“Race, Sex and Other Dirty Things,” By Alpha Unit

We love fixating on race. It’s very convenient. As long as we’re focusing on race, we don’t have to focus on what’s really in front of us: sex.

To me, sex is the Prime Mover in human relations. It’s what everybody really cares about and worries about, on the deepest levels. Racism at its core is all about sex. An honest racist will admit this.

Some White men involved in relationships with Black women report that a common, although juvenile, question other White men ask them about their women is “Is it pink on the inside?” One way or another, the real fascination is on sex and sex organs and what it’s like to have sex with someone of another race.

Race just can’t keep up with sex when it comes to the way people behave and interact with one another. You might say that the history of Black-White relations in America is really the story of sexual competition between two groups of men.

It is well known that when a subjugated people live among those who subjugate them, the women of the subjugated group are at the disposal of those in power. In effect, the men in power own all the women. They have sexual access to the women in the subjugated group but do not allow access to the women in their own group.

I submit that this has nothing to do with race. This is purely sexual. This is male behavior.

Of course, this is no good whatsoever for relations between men and women in the oppressed group. This can only make a bad situation worse for them. What has happened is that one group of men has defeated the other and is asserting dominance over the men they have defeated. And women are the pawns in this game. So now the men and the women of the oppressed group have a Trust issue. And a Respect issue.

Again, this is sexual in nature. This has nothing to do with race.

There is nothing extraordinary about what these people did. And nothing extraordinary about how the other people reacted.

For some people, it is vitally important to block from their view how ordinary Those Other People really are. And that’s just it: there is nothing extraordinary about them. Your decision that race matters more than anything else says nothing about reality; it says something about you.

Who knows what could happen once you start seeing those people the way you see yourself – as rather ordinary?

You might have sex with them or something. And you might like it. And then we’re all going to hell in a hand basket.

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20 thoughts on ““Race, Sex and Other Dirty Things,” By Alpha Unit”

  1. You make some interesting points but I disagree with your overall idea that racism is related to sex. Are White males competition to Black males when it comes to Black women? Hardly. Have White males prevented Black males from having access to Black women? Of course not.

    It’s true that men don’t like to see men of another race with their women, but that’s not a cause of racism. I don’t have any interest in Black women and I don’t find Black men to be a threat to me sexually at all, as very few Asian women date men. And while a small minority of White females date Black males, I doubt that White men are driven by concern over that.

    I do agree that sex is one of our greatest motivators. Our search for status, our obsession with appearance, and our competition with others stems from our primal drive for sex, but I don’t see how you can make the connection that sex is a major factor to racism. Perhaps you can elaborate on that more.

    1. What I mean is that racism seems to be based on some kind of drive for racial self-preservation. And the only way to achieve this is to keep outside males from having sex with your women.

      Racists are often explicit about this.

    2. I strongly disagree. The history of this country has shown a deep fear white men have of black male sexuality, especially when directed toward white females. The countless stories of castrations, lynchings for leering at white women, birth of a nation, fear that blacks were going to rise up and start mass raping white women. The list goes on. I think that fear of black male sexual aggression still lives on.

    3. What I mean is that racism seems to be based on some kind of drive for racial self-preservation. And the only way to achieve this is to keep outside males from having sex with your women.

      I think this is just one aspect of racism, not a cause. If I see a White guy with an Asian girl, it does make me a little pissed, but I don’t harbor racial animosity against Whites because of this. The ironic part of it is that I date outside my race and have a mixed raced son, so I recognize the irrationality of my feelings. When I see an Asian girl with a Black guy though, my level of disapproval is generally higher and that’s because of racial issues I have that already existed beforehand.

      Racism is less about racial preservation than it is about our tribal nature. Our race is just our extended family. Of course if I saw miscegenation as a threat to existence of my race, then it might inflame racial animosity, but I don’t. Though some might and it could very well be the cause of their racism, I don’t believe it is the cause for most.

