no losers or incels either. Every man gets a woman. Some get a better woman, and others get a lesser woman, but it all shakes out in the end.
      It’s not normal sexual competition for females to shame low status males and call them “creeps” for acting like normal males. No tribal society does this, and no historical civilization has ever done such a thing. This is a modern society innovation which is what is typically expected in any matriarchy. Mass female hypergamy and lots of incel type losers hanging around wanking it or whatever. VERY unhealthy.
      Matriarchies are evil and all attempts at female rule end at Hobbesian Hellish nightmare societies. Females are simply not capable of ruling any human society anywhere. Our ancestors knew this and wisely never allowed female rule.

      1. Bobby, you are sounding like an MRA nutcase now. Please don’t try and say that the Colorado killing spree was because the Feminazi leaders in our Fascist Matriarchy prevented this poor boy from getting laid, like they are. You know damn well US is not a matriarchy. Don’t go off the deep end, you will lose clout.
        Sexual selection means males display and females choose. This is right and good and propels civilization forward. Self improvement is the perogative of every human, unless you believe in “fate” and pre-determinism like the Inshallah wallas.
        In that case there is nothing I can do to help you because resignation to fate results in stagnation and stagnation results in deevolution and demise.
        If you are truly interested in improving, I am flying into California later this summer on route to Indonesia. If you wish, we can meet and I can teach you some things.

        1. “Just curious, what could YOU possibly teach us?”
          Why the YOU instead of “you”? I’m trained in techniques that help ocd, add, and other things. Why? You need help?

        2. Why the YOU instead of “you”?
          Well, since you were proclaiming yourself to be some kind of expert in this regard, well, I just couldn’t help but be a bit curious with regards to what special expertise you in particular could offer.
          Hence the emphasis on “you.”
          And no, I don’t need your help.

        3. So by your logic, if a guy is physically attractive, ie has the perfect bod, perfect tan, chiselled features, in other words an alpha male fuckhead then this is good and means the human race is improving, despite the fact that said alpha male fuckhead may have the intelligence of a stegosaurus or at best a neanderthal then civilisation is moving forward and improving despite the fact that the unnatractive creep may have a far higher intellect! i don’t see how that is moving civilisation forward.
          Aside from this though, i found out early on that attractive women are actually quiet soul destroying to interact with, they almost always have insipid, shallow lives with sterotypical interests so thank fuck they all rejected me.
          Now i could give a flying fuck about attractive women, in fact i would rather not, my eyes pass over them as if they are not there.

      2. @ Bhabiji
        “Sexual selection means males display and females choose.”
        Thats a Hindu Swayamvar. not sexual marketplace as it operates in the real world. If men didn’t choose, the multi-billion dollar cosmetic/looks industry wouldn’t have existed. For Indians, add ‘personality development’ classes to the mix.

        1. Men choose too of course, human courtship and mating rituals are more complex than that of a peacock and peahen. Men display and chase women whom their attracted to and then those women choose from amongst the suitors whom they want. The point I’m getting at is there is open competition and competition is healthy

      3. Let me tell everyone here what the most important thing in dating. “Money ”
        I proved it 5 years apart on dating sites. While 5 guys had 1 nighters with the vast majority . ( I know this becuase there all adjusted thier profiles to read honesty , honesty ,honesty, is the most important thing.if you want sex dont contact.) i stayed on that site for 3 month’s and didn’t get but one single shot. 1 month later with the same pictures ,i said i had a degree and made 150,000 . guess what. i didn’t have enough time for the dates. there is also a preception that people that paid for and education have reached the next level. what a joke. a degree means nothing when the lights go out. a degree doesn’t make you a better father. Those women that chose wrong thier whole life are miserable as they chose money. even in there fifties they will choose the same. they dont make desisions about how good a man is at pleasing them . every women that dates for money is unhappy but will 100 percent of the time go right down that path again. Many never have even 1 good relationship. they just get boob jobs and bitch to thier rich freinds about how horrible the husbands are. While thier husbands are banging the secretary. who is banging the boss for money. Ah america its great.

    2. It propels us to self improvement in rare cases, or more often to depression and sometimes suicide. How does it help an awkward guy with low self esteem when he’s compared to a rapist or child molester or stalker just for not having confidence in talking to women or being unattractive or both? If he already has a sense that every woman sees him that way (as disgusting and categorically unworthy of validation), it just drives that insecurity even deeper. You have no idea what you’re talking about.

      1. If you’re unattractive, you’re a “creep”, it’s “Herassment”.
        If you’re attractive, you’re just “flirting”!
        They had an experiment with the guy who played Newman.

      2. Robert Lindsay had an article where it showed that a Man with money IS Mr. Right, but he needs at LEAST $200,000 more yearly income than the handsome bum just to be considered even!
        Ironically, this is what causes the “pay gap” women bitch about!

