I don’t really agree with the premise of this article, that there is some nefarious alliance between Alpha Males and feminists, but it makes an interesting point. The suggestion is that Alphas are benefiting disproportionately from feminism, and the rest of the guys are losing out. There may be a point there, but I doubt if the Alphas set it up that way.
Anyway, under feminism, females are free to pursue their basic Cavewoman natures, which is not that great for most guys. Life ends up being an endless replay of high school, where 15% of the guys got 70% of the best females.
I am in my 50’s, and I must say, this is still ongoing! There are not many single Alphas left in their 50’s. Life, marriage, illness, death, disability, alcoholism, defeat, economics, takes its toll on most men by this age. If you’re still strutting around past 50, either you’re fucked in the head or you deserve a medal for survivorship if nothing else.
There are only a few Alphas left around age 50 or so, like I said. Nevertheless, all of the best women around my age (Yes, there are still some good women left at age 45-55) are all flocking to the few Alphas, and the few Alphas are cleaning up with all of the good women! And I know plenty of guys age 40-56 or so who are not getting anything at all. They are alone and lonely.
Now this is the age bracket where single females start outnumbering single males, and women supposedly start getting desperate and chasing any decent guy out there, so I was getting my hopes up. Forget it. The best women are as picky as ever. I don’t know about the less desirable ones, because I’m not interested. I know a beautiful woman aged 55. I saw her dating profile on a dating site. She is deluged with good-looking, moneyed guys around her age who are all fighting for her.
Anyway, single middle age is not exactly a sexual paradise.
There is a lot of good commentary at the end of the piece. As the piece points out, under feminism, 15% of the guys are getting 70% of the best women. They have harems, more or less. The lower 70% of guys are Betas. Betas are just your regular guy, nothing more, nothing less. The best women are shunning the Betas and all fighting over the few Alphas, who they are more or less sharing with other women. About 15% of guys are Omegas. Think 32 year old living at home in the basement, playing video games, never had a date. Hopeless.
The PUA and Game Community have been playing up the increasingly desperate state of the Betas under feminism.
This situation is best summed up from this quote from a PUA blog:
They are free from social, religious and economic constraints to revert to their Neolithic programming of seeking the best male genetic specimens (strong+ attractive +willful) and reject the genetically mediocre. Nature is cruel – Do not blame women for it!
The reason for this state of affairs is that women no longer need men economically. The old way was really better. Enforced marriage at an early age, followed by female economic dependence on men. Those that don’t marry early, their relatives set them up in more or less forced marriage later on. Everyone gets married, everyone gets sex, and frustration level is low. Feminism has gotten rid of this nice, stable state of affairs.
Thing is, Alphas make lousy mates. These guys are not reliable at all. Most women refuse to stay with them and leave them sooner or later. They’re fun for a while, like Spring Break in college, then it’s back to the serious stuff. Women, even the best women, often marry Betas later on, because Betas are good providers. I’m not sure how the marriages work out. Nowadays, a lot of these guys are probably pussy-whipped at home. At worst, he’s a Meal Ticket. At best, he’s a Reliable Husband.
There are endless debates about the meaning of the terms Alpha, Beta, etc. There are said to be high Betas and fake Alphas. That makes sense. If you cut off the Alphas at 15%, what do you do if a lot of the guys in the community have what it takes? In the post, one poster said that any guy who has had sex with over 100 women is an Alpha, no questions asked! By that definition, Sexmaniacman is just barely an Alpha, as he’s had sex with ~110 women.
I don’t think these labels are important so much as if a guy has what it takes to get women.
I define an Alpha as a guy who is charismatic and dominant, with leadership qualities, whether he uses them or not. He’s the guy who walks into the room and every woman turns around to look at him. These are the guys who get most of the best women, or they could if they wanted to. They’re not necessarily unfaithful, but they often are.
Many marry, but they tend to be unfaithful after marriage. In marriage, Alphas rule the roost. Being pussy-whipped at home is basically a disqualifier in terms of Alphahood. This is where you see a lot of your fake Alphas. I know a lot of guys who try to act really Alpha, but they’re p-whipped at home. Forget it. Fake Alpha or High Beta.