  2. It seems that different people define racism in different ways.

    To me, racism arises from the fear one group of people–specifically, males–have of another group of people. Were there no fear, there would be no racism.

    Racism serves the purpose of allaying this fear by leveling what the threatened males see as an uneven playing field.

    The uneven playing field seems to be the sexual arena.

    This is my take on it.

    1. You thinks it’s only a problem of males? So what if a white woman tells her kids they can’t play with black kids after school?

    2. This was my first time on this blog, so with a name like alpha unit, I assumed you were a man. I was puzzled about your assertions, but now that I’ve read that you’re a woman, they make a bit more sense. Not that I agree with them, but now I know where they are coming from.

      I think you are really oversimplifying what is a very complex issue and with this comment:

      Racism serves the purpose of allaying this fear by leveling what the threatened males see as an uneven playing field.

      The uneven playing field seems to be the sexual arena.

      I think you are revealing a racial bias that you may have, i.e. Black men have more sexual prowess and White women desire them, so therefore Whites are jealous and that’s why they are racist. I think that’s absurd, but I could be wrong about what you were implying. You’ve been very vague with your statements. I’m not sure you’ve thought this out completely.

      1. It there wasn’t any sort of sex-based jealousy among white Americans (in regards to black men, at least) then I’d be able to enjoy a night out without people asking me about my size. I lived in Germany for 3 years and was asked that question once without there being an expectation for sex (as in, I wasn’t at a pub or a nightclub or some sort of “adult” establishment. In fact, given the dearth of black people in the country, I was shocked that they weren’t as blatant as most of the Asians who I’ve befriended at asking the question.) OTOH, in less than two years of living in the Upper Midwest US, I’ve been asked that question in places as sexually-charged as a child birthday party, the local VFW and (on enough occasions to prevent me from ever setting foot in one again) evangelical churches. Why would someone walk up to me in a church and ask me, “How big is it?”, or mention, “I heard that all black guys have big cocks. is that true?”, I don’t know, but it’s happened more than a dozen times since February 2009.

  3. Actually, I have thought about this a great deal, although I probably could have made myself clearer.

    To Sagat: I don’t have any racial bias about Black men and their sexual prowess. Don’t take my word for it; go and study what whites–especially white males–have said about their fears regarding Black males for generations. I didn’t invent this stuff.

    By “the sexual arena” I am not referring simply to what goes on in bed between two people. I am talking about relations between the sexes more broadly.

    To Tulio: I am not disagreeing with you about the different ways that racism is expressed, such as a White mother not wanting her kids to play with Black kids and things like that. But this type of “racism” is not the subject of my post.

    What I am exploring is where racism comes from. And my contention is that it is a product of male sexual anxiety. Once racism is established, of course, it creates all kinds of inequities that lead to different cultures for different groups–and you end up with situations where This mother won’t let her children play with Those people.

  4. i agree 100% with your opening statement, that sex is the Prime Mover in society. it’s nearly certain. i’ve seen some numbers from studies about happiness where people rank what makes them happy. on a scale of 1-5, most things that are great, like having a child or a graduation or a wedding, they rank about 1.8 to 2. Sex is ranked at about a 3.5 by both men and women. When we are honest with ourselves, this is so clearly true.

    I totally disagree with you when you say

    “So now the men and the women of the oppressed group have a Trust issue. And a Respect issue.”

    I think this was more a statement about the author than the subject at-hand. The way things have always worked, they are actually adaptive and are proven to work. The word “oppressed” is a bit strong. I mean, from the male point of view, particularly the undersexed-male point of view, it is oppressive. But if I were to say that to anyone (probably right now, as I type) people will laugh at calling myself “oppressed”.

    1. Well, what I’m saying is that the men and women of a group have problems trusting and respecting each other if outsiders interfere with normal relations between them.

  5. You know, this word “sex” is rather problematic. If you say “sex” people tend to assume that what you mean is two people going at it.

    Sometimes it means that, but in the context of what I’m talking about it has a much broader meaning than that, which is hard to put into words, exactly.

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