        1. Guys I understand rejection. I was once a very big girl who was ridiculed for her body. I even find men who chase me now distasteful because of the pain inflicted upon me. If women are calling you these names, is it possible that you are aiming way too high? Perhaps you are low status, not as handsome etc and these girls are surprised you are chasing them. While calling anyone names is not what a high value women would do, ignore them (just as Bobby told women to do his writing above). Ignore and move on. Just like women are told to ignore and move on. I still find the low status men attractive but many feel intimidated by my new looks now which kinda sucks. I’m attracting “high status” who all appear to be very self centred (and I’m used to kind guys). It’s amazing how poorly men treat fat girls. I hope things get better and these “high status” people match up and go off and be rude to each other.

        2. so we like men with no money who are handsome over men who have money – is the man with money handsome too?
          Maybe both genders are shallow after all and I thought only men were.
          You can’t force someone to like you right? Imagine you were forced to like a morbidly obese woman with a very unattractive face and if you didn’t you were a asshole?

    3. Ok when you becone fat and ugly and find the men just dont hang around anymore, you can deal with that as well.

      1. Kp
        This is far into a woman’s journey of self-actualization in her late 30’s to 40’s when she must lower standards from the movie star idols of her youth.

    1. So feminism creates “creeps” — by emasculating men perhaps? Is “creep” a code-word for a feminized man?

      1. No, “creep” is a code word for guys who are not alpha males. In other words, if they’re even slightly awkward when it comes to talking to women, or unattractive.
        For example, I recently saw some crime show on Spike TV that had a brief scene featuring some sexual harassment. The perpetrator was a semi-obese white guy (played by Wayne Knight, the same actor who plays Newman on Seinfeld), who was hitting on this attractive white woman.
        Of course, the implication was unmistakable. If you’re not a good looking guy or an alpha male when it comes to game, you had best not talk to attractive women.

        1. “Of course, the implication was unmistakable. If you’re not a good looking guy or an alpha male when it comes to game, you had best not talk to attractive women.”
          6 of one half dozen of another. You are shaming women for selecting for attractive men and in the same sentence validating men for selecting for attractive women. You did not write, “had best not talk to women”, you wrote, “had best not talk to ATTRACTIVE women.”
          The bottom line is that humans are attracted to who they are attracted to and will welcome attention from those whom they are attracted to.
          This is natural sexual selection. You’re beef is not with women, its with nature.

        2. Consider the case of a male from a foreign, less feminized culture who does not meet the attractiveness norm for “alpha” in the US, but who hits on women anyway. Are ugly yet confident Europeans and Latinos “creepy” if they hit on an American woman? I suspect not, or at least not in the same emasculating way.

        3. PS I think there is probably a lot of correlation between what it takes to be thought of as “creepy” and those likely to engage in hover-hand.

        4. “Consider the case of a male from a foreign, less feminized culture who does not meet the attractiveness norm for “alpha” in the US, but who hits on women anyway. Are ugly yet confident Europeans and Latinos “creepy” if they hit on an American woman? I suspect not, or at least not in the same emasculating way.”
          John R, South Asian males are notoriously known as “creeps” by women world wide.

        5. But are they the same kind of creep as the self-consciously inadequate & inhibited American omega-man? (Perhaps Charleton Heston made that term too cool…)

        6. “John R, South Asian males are notoriously known as “creeps” by women world wide.”
          Put this in the exception. I don’t think that kind of creepiness is what Robert Lindsay here was talking about.
           
          Hindu cultures and their practice of organised social hierarchy turns men (and women) into oddballs. I mean, what patriarchal culture in the world feminises men the way Hinduism does?

        7. Atheist Indian, “Hindu cultures and their practice of organised social hierarchy turns men (and women) into oddballs. I mean, what patriarchal culture in the world feminises men the way Hinduism does?”
          Agreed.
          John R. yes. There are pages after pages on “yahoo answers” of people asking why Indian men are such creepers.
          They leave India thinking they are going to get paid and get laid and do all kinds of weird things to and around women all over the globe! They are also notorious in the PUA lair scene. Take a stroll through some PUA blogs and forums and see what other men have to say about Indian men. Its not just the women who are complaining.
          I feel for them. They need help.

        8. So basically you blame women for not being attracted to physically repulsive men…all the while demanding that attractive consider you? How hypocritical is that seriously? If you want to blame someone don’t blame women for preferring good looking guys, blame the culture that has convinced almost every plain or ugly guys that they each deserve their own special beautiful girl that have eyes only for them. You don’t want a woman, you want some kind of robot/android thing that looks like a (beautiful) woman that has been programmed to find you attractive, because that’s the only way an attractive looking woman would be attracted to you. I think you know that deep down so you hate attractive women instead of realizing the blame lies with yourself.
          Julie