Alphas do not always make a lot of money. In fact, even far into adulthood, quite a few of them are broke. Many more or less live off wives or girlfriends who bring home the bacon. Even in relationships or marriages, they tend to come and go as they please. They’re not always phoning home and asking Wifey permission for this or that. They don’t need her permission for all that much. Many have continuous affairs while married, toning them down somewhat as they move into middle age.
Many Alphas are not very nice people. Quite a few are criminals. Many are ex-cons and even ex-felons. Some are killers. Serial killer Ted Bundy was an obvious Alpha.
Here is an Alpha who is not a very nice person, doesn’t treat women very well, is a criminal and ex-con, yet has women crawling all over him. He has sex with 200+ women a year (hard to believe but anyway you get the point). My opinion of women just dropped 99% after reading this:
A guy i was friends with in high school is now an ex-con neo-Nazi drug dealing “enforcer” for a gang in his blue-collar town. He is extremely popular with women and definitely has a harem, though he probably doesn’t even know what that word means.
A couple of years ago I went out for beers with him and women were literally running to him and letting him grab and squeeze their breasts, hard. He would also scream in their face “I am going to fuck you in the ass until you bleed and then I’m going to stick it in your pussy,” and they would giggle and squeal like he was George Clooney. He says he sleeps with hundreds of women a year and I believe him.
I learned more in that night about the true nature of women than any library of books could have taught me.
There’s a notion that Alphas are all assholes, but I doubt if this is true. For sure some of them are. But I’ve known quite a few who were nice guys. Alphas are leaders, and they are dominant. In order to be a good leader, you have to get people to like you. If you’re a natural leader, you don’t have to be an asshole. Everyone knows you’re in charge, and you don’t have to be a dick to prove it. Nevertheless, quite a few Alphas are bastards. In particular, they are often highly narcissistic and can be very much the fair weather friend.
On PUA sites, there is endless discussion about Alphas and how to act like one. PUA is really about teaching the 70% of Betas to act like Alphas to help them get women.
Women hate PUA because it confuses them. They all want the 15% real Alphas, and if you have all these fake-Alpha Betas out there pretending to be Alphas (that no women want), how is an enterprising lass to determine the fools gold from the 14K real deal? So women feel they are being conned by PUA. They thought they were buying the 24K Alpha, and instead they bought the Shopping Network Zirconite Beta. Haha! They got played!
This is behind a lot of the rage against PUA. That only a select group of men has a right to access the best of women. Rightfully, PUA rebels against this.
In the discussions about Alphahood, there is a lot of discussion about developing an Alpha state of mind, about sizing up other guys as far as their Alpha or Betaness and being submissive or dominant to them in return. Supposedly, when Alphas meet a Beta, they express dominance over him and basically treat him like shit somewhat.
I don’t buy it for one second. First of all, real Alphas are not walking around all of the time thinking, “I am an Alpha.” They are not sizing up other guys regarding their Alpha or Betaness. An Alpha could quite well be very nice and friendly to a Beta or even an Omega. After all, the Betas and Omegas are no competition, so why worry?
So I don’t believe that Alphas think this way at all. To me, and Alpha is thinking of two things:
1. What am I doing now?
2. What am I going to do in the (immediate) future?
That’s it. He doesn’t think of the past much (What for?) and he doesn’t worry about the future either (Do animals worry about the future?) No Alpha consciousness, no sizing up other guys, no dominating them, none of that. An Alpha is like an animal, or a machine. He’s almost a sociopath (in some cases he is) but not quite.
Also, one can probably fade and in and out of Alphaness. There are guys who had it in high school and/or college, then lost it, as what it takes in school is not really what it takes to do well in life after school. There are guys who move in and out of Alphahood in various phases of their lives. I know guys who have lived as Alphas, Betas and even for a while, lived the monastic, no date in 100 years of solitude life of Omegas. Life is strange.
But as much as Alphahood can be lost in one who once had it, and then regained (as the base is already present in the mind), I’m not sure that Alphahood can be created out of scratch. My Mom loves men, so she finds Alphas fascinating. As she said about Alphas and the PUA notion of creating them out of thin air, “I doubt if it can be done. You’ve either got it or you don’t.” If you’re not an Alpha and you’ve never been one, past a certain age, you may never become one.
This is an interesting subject, and I hope to write more about it in the future.