Looking for answers is a smart Black guy who is one of my favorite commenters on the site:
Question for you. Is it possible that many whites do not understand what is perceived as racism by non-whites? I ask because for middle class blacks or the CBC, racism is mainly defined as a lack of opportunities, equality or feeling shut out along racial lines. If whites are really not all that racist and harbor no ill will toward blacks but tend to only hire or promote other whites, even if it’s simply a matter of staying in your comfort zone or being around people you can relate to, can you see how that can be seen as racist by those shut out? Of course many whites just feel that the decision was based on something not related to race, maybe like a recommendation, or a friend of a friend or something like that, but if you are shut out of those social circles, then you are just shut out. I think many whites tend to have a very limited or narrow definition for racism and the impact it has when added up.
I think what bothers blacks the most is that many whites don’t seem to even acknowledge an obvious advantage even when it is clear that its through no fault of their own which is where all the white privilege stuff comes from.
Personally, I don’t think most whites even think about blacks all that much, so its easy for many of them to be dismissive or a little flippant about it. Blacks perceive everything through race because we can’t escape the negative impact of it from day to day.
Indeed he is correct that most Whites don’t think about Blacks all that much. I try to mostly think positive things about Blacks personally. If a White person is thinking about Blacks all the time, there is something wrong with them. Most Whites obsessed with Blacks are simply racists.
I don’t like to think about the negative issues surrounding Blacks because I pretty much like Black people. So I tend not to think about all the stuff that the racists rail about all the time. The more you think about the downside, the more you start to dislike Blacks, and that’s not something I want to do. I actually make considerable effort to not dislike Blacks and some other non-Whites because I don’t want to get sucked into that hate thing. I don’t want to hate Hispanics either. There are ways to do this. One that I do is to focus on the good side. I also repeat positive mantras about them. I try to compare them favorably with Whites (easy to do with Hispanics actually). I try to seek out the positive in them. I ignore or mostly bury the things about them that piss me off, the result of which is that I have a lot of buried anger towards non-Whites. That’s why Whites go to sites like Chimpout, etc. It’s a release valve for all that buried anger and disgust.
As far as discrimination goes, now we are talking about the important stuff!
Whites who only hire and promote their own instead of non-Whites are indeed discriminating at some point. It is quite possible, assuming that qualified minorities were also in line for promotion or hiring. If the only minorities in line for promotion or hiring were poorly qualified compared to the Whites, there’s no discrimination.
By the way, many of the commenters on this site are segregationists opposed to integration and who want to roll back all civil rights laws. This blog is pro-integration, anti-segregation and fully opposes any and all discrimination against Blacks, period.
What bothers me is why don’t Blacks focus on the really important stuff – discrimination, whatever the mindset behind it is – instead of jokes, words, privilege, aversive racism, bla bla. It seems like Blacks don’t have their priorities straight.
They should set priorities like a hierarchy of racism – what bothers me the most. Discrimination, etc. the idiots who want to roll back civil rights and go back to segregation, the White nationalists, the really hardcore racists, are top priority. Stuff like jokes, privilege, words, aversive racism, is way down on the list. But it seems like Blacks just lump it all in together. Some guy who told a nigger joke 20 years ago is the same as the Stormfront crowd.
WTF is wrong with Black people?