        9. @ Julie > March 26, 2013 at 6:12 AM
          “So basically you blame women for not being attracted to physically repulsive men…all the while demanding that attractive consider you?”
          I think you missed the part where he said he’s fully aware he will be rejected (as he is multiple times) by women he hits on. This isn’t his bone of contention. It’s the blatant use of the word creepy to punish those you reject (in a somewhat nuclear fashion).
          I don’t understand how you appear to miss the whole premise of the post. Blind willful ignorance due to reflexive solipsism? Rejections are inevitable. Having to be branded a label of ‘creep’ simply for acting on human nature of initiating (as men are required to do culturally, socially and biologically in the men chase/women choose paradigm)…
          would be like me calling you a jezzabel whore to your face immediately if you approached me at a bar simply for trying to strike up a conversation with me, and then striking up a conversation with all of my buddies within earshot about ‘did you see how that fucking dirty whore came onto me just now… silly hussy, she should slore around in a dive bar with the rest of her kind’.
          That would hurt wouldn’t it Julie.
          ps. followed into this blog through the RAPIST/ATTEMPTED MURDERING SCUMBAG HUGO I HATE MY GENDER SHWYTZER DICKFACE post link to your blog. You should send that sackless wonder a fruitcake.. he’s brought you some traffic!
          I think everyone should let the world know about Hugo!
          http://www.rolereboot.org/culture-and-politics/details/2012-12-are-most-murder-suicides-acts-of-misogyny

        10. “John R, South Asian males are notoriously known as “creeps” by women world wide.”
          Bhabiji, this is news to me. Can you elaborate on this please? Why do you think women generally label South Asian men creepy?

      2. “So feminism creates “creeps” — by emasculating men perhaps? Is “creep” a code-word for a feminized man?”
        I wasn’t thinking of it from that angle but you have a point there.
        Feminism has turned women into whores. Even some of the more modest women out there are more whorish than the average woman 50+ years ago. So women have lost the respect they got from men pre-feminism. In the old days, men would court women and he needed her father’s approval to marry her. People didn’t date. Nowadays there are people who date and date for years or even decades and never get married. That’s part of the reason why Western birthrates are so low.

        1. The problem is not women preferring attractive, confident, and/or successful men. It’s the note of false superiority and moral judgment implied in deciding that unattractive men are “creepy” merely because they dare to try.

        2. actually our parents dated several people simultaneously but would keep sex sacred. Women only “gave” out sex to the guy who went exclusive to her. There’s only a small handful of women handing out free sex and you don’t want them anyway, if they don’t demand respect first, why would you want them anyway. Unfortunately there are more of these whores in the male gender and again most girls dont want them either.
          Aim a little lower guys, go for the girl who wears clothes and doesn’t seek the attention of the men you are dominated by. It seems to fix this issue of men being left out. It sounds really painful from what I read but it’s the men you are competing with that are outrunning you not the girls.

  3. Wow the day has arrived when I get quoted at the start of a post and he agrees with me! And it tastes sweet lol

  4. If “creepy” is woman speak for “unnattractive man who shows interest in me” its a much more benign and benevolent word than what men call aging, fat, unattractive women who show interest in them.
    You should be grateful that “creepy” is all we’re calling you. We could hurl you with the insults reserved for unattractive women.

    1. There’s nothing benevolent about “creep”. It’s a condemnation that goes way further simply implying disinterest on the women’s part.

  5. How come I get called ugly, creep, stalker, faggot within 5 seconds of connecting to someone on Chatroulette based on nothing but my appearance (which I actually put a lot of effort into)? Can’t say hello to anyone and I’m not even allowed to show myself in a public place because my face is deformed, got it. I didn’t chose to be born with fetal alcohol syndrome but continue justifying the bullying you fucking faggots. Being born with an ugly ass face makes other people feel “unsafe” or “uncomfortable” meanwhile the real sickos who masturbate on camera get a pat on the back. Guess I have to lock myself in a basement and never bother anyone. I don’t have interest in anybody, I just want these insults to stop. 🙁

    1. I’ll second that and hope you find a person who will love you no matter what you look like on the outside. I know it’s a cliche but it is true that there is someone for everyone out there, you just have to keep looking. Can I suggest that you give the chat roulette up, if it’s causing you such pain, and find a more specialised space or club or site that will welcome you as an equal human being. I just know there will be somewhere for you.
      Stories like this make me so sad at our collective shallowness, spite and wickedness. We really are a bunch of bastards.

    2. I’m so sorry, that must be very difficult. I promise there are many of us that love more than the exterior. I fell in love with someone most wouldn’t consider. I’m sorry those people are so rude but if there is me (I’m a female) who thinks differently then there must be more of me, right?

  6. This whole idea of being called “Creepy”, just because a man shows interest in a woman is just plain nuts. I could very well understand it if the guy was being a pervert, yes, but just trying to be friends or co-workers with a woman, and you’re called “Creepy”? Why bother to even be friends or co-workers if you cannot even get along as people. From now on, just come in, do your job as best you can, and don’t even bother to speak to a woman who is a co-worker if this is the way you get treated.

