In the comments section, Shawn says that what matters for young men is looks and for older men it’s increasingly money as they get older.
The problem is that looks alone is almost completely worthless for males of any age. Females of any age simply do not place any value whatsoever on looks absent other qualities.
I’ve known some young goodlooking guys (age 20-45) who were just about the best looking guys in the whole town. No woman would have anything to do with them, not even one, or not really. These guys went many years without even so much as a date. No sex at all, and very few if any dates.
I don’t think that looks alone matters one bit to females of any age.
Now, if you have other attributes, such as confidence, charm, etc. in addition to looks, you can do well. But looks alone doesn’t mean jack shit to females of any age. I’m pretty sure of that.
Some of these guys had what this Feminist Critics column calls gender-nonconforming behaviors – they were overly agreeable, shy, introverted, unassertive, or sensitive. Any one of these behaviors, not to mention all of them, is pretty deadly in a male. Females simply will not tolerate it. If they do end up with females, the females typically are mean and cruel to them, bitch at them, and constantly complain that they are not masculine. It’s a lot of fucking Hell to go through just to get laid. I can’t blame some of them for just saying fuck it, I’m through with women.
Even worse are mental disorders. Mood disorders might be ok, especially manic-depression, as the manic phase is pretty masculine. I don’t see how depressive males of any age, looks or wealth status can get any woman on Earth. It’s beyond me. Depression is seen as utterly unmasculine, and females do not accept it in males at all.
Yet I suppose depressives do better than anxiety disorders. There’s almost nothing worse for a man than to have some sort of a nervous or anxiety condition. Anxiety is just not masculine, that’s all there is to it. Women are nervous. Guys aren’t. Nervous guys are just screwed. I don’t see how they can get laid at all by anyone, but some of them do. In general, guys with anxiety are seriously treated like shit by all of the women in their lives, and this will continue as long as the anxiety disorder is ongoing.
Small wonder that few men will admit to such things. Or that males treat depression and anxiety disorders with booze and drugs. It’s tragic that it’s more ok for a guy to be a heavy drinker than to be depressed.
Some of the guys I refer to above seemed to have some sort of anxiety disorders, some seemed depressed, and some just seemed like of spacey or out there. Quite a few were extremely intelligent. These guys had two things going for them. They were nearly the best looking guys in town, and they were also just about the smartest guys in town. As a previous post pointed out, brains is worthless to women. So the smartest and best looking guys in town were completely worthless to nearly the whole female population since they lacked certain other attributes.
Now compare that to men. Suppose we had some women, aged 20-45. And they were just about the hottest chicks in town. Could you imagine any possible world where all the guys would completely ignore or even disdain them and refuse to have anything to do with them? Are you kidding?
Suppose they were depressives, or nervous, or spacey? Guys think most women are depressives anyway, and the rest are sort of nervous. As far as spacy, that would probably make her even more popular. I’ve never heard of a guy refusing to date a totally hot babe because she’s sort of out there. That’s ridiculous!
There are certain paths out of these dilemmas, but I’m not sure how well they work. The commenter on Feminist Critics said that he changed his gender-nonconforming behaviors towards a more acceptable form of masculinity and soon he found women wanting to date him. That would be the way that I would suggest to go. Some guys just won’t have it in them.
Sexmaniacman, for all the 100-plus women and girls he’s slept with, has found that no matter how macho he acts, people still think he’s a fuckin fag or a wimp. He’s basically given up on the project as hopeless and instead works on inner masculinity. He’s not a queer, and he’s not a wimp at all. Wimps won’t fight back, and if you mess with Sexdude, he will slit your throat without batting an eye.
Inner masculinity is very important for a man, assuming you want it. Now a guy like Sexman, he’s pretty androgynous in a 1970’s glam rocker kind of way. He’ll still be New York Dolls 1974 when he’s in his 80’s if he makes it that far. As he put it to me, he says the masculine part of him is like the toughest, hardest, baddest, most ultra machisimo guy that ever lived, but then, you know, he’s got this other side.
But he says he’s much happier since he has gotten into his inner masculinity. He’s still got that other side, but that just means that his Yin and Yang are in harmony, like they ought to be.
Thing is, a lot of straight guys are just not very masculine. That’s just the way they are, and most of them want to be this way. I leave them alone, because I don’t see anything wrong with it, and I figure other people are going to be pummeling them over this their whole lives anyway, so why add to it. A lot of guys are not into being masculine. It’s not part of their image. A lot of like admit to being wimps and say that they like it. But I don’t think it works.
I’d recommend getting rid of the sensitivity part. Emotions are useless in man, so who needs em?
If you’re depressed, ok, but don’t talk about it, and try to cover it up. Don’t admit it if asked. Do something else instead, like drink.
If you have anxiety stuff, try to get outside of it the best you can. A lot of people are hopeless, but at least you can try. There are also pharmaceutical drugs you can take.
If you’re introverted or shy, that’s a tough one. When you’re in a store, start talking to the person at the counter. Make casual conversation with the doctor, the receptionist, the repairman, the checker. If you’re overly agreeable, call people on their shit. Be prepared to lose friends and lovers when you do so.