We tip. Get used to it.
Alpha Unit gives her take on tipping here.
Although Alpha is a good tipper, tipping does seem to be one of those Black/White flashpoints. This is Black culture vs White culture. Whites tip. Blacks supposedly do not, so I am told, though I have no personal experience.
We just do it. We don’t think about it. Me, I always tip at restaurants and bars. Always, always, always. For one thing, I have worked for tips before, and I know what it’s like. But I don’t agree with bosses paying less than minimum wage on grounds you get tips.
Sure, you don’t have to tip, but it’s nice. In White World, we sort of spread the wealth around. Somewhat. You don’t have to tip. But if you don’t, in some cases, you are being a dick.
A lot of restaurants are tiring of the Black attitude and now work the tip right into the bill. Most White people think this is right and proper! I hear them talk about it. “Good! They are forcing the non-tippers to tip! Finally!”
This thing about Blacks not tipping is one of the things that really pisses Whites off about Blacks. We just tip. You tip even if you’re broke. It’s part of the bill.
At a restaurant, you are supposed to tip. At a bar, not so much. At a coffee shop, even less.
One thing is that if you tip, you are almost guaranteed to get good service.
I use tipping as a way to reward good service and punish bad service. Bad service? Fine, no tip, bye. Then I save it. Bad service 5 times in a row? Fine, I save up 5 tips. When I finally do get good service on the 5th or 10th time, I give that person 5 or 10 tips worth in one tip. They are really freaked out! Sometimes they ask me why I gave such a big tip, and I tell them.
There was this coffee shop I used to hang out in. The waitresses did not like me very much. I’m not sure why, but they were all young women, and I think it might have been because I’m an aging lecher. Young women don’t like guys like me too much. Anyway, they were always kind of cold or irritable, so I started withholding tips. Fine, bitch, HAND to you too! And no tip besides! Zero tip for you bitch, HTH!
There was this one who was nice to me. She was older and married, and I think she put up with the lecherousness. Plus she sort of liked me. Anyway, I saved up my tips. I had ~10 tips saved up from 10 bad services, and I unloaded them all on her. It was a ~$3 tip for one cup of coffee, where the tip should have been a quarter. One of the girls, Tiffany, who I always stiffed, exclaimed, “Hey! You just gave her a huge tip! You never tip me or the others anything!” I said that’s because she’s nice. Tiffany said, “But I’m nice!” I snorted and said I don’t think so. Then I winked at the girl I just tipped.
Every time I went back there, Tiffany was always extremely nice to me. So were most of the others. They were trying for the nice tips. I don’t care if the niceness was fake or not. Maybe it was fake, I have no idea. I want people to be nice, genuine or not. If you hate me, fine, just pretend to be nice. I don’t mind if you’re not sincere.
People are like animals or little children. You need to train them with aversive discipline.
The Black man in the comments wanted to know some of the rules of White Culture 101 now that he is living in a 95% White area. One of the rules is: Tip! Even well-behaved Blacks will not be completely accepted until they start doing this.
We tip. Get used to it.