    1. Gerald, I agree with you. Be VERY careful at work in your dealings with women. Do not hang around talking with them, NEVER tell a joke, any joke. Never make eye contact with them unless you know them. Discuss business ONLY. NEVER, NEVER compliment a woman on her appearance. If a woman stops by your cubicle or office, be polite but after a few minutes tell them that you are kind of busy, maybe you can talk later (which never comes). If you keep an EXTREMELY low profile women will a) see you as shy and lacking cofidence and b) write you off and leave you alone. Here’s the tough part: The girlfriend question. If you are not dating or don’t have a girlfriend and they ask why you don’t have a girlfriend you might want to say, “I am not dating anyone now. I have been really busy with work and personal items. I may get back into dating later on.” This is a generic response that should offend no one. if they ask if you ever had a serious relationship (and you did not have one) you can say that you have done some dating but have always been busy with school and career and have not had time to look for that “special someone” but you probably will in the future. I live near Washington DC and I watch these politicians. They give a bland response that offends no one. Here’s what you NEVER want to say: “I can’t get a date because women only date assholes/douchebags.” You will get your head handed to you and you will prolong a conversation that you want to end. Remember , it is never the woman’s fault. Take the passive-agressive approach . By avoiding contact and coming off as shy and introverted you will repluse 99.999% of all women and they will tell their friends to stay away from you (meaning they will leave you alone).

      1. actually no, shy guys are adorable to me especially the good looking ones who have no idea they are. Its so Clark Kent becomes superman. You’ve got it all perfect in a work environment but you can still give them eye contact, just not prolonged eye contact.
        You sound so cute!

  7. The word “creep” is just modern vernacular but it means nothing special. Women have always had a sense of “creep” but the difference is they are now empowered to speak loudly and shrilly about it. Women’s Lib was a putative gesture to make more money and to depend less on men, but one of the hidden aims was to be able to whine without getting slapped in the face.
    Bemoaning the “creep” ploy is a proxy for intolerance to women’s whining as protected by the stricture of modern feminized culture.

  8. i agree. Being honest can be seems unkind but its better to be straight forward rather being manipulated after, then that will be too late to correct the problem. I think men should draw the line and maintain their boundaries as well to be ‘attractive’ although they are not. same thing with women. Never try force your way in to be with someone, that is sort of ‘creepy’ and freaked them out. There are millions men and women out there. You never have to worried about not finding someone that will complete your life. Quality of characters, how they behaving themself, and so on. women are not interested in guys that messy and being disrespectful to women. plain and simple.

  9. Sometimes it’s just the way a man approaches a woman; if he’s observant of her first, and draws on that awareness to tailor his behaviour, he stands a better chance of connecting socially.
    Often when I reject a male’s advances it’s because he simply is not presenting himself as a potential companion: rather, he’s seeking immediate sexuality and that’s not what I want.
    Also, once I’ve politely declined, I don’t expect further attempts so if he keeps trying, I’m definitely turned off.
    It has nothing to do with his status, money, car, etc .. tho’ frankly yes I do have a physical preference. However, even a spot-on Adonis will get nowhere if he pushes for sex and ignores my feelings.
    …FAIL.
    Now: take a so-called non-Alpha male; not much money, a beater car, short, bald, fat, ..etc etc .. and picture this: he slowly wanders over to me, gives me a shy, faltering grin, and asks to buy me a coffee. I’d say yes.
    Now:
    How do I know he’s going to like ME? I don’t.
    We all take chances.

  10. I’d also like to add the pervert, pig, dog, etc to go along with creep. Shy, introverted and even loner guys get called some name for approaching. I don’t believe anyone make or female should be called any name for just approaching somebody. Some guys may not know how attractive they look and other guys may seem more attractive once you get to know them better also. Yeah I get that both men and women will get rejected, though I’ve scene certain guys ruined for just trying to get into a relationship. It does make dating sort of off putting to some guys. Though as a heads up I and I’m sure many guys would avoid a woman no matter how attractive if she started insulting a guy for just trying to approach. I’d expect women to do the same to a man.

  11. I think you are misunderstanding the term creep when a woman uses it to describe a man.
    A creep is a guy who continues to “court” a woman after she says “No” or “I am not interested”.
    A creep is a guy who treats women like sex objects and cannot act friendly to a woman without the expectation of sexual gratification.
    A creep is quite simply, a guy acting creepy.
    Men have much more power in relation to a woman (1 in 4 women are raped). When a guy is persistent despite being told no, than they are likely “creeping” women out. If a guy’s behavior creeps someone out, is he not a creep?

    1. The “creep” is actually considered to be a creep – you see,I noticed one girl in the gym more then a year ago,and in the beggining things looked fine.But once I founded myself close to her,she left immediately and I thought “Ok,she doesn’t like me”.But what the problem was,is that she was leaving EVERY time I founded around her,she was acting like I’m some kind of sexual maniac or something.And I was never stalking her,just doing my regular workout.You know,such things hurts a lot,killing our self-confidence in no time.I was never looking for some special,beautiful girl but what I’ve heard behind my back devasted me in past 2 years…

  12. Angelo hit the nail on the head. I do not know what it is like in your country, but here, an ugly guy will say “hi” to a woman and she will be “ewww creepy! Get lost creep.” or “I have a boyfriend”..but if a “hot” guy is nearby the woman will suddenly “become available” and think he is sweet *sigh*
    A girl online was stating she needed a PC to go online. I offered her one as I build them as a hobby/work. “Nah, I’m good” she says…two days later some thug badboy gets her a crapbox pc from the flea market, and she is “oh he is so sweer, he got me a pc”. Hmm..

  13. Man, I always stumble across these threads too late. Pity. This one is interesting. Bhabiji, virtually all men I know personally wouldn’t deny it’s a person’s prerogative to choose who they want. I’m also very much aware that there are indeed biological reasons why women feel creeped out by the advances of a man who they don’t like. However, what I take exception to is when men and women can’t maintain a civil tongue when and after they’ve rejected someone, including when they talk with other people. Women seem to be far more vocal about calling a physically unattractive man a creep than they would a good looking man who they rejected for whatever reason (and that does happen). Men are similarly nasty about rejecting a physically unattractive woman than when they have to reject a good looking woman (and that does happen from time to time). This message is to both men and women. There may be very sound biology as to why you react creeped out or repulsed. By all means go ahead and *feel* creeped out or *feel* repulsed. I don’t care so much about how people feel one one thousandth as much as I care how they *act*. Men and women should maintain a civil tongue and act politely about rejecting someone. Moreover, I would say they should do so long after that person has left the room. Don’t gossip. Don’t vent how creeped out or repulsed you were or how he or she made your skin crawl. If you’re approached again, repeat. Not every unattractive person knows they’re unattractive.
    By the way, the reason why some men approach women again (and let’s be honest, men are largely expected to do the approaching) is because my brother approached his wife and asked her out…and she said “Sorry, no. Not interested.” He repeated this and the answer was eventually changed to “yes” and then “I do.” Same thing happened with my friend’s father and his mother (who said “no” multiple times and stipulated she was not attracted to him). I know there’s a breaking point and being asked out multiple times can be creepy and irritating at some point, but perhaps it’s worth considering having some patience. By the way, I know a woman who is disfigured by osteogenesis imperfecta. Alas, she is very physically unattractive as a result. She’s never known the loving touch of a man and is very unlikely to. She’s never been asked out in her life. Knowing her, I find it a challenge to sympathize with people who lament being asked out too many times. Would you rather trade places with her?

  14. “Creepy” is something only WOMEN are allowed to label men…then use the old
    “Would you go for someone you aren’t attracted to”..blah blah
    Now, if a man said the same thing, the woman would be. “Oh you’re shallow sexist misogynist pig, just cos I am BBW, you gotta love me as I am yah yah”
    Yeah.

    1. I was approached once by a woman who was genuinely creepy. She was very weird, possibly mental and quite unattractive all at once. She was showing way too much aggression in her interest. I think to be truly creepy, there has to be an element of obsession and awkwardness. Like if someone is clearly or subtly blowing you off, you have to have the social intelligence to read the cues and walk away before things become uncomfortable. Whether you are a male or a female. When you don’t know when to walk away, that’s when you become creepy to someone.

  15. When women talk about Creepy guys, we usually are talking about the guy who sexually harasses us out on the street. It’s the guy who approaches us aggressively in public with rude, stupid, demeaning, or just generally annoying pick up lines. Creepy guys are the kind of guys that approach us like they think we are trash and have zero respect for us. They are really creepy when they get aggressive and angry when we ignore them. Creepy guys are also the kind of guy that leers at us. Gross. Doesn’t matter how good looking the guy is. If he behaves like that…..he’s creepy and he makes me throw up in my mouth when he demonstrates what a creep he is.
    EVERY time I’ve been sexually harassed in public, it’s been by a black creep. (And yes I dress conservatively and mind my own business. I just want to be left alone. Apparently that is too much to ask.) Creepy guys are why I carry a knife and some mace now.

    1. Women nowadays use that term for any guy who they think is coming onto them who they don’t like. That’s all there is to it.
      I agree with you that there are the real creeps of course, but nowadays women are abusing this term to mean any guy who shows sexual interest in a guy that they don’t like. Guys have a right to come onto women. Guys have a right to pick up on women. I know lots of guys who have been called creepy just for showing some sexual interest in a woman and now they are afraid to go after any woman for fear of being called a creep.
      What’s wrong with leering? Women have been leering at me most of my life.

    2. It’s usually the nice harmless guys that get the ‘creep’ label imo, arseholes seem to fare much better… 😉

  16. It’s very often ugly women who should be grateful anyone’s approaching them in the first place that say that too. If no one ever approached anyone ever then nothing would ever happen and these women’s opinion’s aren’t the be all and end all – they’d soon change their tune if all men started ignoring them completely…

  17. Here’s the thing…for me anyway. When I’m walking down the street and a guy is polite and says something like “Hello, how are you doing?”….that is not creepy and I will respond briefly with a hello or something. The creepy fuckers are those that are really loud and uncouth and say some stupid shit like “hey mama. lookin’ goood. why don’t you look over here”. Without fail, in my experience, it’s always been a black guy. One got in my face because I wouldn’t waste a breath responding to his inane, simian blather. I guess it pissed him off that I didn’t want to be bothered. I denied him his “right” to hit up on me.
    If someone approaches me in an annoying or stupid way to exercise this “right” , I reserve the right to ignore them or tell them to fuck off. If that pisses you off and you get in my face, get ready for a blast of some interocular chemical romance and perhaps my patella or something sharper in your abdomen. I don’t need to meet men out on the street. If guys want to get laid go to a bar, gym, church, or the appropriate street corner.

    1. I would agree that all of that is creepy I suppose.
      But nowadays a lot of women are calling guys who do this:
      When I’m walking down the street and a guy is polite and says something like “Hello, how are you doing?”
      as creepy. That is just wrong!

  18. It seems Europe and Latin America is a lot more progressive about sexual expression than America, UK and English-speaking Western world. I have visited bars and tourist hangout spots to score with Western women – the Anglo Western women wouldn’t hesitate calling the cops on you if you so much as made a pass at them. Culturally, I find that very similar to how Indian women react to passes you get labeled “creepy” for even trying. It’s just not considered appropriate or something especially if the girl considers herself above you.
    However, attractive Women from Asian countries like Thailand, China, Uzbekistan or other Western countries like Germany, Netherlands, Russia, Spain, Israel and Brazil, Argentina etc. are a lot more encouraging and men are supposed to act like men and be aggressive. At least scoring a date is never difficult.

  19. I think part of the misunderstanding about this revolves around how men and women tend to define confidence. Alot guys seem to think that being confident means acting like a rude ass. Not true. A guy can be very self-confident and still approach a woman with some manners and class. Most of the women I know are turned off, even by hot guys, that come on like jerks.
    As far as bars, approach a woman with “Hi. How are you. Can I buy you a drink?” I’ve never been in a bar anywhere in the world where that will go wrong. She’ll either say yes, or no thanks. It’s not rocket science. If she says yes, use some charm and show some conversational skills–if you are not too socially awkward for that. If you’re too cheap to at least offer a woman a drink and you just try to jump straight into her pants, you risk the creep label and you deserve it.
    As far as Indian women, they are freaked out by men because they come from a 3rd world shithole where men basically own them like chattel and can do whatever the fuck they want with them–from rape to murder with little or no sanction. Think about it.

    1. Your response shows your true character, stereotyping all Indian men into one category. It is for this very reason that I would never ever approach a Western woman because she isn’t a woman at all to begin with, an angry feminazi c*** to begin with. There are a few Indian men that act extra aggressive and macho around women which is why some of them might develop a shield, but then again leave it to the White Western racist bitch to make that an excuse in calling Indian women as property of Indian men.
      If Western women were so liberated, I find hard to understand why most of your men run after Asian women or women from such 3rd world cultures, while they are happy to just get a blow job from you and nothing more. Guess you aren’t relationship material at all going by the rate at which you screw your men over for a few dollars.

    1. Yo Dave! There is nothing wrong with trying to get laid! Any guy who uses the word “creepy” for a guy who is trying to get laid is nothing but a mangina! No real man would ever use that word that way! Men! You have a right to try to have sex with any woman you want to, anytime you want to! There is nothing wrong with trying to have sex! Men who use the word creepy for guys who are just trying to get laid are either queers, wimps, pussies, little bitches, feminists or manginas! Same thing really!
      Bros before hos! Down with the creepy word. That word is hate speech against men!

  20. I find most women today to be creepy. To the few decent ones left who can simply respectfully decline a guy’s invitation to dinner, etc…. cheers !

  21. Bhabiji, I am appalled at your shallowness. Creepy is a condemnation. You can just say “I’m not interested” and walk away. Since I myself am still a bit immature and can’t help but fight back I will tell you that I dated a very attractive indian girl in college junior/senior year and took her virginity. I am white and average looking. Please take all that in.

  22. You’re not entitled to behave in a sexually uninhibited manner. You know why? Because many people are not interested in you sexually. If the threat of being called creepy is preventing you from harassing women who aren’t interested in you then that’s a good thing.

  23. If you think being subjected to sexually aggressive behavior from strange males isn’t a big deal, you should spend some time in a maximum security prison where you’ll get plenty of insight into what it’s like to be the target of that.

    1. Yeah for real… i know this is kinda old, but I was looking for some insight online as to why some men think its okay to leer (not look, or even stare, which usually doesnt bother me depending on circumstances) and try to start a conversation with ”
      damn, girl!” Or following me while i am trying to jog and begging to let them give me a ride, after leering abd smiling creepily. Let me be clear, it does not matter to me how attractive someone is, or how much money they make, if they act this way. I also think, that while confidence (overly aggressive, as in my above examples) in a mans approach is sexy, i think alittle nervousness has a certain charm too.

  24. Wow filthy dog. It is filth like you who make women’s life miserable. Why should women be subject to whistling and street harassment? So filthy looking pigs like you want attractive women? Guess what women don’t like going out with father fucking, ugly looking, loser of assholes like yourself who get pissed if the woman say no. Good looking women like good looking men. I’m sure you are the type who doesn’t go out with average looking women because you believe just because you have a penis you have the right to go out with the most attractive women on the block. Is that what your mommy told you while she was fucking you?Asshole. By the way, women go out with less than average looking NORMAL guys, who think street harassment is despicable or who understand that not all attractive women will be attracted to them and are okay with them. You, self entitled pervert who is a complete loser is life. Yes you are ugly, you are a loser and you don’t deserve to live. Go jump of a cliff, ASSHOLE!

    1. What a shallow cunt. You’re the one who should jump off a cliff and make the world a better place.
      As for women liking “good looking men”, lots of the men who are considered good looking are ugly as fuck. For example Cristiano Ronaldo.

    2. All right cunt, you’re banned. Go back to Cunt City or wherever you come from.
      If I got pissed off every time a woman blows me off sexually these days, I’d have a heart attack in less than a day because that’s all they do anymore.
      Most women I date are attractive. That’s pretty much the only kind I like. I have been like that my whole life, and I have always been able to get women who were anywhere from attractive, to knock-down drag out stone cold fashion model beautiful. Nowadays the pretty women are limited to around my age, but it’s always sort of like that.
      HAND!

  25. Creepy is a word to discribe an unattractive guy hitting on you who cant take a hint of social cues abd then watches you like a creep for the rest of the night defeated.

  26. ok, ok… Time for reason.
    I, like other’s on here respect and understand women will (and have a right to) reject. I reject: I sometimes have (what I consider) to be an unattractive women trying to catch my eye.. again and again… and again. All that happens is I get a bit of a confidence boost, but then I will withdraw a bit. If they are really mega persistent (some have been) I will then shut them out and they may receive negative body language at that point. I will feel the desire to avoid them (sure)… but that’s something I HAVE to deal with, because they are doing something natural and I am the one who feels that way! At what point would I actually feel the need to tell other people? That would be if they started following me around. I would never try to crush them like that, just for showing interest! So, you see ladies, I have a right to reject women based on your criteria… I manage it just fine thank you… and I do it without calling them names and putting them down in front other other people like a lot of women do to men.
    Some women call guys creeps who don’t even approach them.. blatantly!… they’ll just say “I saw a creepy looking guy standing there”. It’s gone too far!
    I accept there is fine line a guy has to walk between being creep and persistent. I respect that with the women I’m not into as well so I give them some grace. They’re not mind readers… and they’re just looking for mr right (which isn’t me). You women, if you call guys creeps just for showing interest need to grow-up. And if you do it just because his face offended you despite the fact he didn’t approach then you’re one of the worst kinds of people on this Earth!

  27. I’m a creep. Ladies, I’m not offended by your quickened pace or your thinly veiled looks of disgust and fright when we accidentally make eye contact. Some men are worse than creeps. I understand.

  28. To me the word creep is a word people use to put down others in all honesty. I don’t get called a creep but I do have a feeling when I look at a women for 3 seconds even they might be thinking I am. You can’t change your appearance other than losing weight. In terms of style not everyone takes fashion into an effect because not everyone likes the same thing. So let’s say you are an unattractive guy but you have the personality, style, are clean, pick up on social cues you still would get rejected. Oh and btw people who say only attractive women are shallow is full of crap because it’s all women whether society or people find them ugly or average.

  29. I do agree with.. if you are an unattractive guy and show interest, a woman labels you creepy if she is not interested. I never had a problem with getting a girl when I was younger and the hair wasn’t so silver and grey. Now, I’m in my 40’s, not as carefree etc etc. The point I am making regarding women is this…they do not have to settle. They can pick or choose whom they decide to do the hibbity dibbity with. You just have to accept that and adapt and move on. To hold a personal grudge is going to show and that is not an appealing quality.

  30. TBH for all you men out there looking for an attractive women….is a waste of time because she can be Beautiful but yet stupid. you like her but have nothing in common, or actually date her but dont know anything about her but only knowing her pretty face, big breast, and big behind. also, she can be pretty and yet be a pain in the ass (im a normal guy who rejected many beautiful women because she was a drag, money eater, stupid, bad breath, or she was just a nightmarw lol but what im trying to say most beautiful women have issues of there own that will make you stay single for the rest of your life lol hahahaha. girls are not really worth it if you ask me, im not saying i dont like girls is just i rather focus in my life and future career and dream then to waste my time on a girl/wife whos gonna go sleep with every guy or is gonna waste all my money for the rest of my life. guys be wake up, the reason women are like this is because men are so easy and stupid sorry for the harsh words and im not taking the feminine side im just throwing out the truth lol.

  31. I wouldn’t call a guy who isn’t my type creepy. However, I’m not going to date or marry a guy who isn’t my type either. We were all made in God’s image and no one is truly ‘ugly’ but everyone does not appeal to everyone. Therefore if a woman is not interested in a guy he should leave her alone, and vice versa.
    The only thing that gets under my skin is when a good looking nice woman prefers good looking nice men and the guy who is not her type tries to lay a guilt trip on her about it. That irritates me. We all have rights and just because a guy is interested in a girl or vice versa doesn’t mean she is obligated to like him back, date or marry him.
    We all need to respect each other and stay in our lane. Getting mad at a woman for her taste in men, considering her stupid and ‘hating good looking guys’ because he has the looks and character she likes is very childish and that attitude is similar to rape. Let people like who they want looks wise. If it’s not you, so what? Move on. Eventually you will find a MUTUAL attraction but you cannot FORCE one.
    Same goes for ladies who like men who aren’t into them. But the reason I’m focused more on men is because it happens more often with men than women. That Barbarian ‘club her over the head and drag her off mentality’ needs to stop. When a woman isn’t interested in you for WHATEVER reason, respect her wishes, respect her desires and just back off. You can’t make someone be interested in you and you should NEVER attempt to. Women know what they want and they’re not going to settle for the opposite. Not insulting anyone, just saying.
    I’m a mixed race Black girl who happens to prefer kind, handsome, White guys. Black guys get angry when they find out I’m into White guys. But guess what? It’s my business, my right and they’re never gonna change my heart or my desires. I let ’em stay angry and keep being me. When I walk down the aisle with a White guy then they’ll get the message. And I don’t waste my time chasing guys I know I have no chance with and being bitter toward them for exercising their human rights. I believe in mutual attractions. If it’s not there I simply move on. Guys should too.

    1. Welcome to the site, Diedra. I agree with everything you say here. You are welcome to stick around if you wish. We don’t like gender feminists too much here, but real women like you are just fine. We just don’t like the man-haters.

      1. Thanks! I love men. This world would be awful without the opposite sex. I’m by no means feminist. 🙂

  32. The title says it, a creepy male is someone who is unattractive (this from the perception of a female).
    An attractive male can’t usually be creepy even if he is awkward, most often you’re only creepy if you’re unattractive. If you’re attractive you can’t say or do much wrong. Unattractive males are forbidden from a class of social interactions that attractive males can do without any repercussion.

  33. What Robert said about Hispanics at the end reminds me of these incidents in Mexico. The first was a mayor of some Mexican city who was dancing on stage and pulled up a young girl’s dress. There was a bit of fallout from it:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XIOi2U5SlAk
    Then there was a really sexy female reporter that was interviewing a band inside a bus and before you know it, they were lifting her skirt and trying to pull of her panties. She took off her panties and one of the the guys sniffed them. I think there was some fallout over this too in the way women are treated in Mexico. But I think there’s also much more of a “boys will be boys” mentality. She doesn’t seem psychologically damaged by the incident.
    I couldn’t even imagine this happening in the Victorian/feminist USA without there being mass demonstrations. I’m not even defending what those guys did. I wouldn’t have done that. But it just shows how other cultures are more relaxed about men being sexually provocative with women. I didn’t get the feeling any of those guys were trying to rape her. They just seem like fun guys having a good time. She seemed to be having fun too.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SX4YyPOr3bc
    I wish the West was more relaxed about these things like Latin societies are.

  34. There is a lot to it, and can be broadened and explained in detail, but summarized, “creepy” means “ugly”
    To the women “explaining” what ugly means…it may possibly be why. The unfortunate thing though is these days women in general throw the term around loosely. I have even (on several occasions) heard it used as a rebuttal when a guy rejects a woman!
    Woman: “hi, you’re hot, want to go out?”
    Man: “no thanks, not interested”
    Woman “You’re just a shallow creep anyways”

    (as for the indians talk)
    They say Indian men are all sleazy and creepy, but I can assure you Indian women are severely narcissistic with huge demands of entitlement and think it is a “privilidge” just for the man to be near her.

  35. Lesbians have many tactics to eliminate the Competition. They brainwash little girls to think boys are not supposed to like them. So when little girls get older with no experience around men because her lesbian mother/fake father ran the real father away they are scared of men. It’s all psychological war fare that’s why most real men who would never wear tight jeans is incarcerated or have dental problems. It’s a conspiracy. Facts .

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